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Context: Throughout this transcript, Bhante Vimalaramsi is the speaker unless otherwise indicated.
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so i'm going to do suit to number 55 the
many kinds of feeling
59 excuse me
um
you notice there's not an s behind it
it is feeling not feelings
so there is a mistake
in imagine hikaya when it's talking
about
the sati patana sutta because it says
feelings
and that has a tendency to make you go
off
and not really understand
that it has nothing to do with emotion
now i i give
the definition of feeling as
excuse me i'm still trying to catch up
pleasant feeling painful feeling neither
painful nor pleasant
now the thing that you really need to
understand
is that feeling is not only
talking about
physical feeling that's the way it's
described in a lot of people that are
teaching satipatana
but it's physical and it's mental
why because there's pleasant
unpleasant neutral feeling in emotion
as well as in physical
form
i know that there's some
people that are really really interested
just in the physical form of feeling
and they miss half of the boat
when they get to looking
at only physical feeling
but feeling
isn't strictly mental or physical
feeling is feeling
and that causes when the feeling arises
right after that craving arises i like
it or i don't like it
it's pleasant or it's painful
so
i want to go through this this suit
again
so that you can understand a little bit
more clearly
that this is involving all different
kinds of feeling
thus if i heard on one occasion the
blessed one was living at sawatee in
jettas grove and
then pendicas park
then the carpenter pancho conga
went to the venerable udayan
after paying homage to him he sat down
at one side and asked him
then rule sir how many kinds of feelings
have been stated by the blessed one
three kinds have been stated by the
blessed one
pleasant feeling painful feeling neither
painful nor pleasant feeling
these three kinds of feeling have been
stated by the blessed one
not three kinds of feeling have been
stated by the blessed one venerable
udayan
two kinds of feeling have been stated by
the blessed one
pleasant feeling and painful feeling
that's generally when i'm talking about
your meditation i'm just talking about
that i'm not talking about the neutral
feeling
until you get to having equanimity then
then
i start throwing in that kind of feeling
but i don't tell you
that it's a feeling
this neither painful nor pleasant
feeling has been stated by the blessed
one as
peaceful and sublime kind of pleasure
a second time and a third time the
venerable udayan stated his position
a second and third time the carpenter
upon chicago stated his
but the venerable odyn could not
convince the carpenter upon chicago nor
could the
carpenter pon chicago convinced
venerable ludayan
ponja conga was a
carpenter but he was like the handyman
to have around
every center has its own handyman that
takes care of things
so he was around a lot for the buddha's
talks
so he and he was very well educated
the venerable ananda heard their
conversation
then he went to the blessed one after
paying homage to him he sat down at one
side and reported to the blessed one the
entire conversation
between the venerable udayan and the
carpenter pancho conga
when he had finished the blessed one
told the venerable ananda
ananda it is actually a true
presentation
that the carpenter ponja congo would not
accept from
udayan and it was actually a true
presentation that udayan would not
accept
from the carpenter panjikonga
i've stated two kinds of feeling in one
presentation
i have stated three kinds of feeling in
another presentation
i have stated five kinds of feeling in
another
presentation five kinds of feeling
i'm gonna give it to you in pali then
english
sukkah dukkha
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that's pleasant or physical feeling
painful physical feeling
pleasant mental feeling
and painful mental feeling
and upeka is equanimity
so if if you go to this book and you
look
at the footnotes
the footnotes were taken from
a monk by the name of
buddhaghosa and he did not understand
about feelings and he starts talking
about
feeling in a much different way
and didn't understand what those five
kinds of feelings
are as a result he didn't expound
on these different kinds of feelings so
that there was clear
thought and clear understanding
and that has carried on through the
commentaries
and that's one of the reasons that
buddha goes work is somewhat suspect
with his reasoning he was for not very
good at
guessing and he didn't study the suttas
he was a pali scholar he was taking
notes from other people
and translating it into poly
so he can't be a hundred percent
the fault of the not understanding
but it has caused a lot of confusion
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over time
the subtler kinds of feeling the
mental feelings
are difficult
to recognize
because you get caught up in that
feeling and the dislike of that feeling
as
sadness fear anxiety
hatred all of these different kinds of
feeling
sneak up on you very much
now this is one of the reasons that i
want you to keep
practicing daily all the time smiling
because
that sharpens your mindfulness and you
can start to see
how your mind gets caught in these
emotional
feelings where you say something that
can hurt yourself or
someone else
and then you justify in your own mind
how you're right and they're wrong
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all of that is part of feeling
but it's not recognized
in as anything other than this is me
this is mine this is who i am
so it's real important for you to
begin keeping
your mindfulness going in your daily
activities
keep stay in a genre as long as you
possibly can
this is where your mind is pure
you don't have you can still
have painful mental feeling
but as soon as you notice that your mind
is heavy
and you're not smiling and you're
getting into
dissatisfaction and dislike
you'll notice that more quickly
and you can start using the 6rs
and let it go
everything is part of a type of
perception and when you perceive
that somebody has slighted you or you've
done something that's not so nice to
someone else
when you perceive that and then start
forgiving yourself forgiving that other
person
especially forgiving yourself for
getting
caught again in the old habit
of what you've been doing your whole
life
excuse me
so
you start developing new habits when you
let go of the perception of
uh trying to let off
dislike of what's happening to you oh i
gotta let this steam off
that in itself is funny
that you got caught and you don't even
see it yet
and then you start saying things to
other people that are hurtful
so it's really important
that you keep your smile going all the
time
keep the smile in your mind
don't criticize yourself when you forgot
just
laugh at that and start again
okay
over a few short months
people will start noticing that you
are changing
you don't get so
upset you don't get so caught
in the emotional
part of feeling
there is always as soon as feeling
arises i don't care whether it's
pleasant or painful
right after that there's the i like it
or i don't like it mine
feeling is the very
key to remember
to relax and smile
and bring that to whatever you're doing
while you're doing it
keep the smile going
okay i have stated six kinds of feeling
in another presentation
so the first five it's really talking
about
the five it's naming that
there is pleasant and unpleasant
physical there's pleasant and unpleasant
mental now it's getting
into the sense doors
the sixth sense doors
the eyes the ears the nose the tongue
body and mind
mind is the one you got to really watch
out for
because it always starts in mind
and after a few months
of catching yourself
and using the six hours of
smiling and being in a genre with your
daily activities
it will start to turn into a good habit
where you don't get caught by emotional
upsets they're still going to happen
there's still going to be times when
there's great sadness that comes
somebody in your family is hurt or
dies there's sadness there
but the thing is
that's a time for you to be particularly
alert with your mindfulness
now even though you can have sadness
from somebody dying
it doesn't mean that you're hopeless and
you can't do anything to help anybody
else around you
that's a mistake that is made
if you focus on loving kindness and
radiate that loving kindness to members
of the family that are hurt
or close friends that are really painful
because
of that that will help them overcome
their grief more quickly
that will help you
because you're not focusing on the grief
that you have
you're wishing well to other people that
you know
are suffering the same way you are
so the more you can give your love
to people that are suffering
even though it might not seem like it
does any good at
all it does
and you start
changing your world around you
and this
has a positive effect
and your life becomes easier
you're keeping your precepts without
breaking them
you're not getting into a emotional
upset because of some kind of political
nonsense that's going on
you bring people back to the present
moment
so that they don't get caught up in
their repeat thoughts of
dislike and dissatisfaction
so the six kinds of feeling
actually comes down to one
mind on the
on on the both the physical and the
mental
it comes down to your observation power
so that you can see when your mind
starts to
get caught and then go into
unhold some states
okay i have stated 18 kinds of feeling
in another presentation
what are the 18
do you know
well we're breaking down these
uh six cents doors
with pleasant
painful neither painful or pleasant
three with each of the six cents doors
that's 18.
i have stated 36 kinds of feeling in
another presentation what are the 36.
past and present
huh no oh really
18 times 2 is what
36.
i have stated 108 kinds of feeling
in another presentation i'm not going to
go to that because it takes a long time
to
describe it that is that
how the dhamma has been shown by me in
different presentations
when the dhamma has thus been shown by
me in different presentations
it may be expected of those who will not
concede
allow and accept what is well stated
and well spoken by others
they will take to quarreling brawling
and disputing
stabbing each other with verbal daggers
i always like that description verbal
daggers
i've been in a room where people started
arguing about things like this
well the buddha said this and the other
one said no the buddha didn't say that
he said this
and the buddha said both
they want to get into an argument they
get into their
emotional upset and attachment
and this causes all kinds of problems
so you don't want to argue about dhamma
about what is the right what is the
wrong
you just want to state your facts as you
know them
and then go to the suttas and see
whether you're right or not
i know in malaysia there's major groups
that they won't
this group won't have anything to do
with that group because
they're not teaching the same thing and
they're wrong
they're not practicing buddhism
they're practicing attachment
and they have tight minds they don't
recognize the importance
of being able to relax your mind
and they don't recognize the importance
of
letting go of perspectives that don't
agree with you
i've had conversations with many
different
types of buddhists
and we don't argue we don't try to
convince each other that
we're right and they're wrong we state
what we think
is correct and then
quietly listen to what they think is
correct
without fighting about it without
playing that game of
i know and you don't know
a lot of people don't see that as an
attachment
they don't see that as craving
and as a result they wind up hurting
themselves
and causing problems for other people
so the more we can let go
of that and actually
accept what somebody else says and then
go and check and see whether it's
correct or not
that is the buddha's way
okay now we're going to go into the five
chords of sensual pleasures
the sensual pleasures can be mental
or physical or both
ananda there are these five chords of
sensual pleasure
what are the five forms cognizable
by the eye that are wished for desired
agreeable and likable
connected with sensual desire and
inviting lust
sounds cognizable by the ear that are
wished for
desired agreeable and likable
connected with sensual desire fighting
lust
now these are they can be
connected with sensual desire and
inviting lust
or it can be connected with sensual
dividing
the central
desire and invite
hatred
think about that
because this is real feeling some sounds
you hear and that's so
unpleasant where does your mind go to
or if it's one of your favorite songs
where does your mind go to they still
have that i am
that attached to it
and it's that way with all of the
sensual
desires odor is cognizable by the nose
there's some smells that are really bad
you don't want to be around them
there's other smells that are really
pleasant
so this can go either way
flavor is cognizable by the tongue it's
the same with tastes
some tastes are really nice other tastes
are not
but both of them are caught in sensual
desire
they're caught in the i like it i want
it
or i don't like it i don't want it it's
still
caught by craving that's the danger of
sensual desires
and their uh
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tangibles cognizable by the body there's
pleasant feelings and there's painful
feelings
these are the five chords of sensual
pleasure
now that pleasure of joy that arises
dependent on these five
chords of sensual pleasure are called
sensual pleasure
should anyone say that's the utmost
pleasure and joy that beings experienced
i would not concede that to him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure loftier
and more sublime than that pleasure
and what is that other kind of pleasure
here ananda quite secluded from sensual
pleasures
secluded from unwholesome states
a monk enters upon and abides in the
first
genre which is accompanied by thinking
and
examining thought a lot of people ask me
about thinking and examining thought and
what that actually is
the thinking and examining thought is
the verbal
recitation of your wish for
your
spiritual friend and towards yourself
it's the verbal recitation okay
with joy and happiness born of seclusion
this is that other kind of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than the
previous pleasure
should anyone say this is the utmost
pleasure
and joy that beings experienced i would
not concede that to him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure loftier
and more sublime than that pleasure
and what is that other kind of pleasure
here ananda with the stilling of
thinking and examining
thought letting go of the verbalization
of the wish in your mind
a monk enters upon and abides in the
second genre
which has self-confidence
stillness of mind without thinking and
examining thought
with joy and happiness born of
collectedness
this is that other kind of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than the
previous now when you get to the second
jhana
if you stay with verbally
making a wish you'll start to get a
headache
because now you have to let go
of all that verbalization
this is a very desirable state to be
in during your daily activities but
there are
times that you have to talk to other
people
you talk to them kindly you wish them
well
and you're staying in that first journal
with the joy
and the comfort of your mind
without getting upset without
getting caught
you start to have more and more
confidence
in knowing what you're doing while
you're doing it
it's not just automatically happening
you're starting to see it more and more
clearly
and you start to have more and more
confidence
that when you're radiating loving
kindness to someone else
you're feeling that radiation
and that happiness towards someone else
you start to see a change not only in
yourself but you start to see a change
in
other people around you
and now not too long ago i was in a
restaurant
where there were two people that were
talking rather
loudly and not happy with each other
so much so that the manager came over
and told him to quiet down
but the looks on their face was
complete anger
so i saw that i was with someone else
and i said let's radiate some loving
kindness to this couple
it was amazing to watch
it wasn't two minutes before
they quieted down and they agreed to
disagree on whatever it was that they
were
arguing about and they
actually started smiling and they
started laughing so i told the person
that was with me we've done our work
here now we can go
go do something else someplace else
but just to watch the transformation of
your world around you
when you have the mindfulness to
remember
to radiate loving kindness
and send that compassion
to other people
not taking sides with other people not
getting involved in what actually the
whole problem was it doesn't matter
what matters is what you do with what
you have
right now in the present and how you
radiate loving kindness in the present
this helps you to stay in the second job
it helps you to have more
uplifting joy
and you feel lighter in your mind you
feel lighter in your body
that's the kind of vedana that the
jhanas bring
you
so it's real important for you to
understand
how you
are teaching yourself
and helping other people around you
and you're teaching them but they don't
know that you're teaching them
too many people have an idea that a
teacher means that you only talk to
people for a period of time and then go
off and do whatever you want to do
no you're your own teacher
you're teaching yourself how to
recognize when
your mind is distracted
and what to do with that distraction as
it's occurring
and that happens by your smiling
i know i harp on that a lot
but i do that for good reason
i'm trying to help you with your
mindfulness
so that you'll be able to recognize when
that smile goes away and you start
getting caught
in some other kind of
disturbance
but when you have a lesson like i just
talked about
of being able to radiate loving kindness
i didn't know these people from adam i
didn't know anything about them
i don't care loving kindness
is sending love
without looking for any kind of thing
in reserve i'll love you if you love me
no i'll love you because you're there
and i'll help your mind to become more
accepting
i'm not going to tell you that that's
what i'm doing
i'm not going to spend time trying to
teach somebody else how to do it
they know they feel it
so try to keep it going all day
all the time no matter who you're with
so the lighter your mind can be
during the day the sharper your
mindfulness will become
and the less you'll get caught
in that identification
that this is me this is mine this is who
i
am you start developing your equanimity
that balance of mind and then eventually
you'll get into
a state of disenchantment
where you can have this happy feeling
and radiate this happy feeling
with out any attachments
to it
okay
should anyone say that this is
oops i lost my place this is the utmost
pleasure and joy that beings
experience i would not concede that to
him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than that
pleasure
and what is that other kind of pleasure
here ananda was a fading away of joy
a monk abides in equanimity
mindful and fully aware and still
feeling happiness with the body he
enters upon and abides in the third
journal on account of which
noble ones announce he has a pleasant
abiding who has equanimity
and is mindful
so the keeping
in the third genre with your daily
activities
is a little bit more advanced than a lot
of people when they're first starting
out
but you can train yourself to have that
equanimity
that disenchantment with likes and
dislikes
the teaching yourself to
be aware that your mind can be smiling
all the time
now this doesn't say that there is
tranquility with this
but there is there is tranquility
and equanimity
and full awareness you're still aware of
everything around you you know what's
happening around you you still hear
sounds but they don't pull your
attention away
you can stay with what you're doing
while you do it
now when i was going to the hospital
every day i spent a lot of time
with both joy of the second genre
and equanimity of the third jhana
a lot of people would have very strong
physical pain
and i found by doing the
third genre the equanimity the
acceptance without
resistance of the pain
the pain became less and less for them
and they began accepting the fact that
yeah it's going to be there
so why fight it
that's one of the things that everybody
does when pain
physical pain especially but also mental
pain
when it arises i don't like it i don't
want it there i want it to stop but it
doesn't
so you have to learn how to have that
balance of mind
that accepts the fact that yes there is
painful feeling there
and when you stop fighting it when you
stop trying to
make the
feeling be the way you want it to be
then that resistance in your mind that
craving that i don't like it
begins to lessen
so there's a lot of real amazing things
that you can
do with your daily activities and being
in a jhana
it's just not
getting caught in
the likes and dislikes of a feeling
when it arises
especially mental feeling because that's
a sneaky one
that's the one we've been going around
all our lives
thinking that this dislike that
that like it's all me
and it makes everything happy
or makes things worse more
sad
but when you can smile
even when you don't feel like smiling
there's benefit to that
they're doing a lot of studies on
smiling right now
a huge amount of studies
and when you are smiling
with your eyes with your mouth with your
mind
with your heart
it changes the whole situation
it makes life a lot easier
why is that because now you're letting
go of the craving now you're saying with
a clear
mind
the six r's are amazingly
helpful and
the problem that you have is trying to
remember when you start getting caught
and that's why i'm saying if you're
in one of the genres if you practice
being in a jhana in your daily
activities you're not gonna get
caught
now what happens when you get to the
third jhana
you don't notice your body so much
and if you're just starting out with
your meditation
you're still a rookie you haven't become
an advanced meditator yet
that feeling in your heart is going to
disappear
and it's going to come up into your head
now when i send loving kindness i'm
sending it from
here
i'm not sending it from my quote heart
and my mind is much more pure at that
time
so getting into the third genre
this is that other kind of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than the
previous pleasure
should anyone say that this is the
utmost
joy pleasure and joy that beings
experienced
i would not concede that to him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than that
pleasure
and what is that other pleasure
here ananda with the abandoning
of pleasure and pain
with the previous disappearance of joy
and grief abandoning the pleasure and
pain means the feeling
in the body
the letting go of joy and grief you've
already let go
of the joy and
joy and grief are two signs of the same
coin
and that's where a lot of attachment is
a monk enters upon and abides in the
fourth journal which has
neither pain nor pleasure and purity of
mindfulness due to equanimity
this is where your equanimity gets very
much stronger
and you can start using other words
not necessarily equanimity but
acceptance
having a mind that's in very strong
balance somebody can come up to you and
slap you in the face
and it doesn't make you react
except maybe to say don't do that again
which has happened to me when i went to
an airport
somebody thought i was a hari krishna
and he came up and slapped me
i said why'd you do that for
he said something about hare krishna and
how they're always trying to get money
out of you
and i said well i'm not a hari krishna
i'm a buddhist
and i started talking to him a little
bit about
uh the non-violence of buddhism and that
sort of thing
and he wound up buying me a meal
so i got slapped for my meal
okay should anyone say
that this is the utmost pleasure and joy
that beings
experience i would not concede that to
him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure loftier and more sublime
than that pleasure
and what is that pleasure here ananda
with the complete surmounting
of gross perceptions of form
that means like when you're in the first
john a second genre you still feel
your hands you still feel things in your
body
when you get to this stage
you don't feel your body at all unless
you put your attention on your body
you stay with the loving kindness and
radiating loving kindness to all beings
and that's why i say a complete
surmounting
of gross perceptions of form
there's still subtle perceptions of form
that can occur
but they're mental
one time this brings me up to a story
one of my teachers he's a very
world renowned teacher
somebody asked him about the eightfold
path
and he said why do you always start
with right view
i call it harmonious perspective
and he the teacher didn't have the
answer right off the top of his head
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so he said
because that's the way the buddha
started the eightfold path
which is completely unsatisfactory
answer
you started the the off the eightfold
path
with right view because the view
that you really need to
experience is the anata
view the not self view
seeing things without any
craving in your mind at all at that time
that's right view
now there's can still be some sensations
if there is contact with your body
when you're in this realm
this realm that we're we're going into
is called
infinite space with compassion
so if you don't put your attention on
your body you're not gonna feel your
body
but if there is contact say some some
breeze comes up and you feel it
it's not gonna make your attention
waver or if there's a sound that comes
up
it's not going to take your attention to
it and
make you wonder what to do with it
you're gonna notice it but that's all
so now you're getting into the mental
realm
where everything is much more subtle
it's not gross and big like physical
feeling right now
now one of the things that
is really amazing and i had to
work hard to convince my teacher
lucille ananda that i was right
and that is you can be in a mental realm
and still be moving your body around you
can still be walking you can still be
doing things
and be in that realm
radiating compassion
but the disappearance of gross
perceptions of sensory impact
aware that space is infinite
now i put with compassion
because i teach a brahma viara's
and that this is what it says in another
suta in the samut nikaya
about infinite space
is where you experience compassion
video what are you talking about oh
videos not on
how'd that happen
sorry i didn't know that i did turned
off
so
you can be walking down the street
in infinite space just radiating the
ceiling out
and out and out and out
and radiating compassion at the same
time
and actually it's kind of fun when you
do it
but because you don't have
feeling in the body the only place you
have a feeling
is the bottom of your feet where there's
contact with walking but you don't
notice anything in between that and your
head
it's really kind of odd
it is kind of fun too
this is that other kind of pleasure
that's loftier
and more sublime than the previous
pleasure
now when you get to the fourth jhana and
you have
strong equanimity
this is where i will tell you that you
have become
an advanced meditator
and you let go of
individual people and now you start
radiating loving kindness
to all beings in the six directions
and i'll explain that more whenever you
get through that state
or to that state
should anyone say that this is the
utmost pleasure
and joy that beings experience i would
not concede
that to him
why is that because there is another
kind of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than that
pleasure
and what is that other kind of pleasure
hear ananda by completely surmounting
the base of infinite space
with compassion
aware that consciousness is infinite
a monk enters upon and abides in the
base of
infinite consciousness with joy
joy is modita there's a lot of people
that have the idea that
mudita
is they call it sympathetic joy
altruistic joy and i don't really agree
with that
definition because
that's outside your mind
that's being joyful for other people if
they're successful
well that's a kind of joy yes
and it's nice to use it yes
but the kind of joy that modita is
is the all-pervading
joy it's the joy that is
a very happy feeling without any
excitement
in it at all
now infinite consciousness is really
interesting when you get to that state
because
as you're walking as you're
doing things you start noticing
consciousnesses arise and pass away you
start to notice this very fast
flickering and what you're seeing right
now because your mind has calmed down
enough
what you're seeing is individual
consciousnesses
arise and pass away
this is called birth death birth death
birth death the birth of the
consciousness
and it's fading away it's death
but this happens so fast that we don't
really
recognize it as such when you get to
infinite consciousness
you actually start being more and more
aware
that everything is
impermanent
we thought sounds and sights were were
permanent
while they were uh while they were there
but we don't realize that it's a
continual arise and pass away arise and
pass away
so now when you get to this state you
start seeing
very very clearly that there is
nothing in this world that is permanent
everything is in a state of change
also you're seeing the
unsatisfactoriness
of this because there's it's no quiet
it's just continual movement
and it gets tiresome
and you're also going to see very very
clearly that there
is no controller
this happens because conditions are
right for it
to be seen so you're seeing
anicha duka anata
close and personal and you're seeing
that it's not some kind of philosophy
i know a lot of people that are studying
the satipatthana sutra
they make a big deal out of anitra
but it's all mental it's all thinking
about
it's not actually experiencing
they experience on a very gross form
but when you get to this realm it's
very subtle and you see
the truth of it
so the next realm is
nothingness with equanimity
i'm running out of time that i should be
talking and that
i should be asking quests oops i really
am out of time
i should be asking if if you have any
questions now
but this particular suta is absolutely
brilliant understand that feeling
is more emotion more mental
than it is physical
although physical can be big it can
really be
there but the more
you start being aware
of the veda
changing from one thing to another
the more you're aware of the
unsatisfactoriness of
all of this sort of thing
continually moving around
and when you stop taking things
personally
now you're starting to get to a very
high realm of understanding
where you're seeing the dhamma
as it actually is it's not talk anymore
it's not a philosophy anymore
this is actually being able to see
exactly how this stuff
works and you're teaching yourself
to be able to recognize that
you're seeing it for yourself
so i really like this suta because of
that
now since i've been talking for a long
time
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do you have any questions it doesn't
matter whether it's on this dharma
talk or you have a
question that you want an answer to
if i possibly can help you i will
yes um yes thank you for the
talk i really liked it um and uh just
what you were saying i
i think i have felt this incessant
distress or i don't know if that's like
an it's a kind of
feeling so so i've been wondering like
how to cope
with this feeling of unsatisfactoriness
yeah yeah this is where you find out
it's really real
it's it's just a bunch of words that
people use to make themselves
try to understand actually
seeing for yourself and you're teaching
yourself that this stuff is real it's
not
a maybe
wish there was more teachers that were
actually able to see that for themselves
so that they could teach that
yeah anything else
yeah yeah i suppose i
you can ask anything no
yeah i think i i just need to meditate
more but uh
yeah i was yeah well
i i want you to have more fun too yeah
don't get so serious with it yeah i
think that's
one one thing i might have
done too much yeah
see the thing is if you try too much
try too hard you put in too much
energy too much effort and you wind up
slowing your progress
down you want to do this with a light
mind
a smiling mind
a mind that's willing not to try to make
things be the way you want them to be
but laugh and have fun with them that's
the way it actually
is
okay okay okay
thank you
any other question
uh i have two questions okay
uh first one is uh in the talk you were
saying that you practice uh
second jana or thought jana and you send
loving kindness
through your head right can you clarify
that uh
like usually we practice uh tarjana by
sending loving kindness through the
heart right
yeah but once you get into the
arupa janas you can start doing it
in any drum through the hip
that clarifies me okay yeah and
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actually my the que the reason i asked
the first
question was i felt like i tried to
radiate loving kindness through my
chest but i was feeling uncomfortable
with that
yeah and you can hurt yourself with that
do it through your head
okay okay okay and my second question is
uh it is us asking out of curiosity
uh like when we say about divine
eye or divine ear is it developed by
itself or
is there some practice well that that's
kind of uh a tricky question
because it depends there's
there's three different kinds of beings
okay
there's a being that is very
very intellectual but not very sensitive
to feeling
there's a being that is very sensitive
to feeling
but not so intellectual
and then there's a being like the buddha
that was both
he was highly intellectual and he was
highly sensitive
now a lot of people are like
the buddha not to the same degree as a
buddha
of course but they are
sensitive to feeling and their
intelligent now
it depends on their sensitivity
no sorry puta was not sensitive to
feeling at all
but he was highly intelligent
my teacher used ananda he could not
understand the instructions i give for
loving kindness
because he was so intellectual
the only thing the only way he would
teach loving kindness
was through guided meditation
and that's helpful for some people i'm
not saying that's right or wrong
but it's just that he wasn't so
sensitive to feeling
now i was living with another monk his
name was usobena
sobana means happy so and the u
is mr so he was mr happy
and he was very sensitive to feeling and
he could radiate loving kindness and i
would be outside and i would feel it
it if you're sensitive to feeling
the divine here and the divine eye will
happen
by themselves
there's no meditation that i know of
and that's not to say that i'm the
all-knowing
teacher other people might be able to
teach people how to do that but i've
never run across anybody that has
i do have students that they have the
divine eye they can see
devas and and brahmas and they they can
communicate with them
i i've told this story a few times
i was with this one lady
that she had the divine eye and divine
ear and i
asked her to
go see my mother who was in california
at the time
and i asked her what town she was in
i asked her what the street name
was that she lived on i asked her for
the address
and then i asked her what color clothing
was she wearing
and she said all the she did it
i lived on 8th avenue she said it was
it was eight
my my mother was at home i called her up
and i asked her what color her clothes
were
and it was blue she had a blue suit on
that day
i was pretty much amazed and she did
have that divine eye
and she was able to communicate with
davis
and brahmas
every now and then she'd go to a brahma
realm and ask them what kind of
meditation
are you doing the brahma realm
according to the sutas
they use as their nourishment they use
joy
so she would always ask them what kind
of meditation you're doing and they're
doing something that has to do with joy
the devaloka they eat grapes they just
appear before them
so you you go to visit one of the those
uh
developers and you see that davis
sitting around
munching on grapes thinking about this
or that or
singing and dancing and doing all kinds
of fun stuff
they do that in the devaloka not so much
in the brahmaloka
but from everybody that i've taught
i've never known anyone
to make the determination to
develop the divine ear or divine eye
it just happened for them and they're
pretty amazed when it happens and they
don't believe it at first
but the divine eye they can
see somebody on the other side of the
planet
it's like going to visit them see what
they're doing
the divine ear they can hear people
talking on the other side of the planet
which the government would love
but
also when when that starts to happen
that you you have the ability to
read minds
and i know an awful lot of people now i
want to be able to read everybody's mind
and my my thoughts on that is
why they're just as screwed up as i am
i don't need i don't need their garbage
in and garbage out
but there are
there are some people that can do that
all they all they do is point their mind
in the direction they want to go and
they can they can have that happen for
them
it does take practice
just like if you go to if if you
experience
the cessation of perception feeling and
consciousness
and then you want to do it again
after you've become an onigami
it takes practice um
started 10 minutes to try to hit it
exactly
and then extend the time until you're
sitting for
two days three days four days like that
you do have to put a limit on on the
time that you sit in the cessation
like that seven days
i've only met one one
uh teacher that could do that
that was deepama
but there are some people around that
are quite good at being able to get in
and out
they just don't have the time to
take to
do that they're laban
so they still have worldly things that
they have to do
anyway does anybody else have a question
yes i do bunty hello hello
hello uh i was wondering about
um the loss of attainment that could
happen
and lots of attainment that can happen
so there is eight stages until
full fruition or full freedom and i was
wondering
how can one lock in one stage of an
attainment because i've just never
learning how to have mastery of going in
and
out of that jhana
it takes practice but you make a
determination let's say you want to get
to the second john on
you you make a determination to be in
that
genre for a period of time
and that you don't go any higher than
that john
ante i'm specifically talking about
sotapanna
or locking in that that
attainment with morality or
that locks in pretty much by itself oh
okay and if you do happen to break
up you're going to feel
very very guilty
and you need to find a spiritual friend
and tell them that you broke the precept
and take the precepts again
okay absolutely
okay anybody else
thank you for your talk um
you were talking a little bit earlier
about sadness yeah
um is sadness a sign that we're attached
that we have some kind of attachment no
it's a sign that there's a painful
feeling that's there
and it can be that you're attached to it
most people are because they don't like
that feeling
and they indulge in the feeling and they
try to
think the feeling away
but feelings are one thing and thoughts
are something else and it doesn't work
so you wind up indulging in
the thoughts and dissatisfaction
of that sadness feeling
you're identifying with it and you're
trying to control it and only
it only makes it bigger and more intense
so if we if if we feel sad because we
lost a friend
we just allow the sadness to be there
because it's a fear you have to
allow the sadness to be there because
the truth is it's there
but don't fight with it don't try to
push it away
allow that sadness to run its course on
its own
without you trying to control it
i've had family members die
for my whole life and the sadness was
really tearing me apart
a lot of people they don't realize
that sadness is part of grief
okay grief can manifest in many ways
some people it manifests as anger
some anxiety
a lot in indulging
in the dislike of that
painful feeling
but allowing that feeling to be there
let it tear your heart out
don't take it personally
it's a feeling that is there
and it will run its course
as you soften your mind and allow it to
be there
without trying to control it
feel the sadness let it be there and
eventually it'll just run its course
right
yeah i've been around a lot of
people that have death in the family and
that's
one of the things that i tell them is
that they have to allow that feeling
that sadness to be there
if they don't allow it in two years
they're going to have some kind of major
physical problem but i also
tell people that stop indulging in that
sadness
start radiating loving kindness to other
friends
or family members that are caught up in
it
so they can let it go more quickly
see the statement that i use a lot is
you
never have to feel hopeless
or helpless
you radiate loving kindness
open up your heart and allow
that feeling for them to help them
overcome their sadness
thank you okay
okay
hello omar hello
oh yes i would like to ask you that
for developing collectedness of the mind
what would you say about the method of
the thai forest master ajahn lee
i would say that he didn't understand
what craving actually is
i know of ajahn lee
he does he didn't understand that it's a
tension
and tightness in your mind and body
he developed a kind of one pointed
concentration
and that's what he taught
one pointed concentration does not
overcome
craving
and that's why it turns into one pointed
concentration
you can get very deeply concentrated
but that does not lead you to getting
off the wheel of sansara
how do you understand what i'm saying
hello yes yes i'm here
you understand what i'm yes saying
day but a few days ago when i was trying
the method i didn't feel
there to be any one-pointed
concentration at all
and i was feeling very relaxed in the
body and
the mind actually
but you did not in intentionally
relax that's just one of the point
one of the things that happens with one
pointed concentration
you can feel very much but there's still
some tension and tightness
in your mind and in your body that you
don't notice
because you haven't practiced
recognizing it that's what the six hours
are
all about
any would you say one point
it is a one point penetration is a spot
in the body
the thing is
if you don't recognize the tension and
tightness in your mind and in your body
you'll ignore it
you have to have a sharper kind of
mindfulness
that you can see that
i know a lot of people that are very
happy with the one-pointed kinds of
concentration
and i there's nothing wrong with it
except what is the end result
the end result that i'm most interested
in
is getting off of the wheel of zanzara
a lot of people they really get hooked
on that
and one one pointed concentration can
be take many forms
but if it doesn't have that relaxed step
in it that's an
intentional that intentional relaxed
step
if it doesn't have that in it you're not
letting go of the craving
this is why the 6r's are so incredibly
important
experiences might be similar
to somebody that is letting go of the
craving
but it's not going to be exact
and you're only going to be able to go
so high
okay so in the suttas when the buddha
says i shall breathe in
experiencing the whole body so
what does that mean does it mean we feel
the body from the
top of the head to the bottom of the
feet well you know
that it's there
it's right so just a general whole body
awareness it's the next
part of the instruction that you're not
saying
tranquilize a bodily formation on the
in-breath
and on the out breath
that's the part that is missing
if you don't relax on the in-breath and
relax
on the out breath you're not letting go
of the craving
and it is subtle
and i had 20 years of doing
the kind of practice that you're talking
about
and i have experienced a lot of
tranquility and i have experienced a lot
of wonderful
different states but i was never
satisfied with the end result
because i didn't feel any real
personality
development
when i started noticing and and started
doing the tranquilizer bodily formation
on the in-breath and out breath
when i started doing that i started
noticing a lot of changes that were
happening and my
mindfulness was much sharper
now with one pointed concentration or
access concentration
you can get to a place where it
suppresses
hindrances and you think you're really
doing good
but when you get out of that
concentration state
you still have the same old
habitual attachments
to feelings there's no real personality
development
okay
yes yes one final question one day okay
well what would you say is this what
people call
the knower or the knowing
well
it depends on you personally
and the reason i'm saying that is how
are you teaching yourself with a direct
experience or are you trying to
think it and know it do you see what i'm
saying
correct experience when i was talking
about
being an infinite consciousness an awful
lot of people
they they think about
impermanent suffering and not self
without
seeing it
they they can talk about it a lot but
when they see it for themselves they
know that it's real
and that's what what i'm teaching is
is different than any of the burmese
or any of the ties that i know of
it's different from what they're
teaching just because
of that relax on the in-breath relax on
the out breath
and if you don't have that your mind
tends towards
one pointed concentration
although it might not feel like it's any
kind of special concentration
it is because eventually you'll get to a
place where
your hindrances are suppressed
and you think well this is good this is
really
nice and it is
while you're in that state but are you
able to carry that state around with you
all the time
and the answer is no you still have the
same amount of
dissatisfaction and dislike
you still have the same attachment
to lusts of one kind or
another
so
what i'm trying to show you
with this six r's
is how to change
and develop so that your mind becomes
more and more wholesome
all the time
okay
yes yes thank you okay
anything else
dante one one quick question would it be
fair to say
that the advantage of practicing meta
and the six
r's over one pointed concentration
is that we can be in jhana throughout
the day
whereas practices one pointed you can't
be in jannah throughout the day when
with your daily activities
right there there is that too but
the main difference is the relaxed step
see and i've explained this many times
in many many
talks as soon as you
relax you don't have any distraction in
your mind at that time your mind is pure
because you've let go of that craving
and to have a mind that's really bright
and really alert
and clear without any distractions
pulling it away
is amazing
and i was truly
amazed when i started doing that at
seeing how
fast my progress was in the meditation
and how easy it became
i was very very pleasantly surprised
because i was used to doing
hard meditation where there was a lot of
pain and a lot of suffering and all of a
sudden my mind is
light and alert and
uplifted oh this is nice
and that's one of the things that
happens especially with the brahma vr is
the way i'm teaching
it
thank you for clarifying okay
anybody else uh christoph here
i have a quick question uh
on a suta that explains the five
kandas
and pretty fine with almost any
all of it but in the it says here with
the arising of
name and form there's the arising of
consciousness
that is that's uh they call it namarupa
and nikubodi used name and form
in some parts of his uh
translation and in other parts he called
it
mentality materiality
it's four nations okay
so so that i can just replace name and
form with formations
yeah yeah again
okay
all right i'll do that and see how i get
how
how it makes sense then okay thank you
ardika you look like you have a question
well actually it's because that you just
said
like the mentality and materiality is
formations i thought that
formations and
well it's different thing i mean like
formation is sankara right
but sankara is a part of it can be
okay but
mentality materiality is the best
definition
for it formations is mind body
and and speech
okay
are you awake i am vantay
actually i'm wide awake okay just making
sure
i know it's like two o'clock in the
morning or three o'clock there
well i'm wide awake because i just um
i'm doing a private retreat right now
actually
oh good for you so that's why i'm pretty
wide awake right now
i can't so if you have any questions you
write to us
how to fly one thing
it's the air element that's all i'll
tell you
how to actually observe the motion
of the air
no it has to do
with movement and vibration
movement and vibrations
because well actually lately i was
reading
this book by lady sayadaw
actually he was talking about the four
elements
and it seems like the understanding of
the four elements is
not exactly as how we actually see
the elements as it is like let's say
it's like the earth
actually i thought it was like something
like the soil or something that is um
solid right but it is
soft and hard yeah soft and hard
that is actually something that i just
understand but it's actually soft and
hard
right and and the elements
the physical elements that we have are a
combination of all the elements mixed
together
in different proportions
right like the physical body is
different than a rock but it has all of
the elements in it
then how are we gonna be able to
actually
make the water solid
put it in the refrigerator where the
freezer is and
wait
uh okay one
yeah you can walk on the water here come
here
because it's freezing well
you want to walk on the water we have it
and you can even glide on it get some
skates
it's nice sounds nice
oh well how's everything going in
malaysia or indonesia
it's pretty cold right now but um
probably it's not as cold as in there
for sure what is pretty cold for you
right now
brady it's um
i think it's um still 10
degrees or 15 degrees
celsius yeah
well it's it's minus that here let's put
it that way
mhm
well actually yesterday we had snow on
the ground that's nice
and it lasted almost till afternoon
and then it was all done
just can you stand them here one thing
can you send them here
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well work with the elements and see if
you can do it
yourself okay
oh but i need more instructions
actually
oh well
patience that's that's it takes a while
and it depends on your sensitivity to
the elements
themselves
but i i think that i should
have a very um
like a very
a kind of ha need to have an equanimity
so that i will be able to do it
not sure i'm not gonna talk much about
doing this kind of stuff over the
uh the internet
okay so are we gonna have a friendly
session come here for ten years
and we'll work
oh you have to let go of a lot of
things the way you think they are
you have to let go and it takes a while
really does
yeah so anybody else have a question
one uh one last question on my side
and when the cessation happens the
knowledge of the past um is it possible
that the fruition doesn't happen and
the time lapse doesn't have anything to
do with fruition
to do with your memory and your
sensitivity to feelings
can you elaborate on that
ten years ago are you the same person
then that you are now
no oh that was a past lifetime wasn't it
right okay it has to do with memory
and you keep going back and back until
you start remembering past lifetimes
i've taught this to a few people
okay
so is it possible that you lose that
estate
and you don't continue practicing
or re break some precepts and you go
back to
lower our channels or
the lower genres and is it harder to go
back
no
you have to forgive
make a determination not to do it again
and then all of your ability and
going in and out of jhana will occur on
its own
very quickly it's the guilty feeling
of breaking a precept
and the when you break the precept
you have a tendency to take it person
personally i said this
i did this i made a mistake
and that's what where the attachment is
so when you
confess it to someone else
right
oh it sounds like david
damn
sounds like we lost them bonsai can you
unmute yourself
okay so somebody is
messing with the zoom
join our zoom meeting
look we can i can hear you and see you
now okay
anyway
if you want to learn about past
lifetimes
you have to have very very strong
equanimity because
there are some things that we've done in
past lifetimes that we're really not
very happy about
and we have to learn to forgive those
right and it can be freaky some of the
things that we've done
can really be bad and harmed other
people
and you have to have equanimity
and acceptance in in your
uh in your
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mind okay
so is it possible that after the uh
attaining the knowledge of the past all
these feelings comes up and
you put the meditation aside then you
need to deal with
them i have a friend
that he had a memory of the past of
killing someone and then getting stabbed
in the liver
and died
and he kept having this same
memory over and over again and he asked
me what to do
and i said now you have to practice
forgive us
you have to ask the man that you killed
before
if he would forgive you and you have to
forgive the person that stabbed and
killed you
in that lifetime now
his whole life he had had a bad liver
and as soon as he forgave that person
for
killing him in that lifetime
his liver problems went away
right so that can happen
but you need to be around a teacher
to help keep your balance with the
uh memories
it's more about strong equanimity
right now it's more about
this lifetime i mean of course before
getting to
know you and david is just a matter of
experiencing that but not
knowing that you just put it aside and
you see it
and say so the life is what it is
doesn't
everything is empty and non-self and so
what is the point of
well that's philosophy
but what we're more interested here with
this
group is the actual
experience
okay this is real
important because it goes beyond
philosophy
when you when you start seeing anichi
dukkha not
for real it changes the way you see the
world
but an awful lot of people
they're told from the very beginning
everything is impermanent everything is
suffering
and they just repeat those words over
and over again without actually seeing
them
so it's a real important thing that you
experience this
now a lot of people that come here for
retreat
in a 10-day retreat they will be able to
experience that i'm not saying everyone
but it depends on you and how how you
follow instructions
and how you teach yourself
okay right thank you okay
day i have not one one more question
sorry okay
uh is it possible to change the elements
from one to another
basic elements i
i didn't hear what is it is it possible
to change the basic elements
changing your perspective of the
elements that
and this is not
magic okay
my camera is off it doesn't say that
here
no it's not okay
uh you don't actually change the
elements the elements are the elements
that they're
they're always there is just changing
your perspective
and use of the elements that's why it
takes about 10 years to be able to
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really do do this it's not an easy thing
now you can walk through a wall if you
change your perspective of what was
there
but if you try that now you wind up with
a sore nose
right
so if there's no more questions
why don't we share some merit
may suffering ones be suffering free and
the fear struck fearless be
may the grieving shed all grief and may
all beings find relief
may all beings share this merit that
we've thus
acquired for the acquisition of all
kinds of happiness
beings inhabiting space and earth
devas and nagas of mighty powers share
this merit of ours
may they long predict the buddha's
dispensation
so all of you have a good week
and have fun keep the smiling
going okay thank you bonsai
thank you okay
thank you david thank you david
thank you david
you
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so i'm going to do suit to number 55 the
many kinds of feeling
59 excuse me
um
you notice there's not an s behind it
it is feeling not feelings
so there is a mistake
in imagine hikaya when it's talking
about
the sati patana sutta because it says
feelings
and that has a tendency to make you go
off
and not really understand
that it has nothing to do with emotion
now i i give
the definition of feeling as
excuse me i'm still trying to catch up
pleasant feeling painful feeling neither
painful nor pleasant
now the thing that you really need to
understand
is that feeling is not only
talking about
physical feeling that's the way it's
described in a lot of people that are
teaching satipatana
but it's physical and it's mental
why because there's pleasant
unpleasant neutral feeling in emotion
as well as in physical
form
i know that there's some
people that are really really interested
just in the physical form of feeling
and they miss half of the boat
when they get to looking
at only physical feeling
but feeling
isn't strictly mental or physical
feeling is feeling
and that causes when the feeling arises
right after that craving arises i like
it or i don't like it
it's pleasant or it's painful
so
i want to go through this this suit
again
so that you can understand a little bit
more clearly
that this is involving all different
kinds of feeling
thus if i heard on one occasion the
blessed one was living at sawatee in
jettas grove and
then pendicas park
then the carpenter pancho conga
went to the venerable udayan
after paying homage to him he sat down
at one side and asked him
then rule sir how many kinds of feelings
have been stated by the blessed one
three kinds have been stated by the
blessed one
pleasant feeling painful feeling neither
painful nor pleasant feeling
these three kinds of feeling have been
stated by the blessed one
not three kinds of feeling have been
stated by the blessed one venerable
udayan
two kinds of feeling have been stated by
the blessed one
pleasant feeling and painful feeling
that's generally when i'm talking about
your meditation i'm just talking about
that i'm not talking about the neutral
feeling
until you get to having equanimity then
then
i start throwing in that kind of feeling
but i don't tell you
that it's a feeling
this neither painful nor pleasant
feeling has been stated by the blessed
one as
peaceful and sublime kind of pleasure
a second time and a third time the
venerable udayan stated his position
a second and third time the carpenter
upon chicago stated his
but the venerable odyn could not
convince the carpenter upon chicago nor
could the
carpenter pon chicago convinced
venerable ludayan
ponja conga was a
carpenter but he was like the handyman
to have around
every center has its own handyman that
takes care of things
so he was around a lot for the buddha's
talks
so he and he was very well educated
the venerable ananda heard their
conversation
then he went to the blessed one after
paying homage to him he sat down at one
side and reported to the blessed one the
entire conversation
between the venerable udayan and the
carpenter pancho conga
when he had finished the blessed one
told the venerable ananda
ananda it is actually a true
presentation
that the carpenter ponja congo would not
accept from
udayan and it was actually a true
presentation that udayan would not
accept
from the carpenter panjikonga
i've stated two kinds of feeling in one
presentation
i have stated three kinds of feeling in
another presentation
i have stated five kinds of feeling in
another
presentation five kinds of feeling
i'm gonna give it to you in pali then
english
sukkah dukkha
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that's pleasant or physical feeling
painful physical feeling
pleasant mental feeling
and painful mental feeling
and upeka is equanimity
so if if you go to this book and you
look
at the footnotes
the footnotes were taken from
a monk by the name of
buddhaghosa and he did not understand
about feelings and he starts talking
about
feeling in a much different way
and didn't understand what those five
kinds of feelings
are as a result he didn't expound
on these different kinds of feelings so
that there was clear
thought and clear understanding
and that has carried on through the
commentaries
and that's one of the reasons that
buddha goes work is somewhat suspect
with his reasoning he was for not very
good at
guessing and he didn't study the suttas
he was a pali scholar he was taking
notes from other people
and translating it into poly
so he can't be a hundred percent
the fault of the not understanding
but it has caused a lot of confusion
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over time
the subtler kinds of feeling the
mental feelings
are difficult
to recognize
because you get caught up in that
feeling and the dislike of that feeling
as
sadness fear anxiety
hatred all of these different kinds of
feeling
sneak up on you very much
now this is one of the reasons that i
want you to keep
practicing daily all the time smiling
because
that sharpens your mindfulness and you
can start to see
how your mind gets caught in these
emotional
feelings where you say something that
can hurt yourself or
someone else
and then you justify in your own mind
how you're right and they're wrong
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all of that is part of feeling
but it's not recognized
in as anything other than this is me
this is mine this is who i am
so it's real important for you to
begin keeping
your mindfulness going in your daily
activities
keep stay in a genre as long as you
possibly can
this is where your mind is pure
you don't have you can still
have painful mental feeling
but as soon as you notice that your mind
is heavy
and you're not smiling and you're
getting into
dissatisfaction and dislike
you'll notice that more quickly
and you can start using the 6rs
and let it go
everything is part of a type of
perception and when you perceive
that somebody has slighted you or you've
done something that's not so nice to
someone else
when you perceive that and then start
forgiving yourself forgiving that other
person
especially forgiving yourself for
getting
caught again in the old habit
of what you've been doing your whole
life
excuse me
so
you start developing new habits when you
let go of the perception of
uh trying to let off
dislike of what's happening to you oh i
gotta let this steam off
that in itself is funny
that you got caught and you don't even
see it yet
and then you start saying things to
other people that are hurtful
so it's really important
that you keep your smile going all the
time
keep the smile in your mind
don't criticize yourself when you forgot
just
laugh at that and start again
okay
over a few short months
people will start noticing that you
are changing
you don't get so
upset you don't get so caught
in the emotional
part of feeling
there is always as soon as feeling
arises i don't care whether it's
pleasant or painful
right after that there's the i like it
or i don't like it mine
feeling is the very
key to remember
to relax and smile
and bring that to whatever you're doing
while you're doing it
keep the smile going
okay i have stated six kinds of feeling
in another presentation
so the first five it's really talking
about
the five it's naming that
there is pleasant and unpleasant
physical there's pleasant and unpleasant
mental now it's getting
into the sense doors
the sixth sense doors
the eyes the ears the nose the tongue
body and mind
mind is the one you got to really watch
out for
because it always starts in mind
and after a few months
of catching yourself
and using the six hours of
smiling and being in a genre with your
daily activities
it will start to turn into a good habit
where you don't get caught by emotional
upsets they're still going to happen
there's still going to be times when
there's great sadness that comes
somebody in your family is hurt or
dies there's sadness there
but the thing is
that's a time for you to be particularly
alert with your mindfulness
now even though you can have sadness
from somebody dying
it doesn't mean that you're hopeless and
you can't do anything to help anybody
else around you
that's a mistake that is made
if you focus on loving kindness and
radiate that loving kindness to members
of the family that are hurt
or close friends that are really painful
because
of that that will help them overcome
their grief more quickly
that will help you
because you're not focusing on the grief
that you have
you're wishing well to other people that
you know
are suffering the same way you are
so the more you can give your love
to people that are suffering
even though it might not seem like it
does any good at
all it does
and you start
changing your world around you
and this
has a positive effect
and your life becomes easier
you're keeping your precepts without
breaking them
you're not getting into a emotional
upset because of some kind of political
nonsense that's going on
you bring people back to the present
moment
so that they don't get caught up in
their repeat thoughts of
dislike and dissatisfaction
so the six kinds of feeling
actually comes down to one
mind on the
on on the both the physical and the
mental
it comes down to your observation power
so that you can see when your mind
starts to
get caught and then go into
unhold some states
okay i have stated 18 kinds of feeling
in another presentation
what are the 18
do you know
well we're breaking down these
uh six cents doors
with pleasant
painful neither painful or pleasant
three with each of the six cents doors
that's 18.
i have stated 36 kinds of feeling in
another presentation what are the 36.
past and present
huh no oh really
18 times 2 is what
36.
i have stated 108 kinds of feeling
in another presentation i'm not going to
go to that because it takes a long time
to
describe it that is that
how the dhamma has been shown by me in
different presentations
when the dhamma has thus been shown by
me in different presentations
it may be expected of those who will not
concede
allow and accept what is well stated
and well spoken by others
they will take to quarreling brawling
and disputing
stabbing each other with verbal daggers
i always like that description verbal
daggers
i've been in a room where people started
arguing about things like this
well the buddha said this and the other
one said no the buddha didn't say that
he said this
and the buddha said both
they want to get into an argument they
get into their
emotional upset and attachment
and this causes all kinds of problems
so you don't want to argue about dhamma
about what is the right what is the
wrong
you just want to state your facts as you
know them
and then go to the suttas and see
whether you're right or not
i know in malaysia there's major groups
that they won't
this group won't have anything to do
with that group because
they're not teaching the same thing and
they're wrong
they're not practicing buddhism
they're practicing attachment
and they have tight minds they don't
recognize the importance
of being able to relax your mind
and they don't recognize the importance
of
letting go of perspectives that don't
agree with you
i've had conversations with many
different
types of buddhists
and we don't argue we don't try to
convince each other that
we're right and they're wrong we state
what we think
is correct and then
quietly listen to what they think is
correct
without fighting about it without
playing that game of
i know and you don't know
a lot of people don't see that as an
attachment
they don't see that as craving
and as a result they wind up hurting
themselves
and causing problems for other people
so the more we can let go
of that and actually
accept what somebody else says and then
go and check and see whether it's
correct or not
that is the buddha's way
okay now we're going to go into the five
chords of sensual pleasures
the sensual pleasures can be mental
or physical or both
ananda there are these five chords of
sensual pleasure
what are the five forms cognizable
by the eye that are wished for desired
agreeable and likable
connected with sensual desire and
inviting lust
sounds cognizable by the ear that are
wished for
desired agreeable and likable
connected with sensual desire fighting
lust
now these are they can be
connected with sensual desire and
inviting lust
or it can be connected with sensual
dividing
the central
desire and invite
hatred
think about that
because this is real feeling some sounds
you hear and that's so
unpleasant where does your mind go to
or if it's one of your favorite songs
where does your mind go to they still
have that i am
that attached to it
and it's that way with all of the
sensual
desires odor is cognizable by the nose
there's some smells that are really bad
you don't want to be around them
there's other smells that are really
pleasant
so this can go either way
flavor is cognizable by the tongue it's
the same with tastes
some tastes are really nice other tastes
are not
but both of them are caught in sensual
desire
they're caught in the i like it i want
it
or i don't like it i don't want it it's
still
caught by craving that's the danger of
sensual desires
and their uh
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tangibles cognizable by the body there's
pleasant feelings and there's painful
feelings
these are the five chords of sensual
pleasure
now that pleasure of joy that arises
dependent on these five
chords of sensual pleasure are called
sensual pleasure
should anyone say that's the utmost
pleasure and joy that beings experienced
i would not concede that to him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure loftier
and more sublime than that pleasure
and what is that other kind of pleasure
here ananda quite secluded from sensual
pleasures
secluded from unwholesome states
a monk enters upon and abides in the
first
genre which is accompanied by thinking
and
examining thought a lot of people ask me
about thinking and examining thought and
what that actually is
the thinking and examining thought is
the verbal
recitation of your wish for
your
spiritual friend and towards yourself
it's the verbal recitation okay
with joy and happiness born of seclusion
this is that other kind of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than the
previous pleasure
should anyone say this is the utmost
pleasure
and joy that beings experienced i would
not concede that to him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure loftier
and more sublime than that pleasure
and what is that other kind of pleasure
here ananda with the stilling of
thinking and examining
thought letting go of the verbalization
of the wish in your mind
a monk enters upon and abides in the
second genre
which has self-confidence
stillness of mind without thinking and
examining thought
with joy and happiness born of
collectedness
this is that other kind of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than the
previous now when you get to the second
jhana
if you stay with verbally
making a wish you'll start to get a
headache
because now you have to let go
of all that verbalization
this is a very desirable state to be
in during your daily activities but
there are
times that you have to talk to other
people
you talk to them kindly you wish them
well
and you're staying in that first journal
with the joy
and the comfort of your mind
without getting upset without
getting caught
you start to have more and more
confidence
in knowing what you're doing while
you're doing it
it's not just automatically happening
you're starting to see it more and more
clearly
and you start to have more and more
confidence
that when you're radiating loving
kindness to someone else
you're feeling that radiation
and that happiness towards someone else
you start to see a change not only in
yourself but you start to see a change
in
other people around you
and now not too long ago i was in a
restaurant
where there were two people that were
talking rather
loudly and not happy with each other
so much so that the manager came over
and told him to quiet down
but the looks on their face was
complete anger
so i saw that i was with someone else
and i said let's radiate some loving
kindness to this couple
it was amazing to watch
it wasn't two minutes before
they quieted down and they agreed to
disagree on whatever it was that they
were
arguing about and they
actually started smiling and they
started laughing so i told the person
that was with me we've done our work
here now we can go
go do something else someplace else
but just to watch the transformation of
your world around you
when you have the mindfulness to
remember
to radiate loving kindness
and send that compassion
to other people
not taking sides with other people not
getting involved in what actually the
whole problem was it doesn't matter
what matters is what you do with what
you have
right now in the present and how you
radiate loving kindness in the present
this helps you to stay in the second job
it helps you to have more
uplifting joy
and you feel lighter in your mind you
feel lighter in your body
that's the kind of vedana that the
jhanas bring
you
so it's real important for you to
understand
how you
are teaching yourself
and helping other people around you
and you're teaching them but they don't
know that you're teaching them
too many people have an idea that a
teacher means that you only talk to
people for a period of time and then go
off and do whatever you want to do
no you're your own teacher
you're teaching yourself how to
recognize when
your mind is distracted
and what to do with that distraction as
it's occurring
and that happens by your smiling
i know i harp on that a lot
but i do that for good reason
i'm trying to help you with your
mindfulness
so that you'll be able to recognize when
that smile goes away and you start
getting caught
in some other kind of
disturbance
but when you have a lesson like i just
talked about
of being able to radiate loving kindness
i didn't know these people from adam i
didn't know anything about them
i don't care loving kindness
is sending love
without looking for any kind of thing
in reserve i'll love you if you love me
no i'll love you because you're there
and i'll help your mind to become more
accepting
i'm not going to tell you that that's
what i'm doing
i'm not going to spend time trying to
teach somebody else how to do it
they know they feel it
so try to keep it going all day
all the time no matter who you're with
so the lighter your mind can be
during the day the sharper your
mindfulness will become
and the less you'll get caught
in that identification
that this is me this is mine this is who
i
am you start developing your equanimity
that balance of mind and then eventually
you'll get into
a state of disenchantment
where you can have this happy feeling
and radiate this happy feeling
with out any attachments
to it
okay
should anyone say that this is
oops i lost my place this is the utmost
pleasure and joy that beings
experience i would not concede that to
him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than that
pleasure
and what is that other kind of pleasure
here ananda was a fading away of joy
a monk abides in equanimity
mindful and fully aware and still
feeling happiness with the body he
enters upon and abides in the third
journal on account of which
noble ones announce he has a pleasant
abiding who has equanimity
and is mindful
so the keeping
in the third genre with your daily
activities
is a little bit more advanced than a lot
of people when they're first starting
out
but you can train yourself to have that
equanimity
that disenchantment with likes and
dislikes
the teaching yourself to
be aware that your mind can be smiling
all the time
now this doesn't say that there is
tranquility with this
but there is there is tranquility
and equanimity
and full awareness you're still aware of
everything around you you know what's
happening around you you still hear
sounds but they don't pull your
attention away
you can stay with what you're doing
while you do it
now when i was going to the hospital
every day i spent a lot of time
with both joy of the second genre
and equanimity of the third jhana
a lot of people would have very strong
physical pain
and i found by doing the
third genre the equanimity the
acceptance without
resistance of the pain
the pain became less and less for them
and they began accepting the fact that
yeah it's going to be there
so why fight it
that's one of the things that everybody
does when pain
physical pain especially but also mental
pain
when it arises i don't like it i don't
want it there i want it to stop but it
doesn't
so you have to learn how to have that
balance of mind
that accepts the fact that yes there is
painful feeling there
and when you stop fighting it when you
stop trying to
make the
feeling be the way you want it to be
then that resistance in your mind that
craving that i don't like it
begins to lessen
so there's a lot of real amazing things
that you can
do with your daily activities and being
in a jhana
it's just not
getting caught in
the likes and dislikes of a feeling
when it arises
especially mental feeling because that's
a sneaky one
that's the one we've been going around
all our lives
thinking that this dislike that
that like it's all me
and it makes everything happy
or makes things worse more
sad
but when you can smile
even when you don't feel like smiling
there's benefit to that
they're doing a lot of studies on
smiling right now
a huge amount of studies
and when you are smiling
with your eyes with your mouth with your
mind
with your heart
it changes the whole situation
it makes life a lot easier
why is that because now you're letting
go of the craving now you're saying with
a clear
mind
the six r's are amazingly
helpful and
the problem that you have is trying to
remember when you start getting caught
and that's why i'm saying if you're
in one of the genres if you practice
being in a jhana in your daily
activities you're not gonna get
caught
now what happens when you get to the
third jhana
you don't notice your body so much
and if you're just starting out with
your meditation
you're still a rookie you haven't become
an advanced meditator yet
that feeling in your heart is going to
disappear
and it's going to come up into your head
now when i send loving kindness i'm
sending it from
here
i'm not sending it from my quote heart
and my mind is much more pure at that
time
so getting into the third genre
this is that other kind of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than the
previous pleasure
should anyone say that this is the
utmost
joy pleasure and joy that beings
experienced
i would not concede that to him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than that
pleasure
and what is that other pleasure
here ananda with the abandoning
of pleasure and pain
with the previous disappearance of joy
and grief abandoning the pleasure and
pain means the feeling
in the body
the letting go of joy and grief you've
already let go
of the joy and
joy and grief are two signs of the same
coin
and that's where a lot of attachment is
a monk enters upon and abides in the
fourth journal which has
neither pain nor pleasure and purity of
mindfulness due to equanimity
this is where your equanimity gets very
much stronger
and you can start using other words
not necessarily equanimity but
acceptance
having a mind that's in very strong
balance somebody can come up to you and
slap you in the face
and it doesn't make you react
except maybe to say don't do that again
which has happened to me when i went to
an airport
somebody thought i was a hari krishna
and he came up and slapped me
i said why'd you do that for
he said something about hare krishna and
how they're always trying to get money
out of you
and i said well i'm not a hari krishna
i'm a buddhist
and i started talking to him a little
bit about
uh the non-violence of buddhism and that
sort of thing
and he wound up buying me a meal
so i got slapped for my meal
okay should anyone say
that this is the utmost pleasure and joy
that beings
experience i would not concede that to
him
why is that because there's another kind
of pleasure loftier and more sublime
than that pleasure
and what is that pleasure here ananda
with the complete surmounting
of gross perceptions of form
that means like when you're in the first
john a second genre you still feel
your hands you still feel things in your
body
when you get to this stage
you don't feel your body at all unless
you put your attention on your body
you stay with the loving kindness and
radiating loving kindness to all beings
and that's why i say a complete
surmounting
of gross perceptions of form
there's still subtle perceptions of form
that can occur
but they're mental
one time this brings me up to a story
one of my teachers he's a very
world renowned teacher
somebody asked him about the eightfold
path
and he said why do you always start
with right view
i call it harmonious perspective
and he the teacher didn't have the
answer right off the top of his head
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so he said
because that's the way the buddha
started the eightfold path
which is completely unsatisfactory
answer
you started the the off the eightfold
path
with right view because the view
that you really need to
experience is the anata
view the not self view
seeing things without any
craving in your mind at all at that time
that's right view
now there's can still be some sensations
if there is contact with your body
when you're in this realm
this realm that we're we're going into
is called
infinite space with compassion
so if you don't put your attention on
your body you're not gonna feel your
body
but if there is contact say some some
breeze comes up and you feel it
it's not gonna make your attention
waver or if there's a sound that comes
up
it's not going to take your attention to
it and
make you wonder what to do with it
you're gonna notice it but that's all
so now you're getting into the mental
realm
where everything is much more subtle
it's not gross and big like physical
feeling right now
now one of the things that
is really amazing and i had to
work hard to convince my teacher
lucille ananda that i was right
and that is you can be in a mental realm
and still be moving your body around you
can still be walking you can still be
doing things
and be in that realm
radiating compassion
but the disappearance of gross
perceptions of sensory impact
aware that space is infinite
now i put with compassion
because i teach a brahma viara's
and that this is what it says in another
suta in the samut nikaya
about infinite space
is where you experience compassion
video what are you talking about oh
videos not on
how'd that happen
sorry i didn't know that i did turned
off
so
you can be walking down the street
in infinite space just radiating the
ceiling out
and out and out and out
and radiating compassion at the same
time
and actually it's kind of fun when you
do it
but because you don't have
feeling in the body the only place you
have a feeling
is the bottom of your feet where there's
contact with walking but you don't
notice anything in between that and your
head
it's really kind of odd
it is kind of fun too
this is that other kind of pleasure
that's loftier
and more sublime than the previous
pleasure
now when you get to the fourth jhana and
you have
strong equanimity
this is where i will tell you that you
have become
an advanced meditator
and you let go of
individual people and now you start
radiating loving kindness
to all beings in the six directions
and i'll explain that more whenever you
get through that state
or to that state
should anyone say that this is the
utmost pleasure
and joy that beings experience i would
not concede
that to him
why is that because there is another
kind of pleasure
loftier and more sublime than that
pleasure
and what is that other kind of pleasure
hear ananda by completely surmounting
the base of infinite space
with compassion
aware that consciousness is infinite
a monk enters upon and abides in the
base of
infinite consciousness with joy
joy is modita there's a lot of people
that have the idea that
mudita
is they call it sympathetic joy
altruistic joy and i don't really agree
with that
definition because
that's outside your mind
that's being joyful for other people if
they're successful
well that's a kind of joy yes
and it's nice to use it yes
but the kind of joy that modita is
is the all-pervading
joy it's the joy that is
a very happy feeling without any
excitement
in it at all
now infinite consciousness is really
interesting when you get to that state
because
as you're walking as you're
doing things you start noticing
consciousnesses arise and pass away you
start to notice this very fast
flickering and what you're seeing right
now because your mind has calmed down
enough
what you're seeing is individual
consciousnesses
arise and pass away
this is called birth death birth death
birth death the birth of the
consciousness
and it's fading away it's death
but this happens so fast that we don't
really
recognize it as such when you get to
infinite consciousness
you actually start being more and more
aware
that everything is
impermanent
we thought sounds and sights were were
permanent
while they were uh while they were there
but we don't realize that it's a
continual arise and pass away arise and
pass away
so now when you get to this state you
start seeing
very very clearly that there is
nothing in this world that is permanent
everything is in a state of change
also you're seeing the
unsatisfactoriness
of this because there's it's no quiet
it's just continual movement
and it gets tiresome
and you're also going to see very very
clearly that there
is no controller
this happens because conditions are
right for it
to be seen so you're seeing
anicha duka anata
close and personal and you're seeing
that it's not some kind of philosophy
i know a lot of people that are studying
the satipatthana sutra
they make a big deal out of anitra
but it's all mental it's all thinking
about
it's not actually experiencing
they experience on a very gross form
but when you get to this realm it's
very subtle and you see
the truth of it
so the next realm is
nothingness with equanimity
i'm running out of time that i should be
talking and that
i should be asking quests oops i really
am out of time
i should be asking if if you have any
questions now
but this particular suta is absolutely
brilliant understand that feeling
is more emotion more mental
than it is physical
although physical can be big it can
really be
there but the more
you start being aware
of the veda
changing from one thing to another
the more you're aware of the
unsatisfactoriness of
all of this sort of thing
continually moving around
and when you stop taking things
personally
now you're starting to get to a very
high realm of understanding
where you're seeing the dhamma
as it actually is it's not talk anymore
it's not a philosophy anymore
this is actually being able to see
exactly how this stuff
works and you're teaching yourself
to be able to recognize that
you're seeing it for yourself
so i really like this suta because of
that
now since i've been talking for a long
time
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do you have any questions it doesn't
matter whether it's on this dharma
talk or you have a
question that you want an answer to
if i possibly can help you i will
yes um yes thank you for the
talk i really liked it um and uh just
what you were saying i
i think i have felt this incessant
distress or i don't know if that's like
an it's a kind of
feeling so so i've been wondering like
how to cope
with this feeling of unsatisfactoriness
yeah yeah this is where you find out
it's really real
it's it's just a bunch of words that
people use to make themselves
try to understand actually
seeing for yourself and you're teaching
yourself that this stuff is real it's
not
a maybe
wish there was more teachers that were
actually able to see that for themselves
so that they could teach that
yeah anything else
yeah yeah i suppose i
you can ask anything no
yeah i think i i just need to meditate
more but uh
yeah i was yeah well
i i want you to have more fun too yeah
don't get so serious with it yeah i
think that's
one one thing i might have
done too much yeah
see the thing is if you try too much
try too hard you put in too much
energy too much effort and you wind up
slowing your progress
down you want to do this with a light
mind
a smiling mind
a mind that's willing not to try to make
things be the way you want them to be
but laugh and have fun with them that's
the way it actually
is
okay okay okay
thank you
any other question
uh i have two questions okay
uh first one is uh in the talk you were
saying that you practice uh
second jana or thought jana and you send
loving kindness
through your head right can you clarify
that uh
like usually we practice uh tarjana by
sending loving kindness through the
heart right
yeah but once you get into the
arupa janas you can start doing it
in any drum through the hip
that clarifies me okay yeah and
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actually my the que the reason i asked
the first
question was i felt like i tried to
radiate loving kindness through my
chest but i was feeling uncomfortable
with that
yeah and you can hurt yourself with that
do it through your head
okay okay okay and my second question is
uh it is us asking out of curiosity
uh like when we say about divine
eye or divine ear is it developed by
itself or
is there some practice well that that's
kind of uh a tricky question
because it depends there's
there's three different kinds of beings
okay
there's a being that is very
very intellectual but not very sensitive
to feeling
there's a being that is very sensitive
to feeling
but not so intellectual
and then there's a being like the buddha
that was both
he was highly intellectual and he was
highly sensitive
now a lot of people are like
the buddha not to the same degree as a
buddha
of course but they are
sensitive to feeling and their
intelligent now
it depends on their sensitivity
no sorry puta was not sensitive to
feeling at all
but he was highly intelligent
my teacher used ananda he could not
understand the instructions i give for
loving kindness
because he was so intellectual
the only thing the only way he would
teach loving kindness
was through guided meditation
and that's helpful for some people i'm
not saying that's right or wrong
but it's just that he wasn't so
sensitive to feeling
now i was living with another monk his
name was usobena
sobana means happy so and the u
is mr so he was mr happy
and he was very sensitive to feeling and
he could radiate loving kindness and i
would be outside and i would feel it
it if you're sensitive to feeling
the divine here and the divine eye will
happen
by themselves
there's no meditation that i know of
and that's not to say that i'm the
all-knowing
teacher other people might be able to
teach people how to do that but i've
never run across anybody that has
i do have students that they have the
divine eye they can see
devas and and brahmas and they they can
communicate with them
i i've told this story a few times
i was with this one lady
that she had the divine eye and divine
ear and i
asked her to
go see my mother who was in california
at the time
and i asked her what town she was in
i asked her what the street name
was that she lived on i asked her for
the address
and then i asked her what color clothing
was she wearing
and she said all the she did it
i lived on 8th avenue she said it was
it was eight
my my mother was at home i called her up
and i asked her what color her clothes
were
and it was blue she had a blue suit on
that day
i was pretty much amazed and she did
have that divine eye
and she was able to communicate with
davis
and brahmas
every now and then she'd go to a brahma
realm and ask them what kind of
meditation
are you doing the brahma realm
according to the sutas
they use as their nourishment they use
joy
so she would always ask them what kind
of meditation you're doing and they're
doing something that has to do with joy
the devaloka they eat grapes they just
appear before them
so you you go to visit one of the those
uh
developers and you see that davis
sitting around
munching on grapes thinking about this
or that or
singing and dancing and doing all kinds
of fun stuff
they do that in the devaloka not so much
in the brahmaloka
but from everybody that i've taught
i've never known anyone
to make the determination to
develop the divine ear or divine eye
it just happened for them and they're
pretty amazed when it happens and they
don't believe it at first
but the divine eye they can
see somebody on the other side of the
planet
it's like going to visit them see what
they're doing
the divine ear they can hear people
talking on the other side of the planet
which the government would love
but
also when when that starts to happen
that you you have the ability to
read minds
and i know an awful lot of people now i
want to be able to read everybody's mind
and my my thoughts on that is
why they're just as screwed up as i am
i don't need i don't need their garbage
in and garbage out
but there are
there are some people that can do that
all they all they do is point their mind
in the direction they want to go and
they can they can have that happen for
them
it does take practice
just like if you go to if if you
experience
the cessation of perception feeling and
consciousness
and then you want to do it again
after you've become an onigami
it takes practice um
started 10 minutes to try to hit it
exactly
and then extend the time until you're
sitting for
two days three days four days like that
you do have to put a limit on on the
time that you sit in the cessation
like that seven days
i've only met one one
uh teacher that could do that
that was deepama
but there are some people around that
are quite good at being able to get in
and out
they just don't have the time to
take to
do that they're laban
so they still have worldly things that
they have to do
anyway does anybody else have a question
yes i do bunty hello hello
hello uh i was wondering about
um the loss of attainment that could
happen
and lots of attainment that can happen
so there is eight stages until
full fruition or full freedom and i was
wondering
how can one lock in one stage of an
attainment because i've just never
learning how to have mastery of going in
and
out of that jhana
it takes practice but you make a
determination let's say you want to get
to the second john on
you you make a determination to be in
that
genre for a period of time
and that you don't go any higher than
that john
ante i'm specifically talking about
sotapanna
or locking in that that
attainment with morality or
that locks in pretty much by itself oh
okay and if you do happen to break
up you're going to feel
very very guilty
and you need to find a spiritual friend
and tell them that you broke the precept
and take the precepts again
okay absolutely
okay anybody else
thank you for your talk um
you were talking a little bit earlier
about sadness yeah
um is sadness a sign that we're attached
that we have some kind of attachment no
it's a sign that there's a painful
feeling that's there
and it can be that you're attached to it
most people are because they don't like
that feeling
and they indulge in the feeling and they
try to
think the feeling away
but feelings are one thing and thoughts
are something else and it doesn't work
so you wind up indulging in
the thoughts and dissatisfaction
of that sadness feeling
you're identifying with it and you're
trying to control it and only
it only makes it bigger and more intense
so if we if if we feel sad because we
lost a friend
we just allow the sadness to be there
because it's a fear you have to
allow the sadness to be there because
the truth is it's there
but don't fight with it don't try to
push it away
allow that sadness to run its course on
its own
without you trying to control it
i've had family members die
for my whole life and the sadness was
really tearing me apart
a lot of people they don't realize
that sadness is part of grief
okay grief can manifest in many ways
some people it manifests as anger
some anxiety
a lot in indulging
in the dislike of that
painful feeling
but allowing that feeling to be there
let it tear your heart out
don't take it personally
it's a feeling that is there
and it will run its course
as you soften your mind and allow it to
be there
without trying to control it
feel the sadness let it be there and
eventually it'll just run its course
right
yeah i've been around a lot of
people that have death in the family and
that's
one of the things that i tell them is
that they have to allow that feeling
that sadness to be there
if they don't allow it in two years
they're going to have some kind of major
physical problem but i also
tell people that stop indulging in that
sadness
start radiating loving kindness to other
friends
or family members that are caught up in
it
so they can let it go more quickly
see the statement that i use a lot is
you
never have to feel hopeless
or helpless
you radiate loving kindness
open up your heart and allow
that feeling for them to help them
overcome their sadness
thank you okay
okay
hello omar hello
oh yes i would like to ask you that
for developing collectedness of the mind
what would you say about the method of
the thai forest master ajahn lee
i would say that he didn't understand
what craving actually is
i know of ajahn lee
he does he didn't understand that it's a
tension
and tightness in your mind and body
he developed a kind of one pointed
concentration
and that's what he taught
one pointed concentration does not
overcome
craving
and that's why it turns into one pointed
concentration
you can get very deeply concentrated
but that does not lead you to getting
off the wheel of sansara
how do you understand what i'm saying
hello yes yes i'm here
you understand what i'm yes saying
day but a few days ago when i was trying
the method i didn't feel
there to be any one-pointed
concentration at all
and i was feeling very relaxed in the
body and
the mind actually
but you did not in intentionally
relax that's just one of the point
one of the things that happens with one
pointed concentration
you can feel very much but there's still
some tension and tightness
in your mind and in your body that you
don't notice
because you haven't practiced
recognizing it that's what the six hours
are
all about
any would you say one point
it is a one point penetration is a spot
in the body
the thing is
if you don't recognize the tension and
tightness in your mind and in your body
you'll ignore it
you have to have a sharper kind of
mindfulness
that you can see that
i know a lot of people that are very
happy with the one-pointed kinds of
concentration
and i there's nothing wrong with it
except what is the end result
the end result that i'm most interested
in
is getting off of the wheel of zanzara
a lot of people they really get hooked
on that
and one one pointed concentration can
be take many forms
but if it doesn't have that relaxed step
in it that's an
intentional that intentional relaxed
step
if it doesn't have that in it you're not
letting go of the craving
this is why the 6r's are so incredibly
important
experiences might be similar
to somebody that is letting go of the
craving
but it's not going to be exact
and you're only going to be able to go
so high
okay so in the suttas when the buddha
says i shall breathe in
experiencing the whole body so
what does that mean does it mean we feel
the body from the
top of the head to the bottom of the
feet well you know
that it's there
it's right so just a general whole body
awareness it's the next
part of the instruction that you're not
saying
tranquilize a bodily formation on the
in-breath
and on the out breath
that's the part that is missing
if you don't relax on the in-breath and
relax
on the out breath you're not letting go
of the craving
and it is subtle
and i had 20 years of doing
the kind of practice that you're talking
about
and i have experienced a lot of
tranquility and i have experienced a lot
of wonderful
different states but i was never
satisfied with the end result
because i didn't feel any real
personality
development
when i started noticing and and started
doing the tranquilizer bodily formation
on the in-breath and out breath
when i started doing that i started
noticing a lot of changes that were
happening and my
mindfulness was much sharper
now with one pointed concentration or
access concentration
you can get to a place where it
suppresses
hindrances and you think you're really
doing good
but when you get out of that
concentration state
you still have the same old
habitual attachments
to feelings there's no real personality
development
okay
yes yes one final question one day okay
well what would you say is this what
people call
the knower or the knowing
well
it depends on you personally
and the reason i'm saying that is how
are you teaching yourself with a direct
experience or are you trying to
think it and know it do you see what i'm
saying
correct experience when i was talking
about
being an infinite consciousness an awful
lot of people
they they think about
impermanent suffering and not self
without
seeing it
they they can talk about it a lot but
when they see it for themselves they
know that it's real
and that's what what i'm teaching is
is different than any of the burmese
or any of the ties that i know of
it's different from what they're
teaching just because
of that relax on the in-breath relax on
the out breath
and if you don't have that your mind
tends towards
one pointed concentration
although it might not feel like it's any
kind of special concentration
it is because eventually you'll get to a
place where
your hindrances are suppressed
and you think well this is good this is
really
nice and it is
while you're in that state but are you
able to carry that state around with you
all the time
and the answer is no you still have the
same amount of
dissatisfaction and dislike
you still have the same attachment
to lusts of one kind or
another
so
what i'm trying to show you
with this six r's
is how to change
and develop so that your mind becomes
more and more wholesome
all the time
okay
yes yes thank you okay
anything else
dante one one quick question would it be
fair to say
that the advantage of practicing meta
and the six
r's over one pointed concentration
is that we can be in jhana throughout
the day
whereas practices one pointed you can't
be in jannah throughout the day when
with your daily activities
right there there is that too but
the main difference is the relaxed step
see and i've explained this many times
in many many
talks as soon as you
relax you don't have any distraction in
your mind at that time your mind is pure
because you've let go of that craving
and to have a mind that's really bright
and really alert
and clear without any distractions
pulling it away
is amazing
and i was truly
amazed when i started doing that at
seeing how
fast my progress was in the meditation
and how easy it became
i was very very pleasantly surprised
because i was used to doing
hard meditation where there was a lot of
pain and a lot of suffering and all of a
sudden my mind is
light and alert and
uplifted oh this is nice
and that's one of the things that
happens especially with the brahma vr is
the way i'm teaching
it
thank you for clarifying okay
anybody else uh christoph here
i have a quick question uh
on a suta that explains the five
kandas
and pretty fine with almost any
all of it but in the it says here with
the arising of
name and form there's the arising of
consciousness
that is that's uh they call it namarupa
and nikubodi used name and form
in some parts of his uh
translation and in other parts he called
it
mentality materiality
it's four nations okay
so so that i can just replace name and
form with formations
yeah yeah again
okay
all right i'll do that and see how i get
how
how it makes sense then okay thank you
ardika you look like you have a question
well actually it's because that you just
said
like the mentality and materiality is
formations i thought that
formations and
well it's different thing i mean like
formation is sankara right
but sankara is a part of it can be
okay but
mentality materiality is the best
definition
for it formations is mind body
and and speech
okay
are you awake i am vantay
actually i'm wide awake okay just making
sure
i know it's like two o'clock in the
morning or three o'clock there
well i'm wide awake because i just um
i'm doing a private retreat right now
actually
oh good for you so that's why i'm pretty
wide awake right now
i can't so if you have any questions you
write to us
how to fly one thing
it's the air element that's all i'll
tell you
how to actually observe the motion
of the air
no it has to do
with movement and vibration
movement and vibrations
because well actually lately i was
reading
this book by lady sayadaw
actually he was talking about the four
elements
and it seems like the understanding of
the four elements is
not exactly as how we actually see
the elements as it is like let's say
it's like the earth
actually i thought it was like something
like the soil or something that is um
solid right but it is
soft and hard yeah soft and hard
that is actually something that i just
understand but it's actually soft and
hard
right and and the elements
the physical elements that we have are a
combination of all the elements mixed
together
in different proportions
right like the physical body is
different than a rock but it has all of
the elements in it
then how are we gonna be able to
actually
make the water solid
put it in the refrigerator where the
freezer is and
wait
uh okay one
yeah you can walk on the water here come
here
because it's freezing well
you want to walk on the water we have it
and you can even glide on it get some
skates
it's nice sounds nice
oh well how's everything going in
malaysia or indonesia
it's pretty cold right now but um
probably it's not as cold as in there
for sure what is pretty cold for you
right now
brady it's um
i think it's um still 10
degrees or 15 degrees
celsius yeah
well it's it's minus that here let's put
it that way
mhm
well actually yesterday we had snow on
the ground that's nice
and it lasted almost till afternoon
and then it was all done
just can you stand them here one thing
can you send them here
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well work with the elements and see if
you can do it
yourself okay
oh but i need more instructions
actually
oh well
patience that's that's it takes a while
and it depends on your sensitivity to
the elements
themselves
but i i think that i should
have a very um
like a very
a kind of ha need to have an equanimity
so that i will be able to do it
not sure i'm not gonna talk much about
doing this kind of stuff over the
uh the internet
okay so are we gonna have a friendly
session come here for ten years
and we'll work
oh you have to let go of a lot of
things the way you think they are
you have to let go and it takes a while
really does
yeah so anybody else have a question
one uh one last question on my side
and when the cessation happens the
knowledge of the past um is it possible
that the fruition doesn't happen and
the time lapse doesn't have anything to
do with fruition
to do with your memory and your
sensitivity to feelings
can you elaborate on that
ten years ago are you the same person
then that you are now
no oh that was a past lifetime wasn't it
right okay it has to do with memory
and you keep going back and back until
you start remembering past lifetimes
i've taught this to a few people
okay
so is it possible that you lose that
estate
and you don't continue practicing
or re break some precepts and you go
back to
lower our channels or
the lower genres and is it harder to go
back
no
you have to forgive
make a determination not to do it again
and then all of your ability and
going in and out of jhana will occur on
its own
very quickly it's the guilty feeling
of breaking a precept
and the when you break the precept
you have a tendency to take it person
personally i said this
i did this i made a mistake
and that's what where the attachment is
so when you
confess it to someone else
right
oh it sounds like david
damn
sounds like we lost them bonsai can you
unmute yourself
okay so somebody is
messing with the zoom
join our zoom meeting
look we can i can hear you and see you
now okay
anyway
if you want to learn about past
lifetimes
you have to have very very strong
equanimity because
there are some things that we've done in
past lifetimes that we're really not
very happy about
and we have to learn to forgive those
right and it can be freaky some of the
things that we've done
can really be bad and harmed other
people
and you have to have equanimity
and acceptance in in your
uh in your
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mind okay
so is it possible that after the uh
attaining the knowledge of the past all
these feelings comes up and
you put the meditation aside then you
need to deal with
them i have a friend
that he had a memory of the past of
killing someone and then getting stabbed
in the liver
and died
and he kept having this same
memory over and over again and he asked
me what to do
and i said now you have to practice
forgive us
you have to ask the man that you killed
before
if he would forgive you and you have to
forgive the person that stabbed and
killed you
in that lifetime now
his whole life he had had a bad liver
and as soon as he forgave that person
for
killing him in that lifetime
his liver problems went away
right so that can happen
but you need to be around a teacher
to help keep your balance with the
uh memories
it's more about strong equanimity
right now it's more about
this lifetime i mean of course before
getting to
know you and david is just a matter of
experiencing that but not
knowing that you just put it aside and
you see it
and say so the life is what it is
doesn't
everything is empty and non-self and so
what is the point of
well that's philosophy
but what we're more interested here with
this
group is the actual
experience
okay this is real
important because it goes beyond
philosophy
when you when you start seeing anichi
dukkha not
for real it changes the way you see the
world
but an awful lot of people
they're told from the very beginning
everything is impermanent everything is
suffering
and they just repeat those words over
and over again without actually seeing
them
so it's a real important thing that you
experience this
now a lot of people that come here for
retreat
in a 10-day retreat they will be able to
experience that i'm not saying everyone
but it depends on you and how how you
follow instructions
and how you teach yourself
okay right thank you okay
day i have not one one more question
sorry okay
uh is it possible to change the elements
from one to another
basic elements i
i didn't hear what is it is it possible
to change the basic elements
changing your perspective of the
elements that
and this is not
magic okay
my camera is off it doesn't say that
here
no it's not okay
uh you don't actually change the
elements the elements are the elements
that they're
they're always there is just changing
your perspective
and use of the elements that's why it
takes about 10 years to be able to
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really do do this it's not an easy thing
now you can walk through a wall if you
change your perspective of what was
there
but if you try that now you wind up with
a sore nose
right
so if there's no more questions
why don't we share some merit
may suffering ones be suffering free and
the fear struck fearless be
may the grieving shed all grief and may
all beings find relief
may all beings share this merit that
we've thus
acquired for the acquisition of all
kinds of happiness
beings inhabiting space and earth
devas and nagas of mighty powers share
this merit of ours
may they long predict the buddha's
dispensation
so all of you have a good week
and have fun keep the smiling
going okay thank you bonsai
thank you okay
thank you david thank you david
thank you david
you