From: https://youtube.com/watch?v=-n_aU35iHEo
Context: Throughout this transcript, Bhante Vimalaramsi is the speaker unless otherwise indicated.
so
meditation center
in missouri
in the united states
sitting next to him is venerable sister
kema and sister sudhamma
and on my left
venerable
bante vimala and bhante dhamma
are here to participate in the retreat
bhante vimalaransi
has established his own meditation
center it is a forest center in missouri
and it's about
108
acres area
am i right 100 103. 103. acred area
some logistics have to be changed here
and there
and
i have seen
many people from all over the united
states coming to learn under him because
his teachings
are very simple
and easy to understand
and everybody likes him because bhante
starts
by teaching you how to smile
how to practice generosity by giving you
a smile away
that is the first
technique of first teaching you will get
from him
you may have attended many retreats in
the past but still
from him
you will learn
a specific kind of meditation
that
includes how to cultivate
a brahma way of living how to cultivate
a brahma-chitta brahma mind
during this retreat you will learn from
him how to lead a brahma way of life
and bante vimera ranci has been
once i met bhante vimela ranci i stopped
looking for teachers that says that
he is the one i recommend to you
as my own dharma teacher
for any
guidance
of meditation
and he is traveling all over the world
when it comes to the winter in missouri
it's a very hard winter over there he
escapes the winter
and by that opportunity people in
indonesia in australia in
places in japan
they
get teachings from him and i have seen
people coming to listen
enthusiastically and with
there is a high competition to attend to
his retreats retreats
and in sri lanka this time this is the
fourth retreat we are organizing
and as soon as i
announce that we are doing this retreat
the retreat was full within two hours of
announcement
so this is how he became quite popular
in sri lanka just within
two years of a short time of visit
so i stopped there i think it is the
time for banter to talk
and i will
be the translator from my capacity
and please help us going with
a silent mind and silent
atmosphere
please turn off your mobile phones
and hand them over to me
so i will make sure that you will
get them back when you leave the retreat
premises
all the other instructions will follow
from bantes talk
thank you
so what i'm going to do is give you the
instructions in the meditation
yeah when you practice loving kindness
meditation you first start by sending
loving and kind thoughts to yourself
tony
when that happy feeling arises it's kind
of a warm glowing feeling in the center
of your chest
as soon as that feeling arises then you
make a wish for your own happiness
you need to feel the wish that you make
so if you make a wish for feeling
peaceful and calm
then you need to feel peaceful and
okay what i
suggest for people to do when there is a
distraction
is use what i call the six arts
that is you recognize that your mind is
not on your
this is
probably the most important part of the
meditation
that relaxing of the tension and
tightness in your head
let's go of cravings
right after that you need to re-smile
i say re-smile because you should be
smiling anyway
nevertheless
kindness and making a wish for your
happiness
and repeat staying with your object
meditation for as long as you can uh
okay you have you have a in your little
thing there uh
a thing on the six r's and you don't
want to be repeating what the six r's
are you want to do what the six hours
say
may watch you know then recognize
release re relax read smile return
repeat killer
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so if your mind gets distracted 50 times
in your sitting and 50 times you use the
six hours and relax and come back that
is a good
when you're sitting in meditation please
do not move
for any reason
to look at it
which says don't move
sit with your back nicely straight
again
don't wiggle your toes don't wiggle your
fingers don't scratch don't rub don't
change your posture
now when you're sitting like this there
can be some sensations that arise in
your body
sometimes
want to cough
uh
heat vibration sometimes
so
the first thing you'll notice in your
mind when that kind of sensation comes
up as you begin to think about it
i wish it would stop i wish it would go
away
from
now you notice there's a tight mental
fist wrapped
but the truth is when a feeling arises
it is there
oh but i don't like it i want it to be
different than it is
every thought about that sensation makes
it bigger and more intense
that is the cause of suffering
so allow that to be there
don't fight with the dharma
relax the tightness in your head
smile
the nature of these kind of sensations
is they don't go away right away
so your mind will get pulled back to it
so you let go of your thinking about and
relax
gently come back to your object to
meditate
after about 10 minutes
then you start sending loving and kind
thoughts to your spiritual friends
a spiritual friend is someone
that you
respect very much and you wish them
for this training period you pick
and not a member of your family
members of the family we will do later
but not right now
so pick someone that you respect very
much and you sincerely do wish them well
against
so you put them in your heart and
radiate
is good sit
one of the things that people tend to do
is they'll be sitting for a fairly long
time and they get a pain and they want
now this is every bit as important as
the sitting meditation
i want you to walk in a normal pace not
slowly
at first the walking meditation can be
somewhat difficult because you're not
used to it
but every time your mind is distracted
use the six r's
let it be relax smile come back to your
friend again
again
stay
down six or eight feet in
is
as you get more and more used to this
meditation you will start sitting for
longer periods of time
so you need to walk a little bit more so
you get the blood circulating again
the first thing
that don't sit with your arms folded
please
nippa
the reason i i cannot give you a dhamma
talk if you're doing this
this is one of the favorite postures of
sri lankans
do you know what you're doing when
you're like this
is
so please get out of the habit of
crossing your arms on on your chest it's
not it's actually kind of rude
because you're thinking
while someone is talking to you you're
not listening to them all the way
again
so there's there's a reason for that and
that's one of the rules of a monk is i
cannot give you a dhamma talk if you're
folded like this
okay
so
i don't care if you sit on the floor or
you sit in a chair
the magic comes from your mind
she said i can only sit for 45 minutes
she said i'm not used to sitting on the
floor i can only stand the pain for so
long
so i told her to sit in a chair
her next sitting was four hours
because she didn't have to fight with
the pain
if you feel
after 30 minutes like it's time to get
up then get up and do the walking.
and tomorrow you're going to experience
what i generally call
the first day blues
i don't know how to translate that
first day sadness first day distractions
because your mind is used to being out
there and running here and running there
now you're going to start to get sleepy
because
your mind is
just going to start to get bored because
you're trying to keep it coming back to
the same object
as you take more interest in your
spiritual friend
you'll start to pick up your energy a
little bit and that will put your mind
back in balance
he also said you can pinch your earlobe
really really hard
but i've never found that to work
but one of the things that works very
well
is
you you have a space for your walking
meditation
i
and it does help with your sitting
meditation
but the thing that helps most is taking
more interest in your spiritual friends
the more you smile the better your
mindfulness becomes
now one of the things that bhante said
is if you practice other forms of
meditation don't mix those with this
some people have been doing mindfulness
of breathing and they want to put
mindfulness of breathing with loving
kindness no don't do that
one of the reasons that i like to teach
loving kindness meditation is
your progress in the meditation
is
very much faster with loving kindness
than with any other teaching that the
buddha gave
smile
your mind becomes
if you can't smile
then laugh
what happens when you laugh
oh
you go from i'm unhappy i'm sad too
it's only this unhappiness and only this
sadness
so you go from
very personal point of view to an
impersonal point of view because of
laughing
saturday
night
when i say laugh i don't mean
laugh loud and and disturb someone else
just laugh at
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it's okay to be crazy because everybody
is crazy
every time you take something personal
and say this is me this is my idea this
is my thought this is my feeling you're
crazy
so when you laugh
then you just see it for what it is it's
only this thought it's only this feeling
it's only this opinion and it's easy to
let go
of
there are five things that the buddha
said that are hindrances
i
what does
craving is the i like it or i don't like
it
again
every time
you have a distraction arise
it's either pleasant painful or neither
painful or pleasant
right after that feeling arises craving
then you have your
habitual emotional tendency arise
and then you have the birth of action
and then you have sorrow and lamentation
and the rest
of
the
when a painful feeling arises it doesn't
matter whether it's
mental feeling or physical feeling
our habitual tendency is to try to think
the feeling away
the more you try to think the feeling
away the
and relax
say hello
it doesn't matter what pulls your
attention away from your object of
meditation it is a distraction
please don't sit or stand with your arms
christ
is there anyone doing that yes
now what's going to happen is your mind
is going to be on the loving kindness
and sending loving kindness to your
spiritual friends
if that doesn't pull your attention away
to those thoughts ignore them
uh
okay there's two more things i want you
i want you to make a determination what
time you're going to wake up in the
morning about the second
once again monday
the last wake up to the second to the
second okay
this will help later in the meditation
but it's good to get started
let's say you're going to wake up at
five o'clock
before you go to sleep make the
determination that you're going to wake
up in the morning
smiling and happy
about
7.50
the spiritual have friend has to be
someone that's
lanka is alive to have spiritual friends
there's so many monks and nuns
but if you have a friend that you want
to send it to send it to them
but for this training period not a
member
okay
you have a paper that
teaches you how to share merits please
take it out from your folder
where is it i don't know
i found it so this is that paper
there is
sharing merits paper in that folder
please take it out
those who do it in english please
uh don't
really raise your voice but they will be
doing it and you can just join him with
a very low voice and then we will do it
in sinhala as well
may suffering ones be suffering free and
the fear struck fearless be
made the grieving shadow of grief and
may all be finding
may all beings share this merit that we
let us acquire for the acquisition of
all kinds of
happiness inhabiting space and
foreign