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Context: Throughout this transcript, Bhante Vimalaramsi is the speaker unless otherwise indicated.

this evening our truck is on the noble

eightfold path we are at the Cheng Yun

monastery in Carmel New York and they

tell me that it's November the 26th 2007

and this evenings talk is on the

mathematic ayah number 117 the great 40

the Maha Cheetara Sokka Souta

okay

the Savannah upon occasion blessed ones

days watching Egypt is broken and indeed

is Park dare he addressed the moms

that's mom's then we'll survey replied

the best advice that this mom I shall

teach you the noble right connectedness

with this horse and requisites listen

and attend closely to what I shall say

yes better will serve the most replied

Blessed One said this what must is noble

right collectiveness with its support

this recklessness that is what it does

is it goes through the path

okay the first part of the Navy for my

path is called the right view by the

standard definition and Polly is called

sama-sama is always translated as right

if it's transmitted as right we

naturally in this country take it to

mean that there's no right and wrong

it's black and white but actually so I

changed the wording and harmonious

perspective harmonious perspective

myself excuse me

the next part of the Eightfold Path is

called right thoughts again I change the

meaning of this thought is very

misunderstood word for what

not for the bird to use here so I call

it harmonious in injury and we'll get

into all of these in just a little bit

the next part of the full path is called

rate speech again I change that and I

say that this is harmonious

communication right speech and bias that

you have to verbalize to other people

our audience communication means that

you watch the verbalization in here on

mind now the next part of the Eightfold

Path they call it the right action that

more in just a little while the next

part I

this definition because they're talking

about livelihood you don't tell anybody

means you don't set off any poisons you

don't sell any stays and that's what

they call right likelihood and it has to

do with external things but the evil is

an internal process so I change the

definition again right effort if the

next part of the Eightfold Path and I

called that harmonious practice there's

four parts and looking into that the

next part of the Eightfold Path is

called the right mindfulness mindfulness

is the word that is used often some

people say it means your mind is full

when I heard a mom state but I call it

harmonious attention it makes it a

little bit more clear the last part of

this

is a very interesting part of the

Eightfold Path because it has always

been translated as right concentration

in this country when we talk about

concentration that means that you really

focus very hard don't let anything

distract you they talked about athletics

the concentration on innovation can be

the right word for this so I don't use

the word concentration very it's almost

what I do is they call it harmonious

collectiveness collective mind is a mind

that is still is very alert and calm

peaceful you can say well that's

concentration because of the difference

between what I'm teaching you break it

down and

it's too confusing during the time of

the Buddha this particular word right

concentration in poverty is called

silent Samadhi Samadhi is a word that's

been picked up by the Brahmins to mean

one point a classification and they were

very good at changing the meaning of

words right after the Buddha died during

the time of the Buddha there were many

other poly words that meant

concentration but he didn't use those

words he made up this word Samadhi to

mean something other than one wanted

concentration he was describing a

mindset that was different and the

difference is washing let go of the

so some of the other words a long time

looking in the source to come up with

exactly the right word that implies what

we're trying to teach okay when I just

is

says here noble concentration collective

is

I is the key to this part of your

understanding what proper perspective is

for her on his perspective right after

that creating clinging horizons that

your thoughts your opinions your ideas

your concepts

why you like or dislike that feeling is

the story everybody knows about the

story when something comes out your mind

takes off and starts taking this and

that deep meaning real off into your

attachment and the attachment is this is

my person these thoughts are lying these

feelings are mine this is who I am

I've said I am angry I am fearful I am

depressed that's all of the concepts and

stories about now you have your habitual

tendency your habitual tendency is any

kind of feeling like this arises and

that creating arises and

I always treated this way if sadness

arises and you don't wanna feel the

sadness you try to do something to make

that sadness go away identifying with

that feeling

you're taking it very personally

harmonious perspective means that you

let go of that I am that and see it as

it's only fear there's only anxiety it's

only it's only this idea of right

these pain arises what's the first thing

that you remind us I don't like it I

wanted to stop I want to go away I don't

want to be here I want to just leave me

alone

that's your story right about that pain

but what is pain pain is a concept just

with an automobile is a concept go out

in the parking lot and show me an hour

is it the headlights this isn't the

wheels

is it the steering wheel is it the door

is it the bumper is it the motor you see

this idea this concept of automobile is

a lot of little things

there's a lot actually

but there's a formula for

- posture one foot over the other and

then it says and this is where it's

wrong it says then he determined in his

mind when he was going to wake up and

then he wanted to stay on your

perspective whether you

this morning still I can't stand this be

on the moon there's no real practice of

harmonious

did occurring when you get into these

kind of sensations what's really

happening this is in a rose that's me

that's mine I don't like it I have to

scratch it last night we heard in the

discourse you're not is next door sorry

so what is it this actually a very

you're taking a feeling making it yours

personally and then and that leads

directly to more suffering you're not

learning did you sit there and say

is about four times for it to come did

you say that like that what do you do

with it it's my identification this is a

false idea this is what the system just

is part of the suitor that just read is

wrong views your wrong perspective just

taking things personal and trying to

control yours but the truth is it's not

yours you didn't you can change you for

a little period of time that it always

comes back what do you learn by giving

in

you need to be able to see how my

attention moves that's the whole point

of the meditation how does this work

change your perspective from the

instructions and the meditation

happening days ago I said when a

sensational rises the first thing you'll

notice is you start thinking about now

why are you actually trying to do you're

trying to control us the more you think

about feeling the bigger and more

intense so thinking about it doesn't

work this out on your own you're sitting

this is an all the kind of thing anytime

painful feeling arises then you try to

think

it is overpowering it turns into an

emergency it turns into this huge

mountain that you can't see any way

around so what are the instructions let

go of the thoughts about it and relax

now you see that that sensation is there

and you have tight mental this time that

you don't want there that's urgent but

the truth is when a sensation of

righteousness is there that's the truth

anytime you try to fight with the truth

anytime you tried to change the truth

anytime

this okay that means to control the pain

you're doing it to learn how your

attention moves what happens first what

happens that

what happens after that that game can

state that doesn't matter or it can go

away that doesn't matter what matters is

what you do in the present moment with

what arises to invite it if you try to

control it may be the way you want to be

you're going to look at a lot of

dissatisfaction dislike and suffering

yeah

with each other each other both people

are taking their own personal this is my

this is you you're seeing that their

anger is there now what happens to the

white things to fight these to tango

right if there's only one fighting then

that disappears and when it disappears

the real problem is and it's surprising

how different it is than what they're

talking about what's what you're trying

to do is try to control and make them be

as particular way and you can't use this

as a stick the whole point is right now

to allow not to control so he relaxed

the intention is always a smile come

back here object and then take your mind

will be a go back to it again that's up

to you

I mean that's that's the way it's going

to work for a little while as you do

that offering over it then that's

laughs stop but you can't do it just one

time and say well this don't work that

that's work it doesn't work on your time

frame

the fastest way that I had run across in

many years of doing meditation and many

years of surgery the fastest way to

change your perspective from I'm sad I'm

upset

whatever the catch of the day is - it's

only that the fastest way to let go of

that painful perspective and see the

impersonal perspective is not just

and when that doesn't match we have a

look at the pain you caused yourself B

doesn't that so what we have to do we

have to laugh a comment we're trying so

hard to meet the way we want to be all

of a sudden it's not my thing my sadness

my anger it's only the spring this

sadness this anger

anymore

yes and when you do that you give space

I love there's squeezed tight let go of

those muscles holding this how would you

do that it's recognizing that there's

tightness relaxing that tightness that

means over here it's not big and it's

not particularly strong it is

particularly persistent so that's that's

how you did things go yes yes there is a

membrane wrapped around your brain every

time there's a thought every time

there's

everything that I try to think and bring

this instance from this book

so dinner is absolutely essential for

spiritual progress you see people trying

so hard I've been to a lot of retreats

and walk into the meditation hall that

nice new people and Fragonard and I look

at that the next day for people I have

students that go on practice with other

people but they develop the habit of

smiling top state and they go into range

read everybody else's and you're sitting

there smiling and people walk up to come

and see what are you doing you know this

is supposed to being work why are you

smiling

because it's fun being Asian is supposed

to

we're before you practice this there

yourself

this is called grief it's natural

what you do with that provides is

dictates how much you so

so that's the key it has to be okay

because it happened

your mind is tiny freaks out that's all

kinds of weird things all of those

things are fine as long as you don't

take that personally but it takes

practice to do this now so many - let me

finish - my animal act I mean it was a

father mother favorite person and moral

fiber of course there's gonna be sadness

of course there's going to be discipline

of course there's gonna be tears and all

of that is alright now I used to work

with people in the hospice

how sorrowful they are nested about that

it really is thing or something very

much so why did they tell them to do

don't fight the baby

don't resist the band this is where

crossing them in a book the acronym

drops don't resist or allow those demons

to be there and relax into that and it's

kinda stayed for a little while I was

flying some people today I was with one

person she was very much and she was

very sad and then she got a call from

the

the corner saying that she had to come

to the Lord in Spanish art for to be

very well mangled up and she holding up

and said what are you supposed to do to

this and I said you know you have to

love your heart to eat do you have to

allow that feeling and that

dissatisfaction and display of the

situation to be there and allow it to be

there every thought kind of changing you

have to practice props don't resist or

push soft in your mind and I just

changed that to smile but in a situation

like this is difficult to smile but I

said just feed your mind as soft as

meditation while you're doing that I'll

go down a little more with you on that

can't go in there because that's your

moment you need to find yourself I'll be

outside

I'll be sitting in loving kindness to

you and radiating and accept any mind so

she went in and she saw the lovely

little daughter and gold and recognized

the best that had happened and there

were tears the tears she didn't cry

stopped anything she tried to keep her

mind as open as possible

now this is a tragedy the manger I told

her don't stop don't stop

but she had to stop lending herself

wasn't her fault it's just the way

things worked out well I should have

been more watchful notion you were being

a good parent just that

both of us now every time I stop her

after that she had practiced and really

taken to heart allowing the feelings to

come up and be there by themselves tend

to be accented she didn't get so much in

herself anymore or causing herself more

upset to be there because it was the

truth it was there and in about a month

all of a sudden she said you know I

still miss my daughter but it's okay it

doesn't hurt so much she let go of the

identification of the thoughts and

feelings that doesn't mean

she's not carrying that because our mind

is getting very clear she started

working with the hospice and she was

great because

it's all in the perspective it's all

that in your view of how things are as

you evolve out of the space for things

to be and say this is being this is mine

this is who I am if you start relaxing

and letting the tensions and the

practices that you're thinking about how

to control that change our perspective

leads directly to the station this is a

manger realization that everything that

arises in your mind and in your

is part of an impersonal process and

it's easy to say and hard to realize why

is it hard because we have color

opinions that are concepts to our

reviews and we don't like to have them

disturb and because we don't like to

have disturbed we keep having more and

more suffering and the length becomes a

real hassle

and you relax into whatever arises that

is the road there's times that you're

gonna be knocked off balance

that's just another challenge another

change of perspective

with somebody that doesn't do any

meditation their life is full of

coasters you begin to learn how to

change your perspective it's not the

highs and lows before long is just by

building waves that come through this is

called gaining perspective and it's also

called equanimity now this is really

important stuff for your own happiness I

used to work in jails prisons security

and

years occasionally when I came in I

started talking to them about

loving-kindness and how not to get angry

just because somebody does something you

don't like and it started digging into

heart this father he was he's big he's a

great big pile of spaces you know the

man came into myself and for no reason

at all we just started breaking

everything and throwing everything

outside and always before

see the changes in their face and then

they asked me to start coming once a

week I would give them support and

before long they started in refugees

now they have a building that's just for

meditators because they might be in

trouble that's great stuff this stuff

works now the next part of these is

called you have something happened and

you don't like it you bring up an image

of dissatisfaction at this fight right

but what we want to do is have

harmonious images arise as much as we

can that's one of the reasons that are

trying to get you to smile more because

it has

I went to Australia Malaysia I left on

the longest day of the year in Malaysia

the shortest day of the year in

Australia is oh I wasn't prepared at all

we'll take care of you when I was Elena

I had for two years and I came back to

the name

mother Anderson so I told her I'd work

at the nursing home

she gave me $100 relief during this time

I started helping to create a hospice in

the area I was teaching meditation in a

town that was 30 miles away

it's $35 a week

$50 for $35 I was getting $10 a week to

a monastery

so when you start holding images in your

mind of happiness and you start

practicing you start loving holding

images of kindness stand back watch the

miracle

so I went to see this man just had a

stroke because I had worked at the

nursing home and and the people that

agree in comments I understood that they

can hear you but they can't necessarily

respond to you and if you put your hand

on their forehead or put your hand on

their heart and you talk to them

mentally you

as I was trying to do and I was walking

out of the hospital this man came up and

said my mother just had surgery on her

stomach for cancer she's still in the

news so I walked in she can't hear

anything she was knocked out so we're

going to just stand here every decent

loving kindness to her she had oxygen

mask that was clear and after about 10

minutes closing my eyes and reading lot

of times

happened in the world there's no

as you hold images that are uplifting

and happy you start affecting the world

around you in positive way and it's

practice that's what this is all about

now the next part of the Eightfold Path

is called harmonious community they call

that speech in this particular text it

talks about speed these are part of

morality much attention job so what

they're in essence saying is let's

practice that I hope that this is an

argument between scholar amongst and

practicing law stuff and why

I was practicing my say you can't cut a

path and it's powered by there's only

morality are already being moral by

practicing but if you go back to the

original that were very very good speech

criticism is there how much pain to

become ourselves because we communicate

so for Edith I saw one of the reasons

they tell you to do the meditation first

are presenting

to yourself do you think they tell you

to do that you don't realize that you're

one of the good guys you now have to

realize that and you have to start being

kind to yourself and using words to

yourself about yourself that are

uplifting that are in a harmony that

other you need to communicate please

come for yourself and you need to

appreciate yourself and not yourself

that's why the speech is all about and

when you do that for yourself one of the

things that we do say is that when a

person truly loves themself they will

never

about how hard we are salts about

ourselves that's funny

itself and when you laugh that changes

the perspective and you start to see

it's watching how - attention works with

your daddy it's being in harmony with

your dance practice daily agenda let's

go back to the harmonies communication I

know on these post there's a lot of very

harsh speech that occurs and people like

to use that horse pee they use a lot of

words that are hardened here and then

cause other people to BSF her speech is

something that we need to bring

don't use curse words for any reason if

you imagine the shock I had when I came

back after the way through 12 years and

television they're using curse words

yeah that's great something you know on

some radio stations they're even using

the f-word what is that there's no need

for that kind of thing so we want to

lose that our vocabulary yeah

yes

yes there's a lot of discipline not to

be caught dead and somebody else starts

doing that you can collect

I don't need that kind of language this

is important there he is

because what kind of images do you home

in your mind somebody gives you those

kinda words

okay now the next they call it by an

effort and harmonious practice his

practice is recognizing

never practice something that needs to

be practiced

as you begin to get better and better at

that you'll start to see your mind tends

towards more and more positive images

more positive actions the next part of

the Eightfold Path is called harmonious

observation right mindfulness observing

it's remembering a lot of people will

have an awful lot of definitions

observe how your mind goes back

the more you observe how his attention

works the more closer to your planet

becomes the faster you recognize the

distraction times started go as the race

walk you start staying on neurotic that

attention for a longer period of time

and that is where is really desires

being able to understand how tension

you understand this becomes a state it

becomes really really fun it does now

you try this it's not going long thing

now you starting to understand this

whole process and you started seeing

detail observing how these days of

practice it's not me I've been doing

this stuff for thirty years I still get

fascinated by

for 30 years be smart not to see it

so your observation power is very very

necessary and last part of the whole

body this is where your mind becomes

Campos as you stay under active

medication for longer periods of time

then you started noticing

that's to go deeper in meditation you

stay in addition for the author you

started saying

they aren't very teacher

there's into that story about this

pattern up into the mountains the king

he started meditating

to eat let's talk and the other said

aren't you afraid of me

it's just you stop laughing

acting's you start laughing

the six hours when you practice practice

and you are practicing the entire

start smiling the things turn back in

with my mother she how she's supposed to

laugh go stand down she's one of the

happiest people I've ever seen she's our

age

within two years

you have a heart attack

whatever why is that happen because of

all the contraction around these toxins

is because of demanding the reality

to expect

three main ingredients at all

for the acquisition of all happiness

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this evening our truck is on the noble

eightfold path we are at the Cheng Yun

monastery in Carmel New York and they

tell me that it's November the 26th 2007

and this evenings talk is on the

mathematic ayah number 117 the great 40

the Maha Cheetara Sokka Souta

okay

the Savannah upon occasion blessed ones

days watching Egypt is broken and indeed

is Park dare he addressed the moms

that's mom's then we'll survey replied

the best advice that this mom I shall

teach you the noble right connectedness

with this horse and requisites listen

and attend closely to what I shall say

yes better will serve the most replied

Blessed One said this what must is noble

right collectiveness with its support

this recklessness that is what it does

is it goes through the path

okay the first part of the Navy for my

path is called the right view by the

standard definition and Polly is called

sama-sama is always translated as right

if it's transmitted as right we

naturally in this country take it to

mean that there's no right and wrong

it's black and white but actually so I

changed the wording and harmonious

perspective harmonious perspective

myself excuse me

the next part of the Eightfold Path is

called right thoughts again I change the

meaning of this thought is very

misunderstood word for what

not for the bird to use here so I call

it harmonious in injury and we'll get

into all of these in just a little bit

the next part of the full path is called

rate speech again I change that and I

say that this is harmonious

communication right speech and bias that

you have to verbalize to other people

our audience communication means that

you watch the verbalization in here on

mind now the next part of the Eightfold

Path they call it the right action that

more in just a little while the next

part I

this definition because they're talking

about livelihood you don't tell anybody

means you don't set off any poisons you

don't sell any stays and that's what

they call right likelihood and it has to

do with external things but the evil is

an internal process so I change the

definition again right effort if the

next part of the Eightfold Path and I

called that harmonious practice there's

four parts and looking into that the

next part of the Eightfold Path is

called the right mindfulness mindfulness

is the word that is used often some

people say it means your mind is full

when I heard a mom state but I call it

harmonious attention it makes it a

little bit more clear the last part of

this

is a very interesting part of the

Eightfold Path because it has always

been translated as right concentration

in this country when we talk about

concentration that means that you really

focus very hard don't let anything

distract you they talked about athletics

the concentration on innovation can be

the right word for this so I don't use

the word concentration very it's almost

what I do is they call it harmonious

collectiveness collective mind is a mind

that is still is very alert and calm

peaceful you can say well that's

concentration because of the difference

between what I'm teaching you break it

down and

it's too confusing during the time of

the Buddha this particular word right

concentration in poverty is called

silent Samadhi Samadhi is a word that's

been picked up by the Brahmins to mean

one point a classification and they were

very good at changing the meaning of

words right after the Buddha died during

the time of the Buddha there were many

other poly words that meant

concentration but he didn't use those

words he made up this word Samadhi to

mean something other than one wanted

concentration he was describing a

mindset that was different and the

difference is washing let go of the

so some of the other words a long time

looking in the source to come up with

exactly the right word that implies what

we're trying to teach okay when I just

is

says here noble concentration collective

is

I is the key to this part of your

understanding what proper perspective is

for her on his perspective right after

that creating clinging horizons that

your thoughts your opinions your ideas

your concepts

why you like or dislike that feeling is

the story everybody knows about the

story when something comes out your mind

takes off and starts taking this and

that deep meaning real off into your

attachment and the attachment is this is

my person these thoughts are lying these

feelings are mine this is who I am

I've said I am angry I am fearful I am

depressed that's all of the concepts and

stories about now you have your habitual

tendency your habitual tendency is any

kind of feeling like this arises and

that creating arises and

I always treated this way if sadness

arises and you don't wanna feel the

sadness you try to do something to make

that sadness go away identifying with

that feeling

you're taking it very personally

harmonious perspective means that you

let go of that I am that and see it as

it's only fear there's only anxiety it's

only it's only this idea of right

these pain arises what's the first thing

that you remind us I don't like it I

wanted to stop I want to go away I don't

want to be here I want to just leave me

alone

that's your story right about that pain

but what is pain pain is a concept just

with an automobile is a concept go out

in the parking lot and show me an hour

is it the headlights this isn't the

wheels

is it the steering wheel is it the door

is it the bumper is it the motor you see

this idea this concept of automobile is

a lot of little things

there's a lot actually

but there's a formula for

- posture one foot over the other and

then it says and this is where it's

wrong it says then he determined in his

mind when he was going to wake up and

then he wanted to stay on your

perspective whether you

this morning still I can't stand this be

on the moon there's no real practice of

harmonious

did occurring when you get into these

kind of sensations what's really

happening this is in a rose that's me

that's mine I don't like it I have to

scratch it last night we heard in the

discourse you're not is next door sorry

so what is it this actually a very

you're taking a feeling making it yours

personally and then and that leads

directly to more suffering you're not

learning did you sit there and say

is about four times for it to come did

you say that like that what do you do

with it it's my identification this is a

false idea this is what the system just

is part of the suitor that just read is

wrong views your wrong perspective just

taking things personal and trying to

control yours but the truth is it's not

yours you didn't you can change you for

a little period of time that it always

comes back what do you learn by giving

in

you need to be able to see how my

attention moves that's the whole point

of the meditation how does this work

change your perspective from the

instructions and the meditation

happening days ago I said when a

sensational rises the first thing you'll

notice is you start thinking about now

why are you actually trying to do you're

trying to control us the more you think

about feeling the bigger and more

intense so thinking about it doesn't

work this out on your own you're sitting

this is an all the kind of thing anytime

painful feeling arises then you try to

think

it is overpowering it turns into an

emergency it turns into this huge

mountain that you can't see any way

around so what are the instructions let

go of the thoughts about it and relax

now you see that that sensation is there

and you have tight mental this time that

you don't want there that's urgent but

the truth is when a sensation of

righteousness is there that's the truth

anytime you try to fight with the truth

anytime you tried to change the truth

anytime

this okay that means to control the pain

you're doing it to learn how your

attention moves what happens first what

happens that

what happens after that that game can

state that doesn't matter or it can go

away that doesn't matter what matters is

what you do in the present moment with

what arises to invite it if you try to

control it may be the way you want to be

you're going to look at a lot of

dissatisfaction dislike and suffering

yeah

with each other each other both people

are taking their own personal this is my

this is you you're seeing that their

anger is there now what happens to the

white things to fight these to tango

right if there's only one fighting then

that disappears and when it disappears

the real problem is and it's surprising

how different it is than what they're

talking about what's what you're trying

to do is try to control and make them be

as particular way and you can't use this

as a stick the whole point is right now

to allow not to control so he relaxed

the intention is always a smile come

back here object and then take your mind

will be a go back to it again that's up

to you

I mean that's that's the way it's going

to work for a little while as you do

that offering over it then that's

laughs stop but you can't do it just one

time and say well this don't work that

that's work it doesn't work on your time

frame

the fastest way that I had run across in

many years of doing meditation and many

years of surgery the fastest way to

change your perspective from I'm sad I'm

upset

whatever the catch of the day is - it's

only that the fastest way to let go of

that painful perspective and see the

impersonal perspective is not just

and when that doesn't match we have a

look at the pain you caused yourself B

doesn't that so what we have to do we

have to laugh a comment we're trying so

hard to meet the way we want to be all

of a sudden it's not my thing my sadness

my anger it's only the spring this

sadness this anger

anymore

yes and when you do that you give space

I love there's squeezed tight let go of

those muscles holding this how would you

do that it's recognizing that there's

tightness relaxing that tightness that

means over here it's not big and it's

not particularly strong it is

particularly persistent so that's that's

how you did things go yes yes there is a

membrane wrapped around your brain every

time there's a thought every time

there's

everything that I try to think and bring

this instance from this book

so dinner is absolutely essential for

spiritual progress you see people trying

so hard I've been to a lot of retreats

and walk into the meditation hall that

nice new people and Fragonard and I look

at that the next day for people I have

students that go on practice with other

people but they develop the habit of

smiling top state and they go into range

read everybody else's and you're sitting

there smiling and people walk up to come

and see what are you doing you know this

is supposed to being work why are you

smiling

because it's fun being Asian is supposed

to

we're before you practice this there

yourself

this is called grief it's natural

what you do with that provides is

dictates how much you so

so that's the key it has to be okay

because it happened

your mind is tiny freaks out that's all

kinds of weird things all of those

things are fine as long as you don't

take that personally but it takes

practice to do this now so many - let me

finish - my animal act I mean it was a

father mother favorite person and moral

fiber of course there's gonna be sadness

of course there's going to be discipline

of course there's gonna be tears and all

of that is alright now I used to work

with people in the hospice

how sorrowful they are nested about that

it really is thing or something very

much so why did they tell them to do

don't fight the baby

don't resist the band this is where

crossing them in a book the acronym

drops don't resist or allow those demons

to be there and relax into that and it's

kinda stayed for a little while I was

flying some people today I was with one

person she was very much and she was

very sad and then she got a call from

the

the corner saying that she had to come

to the Lord in Spanish art for to be

very well mangled up and she holding up

and said what are you supposed to do to

this and I said you know you have to

love your heart to eat do you have to

allow that feeling and that

dissatisfaction and display of the

situation to be there and allow it to be

there every thought kind of changing you

have to practice props don't resist or

push soft in your mind and I just

changed that to smile but in a situation

like this is difficult to smile but I

said just feed your mind as soft as

meditation while you're doing that I'll

go down a little more with you on that

can't go in there because that's your

moment you need to find yourself I'll be

outside

I'll be sitting in loving kindness to

you and radiating and accept any mind so

she went in and she saw the lovely

little daughter and gold and recognized

the best that had happened and there

were tears the tears she didn't cry

stopped anything she tried to keep her

mind as open as possible

now this is a tragedy the manger I told

her don't stop don't stop

but she had to stop lending herself

wasn't her fault it's just the way

things worked out well I should have

been more watchful notion you were being

a good parent just that

both of us now every time I stop her

after that she had practiced and really

taken to heart allowing the feelings to

come up and be there by themselves tend

to be accented she didn't get so much in

herself anymore or causing herself more

upset to be there because it was the

truth it was there and in about a month

all of a sudden she said you know I

still miss my daughter but it's okay it

doesn't hurt so much she let go of the

identification of the thoughts and

feelings that doesn't mean

she's not carrying that because our mind

is getting very clear she started

working with the hospice and she was

great because

it's all in the perspective it's all

that in your view of how things are as

you evolve out of the space for things

to be and say this is being this is mine

this is who I am if you start relaxing

and letting the tensions and the

practices that you're thinking about how

to control that change our perspective

leads directly to the station this is a

manger realization that everything that

arises in your mind and in your

is part of an impersonal process and

it's easy to say and hard to realize why

is it hard because we have color

opinions that are concepts to our

reviews and we don't like to have them

disturb and because we don't like to

have disturbed we keep having more and

more suffering and the length becomes a

real hassle

and you relax into whatever arises that

is the road there's times that you're

gonna be knocked off balance

that's just another challenge another

change of perspective

with somebody that doesn't do any

meditation their life is full of

coasters you begin to learn how to

change your perspective it's not the

highs and lows before long is just by

building waves that come through this is

called gaining perspective and it's also

called equanimity now this is really

important stuff for your own happiness I

used to work in jails prisons security

and

years occasionally when I came in I

started talking to them about

loving-kindness and how not to get angry

just because somebody does something you

don't like and it started digging into

heart this father he was he's big he's a

great big pile of spaces you know the

man came into myself and for no reason

at all we just started breaking

everything and throwing everything

outside and always before

see the changes in their face and then

they asked me to start coming once a

week I would give them support and

before long they started in refugees

now they have a building that's just for

meditators because they might be in

trouble that's great stuff this stuff

works now the next part of these is

called you have something happened and

you don't like it you bring up an image

of dissatisfaction at this fight right

but what we want to do is have

harmonious images arise as much as we

can that's one of the reasons that are

trying to get you to smile more because

it has

I went to Australia Malaysia I left on

the longest day of the year in Malaysia

the shortest day of the year in

Australia is oh I wasn't prepared at all

we'll take care of you when I was Elena

I had for two years and I came back to

the name

mother Anderson so I told her I'd work

at the nursing home

she gave me $100 relief during this time

I started helping to create a hospice in

the area I was teaching meditation in a

town that was 30 miles away

it's $35 a week

$50 for $35 I was getting $10 a week to

a monastery

so when you start holding images in your

mind of happiness and you start

practicing you start loving holding

images of kindness stand back watch the

miracle

so I went to see this man just had a

stroke because I had worked at the

nursing home and and the people that

agree in comments I understood that they

can hear you but they can't necessarily

respond to you and if you put your hand

on their forehead or put your hand on

their heart and you talk to them

mentally you

as I was trying to do and I was walking

out of the hospital this man came up and

said my mother just had surgery on her

stomach for cancer she's still in the

news so I walked in she can't hear

anything she was knocked out so we're

going to just stand here every decent

loving kindness to her she had oxygen

mask that was clear and after about 10

minutes closing my eyes and reading lot

of times

happened in the world there's no

as you hold images that are uplifting

and happy you start affecting the world

around you in positive way and it's

practice that's what this is all about

now the next part of the Eightfold Path

is called harmonious community they call

that speech in this particular text it

talks about speed these are part of

morality much attention job so what

they're in essence saying is let's

practice that I hope that this is an

argument between scholar amongst and

practicing law stuff and why

I was practicing my say you can't cut a

path and it's powered by there's only

morality are already being moral by

practicing but if you go back to the

original that were very very good speech

criticism is there how much pain to

become ourselves because we communicate

so for Edith I saw one of the reasons

they tell you to do the meditation first

are presenting

to yourself do you think they tell you

to do that you don't realize that you're

one of the good guys you now have to

realize that and you have to start being

kind to yourself and using words to

yourself about yourself that are

uplifting that are in a harmony that

other you need to communicate please

come for yourself and you need to

appreciate yourself and not yourself

that's why the speech is all about and

when you do that for yourself one of the

things that we do say is that when a

person truly loves themself they will

never

about how hard we are salts about

ourselves that's funny

itself and when you laugh that changes

the perspective and you start to see

it's watching how - attention works with

your daddy it's being in harmony with

your dance practice daily agenda let's

go back to the harmonies communication I

know on these post there's a lot of very

harsh speech that occurs and people like

to use that horse pee they use a lot of

words that are hardened here and then

cause other people to BSF her speech is

something that we need to bring

don't use curse words for any reason if

you imagine the shock I had when I came

back after the way through 12 years and

television they're using curse words

yeah that's great something you know on

some radio stations they're even using

the f-word what is that there's no need

for that kind of thing so we want to

lose that our vocabulary yeah

yes

yes there's a lot of discipline not to

be caught dead and somebody else starts

doing that you can collect

I don't need that kind of language this

is important there he is

because what kind of images do you home

in your mind somebody gives you those

kinda words

okay now the next they call it by an

effort and harmonious practice his

practice is recognizing

never practice something that needs to

be practiced

as you begin to get better and better at

that you'll start to see your mind tends

towards more and more positive images

more positive actions the next part of

the Eightfold Path is called harmonious

observation right mindfulness observing

it's remembering a lot of people will

have an awful lot of definitions

observe how your mind goes back

the more you observe how his attention

works the more closer to your planet

becomes the faster you recognize the

distraction times started go as the race

walk you start staying on neurotic that

attention for a longer period of time

and that is where is really desires

being able to understand how tension

you understand this becomes a state it

becomes really really fun it does now

you try this it's not going long thing

now you starting to understand this

whole process and you started seeing

detail observing how these days of

practice it's not me I've been doing

this stuff for thirty years I still get

fascinated by

for 30 years be smart not to see it

so your observation power is very very

necessary and last part of the whole

body this is where your mind becomes

Campos as you stay under active

medication for longer periods of time

then you started noticing

that's to go deeper in meditation you

stay in addition for the author you

started saying

they aren't very teacher

there's into that story about this

pattern up into the mountains the king

he started meditating

to eat let's talk and the other said

aren't you afraid of me

it's just you stop laughing

acting's you start laughing

the six hours when you practice practice

and you are practicing the entire

start smiling the things turn back in

with my mother she how she's supposed to

laugh go stand down she's one of the

happiest people I've ever seen she's our

age

within two years

you have a heart attack

whatever why is that happen because of

all the contraction around these toxins

is because of demanding the reality

to expect

three main ingredients at all

for the acquisition of all happiness

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