From: https://youtube.com/watch?v=yOjd06FWG_Q

Context: Throughout this transcript, Bhante Vimalaramsi is the speaker unless otherwise indicated.

this is a book called a guide to

tranquil wisdom insight meditation by

bonte vimelaramsi

these are the full instructions for

loving-kindness meditation

for those who wish to experience the

cessation of suffering through the

elimination of craving

introduction

the purpose of this guide is to help

someone who is new to meditation and the

buddhist teachings walk the buddhist

path to the destruction of craving in

the elimination of ignorance

this guide will provide you with the

basic meditation instructions for the

practice of tranquil wisdom insight

meditation twim as taught by bonte

vimalaramsi

twim is the actual brahmavihara's

practice described in the suddas and it

includes the divine dwellings of

mindfulness of loving-kindness meta

mindfulness of compassion karuna

mindfulness of joy mudita and

mindfulness of equanimity apeka

the brahma-viharas are described by the

buddha in his earliest talks as recorded

in the suddens of the mijima nikaya

the instructions in this guide are based

on the sodas themselves and on

commentaries that are consistent with

the sodas

the instructions explain right effort

this is what we call the six rupees

the six rupees will be explained in

detail later

most buddhist mindfulness practices

today tend to focus on the breath as the

object of meditation

they only use meta and the brahma

viharas aside meditations to help one

with relaxation and as a way of

softening the breath practice and of

softening life in general

however the buddha discussed the

mindfulness of meta-practice many more

times in the sodas than the mindfulness

of breathing onoponicity practice only

eight times for mindfulness of breathing

and more than a hundred times for the

mindfulness of loving-kindness

although many teachers today do not

teach this or support this view the

buddha did state that the metta and

brahmavi harris practice on its own will

lead to the supreme attainment of nibana

the pseudo accompanied by loving

kindness in the samyatan nikaya 4654 iv

makes this clear

tranquil wisdom insight meditation using

meta or the feeling of loving kindness

as the object of meditation has been

found to be easier and to give faster

results than using the breath as the

object of meditation

it includes a powerful warm and glowing

feeling which helps your practice

because you enjoy doing it when

practicing this meditation you are

radiating loving kindness and giving

this feeling to others

this is building your generosity while

simultaneously developing a greater

sense of well-being and contentment

you are doing this not only while

engaged in your formal sitting practice

but also throughout your daily life

experience

this creates momentum from the time you

get up in the morning until the time you

go to sleep

this continuous practice can be very

conducive to fast progress

twim includes an all-important step that

is found in the sodas but is

misunderstood or left out of most

buddhist mindfulness practices these

days

this step is the key to the attainment

of nabana

you will learn more about this later

this is the relax step

this book is a guide to beginning

practice

a deeper understanding of how twim works

descriptions of insights levels of

understanding that arise and the suitor

references that support this meditation

are all beyond the scope of this booklet

the book meditation is life life as

meditation provides that information in

depth and detail

other books like breath of love and

moving dhamma also offer skillful

guidance once you are deeper in the

practice

a book by senior student doug craft

buddha's map is another good reference

for the concepts and experiences of twim

what is mindfulness

the term mindfulness has become

commonplace these days and is often

interpreted differently than what i

believe was originally formulated by the

buddha

you may have heard that mindfulness is

watching what arises diving into it and

focusing firmly on it to understand the

nature of what arises

the idea is that concentrating more

closely and harder on the object of

meditation will ultimately yield

profound insights

however that is not the mindfulness that

the buddha taught rather that is called

one-pointed concentration absorbing your

attention into an object

the buddha learned from his experiences

and described in suda 36 of the

medeshima nikaya the mahasakaka suda

that one pointed concentration will

quiet the mind temporarily but it will

not lead to an understanding of

suffering in the cause of suffering or

to nibbana

for that reason the buddha rejected

absorption and one-pointed concentration

practices

most teachers today miss this

significant point

yet suda 36 does spell it out

the buddha rejected the teachings of

alara kalama and adaka ramaputa teachers

of the most advanced concentration

states of the time

he left their training to continue his

search for yet another six years

here is a short clear and precise

definition of mindfulness as the buddha

taught it

mindfulness means to remember to observe

how mind's attention moves

from one thing to another

the first part of mindfulness is to

remember to watch the mind and remember

to return to your object of meditation

when you have wandered off

the second part of mindfulness is to

observe how mind's attention moves from

one thing to another

real insight is gained by watching how

your mind interacts with things as they

arise not by observing the things

themselves true mindfulness is

remembering to observe how your mind

moves and responds to what arises in the

present moment

with mindfulness we can understand how

things arise and pass away from

beginning to end

we do not care why things arise that is

the concern of psychologists and

philosophers

we only care about how they arise and

how they pass away how the movement of

mind's attention happens during that

entire process

when mindfulness becomes strong you

start to understand what craving really

is

craving is what pulls your mind away

from your object of meditation

tensions and tightness arise with

sensations and thoughts

craving is what starts the

identification process in which you take

something personally with an i like it

or i don't like it mind

mindfulness meditation is the process of

observing how mind's attention moves

moment to moment

mindfulness enables us to see clearly

and precisely how the impersonal process

of thoughts and sensations arises and

passes away

we identify with this process as

ourselves we take it personally

seeing and understanding how mind's

attention moves from one thing to

another personalizing experience and

creating an eye as it goes is one of the

most important insights of this practice

it develops an impersonal perspective on

all arising phenomena and leads the

meditator to see for themselves the true

nature of existence

you finally answer the question who or

what am i

the other important facet of mindfulness

once we have remembered and observed is

to catch ourselves when we get lost to

remember that we are supposed to come

back home

more on this as we explain the 6r

process later

why do we practice meta

as was said earlier the buddha talked

about meta meditation far more

frequently than he talked about breath

meditation and he made clear that meta

meditation as part of the brahma viharas

will lead to nibana

those are good enough reasons in and of

themselves to incline us toward meta

meditation

nevertheless there are other reasons as

well

first using the sodas as the guide

dhamasuka teaches mindfulness of breath

on a panicity differently than other

techniques which are one pointed

breath practice that focuses and

concentrates on the nose tip or belly is

not found in the suttas

the buddha never said to concentrate on

the breath he said to observe and to

know what the breath is doing in the

moment and to observe what mind's

attention was doing as we are breathing

as the mind starts to wander away this

is where we employ the six rupees to

softly without any pushing away bring

back our observation to the object of

meditation

we would prefer that those meditators

who have practiced breath meditation in

the past use a completely different

object of meditation

otherwise they may habitually revert to

the way they were taught using what we

very much consider bad habits

this can lead to confusion and a lack of

progress

we prefer to avoid a practice that

requires people to struggle against

their old ways of practicing

second we find that mindfulness of meta

and the practice of the brahma viharas

is easier because of the comfortable

feeling of meta

this is especially important for the

beginner because breath meditation may

be difficult to master since it is more

of a mental exercise

with mindfulness of meta because of its

pleasant nature you can also stay with

your object longer and it is more fun to

do

it's probably strange hearing that

meditation can be fun

third we have seen an actual practice

that progresses much faster with meta

because the feeling of meta itself is

quite pleasant

remember that this is a feeling

meditation and it is a pleasant happy

feeling

finally meta meditation again being a

feeling meditation distances you from

any other body based or sensation types

of meditation which involve

concentrating on parts of your body

it focuses on a feeling of loving

kindness

it avoids any bad habits that you might

have picked up

so let's get started

beginning posture

before meditating it is helpful to find

a relatively quiet place and to sit

comfortably and upright

sitting cross-legged is not required the

full lotus is certainly not necessary

a sitting posture that is familiar to

your body will be less distracting and

more helpful than one in which you are

uncomfortable or in pain

in the west many meditators find sitting

on the floor difficult

in that case use a chair rather than

causing yourself undue pain and

discomfort

there is no magic in the floor

avoid leaning heavily back into the

chair

sit with your vertebrae stacked one on

top of the other

the posture should be comfortable

the goals are to reduce any real

physical cause of tension and pain and

to improve alertness

we will have enough mental obstacles to

keep us busy

beginning loving kindness instructions

when you practice the mindfulness of

loving-kindness meditation begin by

radiating loving and kind feelings to

yourself

remember a time when you were happy

when that happy feeling arises it is a

warm glowing feeling

some of you may complain we actually do

hear this a lot that you cannot recall

any good memories

so then we ask can you imagine holding a

baby and looking into its eyes

do you feel a loving feeling

when that baby smiles do you

another idea is to imagine holding a

cute little puppy

when you look at the puppy you naturally

want to smile and play with him

the feeling you are creating is a warm

glowing and sincere feeling radiating

from your eyes your mind and your heart

once you have established this feeling

use this feeling to wish yourself

happiness

just as i was happy then may i be happy

now

continue with phrases like may i be

peaceful may i be happy may i be calm

do you know what it feels like to be

peaceful and calm then put that feeling

in yourself in the center of your heart

and surround yourself with that happy

feeling

when that feeling fades bring up another

phrase to remind you of the feeling

may i be tranquil may i be content may i

be full of joy

now give yourself a big heart hug

really and sincerely wish yourself to be

happy

love yourself and mean it

this feeling is your object of

meditation

each time the feeling fades repeat the

wish verbally a few times in your mind

just repeat it enough times to bring up

the feeling do not make it a mantra

saying a phrase over and over will not

bring up the feeling we want the phrase

just reminds us to bring the feeling up

when the feeling comes up we drop the

phrase

there are a number of other teachers who

focus on just saying the phrases over

and over and that doesn't work

that will just turn it into a

concentration practice on the phrase

some people visualize easily others do

not

it is not important that you clearly see

your object of meditation

just know it is there

keep the feeling of yourself in the

center of your chest wrapped in this

happy and content feeling

and we do mean really feel good

feel peaceful or calm or loving or

gentle or kind or giving or joyful or

clear or tranquil or accepting

be okay sitting and feeling this

it's okay to feel good let yourself be

there in the present just feeling this

contentment

you have nowhere to go you are on a

little vacation from life now

there is nothing to do other than to be

happy and radiate that feeling to

yourself

can you do that

don't try to be happy

be happy

be content

be at peace right here right now

you have our permission to be happy for

at least the next 30 minutes

this is a feeling meditation but don't

over observe the center of your chest

trying to bring up a feeling of loving

kindness

don't force a feeling where there isn't

one

don't put the cart before the horse

smile and feel that smile all through

your body

as you say the phrases bring this

feeling up and it will resonate in your

heart area on its own

sincerely wish your self happiness

believe it and know that you do wish

happiness for yourself

just be with this feeling know it is

there and smile with it

there may be some blocks that come up

such as saying to yourself no i don't

deserve to be happy like this

this aversion to your own happiness is a

distraction

distractions will be covered shortly

we will explain the method to deal with

them so that you can allow and train

yourself to feel real loving kindness

for a longer period of time

later when you begin feeling this

feeling toward others know that similar

blocks may come up and that these are

distractions too

there is no reason that others should

not be happy as well

the goal is first to accept and allow

yourself to be happy and peaceful

it's okay

then

since you feel that happiness in your

own mind you will be happy to share that

feeling with other beings

when you sit please don't move

don't wiggle your toes don't twitch or

itch don't rub don't scratch don't rock

back and forth

don't change your posture at all

sit as still as the monk below

when you sit still the mind calms down

if there is any movement all the mind

will be distracted just as jello sets up

it must be cooled and not jiggled around

to solidify

smiling

this is a smiling meditation

the reason that you should smile is that

it has been found that when the corners

of your mouth go up so does your mental

state

when the corners of your mouth go down

so does your mental state

put a little smile on your lips but do

not stop there put a smile in your eyes

even though your eyes are closed

you'll notice there can be a lot of

tension in the eyes

put a smile in your mind

and especially put a smile in your heart

it can be a mechanical smile at first

eventually it will turn into a sincere

happy feeling

it should be a smile that conveys

loving-kindness

it's important to believe it

smile with your lips smile from your

mind and smile from your heart

if your mind wanders away 25 times in a

sitting and 25 times you recognize it

release it relax re-smile and return to

your meditation then you've had a good

meditation

it definitely might not be a quiet and

calm meditation but it is an active

meditation and that can still be a good

meditation

every time your mind wanders away and

comes back and you relax and smile you

are developing your ability to see a

distraction and let it go

you are improving your mindfulness your

observation power

as you practice you will get better at

it and your powers of observation will

get stronger

distractions

while you practice meta-meditation in

this way your mind is going to wander

what do we mean by wander

you are with your object of meditation

which is the warm glowing feeling in the

center of your chest

you are experiencing this feeling then

you are distracted by some thought or

sensation

it might be a sensation of itching a

desire to cough a burning sensation or a

painful feeling in your leg

it might be a memory of a conversation

with a friend or of a trip to the lake

or it could be a thought about something

you need from the store

suddenly you are with that distraction

rather than with your objective

meditation

in other words your attention is

somewhere else

you are not sure how you got there or

what you are supposed to be doing

then you remember that you are

meditating and that you are supposed to

be on your object of meditation

remember that is the first part of the

definition of mindfulness

if you let go of your thinking about the

distraction and relax slightly you can

observe that there is a tight metal fist

wrapped around that sensation or thought

you can also observe that you don't want

it there

you want it to go away

but the more you want it to go away the

bigger and more intense the distraction

becomes

so your mind is on this itch this pain

this thought

how did it get there

it didn't just jump there

there is a process that happens and you

begin to see how your mind moves from

one thing to another

don't think about that but observe

carefully how the process happens

we aren't talking here about analyzing

why anything happens simply observe what

is happening

observe the way the mind moves and

reacts in the present that is the second

part of mindfulness the truth is that

when a sensation is there it's there

it's okay for it to be there

you're going to have distracting

thoughts and sensations come up and

that's okay

thoughts are not your enemy

in fact they are opportunities

every thought every feeling every

sensation that arises and distracts your

mind also causes tightness

the first noble truth is that there is

suffering

the second noble truth is that suffering

is caused by craving

the third noble truth is that there is

the cessation of suffering

the fourth noble truth is that there is

the path to the cessation of suffering

this path is the eightfold path this

tightness is how you can recognize the

very start of craving end as you may

know the second noble truth says that

craving is the cause of suffering

life is not suffering craving is what

makes it so

distractions are telling you what you

crave the things to which you are

attached

seeing and understanding what you like

and dislike is the first step toward

letting go of those attachments

your brain has two lobes that are

contained in three membranes called the

meninges

it is like a bag wrapped around your

brain and spine

anytime that there is a distraction

there is a perceptible movement in the

brain and the brain seems some will

disagree with this but something is felt

to start to expand against this membrane

the thought causes tightness or tension

to arise which we can observe for

ourselves

anytime you notice this tension and

tightness you will want to actively

relax this tightness and soften into it

by relaxing you are releasing the

craving

more on this when we get to the six

rupees

when craving is released there is a

slight feeling of expansion in your head

right after you relax you will notice

that your mind is very peaceful and calm

your mind is alert and there are no

thoughts

at this time you have a pure mind

now bring that pure mind back to your

object of meditation the feeling of

loving kindness and smiling that warm

radiating happy feeling

now make another wish for your happiness

put that feeling into your heart and

radiate that happy feeling to yourself

it does not matter how many times your

attention is pulled away by a

distraction

thoughts and sensations don't go away

the first time you notice them and

that's okay

as these distractions come back again

and again you will become increasingly

familiar with how they arise

with practice their intensity and

frequency will subside

hindrances

the buddha talked about five hindrances

to meditation

hindrances are distractions that will

pull you away from your object of

meditation five troublemakers who will

surely come calling

every distraction is based on at least

one of the five hindrances

often they come two or three at a time

and gang up

the five hindrances are

one

sensual desire i like that otherwise

known as lustful or greedy mind

you will hang on to things that are

pleasant and want more

this will cause attachment to pleasant

states of mind that have arisen in the

past and desire for pleasant states to

arise in the future

two

anger aversion

fear i don't like that

you will want to push away states of

mind that you don't like

or you might experience fear or anger

over unpleasant or painful feelings that

have already arisen

you will try to push away and control

anything causing you pain

you will even try to force your mind to

experience things in a certain way that

you think is right when you should just

observe what is there

now that is really overly controlling

three

sloth and torpor dullness and sleepiness

these will cause lack of effort and

determination because you have lost

interest in your object of meditation

you will experience a mental fog

when you look at it closely you see that

it has tightness and tension in it

there is even craving in sleepiness

four

restlessness with restlessness you

constantly want to move and change

to do something other than what you are

doing to be somewhere other than here

restlessness can manifest as very tight

unpleasant feelings in the body and mind

5.

doubt you are not sure you are following

the instructions correctly or even if

this is the right practice

it makes you feel unsure of yourself and

may even manifest as a lack of

confidence in the buddha's teaching or

your teacher or both

when the hindrances arise your job is

neither to like them nor to fight with

them

your job is to accept them to invite

them in and to offer them tea

don't feed them with your attention

forcing and not liking their being there

just gives them the attention they crave

and makes them stronger

that's what happens with one pointed

concentration meditation

you force the hindrances away by

practicing intense concentration

however as soon as you stop meditating

they come back sometimes even stronger

if you just let hindrances be there

turning your attention to something that

is wholesome instead the energy inherent

in them will gradually fade away

they will disappear like a fire that

runs out of fuel

that's how you overcome the hindrances

for good

the fire just goes out

in poly nibana translates as knee or no

and banner or fire

no fire

no craving

no hindrance

the six rupees

now we are going to give you specific

instructions on how to work with the

hindrances in the way the buddha taught

imagine for a moment the bodhisattva

resting under the rose apple tree as a

young boy

he was not serious or tense he was

having fun watching his father's

festival

right then he attained to a pleasant

abiding jhana as stated in the sudas

with a light mind he could come to a

very tranquil and aware state

later on the eve of his enlightenment

after he had tried every method of

meditation and bodily exercise that was

known in india at that time he

remembered this state

and he realized that this simple state

this tranquil aware and happy state was

the key to attaining awakening

but how to convey this

when he was teaching the buddha worked

largely with uneducated farmers and

merchants

he had to have a simple effective

practice that was easy and worked

quickly he had to have a method by which

everyone could experience the path and

benefits for themselves easily and

immediately

this is how he was able to affect so

many people during his lifetime

do you want to see clearly

it's easy lighten up have fun exploring

relax and smile

relaxing and smiling leads you to a

happier more interesting practice

that sounds like great advice but how do

you do it

when you have been carried away by a

distraction and you lose your smile just

follow these steps

one

recognize that mine's attention has

drifted away and that you are lost in

thought

you have forgotten what you were doing

you are no longer on your object of

meditation

2.

release your attachment to the thought

or sensation by letting the distraction

be by not giving it any more attention

just stop feeding it

just back away from it

3.

relax any remaining tension or tightness

caused by that distraction

4.

re-smile

put that smile back on your lips and in

your heart

feel again that happy feeling of loving

kindness

5.

return or redirect

gently redirect mind's attention back to

the object of meditation that is to meta

continue with a gentle collected mind to

stay with your object of meditation

6.

repeat this entire practice cycle

repeat this practice whenever your

attention is distracted away from your

object of meditation

we call these the six rupees they are

drawn directly from the suda text as

part of right effort

the first four r's are the four right

efforts with the last two hours to

remind you to return and repeat as

needed

notice that you never push anything away

you never try to control anything trying

to control is using craving to eliminate

craving

please don't do the six rupees for some

slight noise in the background or a

minor bodily feeling

as long as you are still with your

feeling of loving kindness just stay

with that feeling and let it deepen

ignore those slight distractions in the

background

as a beginner do the six rupees only if

your attention is completely gone from

the object

in the explanation of the eightfold path

in the sodas one of the components is

right effort

right effort in the six rupees are the

same things

what is right effort

one

you notice that an unwholesome state has

arisen

2.

you stop paying attention to that

unwholesome feeling letting it be there

by itself with no pushing away or

holding on to it

3.

you bring up a wholesome feeling

4.

you stay with that wholesome feeling

the six rupees just add the return and

repeat to complete the cycle

we are practicing right effort by

repeating the six rupees cycle again and

again

we see and experience for ourselves what

suffering is and how to relieve it

you notice what causes you to become

tense and tight and then how to reach

its cessation by releasing and relaxing

and bringing up a wholesome object

you discover how to exercise the direct

path to the cessation of

this happens each time you recognize and

release an arising feeling relax and

re-smile

notice the relief

when you look at the benefits discussed

in the pseudo about the dhamma there is

a phrase that says the dhamma is

immediately effective

by practicing the six rupees you fulfill

this statement

when you relax the tension or tightness

caused by a distraction you immediately

experience the third noble truth the

cessation of suffering

in other words you are purifying the

mind by relaxing and letting go of

suffering

you see this for yourself

then you bring up a wholesome object by

smiling and return mind's attention back

to meta which is a wholesome feeling you

do not have to practice for long periods

months or years to feel relief

you can see it right after the relaxed

step of the six rupees

you notice the moment of a pure mind

free from craving

by repeating the six rupees over and

over depriving the hindrances of

attention their fuel you will eventually

replace all of the unwholesome mental

habits with wholesome ones

in this way you bring up only wholesome

states and will eventually achieve the

cessation of suffering

to be successful in meditation you need

to develop your mindfulness skill and

observation power

also keeping up your sense of fun and

exploration is important

this helps to improve your mindfulness

the six rupees training develops these

necessary skills

sometimes people say this practice is

simpler than they thought

some have actually complained to the

teacher because they want this

meditation to be more complicated

now let us go through each of the steps

in more depth

recognize

mindfulness remembers to observe and

recognize movements of mind's attention

from one thing to another that is from

the meditation object to the distraction

this observing notices any movement of

mind's attention away from the object of

meditation

one can notice a slight tightness or

tension as mine's attention begins to

move toward the arising phenomenon

pleasant or painful feelings can occur

at any one of the six sense doors

any sight sound odor taste touch or

thought can cause a distraction to arise

with careful non-judgmental observation

you will notice a slight tightening

sensation arising both in mind and

physically in the brain itself

recognizing early movement of mind is

vital to successful meditation

you then continue on to

release

when a thought about something arises

release it

let it be there without giving any more

attention to it

the content of the distraction is not

important at all but the mechanics of

how it arose are important

don't analyze it or try to figure out

why it is there let it be without

keeping mine's attention on it

without your mind's attention the

distraction loses energy and passes away

when you do not keep your attention on

it a distraction and the mental chatter

about it ceases

mindfulness then reminds the meditator

too

relax

after releasing the thought and allowing

it to be by itself without trying to

watch it or get involved in it there is

a subtle barely noticeable tightness or

tension remaining within mind and body

to remove this remaining tension the

buddha introduced a relaxed step

the suit is called the relaxed step

tranquilizing the bodily formation

this is true especially for your head

which is part of your body it means to

unclench your attention from and around

the thought

it is more than just letting it go

it actively softens and relaxes and lets

the distraction be there which then

weakens its power

gradually it disappears completely on

its own

please do not skip this step

it is the most important part of this

meditation

it is the missing step we talked about

in the introduction

it is the key to progress

without performing this step of relaxing

every time you are distracted from your

meditation object you will not

experience the close-up view of the

cessation of the tightness caused by

craving

you will not feel the relief as this

tension is relaxed

remember that craving always manifests

first as a tightness or tension in both

your mind and body

the relaxed step gives you a kind of

mundane nibbana

you have a momentary opportunity to see

and experience the true nature of and

relief from tightness and suffering

while performing the release and relax

steps

mindfulness then continues to remember

too

re-smile if you have listened to the

dhamma talks on our website you might

remember hearing about how smiling is an

important aspect of the meditation

learning to smile and raising slightly

the corners of the mouth helps the mind

to be observant alert agile and bright

getting serious tensing up or frowning

causes mind to become heavy in your

mindfulness to become dull and slow

insights become more difficult to see

thus slowing down your understanding of

dhamma

return

redirect your mind back to your object

of meditation

gently redirect the mind and don't jerk

it back before you are ready

make this a harmonious movement a

movement that is timely and not forced

repeat

repeat this entire practice cycle as

often as needed

stay with your object until you slip and

then run the six rupees again

spiritual friend

for the first 10 minutes of your sitting

radiate loving kindness to yourself

wrap yourself up in that happy tranquil

feeling using the previous instructions

for the rest of the sitting radiate

loving and kind thoughts to a spiritual

friend

what is a spiritual friend

now we will select our next object of

meditation the spiritual friend

it is very important that they are a

living person of the same sex and are

not a member of your family

when a spiritual friend is of a

different sex it may lead to lustful

feeling and this complicates your

experience

this is the traditional way of teaching

meta

if this instruction does not fit you

then just make sure the person you

select does not raise lustful feelings

in your mind when you are radiating

loving kindness remember you will be

spending a long time with this person

your spiritual friend should be someone

who you deeply respect and sincerely

wish well

they are someone who makes you smile

when you think of them

it might be a favorite teacher or

counselor who has your highest goals in

mind

it might be a friend who always has your

back and supports whatever you do

please do not use a member of your

family as your spiritual friend because

family members are too close to you

family members will be brought into your

practice at a later time but for now

they may raise hidden issues that

interfere with the practice

initially we want to keep this easy and

uncomplicated

do not radiate to a person who is dead

the feeling will not arise correctly as

there is no personal connection that can

be made

you make the wish for your spiritual

friend in this way as i feel this

happiness in myself may you be happy and

peaceful

wrap them up in the feeling of loving

kindness place them in the center of

your heart and smile at them as you are

doing this

really be sincere about this really

believe it

the more you believe it the stronger the

feeling will become

and your friend will feel this

people who have been picked as spiritual

friends report having these warm

feelings arising in their bodies at the

time you radiate meta to them

if you ask them they will tell you they

had a great week

continue wishing them well and see them

in your mind's eye but don't put too

much emphasis on the actual mental image

of them again some people are very good

at visualizing and some are not

just know who they are and that you wish

them well

the phrases are a way of priming the

pump they evoke the feeling

as you make that wish shift your

attention to the feeling itself

remember that your object of meditation

is the feeling

stay with that feeling and let it grow

as it will

don't force it just give it some gentle

encouragement

sooner or later the feeling will fade

when it does repeat the phrases again

it is not helpful to repeat phrases

rapidly

that makes the phrase feel mechanical

rather say it sincerely and rest for a

few moments with the feeling it evokes

repeat a phrase again only if it hasn't

brought up the feeling

some people ask are we sending or

pushing this feeling outward to the

friend

no we are not trying to push anything

out

we are just seeing our friend in the

center of our heart and wishing for him

or her to be happy

we are not sending telegraphing or

overnighting any sort of feeling

when a candle radiates warmth and light

is it actively sending that feeling out

no it radiates out because that is the

nature of warmth and light

in the same way we surround and immerse

our friend with this feeling wishing it

for them and seeing them smiling and

happy

this process is a combination of three

things arising the radiating feeling in

your heart the mental phrase and your

image of yourself or your spiritual

friend

about 75 of your attention should be on

the radiating of the feeling 20 on

feeling the wish and just a little say

five percent on visualizing your

spiritual friend

some people think they should make the

visualization a bigger part of their

practice

then they complain about having

tightness in their head

this is because they are pushing the

idea of seeing their spiritual friend

too much

the teacher will tell them to stop

trying so hard because the most

important part of meta is feeling the

radiating making a sincere wish for

their spiritual friends happiness and

then feeling that happiness not

visualizing their friend

if you are getting a headache or feeling

pressure you are trying too hard

smile again and back off a little

when you picture your spiritual friend

see them smiling and happy

remember to keep a little smile on your

lips for the entire meditation session

if you find yourself not smiling then

this will be a reminder to smile once

again

bring up another wish and send a kind

feeling to your friend

your face isn't used to smiling so

please be patient

your cheeks might even hurt a little but

you will get used to it and that

uneasiness will pass

please don't criticize yourself for

forgetting to smile

critical thoughts about anything are

unwholesome and lead to more suffering

this is called judgment thoughts

they are basically bringing aversion

against yourself

it is a kind of mild self-hatred and

criticism

if you see that you are coming down on

yourself for forgetting to smile

then laugh with yourself for having such

a crazy mind

relax and let go of those thoughts

understand that everyone has a crazy

mind and that it is okay to have this

craziness

laugh with yourself about it this

meditation is supposed to be fun

remember

smile and laugh at getting caught again

then start all over with your object of

meditation

life is a game to play so keep

everything light and have fun all of the

time

it does take practice but this is why

you are doing this practice

play with things and don't take them too

seriously

this is a serious meditation but we do

not want you to be serious

your mind should not be too serious

rather it should be light and uplifted

smile and if that does not work then

laughing a little bit should help you

get back into that happier alert state

of mind

you will use the same spiritual friend

the entire time until the teacher says

you can change

this may be a few days or weeks

if practicing on your own get in touch

with us via the website and let us help

you

you can become part of our yahoo

discussion group

the more you can stay in the present

happy in content feeling happiness with

your spiritual friend the sooner you

will be able to move on to the next step

of the meditation

you can always contact us through our

website for guidance

once you have settled on a good

spiritual friend

stay with that person

if you switch from one person to another

the practice won't be able to ripen or

deepen

sometimes meditators want to send meta

to other people or to all beings

this is just a subtle way your mind

distracts you

you want to stay with the same friend in

the beginning so that you can build your

collectedness

we replace the word concentration with

the word collectedness to help clarify

that we are not forcing our minds to

stay on only one object of meditation in

a forceful fixed way

rather we want our mind to rest lightly

on the object

if your mind wanders use the six rupees

when there are no distractions there is

no need to exert any effort to keep your

mind on its object

it just stays there by itself

that is really an amazing thing to see

happen

again there may be times that some

random thoughts and sensations arise

while you are on your object of

meditation but which are not strong

enough to pull your attention away

completely from it

when this happens ignore those and stay

with your meditation object

these thoughts and distractions will go

away by themselves there is no need to

six are them so let's review

1.

sit for a minimum of 30 minutes why is

explained later

2.

begin by radiating kind and happy

thoughts and wishes to yourself for

about 10 minutes

3.

switch to your one chosen spiritual

friend for the remainder of your sitting

at least 20 minutes and radiate kind and

happy thoughts to them for the rest of

the session

stay with just the same friend and do

not switch to anything or anyone else

even if you think they deserve your

attention

such desires are just more distractions

the mind can be very sneaky

4.

use the six rupees to overcome

distractions

when the feeling of meta starts to

become stronger notice it and sink into

it smile into it and let it develop by

itself

if you find that you are subtly

verbalizing the phrases and the

verbalizing starts to cause some

tightness let go of the verbalization

and just feel the wish

this will allow the feeling to grow even

stronger

stay with the feeling and just be in the

moment without pushing or leaning into

it

this practice will take time to master

in a sense this is a kind of not doing

you are not controlling or pushing the

feeling you are just gently directing it

if there is tension in your body from

trying to send it out then you are

putting in too much effort

there should just be the wish for

happiness in the same way you wish

someone good luck on a journey

you stand and wave as they go you don't

stand and try to push a feeling out to

them

similarly with meta meditation you

simply smile and wish this feeling of

gentle loving kindness

after doing the six rupees and getting

the hang of it there will be a hindrance

that arises

finally u6 are the last little bit of

tension from it and it disappears

completely

craving is eliminated for the first time

a small amount of craving is gone never

to arise again

because of the hindrance disappearing

joy arises and for the first time you

are experiencing the first tranquil

aware jhana

there will be more to go as you progress

along this path

as your practice advances you will find

that the joy is there

it can be goosebumps thrills or just

excitement arising

a pleasant tranquil feeling will follow

it

as you go deeper your confidence gets

stronger and you understand that what

you are doing is right practice

also you will notice there is a much

deeper state of quiet in your mind than

you have ever experienced before

it is like someone turned off the

refrigerator you never even realized was

on

you might notice that you are not aware

of parts of your body unless you direct

your attention to them

this is a normal development as your

body starts to lose tension and

tightness and this indicates progress

finally as you get deeper the feeling of

loving kindness may rise into your head

never try to control the feeling if it

wants to move there then let it move

now you have become an advanced

meditator

when this happens you will be ready for

the next step of the meditation practice

contact us through our website

we will not cover that here as this is

now advanced practice and requires more

instructions

you are now on your way through the

tranquil aware genres to the experience

of awakening

forgiveness meditation

there may be for some difficulty with

bringing up and sustaining the feeling

of loving kindness even after following

all the instructions and guidance here

you may bring up a phrase may i be happy

may i be content and this causes

self-aversion or hatred to arise

i don't deserve it i am not a nice

person may arise in your mind

you try the 6rs and it doesn't really

work

there is no loving kindness there your

heart just has no feeling and is dry and

maybe hard

you may find the practice of forgiveness

meditation will help with this

we find now a not so small percentage of

students benefit tremendously from

switching to forgiveness in which you

radiate forgiveness to yourself and

forgiving everything that comes up and

as people come up you forgive them until

they forgive you

you can find out more about this

practice at the dhamma sukkah website

and in a book called forgiveness

meditation by bonte vimalaramsi

this small forgiveness book as well as

the text of this book has also been

included as an appendix in the more

complete book about this practice the

path to nibana by david johnson

forgiveness is about letting go of the

past and softening our minds

everyone can benefit from practicing

forgiveness

walking meditation

an important part of the meta practice

is walking meditation

please do not ignore it

you need to walk to keep your energy up

especially after longer sittings

you can use walking meditation to build

energy or uplift your mind before

sitting if you feel sleepy or have low

energy

sometimes when your mind is distracted

walking will make it easier to calm a

restless mind so that you can go back to

sitting

walking meditation on the other hand can

add energy to your sitting by getting

your blood flowing

walking meditation is a powerful

meditation on its own but in conjunction

with meta meditation it helps you to

incorporate meta into your everyday life

and activities

please do remember that this is an all

the time practice

find a place to walk that is at least 30

paces and is straight and level

walk at a normal pace as if you are

taking a stroll in the park on a sunday

afternoon not slowly like a turtle but

at a speed that is neither too fast nor

too slow

your eyes should be directed down in

front of you six to ten feet ahead

do not put your attention on your feet

instead stay with your spiritual friend

please do not look around as that will

distract you from your meditation

this is not a nature walk but part of

the actual practice where you are

radiating kind and happy thoughts to

your spiritual friend

as much as possible stay with that

practice the entire time you are walking

it is just like when you are sitting

with the only difference being that you

are walking instead of sitting

you may do this inside or outside as the

weather permits

it is best done outside in the open air

but try to avoid the heat of direct

sunlight you can also walk inside in a

circular path around a room or down a

hallway

some meditators make a lot of progress

while walking it can go quite deep

do not take this instruction lightly as

it is an important part of the practice

it also helps us learn how to practice

meta in our everyday life where we are

more active out in the world

walk for about 15 to 30 minutes and

never more than an hour as this much

walking will tire your body out

however do walk at a good pace so that

by the end of it you will feel your

heart pumping and you may be slightly

out of breath

then you can sit and be fully alert

walking can bring calmness clarity or

energy depending on what you need at the

time

keep it going

30 minutes of meditation a day is the

minimum to start

from our experience it takes 15 to 20

minutes to get the mind to settle down

then you are giving yourself another 10

productive minutes where you can truly

watch and observe

45 minutes is better

just the fact you are sitting and not

moving permits the mind to calm down

the longer you sit the more your mind

will calm on its own without you doing

anything else

so

sitting longer and not moving is vital

to progress to deeper states

on retreat you will at first sit at

least 30 minutes walk 15 minutes then

sit again alternating like this for the

whole day

your sittings will naturally get longer

and longer throughout the retreat and

may eventually last as long as two to

three hours

in your daily life sitting twice a day

is very helpful

once you are comfortable try to stay

completely still throughout the sitting

period

if the mind insists on moving six are

the desire to move

the six rupees are very helpful in

dissolving tension and finding deeper

ease

if pain arises please watch how it

arises

you can tell if the pain is genuine by

noticing what happens when you get up

from sitting

if the pain goes away very quickly it is

a meditation pain which is in fact a

mental pain and is not caused by

anything harmful

it is just a distraction

if it returns when you sit try to remain

still in 6r

if when you get up the pain lingers and

stays with you it is best not to sit

that way in the future because this

would be ac to all physical pain

manifesting

if we try to get rid of painful or

unpleasant feelings forcefully whether

mental or physical we just add more

greed and aversion to the mind

this fuels the vicious cycle of samsara

however if we approach an unpleasant

feeling openly and without taking it

personally we view these unwholesome

qualities with wholesome awareness

this pure clear awareness gradually

melts that disturbing feeling

moreover you might notice the feeling

linger but your attitude toward it has

changed

if you get sleepy sitting inside try

sitting outside but not in the direct

sun

the outdoors tends to wake you up

you can even try doing the walking

practice backward after you walk forward

30 paces

instead of turning around just walk

backward to the starting point

meditation and its benefits increase if

you can continue to cultivate awareness

throughout the day

smile and send meta whenever you think

of it

when you notice difficult feelings

coming up six are them

do this with a sense of fun and humor at

just how crazy mind can be

if you get serious and try to control

the mind that is just more craving

you may wear yourself out and become

frustrated

so do this lightly but with as much

continuity as possible

add meta to everything

you can bring loving kindness into

everything that you do

generally you will do your sitting at

home but you can also smile and radiate

well-being and happiness to all beings

when you are out and about

if you are just going out walking or

shopping you do not have to stay with a

spiritual friend

stay with a general feeling of meta

smile more

notice and six are emotional upsets that

arise

when unwholesome states of mind arise

see them as opportunities

let them be and bring up wholesome ones

this is the meaning of right effort in

the buddha's no late fold path

progress in jhana

as you make progress with the meditation

you will see all kinds of new phenomena

joy and other pleasant experiences will

arise

some of them will be really worth the

price of admission

the first time you truly and completely

let go of a hindrance you will have your

first experience of the janic state and

be on your way to going even deeper

you will start to be friends with fun

stuff like joy contentment equanimity

and more

good times are on the way

brahma viharas and nabana

the buddha talked about four divine

qualities of mind that are particularly

wholesome

they are called the brahma viharas and

consist of loving kindness

meta compassion karuna sympathetic joy

mudida we actually prefer just joy and

equanimity apeca

this is the practice you are starting

now

you will gradually go through all these

states very naturally as meta becomes

quieter and turns to compassion and so

on through joy to equanimity

you do not need to change the practice

as you go the states themselves will

develop and arise on their own

once you become an advanced meditator

you just have to keep the meditation

going

the brahmavi hair is developed naturally

one by one without you having to bring

up each of these states as its own

separate meditation object

when the next state arises then you take

that state whether it be compassion or

joy as the feeling to be the object of

meditation and continue radiating that

out now

this is another important difference

from how other practices have you

developed meta

the buddha taught that when the

meditation is properly practiced all

four divine states arise on their own

one after the other

you will learn how to radiate any of

these four states to all the six

directions and then to all directions at

the same time

as this happens the jhanas will arise

naturally on their own as well

the word jhana is a loaded word

it has been translated in many different

ways but we refer to the genres as

levels of understanding

we do not want to confuse them with

their one-pointed absorption jhana

cousins

they are related but these are ones in

which the meditator keeps awareness of

their body whereas the others do not

the buddha taught that the key to

understanding craving and distractions

is to realize that mind and body are one

process that cannot be separated

tension and tightness are bodily

processes while thought and images are

mental processes

we not only want to pay attention to the

mind but also be aware of what is

happening in the body and not ignore or

repress this awareness through one

pointed focused concentration

we call the genic states that we

experience with this meditation the

tranquil awareness

there are eight of them

four rupaul or material genres and four

arupa or immaterial genres

beyond the highest immaterial genre lies

the experience of nibana itself

your mind will become so quiet that it

just stops

when the mind comes back from that

cessation experience it will be

incredibly bright and clear with no

disturbance like a blackboard with

nothing on it

at that point when the next mental

process arises you will see with

astonishing clarity every link and part

of this process that we call life as it

arises and passes away this process is

what the bud dha called dependent

origination

there are 12 links in each moment of

experience and you will see how all of

these arise and pass away

you will see how all of these

dependently arise one upon the other

when you see very deeply into this

process you will understand on a

profound personal level that all of the

aggregates that make up you or the eye

are impersonal and without any enduring

self or soul

this experience is so profound that

nibbana will arise and you will

understand the true nature of all

existence

you will have attained awakening in this

very life there will be so much relief

experiencing awakening nibana happens

for many people who follow these simple

directions

it does not take years or decades

the buddha said that this practice is

immediately effective

in the saudi patana pseudo of the

mejchima nikaya he says that this

experience can take place in as little

as seven years or even seven days

it can truly happen that fast we have

seen it take place within a single eight

day retreat

so

start now and you too can experience the

initial stages of awakening

just follow the instructions exactly

benefits of loving kindness

there are many benefits to practicing

loving-kindness meditation

in

it says that when you practice meta

meditation you go to sleep easily and

sleep soundly

you have no nightmares

when you wake up you awaken easily and

quickly

people really like you

animals like you

your face becomes radiant and beautiful

you have good health

these are just a few of the benefits

when you practice loving kindness your

mind also becomes clear and quiet and

your progress in the meditation is very

fast

meta in daily life

continue to sit and practice

listen to talks read our books and study

more about the concepts surrounding this

practice

there are many resources on our website

when starting any new practice it is

usually best to immerse yourself in that

practice setting aside other practices

you may have done in the past until you

understand the new practice deeply and

thoroughly

otherwise you may be confused with the

various opinions and practices that are

out there

remember that we are not basing our

teaching on views or opinions but rather

on the study of the sodas themselves and

the direct experience of the meditation

practice

we invite you to follow this path as

well

the best way to experience deep

immersion into tranquil wisdom inside

meditation is to come for a retreat or

if you cannot get away do an online

retreat with us

check our website for more

information once you master staying with

a spiritual friend there are more

instructions for breaking down barriers

and radiating the feeling of meta in all

directions

the teacher will give you those

directions and advise you when you are

ready

this is where the practice of the

brahmavi heras really takes off

more phenomena will arise and a teacher

can guide you based on your progress

there are more instruction steps in this

practice but they are advanced

a new book is available that covers

these advanced instructions and all the

advanced john is up to and including the

experience of nibana the path to nibana

by david johnson available everywhere in

paper or ebook

for now master the ability to stay with

your spiritual friend perfectly and then

you could contact us for further advice

do a retreat or buy the advanced book

noted above and practice on your own

again when you are outside moving around

in daily life remember to smile and

radiate meta to all beings

use right effort to recondition your

mind

bring up the wholesome quality of loving

kindness instead of allowing whatever

ho-hum mind is there

stuck in a long line at the checkout

line

radiate meta

it is a tough job being a cashier at a

store so smile at the cashier and be

friendly

traffic bogged down and you just can't

move

rather than getting upset radiate meta

to your fellow drivers six are your

upset mind and replace it with a

wholesome uplifted mind

put a cd in the car player and listen to

a dhamma talk to learn more about the

eightfold path of the buddha rather than

wasting your own time ho-humming your

way through life

share what you have learned with other

people and let them benefit from your

practice

pay this practice forward once you

understand it

don't proselytize

just talk about what happened to you in

your own words

how is it helping you be happier

be the buddha rather than a buddhist

can't find a sitting group in your area

start your own

as soon as you find one more person you

have a group

meditate for at least 30 minutes listen

to a talk have some tea and discuss what

you have learned

right there you have just created your

own sitting group

little by little like drops of water

filling a cup you will soon come to

supreme awakening

it is possible to do this right now

the buddha showed us the way

just follow the instructions exactly

now go sit

for more information about tranquil

aware insight meditation please visit

www.damasuka.org

thank you for listening

this is a book called a guide to

tranquil wisdom insight meditation by

bonte vimelaramsi

these are the full instructions for

loving-kindness meditation

for those who wish to experience the

cessation of suffering through the

elimination of craving

introduction

the purpose of this guide is to help

someone who is new to meditation and the

buddhist teachings walk the buddhist

path to the destruction of craving in

the elimination of ignorance

this guide will provide you with the

basic meditation instructions for the

practice of tranquil wisdom insight

meditation twim as taught by bonte

vimalaramsi

twim is the actual brahmavihara's

practice described in the suddas and it

includes the divine dwellings of

mindfulness of loving-kindness meta

mindfulness of compassion karuna

mindfulness of joy mudita and

mindfulness of equanimity apeka

the brahma-viharas are described by the

buddha in his earliest talks as recorded

in the suddens of the mijima nikaya

the instructions in this guide are based

on the sodas themselves and on

commentaries that are consistent with

the sodas

the instructions explain right effort

this is what we call the six rupees

the six rupees will be explained in

detail later

most buddhist mindfulness practices

today tend to focus on the breath as the

object of meditation

they only use meta and the brahma

viharas aside meditations to help one

with relaxation and as a way of

softening the breath practice and of

softening life in general

however the buddha discussed the

mindfulness of meta-practice many more

times in the sodas than the mindfulness

of breathing onoponicity practice only

eight times for mindfulness of breathing

and more than a hundred times for the

mindfulness of loving-kindness

although many teachers today do not

teach this or support this view the

buddha did state that the metta and

brahmavi harris practice on its own will

lead to the supreme attainment of nibana

the pseudo accompanied by loving

kindness in the samyatan nikaya 4654 iv

makes this clear

tranquil wisdom insight meditation using

meta or the feeling of loving kindness

as the object of meditation has been

found to be easier and to give faster

results than using the breath as the

object of meditation

it includes a powerful warm and glowing

feeling which helps your practice

because you enjoy doing it when

practicing this meditation you are

radiating loving kindness and giving

this feeling to others

this is building your generosity while

simultaneously developing a greater

sense of well-being and contentment

you are doing this not only while

engaged in your formal sitting practice

but also throughout your daily life

experience

this creates momentum from the time you

get up in the morning until the time you

go to sleep

this continuous practice can be very

conducive to fast progress

twim includes an all-important step that

is found in the sodas but is

misunderstood or left out of most

buddhist mindfulness practices these

days

this step is the key to the attainment

of nabana

you will learn more about this later

this is the relax step

this book is a guide to beginning

practice

a deeper understanding of how twim works

descriptions of insights levels of

understanding that arise and the suitor

references that support this meditation

are all beyond the scope of this booklet

the book meditation is life life as

meditation provides that information in

depth and detail

other books like breath of love and

moving dhamma also offer skillful

guidance once you are deeper in the

practice

a book by senior student doug craft

buddha's map is another good reference

for the concepts and experiences of twim

what is mindfulness

the term mindfulness has become

commonplace these days and is often

interpreted differently than what i

believe was originally formulated by the

buddha

you may have heard that mindfulness is

watching what arises diving into it and

focusing firmly on it to understand the

nature of what arises

the idea is that concentrating more

closely and harder on the object of

meditation will ultimately yield

profound insights

however that is not the mindfulness that

the buddha taught rather that is called

one-pointed concentration absorbing your

attention into an object

the buddha learned from his experiences

and described in suda 36 of the

medeshima nikaya the mahasakaka suda

that one pointed concentration will

quiet the mind temporarily but it will

not lead to an understanding of

suffering in the cause of suffering or

to nibbana

for that reason the buddha rejected

absorption and one-pointed concentration

practices

most teachers today miss this

significant point

yet suda 36 does spell it out

the buddha rejected the teachings of

alara kalama and adaka ramaputa teachers

of the most advanced concentration

states of the time

he left their training to continue his

search for yet another six years

here is a short clear and precise

definition of mindfulness as the buddha

taught it

mindfulness means to remember to observe

how mind's attention moves

from one thing to another

the first part of mindfulness is to

remember to watch the mind and remember

to return to your object of meditation

when you have wandered off

the second part of mindfulness is to

observe how mind's attention moves from

one thing to another

real insight is gained by watching how

your mind interacts with things as they

arise not by observing the things

themselves true mindfulness is

remembering to observe how your mind

moves and responds to what arises in the

present moment

with mindfulness we can understand how

things arise and pass away from

beginning to end

we do not care why things arise that is

the concern of psychologists and

philosophers

we only care about how they arise and

how they pass away how the movement of

mind's attention happens during that

entire process

when mindfulness becomes strong you

start to understand what craving really

is

craving is what pulls your mind away

from your object of meditation

tensions and tightness arise with

sensations and thoughts

craving is what starts the

identification process in which you take

something personally with an i like it

or i don't like it mind

mindfulness meditation is the process of

observing how mind's attention moves

moment to moment

mindfulness enables us to see clearly

and precisely how the impersonal process

of thoughts and sensations arises and

passes away

we identify with this process as

ourselves we take it personally

seeing and understanding how mind's

attention moves from one thing to

another personalizing experience and

creating an eye as it goes is one of the

most important insights of this practice

it develops an impersonal perspective on

all arising phenomena and leads the

meditator to see for themselves the true

nature of existence

you finally answer the question who or

what am i

the other important facet of mindfulness

once we have remembered and observed is

to catch ourselves when we get lost to

remember that we are supposed to come

back home

more on this as we explain the 6r

process later

why do we practice meta

as was said earlier the buddha talked

about meta meditation far more

frequently than he talked about breath

meditation and he made clear that meta

meditation as part of the brahma viharas

will lead to nibana

those are good enough reasons in and of

themselves to incline us toward meta

meditation

nevertheless there are other reasons as

well

first using the sodas as the guide

dhamasuka teaches mindfulness of breath

on a panicity differently than other

techniques which are one pointed

breath practice that focuses and

concentrates on the nose tip or belly is

not found in the suttas

the buddha never said to concentrate on

the breath he said to observe and to

know what the breath is doing in the

moment and to observe what mind's

attention was doing as we are breathing

as the mind starts to wander away this

is where we employ the six rupees to

softly without any pushing away bring

back our observation to the object of

meditation

we would prefer that those meditators

who have practiced breath meditation in

the past use a completely different

object of meditation

otherwise they may habitually revert to

the way they were taught using what we

very much consider bad habits

this can lead to confusion and a lack of

progress

we prefer to avoid a practice that

requires people to struggle against

their old ways of practicing

second we find that mindfulness of meta

and the practice of the brahma viharas

is easier because of the comfortable

feeling of meta

this is especially important for the

beginner because breath meditation may

be difficult to master since it is more

of a mental exercise

with mindfulness of meta because of its

pleasant nature you can also stay with

your object longer and it is more fun to

do

it's probably strange hearing that

meditation can be fun

third we have seen an actual practice

that progresses much faster with meta

because the feeling of meta itself is

quite pleasant

remember that this is a feeling

meditation and it is a pleasant happy

feeling

finally meta meditation again being a

feeling meditation distances you from

any other body based or sensation types

of meditation which involve

concentrating on parts of your body

it focuses on a feeling of loving

kindness

it avoids any bad habits that you might

have picked up

so let's get started

beginning posture

before meditating it is helpful to find

a relatively quiet place and to sit

comfortably and upright

sitting cross-legged is not required the

full lotus is certainly not necessary

a sitting posture that is familiar to

your body will be less distracting and

more helpful than one in which you are

uncomfortable or in pain

in the west many meditators find sitting

on the floor difficult

in that case use a chair rather than

causing yourself undue pain and

discomfort

there is no magic in the floor

avoid leaning heavily back into the

chair

sit with your vertebrae stacked one on

top of the other

the posture should be comfortable

the goals are to reduce any real

physical cause of tension and pain and

to improve alertness

we will have enough mental obstacles to

keep us busy

beginning loving kindness instructions

when you practice the mindfulness of

loving-kindness meditation begin by

radiating loving and kind feelings to

yourself

remember a time when you were happy

when that happy feeling arises it is a

warm glowing feeling

some of you may complain we actually do

hear this a lot that you cannot recall

any good memories

so then we ask can you imagine holding a

baby and looking into its eyes

do you feel a loving feeling

when that baby smiles do you

another idea is to imagine holding a

cute little puppy

when you look at the puppy you naturally

want to smile and play with him

the feeling you are creating is a warm

glowing and sincere feeling radiating

from your eyes your mind and your heart

once you have established this feeling

use this feeling to wish yourself

happiness

just as i was happy then may i be happy

now

continue with phrases like may i be

peaceful may i be happy may i be calm

do you know what it feels like to be

peaceful and calm then put that feeling

in yourself in the center of your heart

and surround yourself with that happy

feeling

when that feeling fades bring up another

phrase to remind you of the feeling

may i be tranquil may i be content may i

be full of joy

now give yourself a big heart hug

really and sincerely wish yourself to be

happy

love yourself and mean it

this feeling is your object of

meditation

each time the feeling fades repeat the

wish verbally a few times in your mind

just repeat it enough times to bring up

the feeling do not make it a mantra

saying a phrase over and over will not

bring up the feeling we want the phrase

just reminds us to bring the feeling up

when the feeling comes up we drop the

phrase

there are a number of other teachers who

focus on just saying the phrases over

and over and that doesn't work

that will just turn it into a

concentration practice on the phrase

some people visualize easily others do

not

it is not important that you clearly see

your object of meditation

just know it is there

keep the feeling of yourself in the

center of your chest wrapped in this

happy and content feeling

and we do mean really feel good

feel peaceful or calm or loving or

gentle or kind or giving or joyful or

clear or tranquil or accepting

be okay sitting and feeling this

it's okay to feel good let yourself be

there in the present just feeling this

contentment

you have nowhere to go you are on a

little vacation from life now

there is nothing to do other than to be

happy and radiate that feeling to

yourself

can you do that

don't try to be happy

be happy

be content

be at peace right here right now

you have our permission to be happy for

at least the next 30 minutes

this is a feeling meditation but don't

over observe the center of your chest

trying to bring up a feeling of loving

kindness

don't force a feeling where there isn't

one

don't put the cart before the horse

smile and feel that smile all through

your body

as you say the phrases bring this

feeling up and it will resonate in your

heart area on its own

sincerely wish your self happiness

believe it and know that you do wish

happiness for yourself

just be with this feeling know it is

there and smile with it

there may be some blocks that come up

such as saying to yourself no i don't

deserve to be happy like this

this aversion to your own happiness is a

distraction

distractions will be covered shortly

we will explain the method to deal with

them so that you can allow and train

yourself to feel real loving kindness

for a longer period of time

later when you begin feeling this

feeling toward others know that similar

blocks may come up and that these are

distractions too

there is no reason that others should

not be happy as well

the goal is first to accept and allow

yourself to be happy and peaceful

it's okay

then

since you feel that happiness in your

own mind you will be happy to share that

feeling with other beings

when you sit please don't move

don't wiggle your toes don't twitch or

itch don't rub don't scratch don't rock

back and forth

don't change your posture at all

sit as still as the monk below

when you sit still the mind calms down

if there is any movement all the mind

will be distracted just as jello sets up

it must be cooled and not jiggled around

to solidify

smiling

this is a smiling meditation

the reason that you should smile is that

it has been found that when the corners

of your mouth go up so does your mental

state

when the corners of your mouth go down

so does your mental state

put a little smile on your lips but do

not stop there put a smile in your eyes

even though your eyes are closed

you'll notice there can be a lot of

tension in the eyes

put a smile in your mind

and especially put a smile in your heart

it can be a mechanical smile at first

eventually it will turn into a sincere

happy feeling

it should be a smile that conveys

loving-kindness

it's important to believe it

smile with your lips smile from your

mind and smile from your heart

if your mind wanders away 25 times in a

sitting and 25 times you recognize it

release it relax re-smile and return to

your meditation then you've had a good

meditation

it definitely might not be a quiet and

calm meditation but it is an active

meditation and that can still be a good

meditation

every time your mind wanders away and

comes back and you relax and smile you

are developing your ability to see a

distraction and let it go

you are improving your mindfulness your

observation power

as you practice you will get better at

it and your powers of observation will

get stronger

distractions

while you practice meta-meditation in

this way your mind is going to wander

what do we mean by wander

you are with your object of meditation

which is the warm glowing feeling in the

center of your chest

you are experiencing this feeling then

you are distracted by some thought or

sensation

it might be a sensation of itching a

desire to cough a burning sensation or a

painful feeling in your leg

it might be a memory of a conversation

with a friend or of a trip to the lake

or it could be a thought about something

you need from the store

suddenly you are with that distraction

rather than with your objective

meditation

in other words your attention is

somewhere else

you are not sure how you got there or

what you are supposed to be doing

then you remember that you are

meditating and that you are supposed to

be on your object of meditation

remember that is the first part of the

definition of mindfulness

if you let go of your thinking about the

distraction and relax slightly you can

observe that there is a tight metal fist

wrapped around that sensation or thought

you can also observe that you don't want

it there

you want it to go away

but the more you want it to go away the

bigger and more intense the distraction

becomes

so your mind is on this itch this pain

this thought

how did it get there

it didn't just jump there

there is a process that happens and you

begin to see how your mind moves from

one thing to another

don't think about that but observe

carefully how the process happens

we aren't talking here about analyzing

why anything happens simply observe what

is happening

observe the way the mind moves and

reacts in the present that is the second

part of mindfulness the truth is that

when a sensation is there it's there

it's okay for it to be there

you're going to have distracting

thoughts and sensations come up and

that's okay

thoughts are not your enemy

in fact they are opportunities

every thought every feeling every

sensation that arises and distracts your

mind also causes tightness

the first noble truth is that there is

suffering

the second noble truth is that suffering

is caused by craving

the third noble truth is that there is

the cessation of suffering

the fourth noble truth is that there is

the path to the cessation of suffering

this path is the eightfold path this

tightness is how you can recognize the

very start of craving end as you may

know the second noble truth says that

craving is the cause of suffering

life is not suffering craving is what

makes it so

distractions are telling you what you

crave the things to which you are

attached

seeing and understanding what you like

and dislike is the first step toward

letting go of those attachments

your brain has two lobes that are

contained in three membranes called the

meninges

it is like a bag wrapped around your

brain and spine

anytime that there is a distraction

there is a perceptible movement in the

brain and the brain seems some will

disagree with this but something is felt

to start to expand against this membrane

the thought causes tightness or tension

to arise which we can observe for

ourselves

anytime you notice this tension and

tightness you will want to actively

relax this tightness and soften into it

by relaxing you are releasing the

craving

more on this when we get to the six

rupees

when craving is released there is a

slight feeling of expansion in your head

right after you relax you will notice

that your mind is very peaceful and calm

your mind is alert and there are no

thoughts

at this time you have a pure mind

now bring that pure mind back to your

object of meditation the feeling of

loving kindness and smiling that warm

radiating happy feeling

now make another wish for your happiness

put that feeling into your heart and

radiate that happy feeling to yourself

it does not matter how many times your

attention is pulled away by a

distraction

thoughts and sensations don't go away

the first time you notice them and

that's okay

as these distractions come back again

and again you will become increasingly

familiar with how they arise

with practice their intensity and

frequency will subside

hindrances

the buddha talked about five hindrances

to meditation

hindrances are distractions that will

pull you away from your object of

meditation five troublemakers who will

surely come calling

every distraction is based on at least

one of the five hindrances

often they come two or three at a time

and gang up

the five hindrances are

one

sensual desire i like that otherwise

known as lustful or greedy mind

you will hang on to things that are

pleasant and want more

this will cause attachment to pleasant

states of mind that have arisen in the

past and desire for pleasant states to

arise in the future

two

anger aversion

fear i don't like that

you will want to push away states of

mind that you don't like

or you might experience fear or anger

over unpleasant or painful feelings that

have already arisen

you will try to push away and control

anything causing you pain

you will even try to force your mind to

experience things in a certain way that

you think is right when you should just

observe what is there

now that is really overly controlling

three

sloth and torpor dullness and sleepiness

these will cause lack of effort and

determination because you have lost

interest in your object of meditation

you will experience a mental fog

when you look at it closely you see that

it has tightness and tension in it

there is even craving in sleepiness

four

restlessness with restlessness you

constantly want to move and change

to do something other than what you are

doing to be somewhere other than here

restlessness can manifest as very tight

unpleasant feelings in the body and mind

5.

doubt you are not sure you are following

the instructions correctly or even if

this is the right practice

it makes you feel unsure of yourself and

may even manifest as a lack of

confidence in the buddha's teaching or

your teacher or both

when the hindrances arise your job is

neither to like them nor to fight with

them

your job is to accept them to invite

them in and to offer them tea

don't feed them with your attention

forcing and not liking their being there

just gives them the attention they crave

and makes them stronger

that's what happens with one pointed

concentration meditation

you force the hindrances away by

practicing intense concentration

however as soon as you stop meditating

they come back sometimes even stronger

if you just let hindrances be there

turning your attention to something that

is wholesome instead the energy inherent

in them will gradually fade away

they will disappear like a fire that

runs out of fuel

that's how you overcome the hindrances

for good

the fire just goes out

in poly nibana translates as knee or no

and banner or fire

no fire

no craving

no hindrance

the six rupees

now we are going to give you specific

instructions on how to work with the

hindrances in the way the buddha taught

imagine for a moment the bodhisattva

resting under the rose apple tree as a

young boy

he was not serious or tense he was

having fun watching his father's

festival

right then he attained to a pleasant

abiding jhana as stated in the sudas

with a light mind he could come to a

very tranquil and aware state

later on the eve of his enlightenment

after he had tried every method of

meditation and bodily exercise that was

known in india at that time he

remembered this state

and he realized that this simple state

this tranquil aware and happy state was

the key to attaining awakening

but how to convey this

when he was teaching the buddha worked

largely with uneducated farmers and

merchants

he had to have a simple effective

practice that was easy and worked

quickly he had to have a method by which

everyone could experience the path and

benefits for themselves easily and

immediately

this is how he was able to affect so

many people during his lifetime

do you want to see clearly

it's easy lighten up have fun exploring

relax and smile

relaxing and smiling leads you to a

happier more interesting practice

that sounds like great advice but how do

you do it

when you have been carried away by a

distraction and you lose your smile just

follow these steps

one

recognize that mine's attention has

drifted away and that you are lost in

thought

you have forgotten what you were doing

you are no longer on your object of

meditation

2.

release your attachment to the thought

or sensation by letting the distraction

be by not giving it any more attention

just stop feeding it

just back away from it

3.

relax any remaining tension or tightness

caused by that distraction

4.

re-smile

put that smile back on your lips and in

your heart

feel again that happy feeling of loving

kindness

5.

return or redirect

gently redirect mind's attention back to

the object of meditation that is to meta

continue with a gentle collected mind to

stay with your object of meditation

6.

repeat this entire practice cycle

repeat this practice whenever your

attention is distracted away from your

object of meditation

we call these the six rupees they are

drawn directly from the suda text as

part of right effort

the first four r's are the four right

efforts with the last two hours to

remind you to return and repeat as

needed

notice that you never push anything away

you never try to control anything trying

to control is using craving to eliminate

craving

please don't do the six rupees for some

slight noise in the background or a

minor bodily feeling

as long as you are still with your

feeling of loving kindness just stay

with that feeling and let it deepen

ignore those slight distractions in the

background

as a beginner do the six rupees only if

your attention is completely gone from

the object

in the explanation of the eightfold path

in the sodas one of the components is

right effort

right effort in the six rupees are the

same things

what is right effort

one

you notice that an unwholesome state has

arisen

2.

you stop paying attention to that

unwholesome feeling letting it be there

by itself with no pushing away or

holding on to it

3.

you bring up a wholesome feeling

4.

you stay with that wholesome feeling

the six rupees just add the return and

repeat to complete the cycle

we are practicing right effort by

repeating the six rupees cycle again and

again

we see and experience for ourselves what

suffering is and how to relieve it

you notice what causes you to become

tense and tight and then how to reach

its cessation by releasing and relaxing

and bringing up a wholesome object

you discover how to exercise the direct

path to the cessation of

this happens each time you recognize and

release an arising feeling relax and

re-smile

notice the relief

when you look at the benefits discussed

in the pseudo about the dhamma there is

a phrase that says the dhamma is

immediately effective

by practicing the six rupees you fulfill

this statement

when you relax the tension or tightness

caused by a distraction you immediately

experience the third noble truth the

cessation of suffering

in other words you are purifying the

mind by relaxing and letting go of

suffering

you see this for yourself

then you bring up a wholesome object by

smiling and return mind's attention back

to meta which is a wholesome feeling you

do not have to practice for long periods

months or years to feel relief

you can see it right after the relaxed

step of the six rupees

you notice the moment of a pure mind

free from craving

by repeating the six rupees over and

over depriving the hindrances of

attention their fuel you will eventually

replace all of the unwholesome mental

habits with wholesome ones

in this way you bring up only wholesome

states and will eventually achieve the

cessation of suffering

to be successful in meditation you need

to develop your mindfulness skill and

observation power

also keeping up your sense of fun and

exploration is important

this helps to improve your mindfulness

the six rupees training develops these

necessary skills

sometimes people say this practice is

simpler than they thought

some have actually complained to the

teacher because they want this

meditation to be more complicated

now let us go through each of the steps

in more depth

recognize

mindfulness remembers to observe and

recognize movements of mind's attention

from one thing to another that is from

the meditation object to the distraction

this observing notices any movement of

mind's attention away from the object of

meditation

one can notice a slight tightness or

tension as mine's attention begins to

move toward the arising phenomenon

pleasant or painful feelings can occur

at any one of the six sense doors

any sight sound odor taste touch or

thought can cause a distraction to arise

with careful non-judgmental observation

you will notice a slight tightening

sensation arising both in mind and

physically in the brain itself

recognizing early movement of mind is

vital to successful meditation

you then continue on to

release

when a thought about something arises

release it

let it be there without giving any more

attention to it

the content of the distraction is not

important at all but the mechanics of

how it arose are important

don't analyze it or try to figure out

why it is there let it be without

keeping mine's attention on it

without your mind's attention the

distraction loses energy and passes away

when you do not keep your attention on

it a distraction and the mental chatter

about it ceases

mindfulness then reminds the meditator

too

relax

after releasing the thought and allowing

it to be by itself without trying to

watch it or get involved in it there is

a subtle barely noticeable tightness or

tension remaining within mind and body

to remove this remaining tension the

buddha introduced a relaxed step

the suit is called the relaxed step

tranquilizing the bodily formation

this is true especially for your head

which is part of your body it means to

unclench your attention from and around

the thought

it is more than just letting it go

it actively softens and relaxes and lets

the distraction be there which then

weakens its power

gradually it disappears completely on

its own

please do not skip this step

it is the most important part of this

meditation

it is the missing step we talked about

in the introduction

it is the key to progress

without performing this step of relaxing

every time you are distracted from your

meditation object you will not

experience the close-up view of the

cessation of the tightness caused by

craving

you will not feel the relief as this

tension is relaxed

remember that craving always manifests

first as a tightness or tension in both

your mind and body

the relaxed step gives you a kind of

mundane nibbana

you have a momentary opportunity to see

and experience the true nature of and

relief from tightness and suffering

while performing the release and relax

steps

mindfulness then continues to remember

too

re-smile if you have listened to the

dhamma talks on our website you might

remember hearing about how smiling is an

important aspect of the meditation

learning to smile and raising slightly

the corners of the mouth helps the mind

to be observant alert agile and bright

getting serious tensing up or frowning

causes mind to become heavy in your

mindfulness to become dull and slow

insights become more difficult to see

thus slowing down your understanding of

dhamma

return

redirect your mind back to your object

of meditation

gently redirect the mind and don't jerk

it back before you are ready

make this a harmonious movement a

movement that is timely and not forced

repeat

repeat this entire practice cycle as

often as needed

stay with your object until you slip and

then run the six rupees again

spiritual friend

for the first 10 minutes of your sitting

radiate loving kindness to yourself

wrap yourself up in that happy tranquil

feeling using the previous instructions

for the rest of the sitting radiate

loving and kind thoughts to a spiritual

friend

what is a spiritual friend

now we will select our next object of

meditation the spiritual friend

it is very important that they are a

living person of the same sex and are

not a member of your family

when a spiritual friend is of a

different sex it may lead to lustful

feeling and this complicates your

experience

this is the traditional way of teaching

meta

if this instruction does not fit you

then just make sure the person you

select does not raise lustful feelings

in your mind when you are radiating

loving kindness remember you will be

spending a long time with this person

your spiritual friend should be someone

who you deeply respect and sincerely

wish well

they are someone who makes you smile

when you think of them

it might be a favorite teacher or

counselor who has your highest goals in

mind

it might be a friend who always has your

back and supports whatever you do

please do not use a member of your

family as your spiritual friend because

family members are too close to you

family members will be brought into your

practice at a later time but for now

they may raise hidden issues that

interfere with the practice

initially we want to keep this easy and

uncomplicated

do not radiate to a person who is dead

the feeling will not arise correctly as

there is no personal connection that can

be made

you make the wish for your spiritual

friend in this way as i feel this

happiness in myself may you be happy and

peaceful

wrap them up in the feeling of loving

kindness place them in the center of

your heart and smile at them as you are

doing this

really be sincere about this really

believe it

the more you believe it the stronger the

feeling will become

and your friend will feel this

people who have been picked as spiritual

friends report having these warm

feelings arising in their bodies at the

time you radiate meta to them

if you ask them they will tell you they

had a great week

continue wishing them well and see them

in your mind's eye but don't put too

much emphasis on the actual mental image

of them again some people are very good

at visualizing and some are not

just know who they are and that you wish

them well

the phrases are a way of priming the

pump they evoke the feeling

as you make that wish shift your

attention to the feeling itself

remember that your object of meditation

is the feeling

stay with that feeling and let it grow

as it will

don't force it just give it some gentle

encouragement

sooner or later the feeling will fade

when it does repeat the phrases again

it is not helpful to repeat phrases

rapidly

that makes the phrase feel mechanical

rather say it sincerely and rest for a

few moments with the feeling it evokes

repeat a phrase again only if it hasn't

brought up the feeling

some people ask are we sending or

pushing this feeling outward to the

friend

no we are not trying to push anything

out

we are just seeing our friend in the

center of our heart and wishing for him

or her to be happy

we are not sending telegraphing or

overnighting any sort of feeling

when a candle radiates warmth and light

is it actively sending that feeling out

no it radiates out because that is the

nature of warmth and light

in the same way we surround and immerse

our friend with this feeling wishing it

for them and seeing them smiling and

happy

this process is a combination of three

things arising the radiating feeling in

your heart the mental phrase and your

image of yourself or your spiritual

friend

about 75 of your attention should be on

the radiating of the feeling 20 on

feeling the wish and just a little say

five percent on visualizing your

spiritual friend

some people think they should make the

visualization a bigger part of their

practice

then they complain about having

tightness in their head

this is because they are pushing the

idea of seeing their spiritual friend

too much

the teacher will tell them to stop

trying so hard because the most

important part of meta is feeling the

radiating making a sincere wish for

their spiritual friends happiness and

then feeling that happiness not

visualizing their friend

if you are getting a headache or feeling

pressure you are trying too hard

smile again and back off a little

when you picture your spiritual friend

see them smiling and happy

remember to keep a little smile on your

lips for the entire meditation session

if you find yourself not smiling then

this will be a reminder to smile once

again

bring up another wish and send a kind

feeling to your friend

your face isn't used to smiling so

please be patient

your cheeks might even hurt a little but

you will get used to it and that

uneasiness will pass

please don't criticize yourself for

forgetting to smile

critical thoughts about anything are

unwholesome and lead to more suffering

this is called judgment thoughts

they are basically bringing aversion

against yourself

it is a kind of mild self-hatred and

criticism

if you see that you are coming down on

yourself for forgetting to smile

then laugh with yourself for having such

a crazy mind

relax and let go of those thoughts

understand that everyone has a crazy

mind and that it is okay to have this

craziness

laugh with yourself about it this

meditation is supposed to be fun

remember

smile and laugh at getting caught again

then start all over with your object of

meditation

life is a game to play so keep

everything light and have fun all of the

time

it does take practice but this is why

you are doing this practice

play with things and don't take them too

seriously

this is a serious meditation but we do

not want you to be serious

your mind should not be too serious

rather it should be light and uplifted

smile and if that does not work then

laughing a little bit should help you

get back into that happier alert state

of mind

you will use the same spiritual friend

the entire time until the teacher says

you can change

this may be a few days or weeks

if practicing on your own get in touch

with us via the website and let us help

you

you can become part of our yahoo

discussion group

the more you can stay in the present

happy in content feeling happiness with

your spiritual friend the sooner you

will be able to move on to the next step

of the meditation

you can always contact us through our

website for guidance

once you have settled on a good

spiritual friend

stay with that person

if you switch from one person to another

the practice won't be able to ripen or

deepen

sometimes meditators want to send meta

to other people or to all beings

this is just a subtle way your mind

distracts you

you want to stay with the same friend in

the beginning so that you can build your

collectedness

we replace the word concentration with

the word collectedness to help clarify

that we are not forcing our minds to

stay on only one object of meditation in

a forceful fixed way

rather we want our mind to rest lightly

on the object

if your mind wanders use the six rupees

when there are no distractions there is

no need to exert any effort to keep your

mind on its object

it just stays there by itself

that is really an amazing thing to see

happen

again there may be times that some

random thoughts and sensations arise

while you are on your object of

meditation but which are not strong

enough to pull your attention away

completely from it

when this happens ignore those and stay

with your meditation object

these thoughts and distractions will go

away by themselves there is no need to

six are them so let's review

1.

sit for a minimum of 30 minutes why is

explained later

2.

begin by radiating kind and happy

thoughts and wishes to yourself for

about 10 minutes

3.

switch to your one chosen spiritual

friend for the remainder of your sitting

at least 20 minutes and radiate kind and

happy thoughts to them for the rest of

the session

stay with just the same friend and do

not switch to anything or anyone else

even if you think they deserve your

attention

such desires are just more distractions

the mind can be very sneaky

4.

use the six rupees to overcome

distractions

when the feeling of meta starts to

become stronger notice it and sink into

it smile into it and let it develop by

itself

if you find that you are subtly

verbalizing the phrases and the

verbalizing starts to cause some

tightness let go of the verbalization

and just feel the wish

this will allow the feeling to grow even

stronger

stay with the feeling and just be in the

moment without pushing or leaning into

it

this practice will take time to master

in a sense this is a kind of not doing

you are not controlling or pushing the

feeling you are just gently directing it

if there is tension in your body from

trying to send it out then you are

putting in too much effort

there should just be the wish for

happiness in the same way you wish

someone good luck on a journey

you stand and wave as they go you don't

stand and try to push a feeling out to

them

similarly with meta meditation you

simply smile and wish this feeling of

gentle loving kindness

after doing the six rupees and getting

the hang of it there will be a hindrance

that arises

finally u6 are the last little bit of

tension from it and it disappears

completely

craving is eliminated for the first time

a small amount of craving is gone never

to arise again

because of the hindrance disappearing

joy arises and for the first time you

are experiencing the first tranquil

aware jhana

there will be more to go as you progress

along this path

as your practice advances you will find

that the joy is there

it can be goosebumps thrills or just

excitement arising

a pleasant tranquil feeling will follow

it

as you go deeper your confidence gets

stronger and you understand that what

you are doing is right practice

also you will notice there is a much

deeper state of quiet in your mind than

you have ever experienced before

it is like someone turned off the

refrigerator you never even realized was

on

you might notice that you are not aware

of parts of your body unless you direct

your attention to them

this is a normal development as your

body starts to lose tension and

tightness and this indicates progress

finally as you get deeper the feeling of

loving kindness may rise into your head

never try to control the feeling if it

wants to move there then let it move

now you have become an advanced

meditator

when this happens you will be ready for

the next step of the meditation practice

contact us through our website

we will not cover that here as this is

now advanced practice and requires more

instructions

you are now on your way through the

tranquil aware genres to the experience

of awakening

forgiveness meditation

there may be for some difficulty with

bringing up and sustaining the feeling

of loving kindness even after following

all the instructions and guidance here

you may bring up a phrase may i be happy

may i be content and this causes

self-aversion or hatred to arise

i don't deserve it i am not a nice

person may arise in your mind

you try the 6rs and it doesn't really

work

there is no loving kindness there your

heart just has no feeling and is dry and

maybe hard

you may find the practice of forgiveness

meditation will help with this

we find now a not so small percentage of

students benefit tremendously from

switching to forgiveness in which you

radiate forgiveness to yourself and

forgiving everything that comes up and

as people come up you forgive them until

they forgive you

you can find out more about this

practice at the dhamma sukkah website

and in a book called forgiveness

meditation by bonte vimalaramsi

this small forgiveness book as well as

the text of this book has also been

included as an appendix in the more

complete book about this practice the

path to nibana by david johnson

forgiveness is about letting go of the

past and softening our minds

everyone can benefit from practicing

forgiveness

walking meditation

an important part of the meta practice

is walking meditation

please do not ignore it

you need to walk to keep your energy up

especially after longer sittings

you can use walking meditation to build

energy or uplift your mind before

sitting if you feel sleepy or have low

energy

sometimes when your mind is distracted

walking will make it easier to calm a

restless mind so that you can go back to

sitting

walking meditation on the other hand can

add energy to your sitting by getting

your blood flowing

walking meditation is a powerful

meditation on its own but in conjunction

with meta meditation it helps you to

incorporate meta into your everyday life

and activities

please do remember that this is an all

the time practice

find a place to walk that is at least 30

paces and is straight and level

walk at a normal pace as if you are

taking a stroll in the park on a sunday

afternoon not slowly like a turtle but

at a speed that is neither too fast nor

too slow

your eyes should be directed down in

front of you six to ten feet ahead

do not put your attention on your feet

instead stay with your spiritual friend

please do not look around as that will

distract you from your meditation

this is not a nature walk but part of

the actual practice where you are

radiating kind and happy thoughts to

your spiritual friend

as much as possible stay with that

practice the entire time you are walking

it is just like when you are sitting

with the only difference being that you

are walking instead of sitting

you may do this inside or outside as the

weather permits

it is best done outside in the open air

but try to avoid the heat of direct

sunlight you can also walk inside in a

circular path around a room or down a

hallway

some meditators make a lot of progress

while walking it can go quite deep

do not take this instruction lightly as

it is an important part of the practice

it also helps us learn how to practice

meta in our everyday life where we are

more active out in the world

walk for about 15 to 30 minutes and

never more than an hour as this much

walking will tire your body out

however do walk at a good pace so that

by the end of it you will feel your

heart pumping and you may be slightly

out of breath

then you can sit and be fully alert

walking can bring calmness clarity or

energy depending on what you need at the

time

keep it going

30 minutes of meditation a day is the

minimum to start

from our experience it takes 15 to 20

minutes to get the mind to settle down

then you are giving yourself another 10

productive minutes where you can truly

watch and observe

45 minutes is better

just the fact you are sitting and not

moving permits the mind to calm down

the longer you sit the more your mind

will calm on its own without you doing

anything else

so

sitting longer and not moving is vital

to progress to deeper states

on retreat you will at first sit at

least 30 minutes walk 15 minutes then

sit again alternating like this for the

whole day

your sittings will naturally get longer

and longer throughout the retreat and

may eventually last as long as two to

three hours

in your daily life sitting twice a day

is very helpful

once you are comfortable try to stay

completely still throughout the sitting

period

if the mind insists on moving six are

the desire to move

the six rupees are very helpful in

dissolving tension and finding deeper

ease

if pain arises please watch how it

arises

you can tell if the pain is genuine by

noticing what happens when you get up

from sitting

if the pain goes away very quickly it is

a meditation pain which is in fact a

mental pain and is not caused by

anything harmful

it is just a distraction

if it returns when you sit try to remain

still in 6r

if when you get up the pain lingers and

stays with you it is best not to sit

that way in the future because this

would be ac to all physical pain

manifesting

if we try to get rid of painful or

unpleasant feelings forcefully whether

mental or physical we just add more

greed and aversion to the mind

this fuels the vicious cycle of samsara

however if we approach an unpleasant

feeling openly and without taking it

personally we view these unwholesome

qualities with wholesome awareness

this pure clear awareness gradually

melts that disturbing feeling

moreover you might notice the feeling

linger but your attitude toward it has

changed

if you get sleepy sitting inside try

sitting outside but not in the direct

sun

the outdoors tends to wake you up

you can even try doing the walking

practice backward after you walk forward

30 paces

instead of turning around just walk

backward to the starting point

meditation and its benefits increase if

you can continue to cultivate awareness

throughout the day

smile and send meta whenever you think

of it

when you notice difficult feelings

coming up six are them

do this with a sense of fun and humor at

just how crazy mind can be

if you get serious and try to control

the mind that is just more craving

you may wear yourself out and become

frustrated

so do this lightly but with as much

continuity as possible

add meta to everything

you can bring loving kindness into

everything that you do

generally you will do your sitting at

home but you can also smile and radiate

well-being and happiness to all beings

when you are out and about

if you are just going out walking or

shopping you do not have to stay with a

spiritual friend

stay with a general feeling of meta

smile more

notice and six are emotional upsets that

arise

when unwholesome states of mind arise

see them as opportunities

let them be and bring up wholesome ones

this is the meaning of right effort in

the buddha's no late fold path

progress in jhana

as you make progress with the meditation

you will see all kinds of new phenomena

joy and other pleasant experiences will

arise

some of them will be really worth the

price of admission

the first time you truly and completely

let go of a hindrance you will have your

first experience of the janic state and

be on your way to going even deeper

you will start to be friends with fun

stuff like joy contentment equanimity

and more

good times are on the way

brahma viharas and nabana

the buddha talked about four divine

qualities of mind that are particularly

wholesome

they are called the brahma viharas and

consist of loving kindness

meta compassion karuna sympathetic joy

mudida we actually prefer just joy and

equanimity apeca

this is the practice you are starting

now

you will gradually go through all these

states very naturally as meta becomes

quieter and turns to compassion and so

on through joy to equanimity

you do not need to change the practice

as you go the states themselves will

develop and arise on their own

once you become an advanced meditator

you just have to keep the meditation

going

the brahmavi hair is developed naturally

one by one without you having to bring

up each of these states as its own

separate meditation object

when the next state arises then you take

that state whether it be compassion or

joy as the feeling to be the object of

meditation and continue radiating that

out now

this is another important difference

from how other practices have you

developed meta

the buddha taught that when the

meditation is properly practiced all

four divine states arise on their own

one after the other

you will learn how to radiate any of

these four states to all the six

directions and then to all directions at

the same time

as this happens the jhanas will arise

naturally on their own as well

the word jhana is a loaded word

it has been translated in many different

ways but we refer to the genres as

levels of understanding

we do not want to confuse them with

their one-pointed absorption jhana

cousins

they are related but these are ones in

which the meditator keeps awareness of

their body whereas the others do not

the buddha taught that the key to

understanding craving and distractions

is to realize that mind and body are one

process that cannot be separated

tension and tightness are bodily

processes while thought and images are

mental processes

we not only want to pay attention to the

mind but also be aware of what is

happening in the body and not ignore or

repress this awareness through one

pointed focused concentration

we call the genic states that we

experience with this meditation the

tranquil awareness

there are eight of them

four rupaul or material genres and four

arupa or immaterial genres

beyond the highest immaterial genre lies

the experience of nibana itself

your mind will become so quiet that it

just stops

when the mind comes back from that

cessation experience it will be

incredibly bright and clear with no

disturbance like a blackboard with

nothing on it

at that point when the next mental

process arises you will see with

astonishing clarity every link and part

of this process that we call life as it

arises and passes away this process is

what the bud dha called dependent

origination

there are 12 links in each moment of

experience and you will see how all of

these arise and pass away

you will see how all of these

dependently arise one upon the other

when you see very deeply into this

process you will understand on a

profound personal level that all of the

aggregates that make up you or the eye

are impersonal and without any enduring

self or soul

this experience is so profound that

nibbana will arise and you will

understand the true nature of all

existence

you will have attained awakening in this

very life there will be so much relief

experiencing awakening nibana happens

for many people who follow these simple

directions

it does not take years or decades

the buddha said that this practice is

immediately effective

in the saudi patana pseudo of the

mejchima nikaya he says that this

experience can take place in as little

as seven years or even seven days

it can truly happen that fast we have

seen it take place within a single eight

day retreat

so

start now and you too can experience the

initial stages of awakening

just follow the instructions exactly

benefits of loving kindness

there are many benefits to practicing

loving-kindness meditation

in

it says that when you practice meta

meditation you go to sleep easily and

sleep soundly

you have no nightmares

when you wake up you awaken easily and

quickly

people really like you

animals like you

your face becomes radiant and beautiful

you have good health

these are just a few of the benefits

when you practice loving kindness your

mind also becomes clear and quiet and

your progress in the meditation is very

fast

meta in daily life

continue to sit and practice

listen to talks read our books and study

more about the concepts surrounding this

practice

there are many resources on our website

when starting any new practice it is

usually best to immerse yourself in that

practice setting aside other practices

you may have done in the past until you

understand the new practice deeply and

thoroughly

otherwise you may be confused with the

various opinions and practices that are

out there

remember that we are not basing our

teaching on views or opinions but rather

on the study of the sodas themselves and

the direct experience of the meditation

practice

we invite you to follow this path as

well

the best way to experience deep

immersion into tranquil wisdom inside

meditation is to come for a retreat or

if you cannot get away do an online

retreat with us

check our website for more

information once you master staying with

a spiritual friend there are more

instructions for breaking down barriers

and radiating the feeling of meta in all

directions

the teacher will give you those

directions and advise you when you are

ready

this is where the practice of the

brahmavi heras really takes off

more phenomena will arise and a teacher

can guide you based on your progress

there are more instruction steps in this

practice but they are advanced

a new book is available that covers

these advanced instructions and all the

advanced john is up to and including the

experience of nibana the path to nibana

by david johnson available everywhere in

paper or ebook

for now master the ability to stay with

your spiritual friend perfectly and then

you could contact us for further advice

do a retreat or buy the advanced book

noted above and practice on your own

again when you are outside moving around

in daily life remember to smile and

radiate meta to all beings

use right effort to recondition your

mind

bring up the wholesome quality of loving

kindness instead of allowing whatever

ho-hum mind is there

stuck in a long line at the checkout

line

radiate meta

it is a tough job being a cashier at a

store so smile at the cashier and be

friendly

traffic bogged down and you just can't

move

rather than getting upset radiate meta

to your fellow drivers six are your

upset mind and replace it with a

wholesome uplifted mind

put a cd in the car player and listen to

a dhamma talk to learn more about the

eightfold path of the buddha rather than

wasting your own time ho-humming your

way through life

share what you have learned with other

people and let them benefit from your

practice

pay this practice forward once you

understand it

don't proselytize

just talk about what happened to you in

your own words

how is it helping you be happier

be the buddha rather than a buddhist

can't find a sitting group in your area

start your own

as soon as you find one more person you

have a group

meditate for at least 30 minutes listen

to a talk have some tea and discuss what

you have learned

right there you have just created your

own sitting group

little by little like drops of water

filling a cup you will soon come to

supreme awakening

it is possible to do this right now

the buddha showed us the way

just follow the instructions exactly

now go sit

for more information about tranquil

aware insight meditation please visit

www.damasuka.org

thank you for listening