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this is a book called a guide to
tranquil wisdom insight meditation by
bonte vimelaramsi
these are the full instructions for
loving-kindness meditation
for those who wish to experience the
cessation of suffering through the
elimination of craving
introduction
the purpose of this guide is to help
someone who is new to meditation and the
buddhist teachings walk the buddhist
path to the destruction of craving in
the elimination of ignorance
this guide will provide you with the
basic meditation instructions for the
practice of tranquil wisdom insight
meditation twim as taught by bonte
vimalaramsi
twim is the actual brahmavihara's
practice described in the suddas and it
includes the divine dwellings of
mindfulness of loving-kindness meta
mindfulness of compassion karuna
mindfulness of joy mudita and
mindfulness of equanimity apeka
the brahma-viharas are described by the
buddha in his earliest talks as recorded
in the suddens of the mijima nikaya
the instructions in this guide are based
on the sodas themselves and on
commentaries that are consistent with
the sodas
the instructions explain right effort
this is what we call the six rupees
the six rupees will be explained in
detail later
most buddhist mindfulness practices
today tend to focus on the breath as the
object of meditation
they only use meta and the brahma
viharas aside meditations to help one
with relaxation and as a way of
softening the breath practice and of
softening life in general
however the buddha discussed the
mindfulness of meta-practice many more
times in the sodas than the mindfulness
of breathing onoponicity practice only
eight times for mindfulness of breathing
and more than a hundred times for the
mindfulness of loving-kindness
although many teachers today do not
teach this or support this view the
buddha did state that the metta and
brahmavi harris practice on its own will
lead to the supreme attainment of nibana
the pseudo accompanied by loving
kindness in the samyatan nikaya 4654 iv
makes this clear
tranquil wisdom insight meditation using
meta or the feeling of loving kindness
as the object of meditation has been
found to be easier and to give faster
results than using the breath as the
object of meditation
it includes a powerful warm and glowing
feeling which helps your practice
because you enjoy doing it when
practicing this meditation you are
radiating loving kindness and giving
this feeling to others
this is building your generosity while
simultaneously developing a greater
sense of well-being and contentment
you are doing this not only while
engaged in your formal sitting practice
but also throughout your daily life
experience
this creates momentum from the time you
get up in the morning until the time you
go to sleep
this continuous practice can be very
conducive to fast progress
twim includes an all-important step that
is found in the sodas but is
misunderstood or left out of most
buddhist mindfulness practices these
days
this step is the key to the attainment
of nabana
you will learn more about this later
this is the relax step
this book is a guide to beginning
practice
a deeper understanding of how twim works
descriptions of insights levels of
understanding that arise and the suitor
references that support this meditation
are all beyond the scope of this booklet
the book meditation is life life as
meditation provides that information in
depth and detail
other books like breath of love and
moving dhamma also offer skillful
guidance once you are deeper in the
practice
a book by senior student doug craft
buddha's map is another good reference
for the concepts and experiences of twim
what is mindfulness
the term mindfulness has become
commonplace these days and is often
interpreted differently than what i
believe was originally formulated by the
buddha
you may have heard that mindfulness is
watching what arises diving into it and
focusing firmly on it to understand the
nature of what arises
the idea is that concentrating more
closely and harder on the object of
meditation will ultimately yield
profound insights
however that is not the mindfulness that
the buddha taught rather that is called
one-pointed concentration absorbing your
attention into an object
the buddha learned from his experiences
and described in suda 36 of the
medeshima nikaya the mahasakaka suda
that one pointed concentration will
quiet the mind temporarily but it will
not lead to an understanding of
suffering in the cause of suffering or
to nibbana
for that reason the buddha rejected
absorption and one-pointed concentration
practices
most teachers today miss this
significant point
yet suda 36 does spell it out
the buddha rejected the teachings of
alara kalama and adaka ramaputa teachers
of the most advanced concentration
states of the time
he left their training to continue his
search for yet another six years
here is a short clear and precise
definition of mindfulness as the buddha
taught it
mindfulness means to remember to observe
how mind's attention moves
from one thing to another
the first part of mindfulness is to
remember to watch the mind and remember
to return to your object of meditation
when you have wandered off
the second part of mindfulness is to
observe how mind's attention moves from
one thing to another
real insight is gained by watching how
your mind interacts with things as they
arise not by observing the things
themselves true mindfulness is
remembering to observe how your mind
moves and responds to what arises in the
present moment
with mindfulness we can understand how
things arise and pass away from
beginning to end
we do not care why things arise that is
the concern of psychologists and
philosophers
we only care about how they arise and
how they pass away how the movement of
mind's attention happens during that
entire process
when mindfulness becomes strong you
start to understand what craving really
is
craving is what pulls your mind away
from your object of meditation
tensions and tightness arise with
sensations and thoughts
craving is what starts the
identification process in which you take
something personally with an i like it
or i don't like it mind
mindfulness meditation is the process of
observing how mind's attention moves
moment to moment
mindfulness enables us to see clearly
and precisely how the impersonal process
of thoughts and sensations arises and
passes away
we identify with this process as
ourselves we take it personally
seeing and understanding how mind's
attention moves from one thing to
another personalizing experience and
creating an eye as it goes is one of the
most important insights of this practice
it develops an impersonal perspective on
all arising phenomena and leads the
meditator to see for themselves the true
nature of existence
you finally answer the question who or
what am i
the other important facet of mindfulness
once we have remembered and observed is
to catch ourselves when we get lost to
remember that we are supposed to come
back home
more on this as we explain the 6r
process later
why do we practice meta
as was said earlier the buddha talked
about meta meditation far more
frequently than he talked about breath
meditation and he made clear that meta
meditation as part of the brahma viharas
will lead to nibana
those are good enough reasons in and of
themselves to incline us toward meta
meditation
nevertheless there are other reasons as
well
first using the sodas as the guide
dhamasuka teaches mindfulness of breath
on a panicity differently than other
techniques which are one pointed
breath practice that focuses and
concentrates on the nose tip or belly is
not found in the suttas
the buddha never said to concentrate on
the breath he said to observe and to
know what the breath is doing in the
moment and to observe what mind's
attention was doing as we are breathing
as the mind starts to wander away this
is where we employ the six rupees to
softly without any pushing away bring
back our observation to the object of
meditation
we would prefer that those meditators
who have practiced breath meditation in
the past use a completely different
object of meditation
otherwise they may habitually revert to
the way they were taught using what we
very much consider bad habits
this can lead to confusion and a lack of
progress
we prefer to avoid a practice that
requires people to struggle against
their old ways of practicing
second we find that mindfulness of meta
and the practice of the brahma viharas
is easier because of the comfortable
feeling of meta
this is especially important for the
beginner because breath meditation may
be difficult to master since it is more
of a mental exercise
with mindfulness of meta because of its
pleasant nature you can also stay with
your object longer and it is more fun to
do
it's probably strange hearing that
meditation can be fun
third we have seen an actual practice
that progresses much faster with meta
because the feeling of meta itself is
quite pleasant
remember that this is a feeling
meditation and it is a pleasant happy
feeling
finally meta meditation again being a
feeling meditation distances you from
any other body based or sensation types
of meditation which involve
concentrating on parts of your body
it focuses on a feeling of loving
kindness
it avoids any bad habits that you might
have picked up
so let's get started
beginning posture
before meditating it is helpful to find
a relatively quiet place and to sit
comfortably and upright
sitting cross-legged is not required the
full lotus is certainly not necessary
a sitting posture that is familiar to
your body will be less distracting and
more helpful than one in which you are
uncomfortable or in pain
in the west many meditators find sitting
on the floor difficult
in that case use a chair rather than
causing yourself undue pain and
discomfort
there is no magic in the floor
avoid leaning heavily back into the
chair
sit with your vertebrae stacked one on
top of the other
the posture should be comfortable
the goals are to reduce any real
physical cause of tension and pain and
to improve alertness
we will have enough mental obstacles to
keep us busy
beginning loving kindness instructions
when you practice the mindfulness of
loving-kindness meditation begin by
radiating loving and kind feelings to
yourself
remember a time when you were happy
when that happy feeling arises it is a
warm glowing feeling
some of you may complain we actually do
hear this a lot that you cannot recall
any good memories
so then we ask can you imagine holding a
baby and looking into its eyes
do you feel a loving feeling
when that baby smiles do you
another idea is to imagine holding a
cute little puppy
when you look at the puppy you naturally
want to smile and play with him
the feeling you are creating is a warm
glowing and sincere feeling radiating
from your eyes your mind and your heart
once you have established this feeling
use this feeling to wish yourself
happiness
just as i was happy then may i be happy
now
continue with phrases like may i be
peaceful may i be happy may i be calm
do you know what it feels like to be
peaceful and calm then put that feeling
in yourself in the center of your heart
and surround yourself with that happy
feeling
when that feeling fades bring up another
phrase to remind you of the feeling
may i be tranquil may i be content may i
be full of joy
now give yourself a big heart hug
really and sincerely wish yourself to be
happy
love yourself and mean it
this feeling is your object of
meditation
each time the feeling fades repeat the
wish verbally a few times in your mind
just repeat it enough times to bring up
the feeling do not make it a mantra
saying a phrase over and over will not
bring up the feeling we want the phrase
just reminds us to bring the feeling up
when the feeling comes up we drop the
phrase
there are a number of other teachers who
focus on just saying the phrases over
and over and that doesn't work
that will just turn it into a
concentration practice on the phrase
some people visualize easily others do
not
it is not important that you clearly see
your object of meditation
just know it is there
keep the feeling of yourself in the
center of your chest wrapped in this
happy and content feeling
and we do mean really feel good
feel peaceful or calm or loving or
gentle or kind or giving or joyful or
clear or tranquil or accepting
be okay sitting and feeling this
it's okay to feel good let yourself be
there in the present just feeling this
contentment
you have nowhere to go you are on a
little vacation from life now
there is nothing to do other than to be
happy and radiate that feeling to
yourself
can you do that
don't try to be happy
be happy
be content
be at peace right here right now
you have our permission to be happy for
at least the next 30 minutes
this is a feeling meditation but don't
over observe the center of your chest
trying to bring up a feeling of loving
kindness
don't force a feeling where there isn't
one
don't put the cart before the horse
smile and feel that smile all through
your body
as you say the phrases bring this
feeling up and it will resonate in your
heart area on its own
sincerely wish your self happiness
believe it and know that you do wish
happiness for yourself
just be with this feeling know it is
there and smile with it
there may be some blocks that come up
such as saying to yourself no i don't
deserve to be happy like this
this aversion to your own happiness is a
distraction
distractions will be covered shortly
we will explain the method to deal with
them so that you can allow and train
yourself to feel real loving kindness
for a longer period of time
later when you begin feeling this
feeling toward others know that similar
blocks may come up and that these are
distractions too
there is no reason that others should
not be happy as well
the goal is first to accept and allow
yourself to be happy and peaceful
it's okay
then
since you feel that happiness in your
own mind you will be happy to share that
feeling with other beings
when you sit please don't move
don't wiggle your toes don't twitch or
itch don't rub don't scratch don't rock
back and forth
don't change your posture at all
sit as still as the monk below
when you sit still the mind calms down
if there is any movement all the mind
will be distracted just as jello sets up
it must be cooled and not jiggled around
to solidify
smiling
this is a smiling meditation
the reason that you should smile is that
it has been found that when the corners
of your mouth go up so does your mental
state
when the corners of your mouth go down
so does your mental state
put a little smile on your lips but do
not stop there put a smile in your eyes
even though your eyes are closed
you'll notice there can be a lot of
tension in the eyes
put a smile in your mind
and especially put a smile in your heart
it can be a mechanical smile at first
eventually it will turn into a sincere
happy feeling
it should be a smile that conveys
loving-kindness
it's important to believe it
smile with your lips smile from your
mind and smile from your heart
if your mind wanders away 25 times in a
sitting and 25 times you recognize it
release it relax re-smile and return to
your meditation then you've had a good
meditation
it definitely might not be a quiet and
calm meditation but it is an active
meditation and that can still be a good
meditation
every time your mind wanders away and
comes back and you relax and smile you
are developing your ability to see a
distraction and let it go
you are improving your mindfulness your
observation power
as you practice you will get better at
it and your powers of observation will
get stronger
distractions
while you practice meta-meditation in
this way your mind is going to wander
what do we mean by wander
you are with your object of meditation
which is the warm glowing feeling in the
center of your chest
you are experiencing this feeling then
you are distracted by some thought or
sensation
it might be a sensation of itching a
desire to cough a burning sensation or a
painful feeling in your leg
it might be a memory of a conversation
with a friend or of a trip to the lake
or it could be a thought about something
you need from the store
suddenly you are with that distraction
rather than with your objective
meditation
in other words your attention is
somewhere else
you are not sure how you got there or
what you are supposed to be doing
then you remember that you are
meditating and that you are supposed to
be on your object of meditation
remember that is the first part of the
definition of mindfulness
if you let go of your thinking about the
distraction and relax slightly you can
observe that there is a tight metal fist
wrapped around that sensation or thought
you can also observe that you don't want
it there
you want it to go away
but the more you want it to go away the
bigger and more intense the distraction
becomes
so your mind is on this itch this pain
this thought
how did it get there
it didn't just jump there
there is a process that happens and you
begin to see how your mind moves from
one thing to another
don't think about that but observe
carefully how the process happens
we aren't talking here about analyzing
why anything happens simply observe what
is happening
observe the way the mind moves and
reacts in the present that is the second
part of mindfulness the truth is that
when a sensation is there it's there
it's okay for it to be there
you're going to have distracting
thoughts and sensations come up and
that's okay
thoughts are not your enemy
in fact they are opportunities
every thought every feeling every
sensation that arises and distracts your
mind also causes tightness
the first noble truth is that there is
suffering
the second noble truth is that suffering
is caused by craving
the third noble truth is that there is
the cessation of suffering
the fourth noble truth is that there is
the path to the cessation of suffering
this path is the eightfold path this
tightness is how you can recognize the
very start of craving end as you may
know the second noble truth says that
craving is the cause of suffering
life is not suffering craving is what
makes it so
distractions are telling you what you
crave the things to which you are
attached
seeing and understanding what you like
and dislike is the first step toward
letting go of those attachments
your brain has two lobes that are
contained in three membranes called the
meninges
it is like a bag wrapped around your
brain and spine
anytime that there is a distraction
there is a perceptible movement in the
brain and the brain seems some will
disagree with this but something is felt
to start to expand against this membrane
the thought causes tightness or tension
to arise which we can observe for
ourselves
anytime you notice this tension and
tightness you will want to actively
relax this tightness and soften into it
by relaxing you are releasing the
craving
more on this when we get to the six
rupees
when craving is released there is a
slight feeling of expansion in your head
right after you relax you will notice
that your mind is very peaceful and calm
your mind is alert and there are no
thoughts
at this time you have a pure mind
now bring that pure mind back to your
object of meditation the feeling of
loving kindness and smiling that warm
radiating happy feeling
now make another wish for your happiness
put that feeling into your heart and
radiate that happy feeling to yourself
it does not matter how many times your
attention is pulled away by a
distraction
thoughts and sensations don't go away
the first time you notice them and
that's okay
as these distractions come back again
and again you will become increasingly
familiar with how they arise
with practice their intensity and
frequency will subside
hindrances
the buddha talked about five hindrances
to meditation
hindrances are distractions that will
pull you away from your object of
meditation five troublemakers who will
surely come calling
every distraction is based on at least
one of the five hindrances
often they come two or three at a time
and gang up
the five hindrances are
one
sensual desire i like that otherwise
known as lustful or greedy mind
you will hang on to things that are
pleasant and want more
this will cause attachment to pleasant
states of mind that have arisen in the
past and desire for pleasant states to
arise in the future
two
anger aversion
fear i don't like that
you will want to push away states of
mind that you don't like
or you might experience fear or anger
over unpleasant or painful feelings that
have already arisen
you will try to push away and control
anything causing you pain
you will even try to force your mind to
experience things in a certain way that
you think is right when you should just
observe what is there
now that is really overly controlling
three
sloth and torpor dullness and sleepiness
these will cause lack of effort and
determination because you have lost
interest in your object of meditation
you will experience a mental fog
when you look at it closely you see that
it has tightness and tension in it
there is even craving in sleepiness
four
restlessness with restlessness you
constantly want to move and change
to do something other than what you are
doing to be somewhere other than here
restlessness can manifest as very tight
unpleasant feelings in the body and mind
5.
doubt you are not sure you are following
the instructions correctly or even if
this is the right practice
it makes you feel unsure of yourself and
may even manifest as a lack of
confidence in the buddha's teaching or
your teacher or both
when the hindrances arise your job is
neither to like them nor to fight with
them
your job is to accept them to invite
them in and to offer them tea
don't feed them with your attention
forcing and not liking their being there
just gives them the attention they crave
and makes them stronger
that's what happens with one pointed
concentration meditation
you force the hindrances away by
practicing intense concentration
however as soon as you stop meditating
they come back sometimes even stronger
if you just let hindrances be there
turning your attention to something that
is wholesome instead the energy inherent
in them will gradually fade away
they will disappear like a fire that
runs out of fuel
that's how you overcome the hindrances
for good
the fire just goes out
in poly nibana translates as knee or no
and banner or fire
no fire
no craving
no hindrance
the six rupees
now we are going to give you specific
instructions on how to work with the
hindrances in the way the buddha taught
imagine for a moment the bodhisattva
resting under the rose apple tree as a
young boy
he was not serious or tense he was
having fun watching his father's
festival
right then he attained to a pleasant
abiding jhana as stated in the sudas
with a light mind he could come to a
very tranquil and aware state
later on the eve of his enlightenment
after he had tried every method of
meditation and bodily exercise that was
known in india at that time he
remembered this state
and he realized that this simple state
this tranquil aware and happy state was
the key to attaining awakening
but how to convey this
when he was teaching the buddha worked
largely with uneducated farmers and
merchants
he had to have a simple effective
practice that was easy and worked
quickly he had to have a method by which
everyone could experience the path and
benefits for themselves easily and
immediately
this is how he was able to affect so
many people during his lifetime
do you want to see clearly
it's easy lighten up have fun exploring
relax and smile
relaxing and smiling leads you to a
happier more interesting practice
that sounds like great advice but how do
you do it
when you have been carried away by a
distraction and you lose your smile just
follow these steps
one
recognize that mine's attention has
drifted away and that you are lost in
thought
you have forgotten what you were doing
you are no longer on your object of
meditation
2.
release your attachment to the thought
or sensation by letting the distraction
be by not giving it any more attention
just stop feeding it
just back away from it
3.
relax any remaining tension or tightness
caused by that distraction
4.
re-smile
put that smile back on your lips and in
your heart
feel again that happy feeling of loving
kindness
5.
return or redirect
gently redirect mind's attention back to
the object of meditation that is to meta
continue with a gentle collected mind to
stay with your object of meditation
6.
repeat this entire practice cycle
repeat this practice whenever your
attention is distracted away from your
object of meditation
we call these the six rupees they are
drawn directly from the suda text as
part of right effort
the first four r's are the four right
efforts with the last two hours to
remind you to return and repeat as
needed
notice that you never push anything away
you never try to control anything trying
to control is using craving to eliminate
craving
please don't do the six rupees for some
slight noise in the background or a
minor bodily feeling
as long as you are still with your
feeling of loving kindness just stay
with that feeling and let it deepen
ignore those slight distractions in the
background
as a beginner do the six rupees only if
your attention is completely gone from
the object
in the explanation of the eightfold path
in the sodas one of the components is
right effort
right effort in the six rupees are the
same things
what is right effort
one
you notice that an unwholesome state has
arisen
2.
you stop paying attention to that
unwholesome feeling letting it be there
by itself with no pushing away or
holding on to it
3.
you bring up a wholesome feeling
4.
you stay with that wholesome feeling
the six rupees just add the return and
repeat to complete the cycle
we are practicing right effort by
repeating the six rupees cycle again and
again
we see and experience for ourselves what
suffering is and how to relieve it
you notice what causes you to become
tense and tight and then how to reach
its cessation by releasing and relaxing
and bringing up a wholesome object
you discover how to exercise the direct
path to the cessation of
this happens each time you recognize and
release an arising feeling relax and
re-smile
notice the relief
when you look at the benefits discussed
in the pseudo about the dhamma there is
a phrase that says the dhamma is
immediately effective
by practicing the six rupees you fulfill
this statement
when you relax the tension or tightness
caused by a distraction you immediately
experience the third noble truth the
cessation of suffering
in other words you are purifying the
mind by relaxing and letting go of
suffering
you see this for yourself
then you bring up a wholesome object by
smiling and return mind's attention back
to meta which is a wholesome feeling you
do not have to practice for long periods
months or years to feel relief
you can see it right after the relaxed
step of the six rupees
you notice the moment of a pure mind
free from craving
by repeating the six rupees over and
over depriving the hindrances of
attention their fuel you will eventually
replace all of the unwholesome mental
habits with wholesome ones
in this way you bring up only wholesome
states and will eventually achieve the
cessation of suffering
to be successful in meditation you need
to develop your mindfulness skill and
observation power
also keeping up your sense of fun and
exploration is important
this helps to improve your mindfulness
the six rupees training develops these
necessary skills
sometimes people say this practice is
simpler than they thought
some have actually complained to the
teacher because they want this
meditation to be more complicated
now let us go through each of the steps
in more depth
recognize
mindfulness remembers to observe and
recognize movements of mind's attention
from one thing to another that is from
the meditation object to the distraction
this observing notices any movement of
mind's attention away from the object of
meditation
one can notice a slight tightness or
tension as mine's attention begins to
move toward the arising phenomenon
pleasant or painful feelings can occur
at any one of the six sense doors
any sight sound odor taste touch or
thought can cause a distraction to arise
with careful non-judgmental observation
you will notice a slight tightening
sensation arising both in mind and
physically in the brain itself
recognizing early movement of mind is
vital to successful meditation
you then continue on to
release
when a thought about something arises
release it
let it be there without giving any more
attention to it
the content of the distraction is not
important at all but the mechanics of
how it arose are important
don't analyze it or try to figure out
why it is there let it be without
keeping mine's attention on it
without your mind's attention the
distraction loses energy and passes away
when you do not keep your attention on
it a distraction and the mental chatter
about it ceases
mindfulness then reminds the meditator
too
relax
after releasing the thought and allowing
it to be by itself without trying to
watch it or get involved in it there is
a subtle barely noticeable tightness or
tension remaining within mind and body
to remove this remaining tension the
buddha introduced a relaxed step
the suit is called the relaxed step
tranquilizing the bodily formation
this is true especially for your head
which is part of your body it means to
unclench your attention from and around
the thought
it is more than just letting it go
it actively softens and relaxes and lets
the distraction be there which then
weakens its power
gradually it disappears completely on
its own
please do not skip this step
it is the most important part of this
meditation
it is the missing step we talked about
in the introduction
it is the key to progress
without performing this step of relaxing
every time you are distracted from your
meditation object you will not
experience the close-up view of the
cessation of the tightness caused by
craving
you will not feel the relief as this
tension is relaxed
remember that craving always manifests
first as a tightness or tension in both
your mind and body
the relaxed step gives you a kind of
mundane nibbana
you have a momentary opportunity to see
and experience the true nature of and
relief from tightness and suffering
while performing the release and relax
steps
mindfulness then continues to remember
too
re-smile if you have listened to the
dhamma talks on our website you might
remember hearing about how smiling is an
important aspect of the meditation
learning to smile and raising slightly
the corners of the mouth helps the mind
to be observant alert agile and bright
getting serious tensing up or frowning
causes mind to become heavy in your
mindfulness to become dull and slow
insights become more difficult to see
thus slowing down your understanding of
dhamma
return
redirect your mind back to your object
of meditation
gently redirect the mind and don't jerk
it back before you are ready
make this a harmonious movement a
movement that is timely and not forced
repeat
repeat this entire practice cycle as
often as needed
stay with your object until you slip and
then run the six rupees again
spiritual friend
for the first 10 minutes of your sitting
radiate loving kindness to yourself
wrap yourself up in that happy tranquil
feeling using the previous instructions
for the rest of the sitting radiate
loving and kind thoughts to a spiritual
friend
what is a spiritual friend
now we will select our next object of
meditation the spiritual friend
it is very important that they are a
living person of the same sex and are
not a member of your family
when a spiritual friend is of a
different sex it may lead to lustful
feeling and this complicates your
experience
this is the traditional way of teaching
meta
if this instruction does not fit you
then just make sure the person you
select does not raise lustful feelings
in your mind when you are radiating
loving kindness remember you will be
spending a long time with this person
your spiritual friend should be someone
who you deeply respect and sincerely
wish well
they are someone who makes you smile
when you think of them
it might be a favorite teacher or
counselor who has your highest goals in
mind
it might be a friend who always has your
back and supports whatever you do
please do not use a member of your
family as your spiritual friend because
family members are too close to you
family members will be brought into your
practice at a later time but for now
they may raise hidden issues that
interfere with the practice
initially we want to keep this easy and
uncomplicated
do not radiate to a person who is dead
the feeling will not arise correctly as
there is no personal connection that can
be made
you make the wish for your spiritual
friend in this way as i feel this
happiness in myself may you be happy and
peaceful
wrap them up in the feeling of loving
kindness place them in the center of
your heart and smile at them as you are
doing this
really be sincere about this really
believe it
the more you believe it the stronger the
feeling will become
and your friend will feel this
people who have been picked as spiritual
friends report having these warm
feelings arising in their bodies at the
time you radiate meta to them
if you ask them they will tell you they
had a great week
continue wishing them well and see them
in your mind's eye but don't put too
much emphasis on the actual mental image
of them again some people are very good
at visualizing and some are not
just know who they are and that you wish
them well
the phrases are a way of priming the
pump they evoke the feeling
as you make that wish shift your
attention to the feeling itself
remember that your object of meditation
is the feeling
stay with that feeling and let it grow
as it will
don't force it just give it some gentle
encouragement
sooner or later the feeling will fade
when it does repeat the phrases again
it is not helpful to repeat phrases
rapidly
that makes the phrase feel mechanical
rather say it sincerely and rest for a
few moments with the feeling it evokes
repeat a phrase again only if it hasn't
brought up the feeling
some people ask are we sending or
pushing this feeling outward to the
friend
no we are not trying to push anything
out
we are just seeing our friend in the
center of our heart and wishing for him
or her to be happy
we are not sending telegraphing or
overnighting any sort of feeling
when a candle radiates warmth and light
is it actively sending that feeling out
no it radiates out because that is the
nature of warmth and light
in the same way we surround and immerse
our friend with this feeling wishing it
for them and seeing them smiling and
happy
this process is a combination of three
things arising the radiating feeling in
your heart the mental phrase and your
image of yourself or your spiritual
friend
about 75 of your attention should be on
the radiating of the feeling 20 on
feeling the wish and just a little say
five percent on visualizing your
spiritual friend
some people think they should make the
visualization a bigger part of their
practice
then they complain about having
tightness in their head
this is because they are pushing the
idea of seeing their spiritual friend
too much
the teacher will tell them to stop
trying so hard because the most
important part of meta is feeling the
radiating making a sincere wish for
their spiritual friends happiness and
then feeling that happiness not
visualizing their friend
if you are getting a headache or feeling
pressure you are trying too hard
smile again and back off a little
when you picture your spiritual friend
see them smiling and happy
remember to keep a little smile on your
lips for the entire meditation session
if you find yourself not smiling then
this will be a reminder to smile once
again
bring up another wish and send a kind
feeling to your friend
your face isn't used to smiling so
please be patient
your cheeks might even hurt a little but
you will get used to it and that
uneasiness will pass
please don't criticize yourself for
forgetting to smile
critical thoughts about anything are
unwholesome and lead to more suffering
this is called judgment thoughts
they are basically bringing aversion
against yourself
it is a kind of mild self-hatred and
criticism
if you see that you are coming down on
yourself for forgetting to smile
then laugh with yourself for having such
a crazy mind
relax and let go of those thoughts
understand that everyone has a crazy
mind and that it is okay to have this
craziness
laugh with yourself about it this
meditation is supposed to be fun
remember
smile and laugh at getting caught again
then start all over with your object of
meditation
life is a game to play so keep
everything light and have fun all of the
time
it does take practice but this is why
you are doing this practice
play with things and don't take them too
seriously
this is a serious meditation but we do
not want you to be serious
your mind should not be too serious
rather it should be light and uplifted
smile and if that does not work then
laughing a little bit should help you
get back into that happier alert state
of mind
you will use the same spiritual friend
the entire time until the teacher says
you can change
this may be a few days or weeks
if practicing on your own get in touch
with us via the website and let us help
you
you can become part of our yahoo
discussion group
the more you can stay in the present
happy in content feeling happiness with
your spiritual friend the sooner you
will be able to move on to the next step
of the meditation
you can always contact us through our
website for guidance
once you have settled on a good
spiritual friend
stay with that person
if you switch from one person to another
the practice won't be able to ripen or
deepen
sometimes meditators want to send meta
to other people or to all beings
this is just a subtle way your mind
distracts you
you want to stay with the same friend in
the beginning so that you can build your
collectedness
we replace the word concentration with
the word collectedness to help clarify
that we are not forcing our minds to
stay on only one object of meditation in
a forceful fixed way
rather we want our mind to rest lightly
on the object
if your mind wanders use the six rupees
when there are no distractions there is
no need to exert any effort to keep your
mind on its object
it just stays there by itself
that is really an amazing thing to see
happen
again there may be times that some
random thoughts and sensations arise
while you are on your object of
meditation but which are not strong
enough to pull your attention away
completely from it
when this happens ignore those and stay
with your meditation object
these thoughts and distractions will go
away by themselves there is no need to
six are them so let's review
1.
sit for a minimum of 30 minutes why is
explained later
2.
begin by radiating kind and happy
thoughts and wishes to yourself for
about 10 minutes
3.
switch to your one chosen spiritual
friend for the remainder of your sitting
at least 20 minutes and radiate kind and
happy thoughts to them for the rest of
the session
stay with just the same friend and do
not switch to anything or anyone else
even if you think they deserve your
attention
such desires are just more distractions
the mind can be very sneaky
4.
use the six rupees to overcome
distractions
when the feeling of meta starts to
become stronger notice it and sink into
it smile into it and let it develop by
itself
if you find that you are subtly
verbalizing the phrases and the
verbalizing starts to cause some
tightness let go of the verbalization
and just feel the wish
this will allow the feeling to grow even
stronger
stay with the feeling and just be in the
moment without pushing or leaning into
it
this practice will take time to master
in a sense this is a kind of not doing
you are not controlling or pushing the
feeling you are just gently directing it
if there is tension in your body from
trying to send it out then you are
putting in too much effort
there should just be the wish for
happiness in the same way you wish
someone good luck on a journey
you stand and wave as they go you don't
stand and try to push a feeling out to
them
similarly with meta meditation you
simply smile and wish this feeling of
gentle loving kindness
after doing the six rupees and getting
the hang of it there will be a hindrance
that arises
finally u6 are the last little bit of
tension from it and it disappears
completely
craving is eliminated for the first time
a small amount of craving is gone never
to arise again
because of the hindrance disappearing
joy arises and for the first time you
are experiencing the first tranquil
aware jhana
there will be more to go as you progress
along this path
as your practice advances you will find
that the joy is there
it can be goosebumps thrills or just
excitement arising
a pleasant tranquil feeling will follow
it
as you go deeper your confidence gets
stronger and you understand that what
you are doing is right practice
also you will notice there is a much
deeper state of quiet in your mind than
you have ever experienced before
it is like someone turned off the
refrigerator you never even realized was
on
you might notice that you are not aware
of parts of your body unless you direct
your attention to them
this is a normal development as your
body starts to lose tension and
tightness and this indicates progress
finally as you get deeper the feeling of
loving kindness may rise into your head
never try to control the feeling if it
wants to move there then let it move
now you have become an advanced
meditator
when this happens you will be ready for
the next step of the meditation practice
contact us through our website
we will not cover that here as this is
now advanced practice and requires more
instructions
you are now on your way through the
tranquil aware genres to the experience
of awakening
forgiveness meditation
there may be for some difficulty with
bringing up and sustaining the feeling
of loving kindness even after following
all the instructions and guidance here
you may bring up a phrase may i be happy
may i be content and this causes
self-aversion or hatred to arise
i don't deserve it i am not a nice
person may arise in your mind
you try the 6rs and it doesn't really
work
there is no loving kindness there your
heart just has no feeling and is dry and
maybe hard
you may find the practice of forgiveness
meditation will help with this
we find now a not so small percentage of
students benefit tremendously from
switching to forgiveness in which you
radiate forgiveness to yourself and
forgiving everything that comes up and
as people come up you forgive them until
they forgive you
you can find out more about this
practice at the dhamma sukkah website
and in a book called forgiveness
meditation by bonte vimalaramsi
this small forgiveness book as well as
the text of this book has also been
included as an appendix in the more
complete book about this practice the
path to nibana by david johnson
forgiveness is about letting go of the
past and softening our minds
everyone can benefit from practicing
forgiveness
walking meditation
an important part of the meta practice
is walking meditation
please do not ignore it
you need to walk to keep your energy up
especially after longer sittings
you can use walking meditation to build
energy or uplift your mind before
sitting if you feel sleepy or have low
energy
sometimes when your mind is distracted
walking will make it easier to calm a
restless mind so that you can go back to
sitting
walking meditation on the other hand can
add energy to your sitting by getting
your blood flowing
walking meditation is a powerful
meditation on its own but in conjunction
with meta meditation it helps you to
incorporate meta into your everyday life
and activities
please do remember that this is an all
the time practice
find a place to walk that is at least 30
paces and is straight and level
walk at a normal pace as if you are
taking a stroll in the park on a sunday
afternoon not slowly like a turtle but
at a speed that is neither too fast nor
too slow
your eyes should be directed down in
front of you six to ten feet ahead
do not put your attention on your feet
instead stay with your spiritual friend
please do not look around as that will
distract you from your meditation
this is not a nature walk but part of
the actual practice where you are
radiating kind and happy thoughts to
your spiritual friend
as much as possible stay with that
practice the entire time you are walking
it is just like when you are sitting
with the only difference being that you
are walking instead of sitting
you may do this inside or outside as the
weather permits
it is best done outside in the open air
but try to avoid the heat of direct
sunlight you can also walk inside in a
circular path around a room or down a
hallway
some meditators make a lot of progress
while walking it can go quite deep
do not take this instruction lightly as
it is an important part of the practice
it also helps us learn how to practice
meta in our everyday life where we are
more active out in the world
walk for about 15 to 30 minutes and
never more than an hour as this much
walking will tire your body out
however do walk at a good pace so that
by the end of it you will feel your
heart pumping and you may be slightly
out of breath
then you can sit and be fully alert
walking can bring calmness clarity or
energy depending on what you need at the
time
keep it going
30 minutes of meditation a day is the
minimum to start
from our experience it takes 15 to 20
minutes to get the mind to settle down
then you are giving yourself another 10
productive minutes where you can truly
watch and observe
45 minutes is better
just the fact you are sitting and not
moving permits the mind to calm down
the longer you sit the more your mind
will calm on its own without you doing
anything else
so
sitting longer and not moving is vital
to progress to deeper states
on retreat you will at first sit at
least 30 minutes walk 15 minutes then
sit again alternating like this for the
whole day
your sittings will naturally get longer
and longer throughout the retreat and
may eventually last as long as two to
three hours
in your daily life sitting twice a day
is very helpful
once you are comfortable try to stay
completely still throughout the sitting
period
if the mind insists on moving six are
the desire to move
the six rupees are very helpful in
dissolving tension and finding deeper
ease
if pain arises please watch how it
arises
you can tell if the pain is genuine by
noticing what happens when you get up
from sitting
if the pain goes away very quickly it is
a meditation pain which is in fact a
mental pain and is not caused by
anything harmful
it is just a distraction
if it returns when you sit try to remain
still in 6r
if when you get up the pain lingers and
stays with you it is best not to sit
that way in the future because this
would be ac to all physical pain
manifesting
if we try to get rid of painful or
unpleasant feelings forcefully whether
mental or physical we just add more
greed and aversion to the mind
this fuels the vicious cycle of samsara
however if we approach an unpleasant
feeling openly and without taking it
personally we view these unwholesome
qualities with wholesome awareness
this pure clear awareness gradually
melts that disturbing feeling
moreover you might notice the feeling
linger but your attitude toward it has
changed
if you get sleepy sitting inside try
sitting outside but not in the direct
sun
the outdoors tends to wake you up
you can even try doing the walking
practice backward after you walk forward
30 paces
instead of turning around just walk
backward to the starting point
meditation and its benefits increase if
you can continue to cultivate awareness
throughout the day
smile and send meta whenever you think
of it
when you notice difficult feelings
coming up six are them
do this with a sense of fun and humor at
just how crazy mind can be
if you get serious and try to control
the mind that is just more craving
you may wear yourself out and become
frustrated
so do this lightly but with as much
continuity as possible
add meta to everything
you can bring loving kindness into
everything that you do
generally you will do your sitting at
home but you can also smile and radiate
well-being and happiness to all beings
when you are out and about
if you are just going out walking or
shopping you do not have to stay with a
spiritual friend
stay with a general feeling of meta
smile more
notice and six are emotional upsets that
arise
when unwholesome states of mind arise
see them as opportunities
let them be and bring up wholesome ones
this is the meaning of right effort in
the buddha's no late fold path
progress in jhana
as you make progress with the meditation
you will see all kinds of new phenomena
joy and other pleasant experiences will
arise
some of them will be really worth the
price of admission
the first time you truly and completely
let go of a hindrance you will have your
first experience of the janic state and
be on your way to going even deeper
you will start to be friends with fun
stuff like joy contentment equanimity
and more
good times are on the way
brahma viharas and nabana
the buddha talked about four divine
qualities of mind that are particularly
wholesome
they are called the brahma viharas and
consist of loving kindness
meta compassion karuna sympathetic joy
mudida we actually prefer just joy and
equanimity apeca
this is the practice you are starting
now
you will gradually go through all these
states very naturally as meta becomes
quieter and turns to compassion and so
on through joy to equanimity
you do not need to change the practice
as you go the states themselves will
develop and arise on their own
once you become an advanced meditator
you just have to keep the meditation
going
the brahmavi hair is developed naturally
one by one without you having to bring
up each of these states as its own
separate meditation object
when the next state arises then you take
that state whether it be compassion or
joy as the feeling to be the object of
meditation and continue radiating that
out now
this is another important difference
from how other practices have you
developed meta
the buddha taught that when the
meditation is properly practiced all
four divine states arise on their own
one after the other
you will learn how to radiate any of
these four states to all the six
directions and then to all directions at
the same time
as this happens the jhanas will arise
naturally on their own as well
the word jhana is a loaded word
it has been translated in many different
ways but we refer to the genres as
levels of understanding
we do not want to confuse them with
their one-pointed absorption jhana
cousins
they are related but these are ones in
which the meditator keeps awareness of
their body whereas the others do not
the buddha taught that the key to
understanding craving and distractions
is to realize that mind and body are one
process that cannot be separated
tension and tightness are bodily
processes while thought and images are
mental processes
we not only want to pay attention to the
mind but also be aware of what is
happening in the body and not ignore or
repress this awareness through one
pointed focused concentration
we call the genic states that we
experience with this meditation the
tranquil awareness
there are eight of them
four rupaul or material genres and four
arupa or immaterial genres
beyond the highest immaterial genre lies
the experience of nibana itself
your mind will become so quiet that it
just stops
when the mind comes back from that
cessation experience it will be
incredibly bright and clear with no
disturbance like a blackboard with
nothing on it
at that point when the next mental
process arises you will see with
astonishing clarity every link and part
of this process that we call life as it
arises and passes away this process is
what the bud dha called dependent
origination
there are 12 links in each moment of
experience and you will see how all of
these arise and pass away
you will see how all of these
dependently arise one upon the other
when you see very deeply into this
process you will understand on a
profound personal level that all of the
aggregates that make up you or the eye
are impersonal and without any enduring
self or soul
this experience is so profound that
nibbana will arise and you will
understand the true nature of all
existence
you will have attained awakening in this
very life there will be so much relief
experiencing awakening nibana happens
for many people who follow these simple
directions
it does not take years or decades
the buddha said that this practice is
immediately effective
in the saudi patana pseudo of the
mejchima nikaya he says that this
experience can take place in as little
as seven years or even seven days
it can truly happen that fast we have
seen it take place within a single eight
day retreat
so
start now and you too can experience the
initial stages of awakening
just follow the instructions exactly
benefits of loving kindness
there are many benefits to practicing
loving-kindness meditation
in
it says that when you practice meta
meditation you go to sleep easily and
sleep soundly
you have no nightmares
when you wake up you awaken easily and
quickly
people really like you
animals like you
your face becomes radiant and beautiful
you have good health
these are just a few of the benefits
when you practice loving kindness your
mind also becomes clear and quiet and
your progress in the meditation is very
fast
meta in daily life
continue to sit and practice
listen to talks read our books and study
more about the concepts surrounding this
practice
there are many resources on our website
when starting any new practice it is
usually best to immerse yourself in that
practice setting aside other practices
you may have done in the past until you
understand the new practice deeply and
thoroughly
otherwise you may be confused with the
various opinions and practices that are
out there
remember that we are not basing our
teaching on views or opinions but rather
on the study of the sodas themselves and
the direct experience of the meditation
practice
we invite you to follow this path as
well
the best way to experience deep
immersion into tranquil wisdom inside
meditation is to come for a retreat or
if you cannot get away do an online
retreat with us
check our website for more
information once you master staying with
a spiritual friend there are more
instructions for breaking down barriers
and radiating the feeling of meta in all
directions
the teacher will give you those
directions and advise you when you are
ready
this is where the practice of the
brahmavi heras really takes off
more phenomena will arise and a teacher
can guide you based on your progress
there are more instruction steps in this
practice but they are advanced
a new book is available that covers
these advanced instructions and all the
advanced john is up to and including the
experience of nibana the path to nibana
by david johnson available everywhere in
paper or ebook
for now master the ability to stay with
your spiritual friend perfectly and then
you could contact us for further advice
do a retreat or buy the advanced book
noted above and practice on your own
again when you are outside moving around
in daily life remember to smile and
radiate meta to all beings
use right effort to recondition your
mind
bring up the wholesome quality of loving
kindness instead of allowing whatever
ho-hum mind is there
stuck in a long line at the checkout
line
radiate meta
it is a tough job being a cashier at a
store so smile at the cashier and be
friendly
traffic bogged down and you just can't
move
rather than getting upset radiate meta
to your fellow drivers six are your
upset mind and replace it with a
wholesome uplifted mind
put a cd in the car player and listen to
a dhamma talk to learn more about the
eightfold path of the buddha rather than
wasting your own time ho-humming your
way through life
share what you have learned with other
people and let them benefit from your
practice
pay this practice forward once you
understand it
don't proselytize
just talk about what happened to you in
your own words
how is it helping you be happier
be the buddha rather than a buddhist
can't find a sitting group in your area
start your own
as soon as you find one more person you
have a group
meditate for at least 30 minutes listen
to a talk have some tea and discuss what
you have learned
right there you have just created your
own sitting group
little by little like drops of water
filling a cup you will soon come to
supreme awakening
it is possible to do this right now
the buddha showed us the way
just follow the instructions exactly
now go sit
for more information about tranquil
aware insight meditation please visit
www.damasuka.org
thank you for listening
this is a book called a guide to
tranquil wisdom insight meditation by
bonte vimelaramsi
these are the full instructions for
loving-kindness meditation
for those who wish to experience the
cessation of suffering through the
elimination of craving
introduction
the purpose of this guide is to help
someone who is new to meditation and the
buddhist teachings walk the buddhist
path to the destruction of craving in
the elimination of ignorance
this guide will provide you with the
basic meditation instructions for the
practice of tranquil wisdom insight
meditation twim as taught by bonte
vimalaramsi
twim is the actual brahmavihara's
practice described in the suddas and it
includes the divine dwellings of
mindfulness of loving-kindness meta
mindfulness of compassion karuna
mindfulness of joy mudita and
mindfulness of equanimity apeka
the brahma-viharas are described by the
buddha in his earliest talks as recorded
in the suddens of the mijima nikaya
the instructions in this guide are based
on the sodas themselves and on
commentaries that are consistent with
the sodas
the instructions explain right effort
this is what we call the six rupees
the six rupees will be explained in
detail later
most buddhist mindfulness practices
today tend to focus on the breath as the
object of meditation
they only use meta and the brahma
viharas aside meditations to help one
with relaxation and as a way of
softening the breath practice and of
softening life in general
however the buddha discussed the
mindfulness of meta-practice many more
times in the sodas than the mindfulness
of breathing onoponicity practice only
eight times for mindfulness of breathing
and more than a hundred times for the
mindfulness of loving-kindness
although many teachers today do not
teach this or support this view the
buddha did state that the metta and
brahmavi harris practice on its own will
lead to the supreme attainment of nibana
the pseudo accompanied by loving
kindness in the samyatan nikaya 4654 iv
makes this clear
tranquil wisdom insight meditation using
meta or the feeling of loving kindness
as the object of meditation has been
found to be easier and to give faster
results than using the breath as the
object of meditation
it includes a powerful warm and glowing
feeling which helps your practice
because you enjoy doing it when
practicing this meditation you are
radiating loving kindness and giving
this feeling to others
this is building your generosity while
simultaneously developing a greater
sense of well-being and contentment
you are doing this not only while
engaged in your formal sitting practice
but also throughout your daily life
experience
this creates momentum from the time you
get up in the morning until the time you
go to sleep
this continuous practice can be very
conducive to fast progress
twim includes an all-important step that
is found in the sodas but is
misunderstood or left out of most
buddhist mindfulness practices these
days
this step is the key to the attainment
of nabana
you will learn more about this later
this is the relax step
this book is a guide to beginning
practice
a deeper understanding of how twim works
descriptions of insights levels of
understanding that arise and the suitor
references that support this meditation
are all beyond the scope of this booklet
the book meditation is life life as
meditation provides that information in
depth and detail
other books like breath of love and
moving dhamma also offer skillful
guidance once you are deeper in the
practice
a book by senior student doug craft
buddha's map is another good reference
for the concepts and experiences of twim
what is mindfulness
the term mindfulness has become
commonplace these days and is often
interpreted differently than what i
believe was originally formulated by the
buddha
you may have heard that mindfulness is
watching what arises diving into it and
focusing firmly on it to understand the
nature of what arises
the idea is that concentrating more
closely and harder on the object of
meditation will ultimately yield
profound insights
however that is not the mindfulness that
the buddha taught rather that is called
one-pointed concentration absorbing your
attention into an object
the buddha learned from his experiences
and described in suda 36 of the
medeshima nikaya the mahasakaka suda
that one pointed concentration will
quiet the mind temporarily but it will
not lead to an understanding of
suffering in the cause of suffering or
to nibbana
for that reason the buddha rejected
absorption and one-pointed concentration
practices
most teachers today miss this
significant point
yet suda 36 does spell it out
the buddha rejected the teachings of
alara kalama and adaka ramaputa teachers
of the most advanced concentration
states of the time
he left their training to continue his
search for yet another six years
here is a short clear and precise
definition of mindfulness as the buddha
taught it
mindfulness means to remember to observe
how mind's attention moves
from one thing to another
the first part of mindfulness is to
remember to watch the mind and remember
to return to your object of meditation
when you have wandered off
the second part of mindfulness is to
observe how mind's attention moves from
one thing to another
real insight is gained by watching how
your mind interacts with things as they
arise not by observing the things
themselves true mindfulness is
remembering to observe how your mind
moves and responds to what arises in the
present moment
with mindfulness we can understand how
things arise and pass away from
beginning to end
we do not care why things arise that is
the concern of psychologists and
philosophers
we only care about how they arise and
how they pass away how the movement of
mind's attention happens during that
entire process
when mindfulness becomes strong you
start to understand what craving really
is
craving is what pulls your mind away
from your object of meditation
tensions and tightness arise with
sensations and thoughts
craving is what starts the
identification process in which you take
something personally with an i like it
or i don't like it mind
mindfulness meditation is the process of
observing how mind's attention moves
moment to moment
mindfulness enables us to see clearly
and precisely how the impersonal process
of thoughts and sensations arises and
passes away
we identify with this process as
ourselves we take it personally
seeing and understanding how mind's
attention moves from one thing to
another personalizing experience and
creating an eye as it goes is one of the
most important insights of this practice
it develops an impersonal perspective on
all arising phenomena and leads the
meditator to see for themselves the true
nature of existence
you finally answer the question who or
what am i
the other important facet of mindfulness
once we have remembered and observed is
to catch ourselves when we get lost to
remember that we are supposed to come
back home
more on this as we explain the 6r
process later
why do we practice meta
as was said earlier the buddha talked
about meta meditation far more
frequently than he talked about breath
meditation and he made clear that meta
meditation as part of the brahma viharas
will lead to nibana
those are good enough reasons in and of
themselves to incline us toward meta
meditation
nevertheless there are other reasons as
well
first using the sodas as the guide
dhamasuka teaches mindfulness of breath
on a panicity differently than other
techniques which are one pointed
breath practice that focuses and
concentrates on the nose tip or belly is
not found in the suttas
the buddha never said to concentrate on
the breath he said to observe and to
know what the breath is doing in the
moment and to observe what mind's
attention was doing as we are breathing
as the mind starts to wander away this
is where we employ the six rupees to
softly without any pushing away bring
back our observation to the object of
meditation
we would prefer that those meditators
who have practiced breath meditation in
the past use a completely different
object of meditation
otherwise they may habitually revert to
the way they were taught using what we
very much consider bad habits
this can lead to confusion and a lack of
progress
we prefer to avoid a practice that
requires people to struggle against
their old ways of practicing
second we find that mindfulness of meta
and the practice of the brahma viharas
is easier because of the comfortable
feeling of meta
this is especially important for the
beginner because breath meditation may
be difficult to master since it is more
of a mental exercise
with mindfulness of meta because of its
pleasant nature you can also stay with
your object longer and it is more fun to
do
it's probably strange hearing that
meditation can be fun
third we have seen an actual practice
that progresses much faster with meta
because the feeling of meta itself is
quite pleasant
remember that this is a feeling
meditation and it is a pleasant happy
feeling
finally meta meditation again being a
feeling meditation distances you from
any other body based or sensation types
of meditation which involve
concentrating on parts of your body
it focuses on a feeling of loving
kindness
it avoids any bad habits that you might
have picked up
so let's get started
beginning posture
before meditating it is helpful to find
a relatively quiet place and to sit
comfortably and upright
sitting cross-legged is not required the
full lotus is certainly not necessary
a sitting posture that is familiar to
your body will be less distracting and
more helpful than one in which you are
uncomfortable or in pain
in the west many meditators find sitting
on the floor difficult
in that case use a chair rather than
causing yourself undue pain and
discomfort
there is no magic in the floor
avoid leaning heavily back into the
chair
sit with your vertebrae stacked one on
top of the other
the posture should be comfortable
the goals are to reduce any real
physical cause of tension and pain and
to improve alertness
we will have enough mental obstacles to
keep us busy
beginning loving kindness instructions
when you practice the mindfulness of
loving-kindness meditation begin by
radiating loving and kind feelings to
yourself
remember a time when you were happy
when that happy feeling arises it is a
warm glowing feeling
some of you may complain we actually do
hear this a lot that you cannot recall
any good memories
so then we ask can you imagine holding a
baby and looking into its eyes
do you feel a loving feeling
when that baby smiles do you
another idea is to imagine holding a
cute little puppy
when you look at the puppy you naturally
want to smile and play with him
the feeling you are creating is a warm
glowing and sincere feeling radiating
from your eyes your mind and your heart
once you have established this feeling
use this feeling to wish yourself
happiness
just as i was happy then may i be happy
now
continue with phrases like may i be
peaceful may i be happy may i be calm
do you know what it feels like to be
peaceful and calm then put that feeling
in yourself in the center of your heart
and surround yourself with that happy
feeling
when that feeling fades bring up another
phrase to remind you of the feeling
may i be tranquil may i be content may i
be full of joy
now give yourself a big heart hug
really and sincerely wish yourself to be
happy
love yourself and mean it
this feeling is your object of
meditation
each time the feeling fades repeat the
wish verbally a few times in your mind
just repeat it enough times to bring up
the feeling do not make it a mantra
saying a phrase over and over will not
bring up the feeling we want the phrase
just reminds us to bring the feeling up
when the feeling comes up we drop the
phrase
there are a number of other teachers who
focus on just saying the phrases over
and over and that doesn't work
that will just turn it into a
concentration practice on the phrase
some people visualize easily others do
not
it is not important that you clearly see
your object of meditation
just know it is there
keep the feeling of yourself in the
center of your chest wrapped in this
happy and content feeling
and we do mean really feel good
feel peaceful or calm or loving or
gentle or kind or giving or joyful or
clear or tranquil or accepting
be okay sitting and feeling this
it's okay to feel good let yourself be
there in the present just feeling this
contentment
you have nowhere to go you are on a
little vacation from life now
there is nothing to do other than to be
happy and radiate that feeling to
yourself
can you do that
don't try to be happy
be happy
be content
be at peace right here right now
you have our permission to be happy for
at least the next 30 minutes
this is a feeling meditation but don't
over observe the center of your chest
trying to bring up a feeling of loving
kindness
don't force a feeling where there isn't
one
don't put the cart before the horse
smile and feel that smile all through
your body
as you say the phrases bring this
feeling up and it will resonate in your
heart area on its own
sincerely wish your self happiness
believe it and know that you do wish
happiness for yourself
just be with this feeling know it is
there and smile with it
there may be some blocks that come up
such as saying to yourself no i don't
deserve to be happy like this
this aversion to your own happiness is a
distraction
distractions will be covered shortly
we will explain the method to deal with
them so that you can allow and train
yourself to feel real loving kindness
for a longer period of time
later when you begin feeling this
feeling toward others know that similar
blocks may come up and that these are
distractions too
there is no reason that others should
not be happy as well
the goal is first to accept and allow
yourself to be happy and peaceful
it's okay
then
since you feel that happiness in your
own mind you will be happy to share that
feeling with other beings
when you sit please don't move
don't wiggle your toes don't twitch or
itch don't rub don't scratch don't rock
back and forth
don't change your posture at all
sit as still as the monk below
when you sit still the mind calms down
if there is any movement all the mind
will be distracted just as jello sets up
it must be cooled and not jiggled around
to solidify
smiling
this is a smiling meditation
the reason that you should smile is that
it has been found that when the corners
of your mouth go up so does your mental
state
when the corners of your mouth go down
so does your mental state
put a little smile on your lips but do
not stop there put a smile in your eyes
even though your eyes are closed
you'll notice there can be a lot of
tension in the eyes
put a smile in your mind
and especially put a smile in your heart
it can be a mechanical smile at first
eventually it will turn into a sincere
happy feeling
it should be a smile that conveys
loving-kindness
it's important to believe it
smile with your lips smile from your
mind and smile from your heart
if your mind wanders away 25 times in a
sitting and 25 times you recognize it
release it relax re-smile and return to
your meditation then you've had a good
meditation
it definitely might not be a quiet and
calm meditation but it is an active
meditation and that can still be a good
meditation
every time your mind wanders away and
comes back and you relax and smile you
are developing your ability to see a
distraction and let it go
you are improving your mindfulness your
observation power
as you practice you will get better at
it and your powers of observation will
get stronger
distractions
while you practice meta-meditation in
this way your mind is going to wander
what do we mean by wander
you are with your object of meditation
which is the warm glowing feeling in the
center of your chest
you are experiencing this feeling then
you are distracted by some thought or
sensation
it might be a sensation of itching a
desire to cough a burning sensation or a
painful feeling in your leg
it might be a memory of a conversation
with a friend or of a trip to the lake
or it could be a thought about something
you need from the store
suddenly you are with that distraction
rather than with your objective
meditation
in other words your attention is
somewhere else
you are not sure how you got there or
what you are supposed to be doing
then you remember that you are
meditating and that you are supposed to
be on your object of meditation
remember that is the first part of the
definition of mindfulness
if you let go of your thinking about the
distraction and relax slightly you can
observe that there is a tight metal fist
wrapped around that sensation or thought
you can also observe that you don't want
it there
you want it to go away
but the more you want it to go away the
bigger and more intense the distraction
becomes
so your mind is on this itch this pain
this thought
how did it get there
it didn't just jump there
there is a process that happens and you
begin to see how your mind moves from
one thing to another
don't think about that but observe
carefully how the process happens
we aren't talking here about analyzing
why anything happens simply observe what
is happening
observe the way the mind moves and
reacts in the present that is the second
part of mindfulness the truth is that
when a sensation is there it's there
it's okay for it to be there
you're going to have distracting
thoughts and sensations come up and
that's okay
thoughts are not your enemy
in fact they are opportunities
every thought every feeling every
sensation that arises and distracts your
mind also causes tightness
the first noble truth is that there is
suffering
the second noble truth is that suffering
is caused by craving
the third noble truth is that there is
the cessation of suffering
the fourth noble truth is that there is
the path to the cessation of suffering
this path is the eightfold path this
tightness is how you can recognize the
very start of craving end as you may
know the second noble truth says that
craving is the cause of suffering
life is not suffering craving is what
makes it so
distractions are telling you what you
crave the things to which you are
attached
seeing and understanding what you like
and dislike is the first step toward
letting go of those attachments
your brain has two lobes that are
contained in three membranes called the
meninges
it is like a bag wrapped around your
brain and spine
anytime that there is a distraction
there is a perceptible movement in the
brain and the brain seems some will
disagree with this but something is felt
to start to expand against this membrane
the thought causes tightness or tension
to arise which we can observe for
ourselves
anytime you notice this tension and
tightness you will want to actively
relax this tightness and soften into it
by relaxing you are releasing the
craving
more on this when we get to the six
rupees
when craving is released there is a
slight feeling of expansion in your head
right after you relax you will notice
that your mind is very peaceful and calm
your mind is alert and there are no
thoughts
at this time you have a pure mind
now bring that pure mind back to your
object of meditation the feeling of
loving kindness and smiling that warm
radiating happy feeling
now make another wish for your happiness
put that feeling into your heart and
radiate that happy feeling to yourself
it does not matter how many times your
attention is pulled away by a
distraction
thoughts and sensations don't go away
the first time you notice them and
that's okay
as these distractions come back again
and again you will become increasingly
familiar with how they arise
with practice their intensity and
frequency will subside
hindrances
the buddha talked about five hindrances
to meditation
hindrances are distractions that will
pull you away from your object of
meditation five troublemakers who will
surely come calling
every distraction is based on at least
one of the five hindrances
often they come two or three at a time
and gang up
the five hindrances are
one
sensual desire i like that otherwise
known as lustful or greedy mind
you will hang on to things that are
pleasant and want more
this will cause attachment to pleasant
states of mind that have arisen in the
past and desire for pleasant states to
arise in the future
two
anger aversion
fear i don't like that
you will want to push away states of
mind that you don't like
or you might experience fear or anger
over unpleasant or painful feelings that
have already arisen
you will try to push away and control
anything causing you pain
you will even try to force your mind to
experience things in a certain way that
you think is right when you should just
observe what is there
now that is really overly controlling
three
sloth and torpor dullness and sleepiness
these will cause lack of effort and
determination because you have lost
interest in your object of meditation
you will experience a mental fog
when you look at it closely you see that
it has tightness and tension in it
there is even craving in sleepiness
four
restlessness with restlessness you
constantly want to move and change
to do something other than what you are
doing to be somewhere other than here
restlessness can manifest as very tight
unpleasant feelings in the body and mind
5.
doubt you are not sure you are following
the instructions correctly or even if
this is the right practice
it makes you feel unsure of yourself and
may even manifest as a lack of
confidence in the buddha's teaching or
your teacher or both
when the hindrances arise your job is
neither to like them nor to fight with
them
your job is to accept them to invite
them in and to offer them tea
don't feed them with your attention
forcing and not liking their being there
just gives them the attention they crave
and makes them stronger
that's what happens with one pointed
concentration meditation
you force the hindrances away by
practicing intense concentration
however as soon as you stop meditating
they come back sometimes even stronger
if you just let hindrances be there
turning your attention to something that
is wholesome instead the energy inherent
in them will gradually fade away
they will disappear like a fire that
runs out of fuel
that's how you overcome the hindrances
for good
the fire just goes out
in poly nibana translates as knee or no
and banner or fire
no fire
no craving
no hindrance
the six rupees
now we are going to give you specific
instructions on how to work with the
hindrances in the way the buddha taught
imagine for a moment the bodhisattva
resting under the rose apple tree as a
young boy
he was not serious or tense he was
having fun watching his father's
festival
right then he attained to a pleasant
abiding jhana as stated in the sudas
with a light mind he could come to a
very tranquil and aware state
later on the eve of his enlightenment
after he had tried every method of
meditation and bodily exercise that was
known in india at that time he
remembered this state
and he realized that this simple state
this tranquil aware and happy state was
the key to attaining awakening
but how to convey this
when he was teaching the buddha worked
largely with uneducated farmers and
merchants
he had to have a simple effective
practice that was easy and worked
quickly he had to have a method by which
everyone could experience the path and
benefits for themselves easily and
immediately
this is how he was able to affect so
many people during his lifetime
do you want to see clearly
it's easy lighten up have fun exploring
relax and smile
relaxing and smiling leads you to a
happier more interesting practice
that sounds like great advice but how do
you do it
when you have been carried away by a
distraction and you lose your smile just
follow these steps
one
recognize that mine's attention has
drifted away and that you are lost in
thought
you have forgotten what you were doing
you are no longer on your object of
meditation
2.
release your attachment to the thought
or sensation by letting the distraction
be by not giving it any more attention
just stop feeding it
just back away from it
3.
relax any remaining tension or tightness
caused by that distraction
4.
re-smile
put that smile back on your lips and in
your heart
feel again that happy feeling of loving
kindness
5.
return or redirect
gently redirect mind's attention back to
the object of meditation that is to meta
continue with a gentle collected mind to
stay with your object of meditation
6.
repeat this entire practice cycle
repeat this practice whenever your
attention is distracted away from your
object of meditation
we call these the six rupees they are
drawn directly from the suda text as
part of right effort
the first four r's are the four right
efforts with the last two hours to
remind you to return and repeat as
needed
notice that you never push anything away
you never try to control anything trying
to control is using craving to eliminate
craving
please don't do the six rupees for some
slight noise in the background or a
minor bodily feeling
as long as you are still with your
feeling of loving kindness just stay
with that feeling and let it deepen
ignore those slight distractions in the
background
as a beginner do the six rupees only if
your attention is completely gone from
the object
in the explanation of the eightfold path
in the sodas one of the components is
right effort
right effort in the six rupees are the
same things
what is right effort
one
you notice that an unwholesome state has
arisen
2.
you stop paying attention to that
unwholesome feeling letting it be there
by itself with no pushing away or
holding on to it
3.
you bring up a wholesome feeling
4.
you stay with that wholesome feeling
the six rupees just add the return and
repeat to complete the cycle
we are practicing right effort by
repeating the six rupees cycle again and
again
we see and experience for ourselves what
suffering is and how to relieve it
you notice what causes you to become
tense and tight and then how to reach
its cessation by releasing and relaxing
and bringing up a wholesome object
you discover how to exercise the direct
path to the cessation of
this happens each time you recognize and
release an arising feeling relax and
re-smile
notice the relief
when you look at the benefits discussed
in the pseudo about the dhamma there is
a phrase that says the dhamma is
immediately effective
by practicing the six rupees you fulfill
this statement
when you relax the tension or tightness
caused by a distraction you immediately
experience the third noble truth the
cessation of suffering
in other words you are purifying the
mind by relaxing and letting go of
suffering
you see this for yourself
then you bring up a wholesome object by
smiling and return mind's attention back
to meta which is a wholesome feeling you
do not have to practice for long periods
months or years to feel relief
you can see it right after the relaxed
step of the six rupees
you notice the moment of a pure mind
free from craving
by repeating the six rupees over and
over depriving the hindrances of
attention their fuel you will eventually
replace all of the unwholesome mental
habits with wholesome ones
in this way you bring up only wholesome
states and will eventually achieve the
cessation of suffering
to be successful in meditation you need
to develop your mindfulness skill and
observation power
also keeping up your sense of fun and
exploration is important
this helps to improve your mindfulness
the six rupees training develops these
necessary skills
sometimes people say this practice is
simpler than they thought
some have actually complained to the
teacher because they want this
meditation to be more complicated
now let us go through each of the steps
in more depth
recognize
mindfulness remembers to observe and
recognize movements of mind's attention
from one thing to another that is from
the meditation object to the distraction
this observing notices any movement of
mind's attention away from the object of
meditation
one can notice a slight tightness or
tension as mine's attention begins to
move toward the arising phenomenon
pleasant or painful feelings can occur
at any one of the six sense doors
any sight sound odor taste touch or
thought can cause a distraction to arise
with careful non-judgmental observation
you will notice a slight tightening
sensation arising both in mind and
physically in the brain itself
recognizing early movement of mind is
vital to successful meditation
you then continue on to
release
when a thought about something arises
release it
let it be there without giving any more
attention to it
the content of the distraction is not
important at all but the mechanics of
how it arose are important
don't analyze it or try to figure out
why it is there let it be without
keeping mine's attention on it
without your mind's attention the
distraction loses energy and passes away
when you do not keep your attention on
it a distraction and the mental chatter
about it ceases
mindfulness then reminds the meditator
too
relax
after releasing the thought and allowing
it to be by itself without trying to
watch it or get involved in it there is
a subtle barely noticeable tightness or
tension remaining within mind and body
to remove this remaining tension the
buddha introduced a relaxed step
the suit is called the relaxed step
tranquilizing the bodily formation
this is true especially for your head
which is part of your body it means to
unclench your attention from and around
the thought
it is more than just letting it go
it actively softens and relaxes and lets
the distraction be there which then
weakens its power
gradually it disappears completely on
its own
please do not skip this step
it is the most important part of this
meditation
it is the missing step we talked about
in the introduction
it is the key to progress
without performing this step of relaxing
every time you are distracted from your
meditation object you will not
experience the close-up view of the
cessation of the tightness caused by
craving
you will not feel the relief as this
tension is relaxed
remember that craving always manifests
first as a tightness or tension in both
your mind and body
the relaxed step gives you a kind of
mundane nibbana
you have a momentary opportunity to see
and experience the true nature of and
relief from tightness and suffering
while performing the release and relax
steps
mindfulness then continues to remember
too
re-smile if you have listened to the
dhamma talks on our website you might
remember hearing about how smiling is an
important aspect of the meditation
learning to smile and raising slightly
the corners of the mouth helps the mind
to be observant alert agile and bright
getting serious tensing up or frowning
causes mind to become heavy in your
mindfulness to become dull and slow
insights become more difficult to see
thus slowing down your understanding of
dhamma
return
redirect your mind back to your object
of meditation
gently redirect the mind and don't jerk
it back before you are ready
make this a harmonious movement a
movement that is timely and not forced
repeat
repeat this entire practice cycle as
often as needed
stay with your object until you slip and
then run the six rupees again
spiritual friend
for the first 10 minutes of your sitting
radiate loving kindness to yourself
wrap yourself up in that happy tranquil
feeling using the previous instructions
for the rest of the sitting radiate
loving and kind thoughts to a spiritual
friend
what is a spiritual friend
now we will select our next object of
meditation the spiritual friend
it is very important that they are a
living person of the same sex and are
not a member of your family
when a spiritual friend is of a
different sex it may lead to lustful
feeling and this complicates your
experience
this is the traditional way of teaching
meta
if this instruction does not fit you
then just make sure the person you
select does not raise lustful feelings
in your mind when you are radiating
loving kindness remember you will be
spending a long time with this person
your spiritual friend should be someone
who you deeply respect and sincerely
wish well
they are someone who makes you smile
when you think of them
it might be a favorite teacher or
counselor who has your highest goals in
mind
it might be a friend who always has your
back and supports whatever you do
please do not use a member of your
family as your spiritual friend because
family members are too close to you
family members will be brought into your
practice at a later time but for now
they may raise hidden issues that
interfere with the practice
initially we want to keep this easy and
uncomplicated
do not radiate to a person who is dead
the feeling will not arise correctly as
there is no personal connection that can
be made
you make the wish for your spiritual
friend in this way as i feel this
happiness in myself may you be happy and
peaceful
wrap them up in the feeling of loving
kindness place them in the center of
your heart and smile at them as you are
doing this
really be sincere about this really
believe it
the more you believe it the stronger the
feeling will become
and your friend will feel this
people who have been picked as spiritual
friends report having these warm
feelings arising in their bodies at the
time you radiate meta to them
if you ask them they will tell you they
had a great week
continue wishing them well and see them
in your mind's eye but don't put too
much emphasis on the actual mental image
of them again some people are very good
at visualizing and some are not
just know who they are and that you wish
them well
the phrases are a way of priming the
pump they evoke the feeling
as you make that wish shift your
attention to the feeling itself
remember that your object of meditation
is the feeling
stay with that feeling and let it grow
as it will
don't force it just give it some gentle
encouragement
sooner or later the feeling will fade
when it does repeat the phrases again
it is not helpful to repeat phrases
rapidly
that makes the phrase feel mechanical
rather say it sincerely and rest for a
few moments with the feeling it evokes
repeat a phrase again only if it hasn't
brought up the feeling
some people ask are we sending or
pushing this feeling outward to the
friend
no we are not trying to push anything
out
we are just seeing our friend in the
center of our heart and wishing for him
or her to be happy
we are not sending telegraphing or
overnighting any sort of feeling
when a candle radiates warmth and light
is it actively sending that feeling out
no it radiates out because that is the
nature of warmth and light
in the same way we surround and immerse
our friend with this feeling wishing it
for them and seeing them smiling and
happy
this process is a combination of three
things arising the radiating feeling in
your heart the mental phrase and your
image of yourself or your spiritual
friend
about 75 of your attention should be on
the radiating of the feeling 20 on
feeling the wish and just a little say
five percent on visualizing your
spiritual friend
some people think they should make the
visualization a bigger part of their
practice
then they complain about having
tightness in their head
this is because they are pushing the
idea of seeing their spiritual friend
too much
the teacher will tell them to stop
trying so hard because the most
important part of meta is feeling the
radiating making a sincere wish for
their spiritual friends happiness and
then feeling that happiness not
visualizing their friend
if you are getting a headache or feeling
pressure you are trying too hard
smile again and back off a little
when you picture your spiritual friend
see them smiling and happy
remember to keep a little smile on your
lips for the entire meditation session
if you find yourself not smiling then
this will be a reminder to smile once
again
bring up another wish and send a kind
feeling to your friend
your face isn't used to smiling so
please be patient
your cheeks might even hurt a little but
you will get used to it and that
uneasiness will pass
please don't criticize yourself for
forgetting to smile
critical thoughts about anything are
unwholesome and lead to more suffering
this is called judgment thoughts
they are basically bringing aversion
against yourself
it is a kind of mild self-hatred and
criticism
if you see that you are coming down on
yourself for forgetting to smile
then laugh with yourself for having such
a crazy mind
relax and let go of those thoughts
understand that everyone has a crazy
mind and that it is okay to have this
craziness
laugh with yourself about it this
meditation is supposed to be fun
remember
smile and laugh at getting caught again
then start all over with your object of
meditation
life is a game to play so keep
everything light and have fun all of the
time
it does take practice but this is why
you are doing this practice
play with things and don't take them too
seriously
this is a serious meditation but we do
not want you to be serious
your mind should not be too serious
rather it should be light and uplifted
smile and if that does not work then
laughing a little bit should help you
get back into that happier alert state
of mind
you will use the same spiritual friend
the entire time until the teacher says
you can change
this may be a few days or weeks
if practicing on your own get in touch
with us via the website and let us help
you
you can become part of our yahoo
discussion group
the more you can stay in the present
happy in content feeling happiness with
your spiritual friend the sooner you
will be able to move on to the next step
of the meditation
you can always contact us through our
website for guidance
once you have settled on a good
spiritual friend
stay with that person
if you switch from one person to another
the practice won't be able to ripen or
deepen
sometimes meditators want to send meta
to other people or to all beings
this is just a subtle way your mind
distracts you
you want to stay with the same friend in
the beginning so that you can build your
collectedness
we replace the word concentration with
the word collectedness to help clarify
that we are not forcing our minds to
stay on only one object of meditation in
a forceful fixed way
rather we want our mind to rest lightly
on the object
if your mind wanders use the six rupees
when there are no distractions there is
no need to exert any effort to keep your
mind on its object
it just stays there by itself
that is really an amazing thing to see
happen
again there may be times that some
random thoughts and sensations arise
while you are on your object of
meditation but which are not strong
enough to pull your attention away
completely from it
when this happens ignore those and stay
with your meditation object
these thoughts and distractions will go
away by themselves there is no need to
six are them so let's review
1.
sit for a minimum of 30 minutes why is
explained later
2.
begin by radiating kind and happy
thoughts and wishes to yourself for
about 10 minutes
3.
switch to your one chosen spiritual
friend for the remainder of your sitting
at least 20 minutes and radiate kind and
happy thoughts to them for the rest of
the session
stay with just the same friend and do
not switch to anything or anyone else
even if you think they deserve your
attention
such desires are just more distractions
the mind can be very sneaky
4.
use the six rupees to overcome
distractions
when the feeling of meta starts to
become stronger notice it and sink into
it smile into it and let it develop by
itself
if you find that you are subtly
verbalizing the phrases and the
verbalizing starts to cause some
tightness let go of the verbalization
and just feel the wish
this will allow the feeling to grow even
stronger
stay with the feeling and just be in the
moment without pushing or leaning into
it
this practice will take time to master
in a sense this is a kind of not doing
you are not controlling or pushing the
feeling you are just gently directing it
if there is tension in your body from
trying to send it out then you are
putting in too much effort
there should just be the wish for
happiness in the same way you wish
someone good luck on a journey
you stand and wave as they go you don't
stand and try to push a feeling out to
them
similarly with meta meditation you
simply smile and wish this feeling of
gentle loving kindness
after doing the six rupees and getting
the hang of it there will be a hindrance
that arises
finally u6 are the last little bit of
tension from it and it disappears
completely
craving is eliminated for the first time
a small amount of craving is gone never
to arise again
because of the hindrance disappearing
joy arises and for the first time you
are experiencing the first tranquil
aware jhana
there will be more to go as you progress
along this path
as your practice advances you will find
that the joy is there
it can be goosebumps thrills or just
excitement arising
a pleasant tranquil feeling will follow
it
as you go deeper your confidence gets
stronger and you understand that what
you are doing is right practice
also you will notice there is a much
deeper state of quiet in your mind than
you have ever experienced before
it is like someone turned off the
refrigerator you never even realized was
on
you might notice that you are not aware
of parts of your body unless you direct
your attention to them
this is a normal development as your
body starts to lose tension and
tightness and this indicates progress
finally as you get deeper the feeling of
loving kindness may rise into your head
never try to control the feeling if it
wants to move there then let it move
now you have become an advanced
meditator
when this happens you will be ready for
the next step of the meditation practice
contact us through our website
we will not cover that here as this is
now advanced practice and requires more
instructions
you are now on your way through the
tranquil aware genres to the experience
of awakening
forgiveness meditation
there may be for some difficulty with
bringing up and sustaining the feeling
of loving kindness even after following
all the instructions and guidance here
you may bring up a phrase may i be happy
may i be content and this causes
self-aversion or hatred to arise
i don't deserve it i am not a nice
person may arise in your mind
you try the 6rs and it doesn't really
work
there is no loving kindness there your
heart just has no feeling and is dry and
maybe hard
you may find the practice of forgiveness
meditation will help with this
we find now a not so small percentage of
students benefit tremendously from
switching to forgiveness in which you
radiate forgiveness to yourself and
forgiving everything that comes up and
as people come up you forgive them until
they forgive you
you can find out more about this
practice at the dhamma sukkah website
and in a book called forgiveness
meditation by bonte vimalaramsi
this small forgiveness book as well as
the text of this book has also been
included as an appendix in the more
complete book about this practice the
path to nibana by david johnson
forgiveness is about letting go of the
past and softening our minds
everyone can benefit from practicing
forgiveness
walking meditation
an important part of the meta practice
is walking meditation
please do not ignore it
you need to walk to keep your energy up
especially after longer sittings
you can use walking meditation to build
energy or uplift your mind before
sitting if you feel sleepy or have low
energy
sometimes when your mind is distracted
walking will make it easier to calm a
restless mind so that you can go back to
sitting
walking meditation on the other hand can
add energy to your sitting by getting
your blood flowing
walking meditation is a powerful
meditation on its own but in conjunction
with meta meditation it helps you to
incorporate meta into your everyday life
and activities
please do remember that this is an all
the time practice
find a place to walk that is at least 30
paces and is straight and level
walk at a normal pace as if you are
taking a stroll in the park on a sunday
afternoon not slowly like a turtle but
at a speed that is neither too fast nor
too slow
your eyes should be directed down in
front of you six to ten feet ahead
do not put your attention on your feet
instead stay with your spiritual friend
please do not look around as that will
distract you from your meditation
this is not a nature walk but part of
the actual practice where you are
radiating kind and happy thoughts to
your spiritual friend
as much as possible stay with that
practice the entire time you are walking
it is just like when you are sitting
with the only difference being that you
are walking instead of sitting
you may do this inside or outside as the
weather permits
it is best done outside in the open air
but try to avoid the heat of direct
sunlight you can also walk inside in a
circular path around a room or down a
hallway
some meditators make a lot of progress
while walking it can go quite deep
do not take this instruction lightly as
it is an important part of the practice
it also helps us learn how to practice
meta in our everyday life where we are
more active out in the world
walk for about 15 to 30 minutes and
never more than an hour as this much
walking will tire your body out
however do walk at a good pace so that
by the end of it you will feel your
heart pumping and you may be slightly
out of breath
then you can sit and be fully alert
walking can bring calmness clarity or
energy depending on what you need at the
time
keep it going
30 minutes of meditation a day is the
minimum to start
from our experience it takes 15 to 20
minutes to get the mind to settle down
then you are giving yourself another 10
productive minutes where you can truly
watch and observe
45 minutes is better
just the fact you are sitting and not
moving permits the mind to calm down
the longer you sit the more your mind
will calm on its own without you doing
anything else
so
sitting longer and not moving is vital
to progress to deeper states
on retreat you will at first sit at
least 30 minutes walk 15 minutes then
sit again alternating like this for the
whole day
your sittings will naturally get longer
and longer throughout the retreat and
may eventually last as long as two to
three hours
in your daily life sitting twice a day
is very helpful
once you are comfortable try to stay
completely still throughout the sitting
period
if the mind insists on moving six are
the desire to move
the six rupees are very helpful in
dissolving tension and finding deeper
ease
if pain arises please watch how it
arises
you can tell if the pain is genuine by
noticing what happens when you get up
from sitting
if the pain goes away very quickly it is
a meditation pain which is in fact a
mental pain and is not caused by
anything harmful
it is just a distraction
if it returns when you sit try to remain
still in 6r
if when you get up the pain lingers and
stays with you it is best not to sit
that way in the future because this
would be ac to all physical pain
manifesting
if we try to get rid of painful or
unpleasant feelings forcefully whether
mental or physical we just add more
greed and aversion to the mind
this fuels the vicious cycle of samsara
however if we approach an unpleasant
feeling openly and without taking it
personally we view these unwholesome
qualities with wholesome awareness
this pure clear awareness gradually
melts that disturbing feeling
moreover you might notice the feeling
linger but your attitude toward it has
changed
if you get sleepy sitting inside try
sitting outside but not in the direct
sun
the outdoors tends to wake you up
you can even try doing the walking
practice backward after you walk forward
30 paces
instead of turning around just walk
backward to the starting point
meditation and its benefits increase if
you can continue to cultivate awareness
throughout the day
smile and send meta whenever you think
of it
when you notice difficult feelings
coming up six are them
do this with a sense of fun and humor at
just how crazy mind can be
if you get serious and try to control
the mind that is just more craving
you may wear yourself out and become
frustrated
so do this lightly but with as much
continuity as possible
add meta to everything
you can bring loving kindness into
everything that you do
generally you will do your sitting at
home but you can also smile and radiate
well-being and happiness to all beings
when you are out and about
if you are just going out walking or
shopping you do not have to stay with a
spiritual friend
stay with a general feeling of meta
smile more
notice and six are emotional upsets that
arise
when unwholesome states of mind arise
see them as opportunities
let them be and bring up wholesome ones
this is the meaning of right effort in
the buddha's no late fold path
progress in jhana
as you make progress with the meditation
you will see all kinds of new phenomena
joy and other pleasant experiences will
arise
some of them will be really worth the
price of admission
the first time you truly and completely
let go of a hindrance you will have your
first experience of the janic state and
be on your way to going even deeper
you will start to be friends with fun
stuff like joy contentment equanimity
and more
good times are on the way
brahma viharas and nabana
the buddha talked about four divine
qualities of mind that are particularly
wholesome
they are called the brahma viharas and
consist of loving kindness
meta compassion karuna sympathetic joy
mudida we actually prefer just joy and
equanimity apeca
this is the practice you are starting
now
you will gradually go through all these
states very naturally as meta becomes
quieter and turns to compassion and so
on through joy to equanimity
you do not need to change the practice
as you go the states themselves will
develop and arise on their own
once you become an advanced meditator
you just have to keep the meditation
going
the brahmavi hair is developed naturally
one by one without you having to bring
up each of these states as its own
separate meditation object
when the next state arises then you take
that state whether it be compassion or
joy as the feeling to be the object of
meditation and continue radiating that
out now
this is another important difference
from how other practices have you
developed meta
the buddha taught that when the
meditation is properly practiced all
four divine states arise on their own
one after the other
you will learn how to radiate any of
these four states to all the six
directions and then to all directions at
the same time
as this happens the jhanas will arise
naturally on their own as well
the word jhana is a loaded word
it has been translated in many different
ways but we refer to the genres as
levels of understanding
we do not want to confuse them with
their one-pointed absorption jhana
cousins
they are related but these are ones in
which the meditator keeps awareness of
their body whereas the others do not
the buddha taught that the key to
understanding craving and distractions
is to realize that mind and body are one
process that cannot be separated
tension and tightness are bodily
processes while thought and images are
mental processes
we not only want to pay attention to the
mind but also be aware of what is
happening in the body and not ignore or
repress this awareness through one
pointed focused concentration
we call the genic states that we
experience with this meditation the
tranquil awareness
there are eight of them
four rupaul or material genres and four
arupa or immaterial genres
beyond the highest immaterial genre lies
the experience of nibana itself
your mind will become so quiet that it
just stops
when the mind comes back from that
cessation experience it will be
incredibly bright and clear with no
disturbance like a blackboard with
nothing on it
at that point when the next mental
process arises you will see with
astonishing clarity every link and part
of this process that we call life as it
arises and passes away this process is
what the bud dha called dependent
origination
there are 12 links in each moment of
experience and you will see how all of
these arise and pass away
you will see how all of these
dependently arise one upon the other
when you see very deeply into this
process you will understand on a
profound personal level that all of the
aggregates that make up you or the eye
are impersonal and without any enduring
self or soul
this experience is so profound that
nibbana will arise and you will
understand the true nature of all
existence
you will have attained awakening in this
very life there will be so much relief
experiencing awakening nibana happens
for many people who follow these simple
directions
it does not take years or decades
the buddha said that this practice is
immediately effective
in the saudi patana pseudo of the
mejchima nikaya he says that this
experience can take place in as little
as seven years or even seven days
it can truly happen that fast we have
seen it take place within a single eight
day retreat
so
start now and you too can experience the
initial stages of awakening
just follow the instructions exactly
benefits of loving kindness
there are many benefits to practicing
loving-kindness meditation
in
it says that when you practice meta
meditation you go to sleep easily and
sleep soundly
you have no nightmares
when you wake up you awaken easily and
quickly
people really like you
animals like you
your face becomes radiant and beautiful
you have good health
these are just a few of the benefits
when you practice loving kindness your
mind also becomes clear and quiet and
your progress in the meditation is very
fast
meta in daily life
continue to sit and practice
listen to talks read our books and study
more about the concepts surrounding this
practice
there are many resources on our website
when starting any new practice it is
usually best to immerse yourself in that
practice setting aside other practices
you may have done in the past until you
understand the new practice deeply and
thoroughly
otherwise you may be confused with the
various opinions and practices that are
out there
remember that we are not basing our
teaching on views or opinions but rather
on the study of the sodas themselves and
the direct experience of the meditation
practice
we invite you to follow this path as
well
the best way to experience deep
immersion into tranquil wisdom inside
meditation is to come for a retreat or
if you cannot get away do an online
retreat with us
check our website for more
information once you master staying with
a spiritual friend there are more
instructions for breaking down barriers
and radiating the feeling of meta in all
directions
the teacher will give you those
directions and advise you when you are
ready
this is where the practice of the
brahmavi heras really takes off
more phenomena will arise and a teacher
can guide you based on your progress
there are more instruction steps in this
practice but they are advanced
a new book is available that covers
these advanced instructions and all the
advanced john is up to and including the
experience of nibana the path to nibana
by david johnson available everywhere in
paper or ebook
for now master the ability to stay with
your spiritual friend perfectly and then
you could contact us for further advice
do a retreat or buy the advanced book
noted above and practice on your own
again when you are outside moving around
in daily life remember to smile and
radiate meta to all beings
use right effort to recondition your
mind
bring up the wholesome quality of loving
kindness instead of allowing whatever
ho-hum mind is there
stuck in a long line at the checkout
line
radiate meta
it is a tough job being a cashier at a
store so smile at the cashier and be
friendly
traffic bogged down and you just can't
move
rather than getting upset radiate meta
to your fellow drivers six are your
upset mind and replace it with a
wholesome uplifted mind
put a cd in the car player and listen to
a dhamma talk to learn more about the
eightfold path of the buddha rather than
wasting your own time ho-humming your
way through life
share what you have learned with other
people and let them benefit from your
practice
pay this practice forward once you
understand it
don't proselytize
just talk about what happened to you in
your own words
how is it helping you be happier
be the buddha rather than a buddhist
can't find a sitting group in your area
start your own
as soon as you find one more person you
have a group
meditate for at least 30 minutes listen
to a talk have some tea and discuss what
you have learned
right there you have just created your
own sitting group
little by little like drops of water
filling a cup you will soon come to
supreme awakening
it is possible to do this right now
the buddha showed us the way
just follow the instructions exactly
now go sit
for more information about tranquil
aware insight meditation please visit
www.damasuka.org
thank you for listening