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Context: Throughout this transcript, Bhante Vimalaramsi is the speaker unless otherwise indicated.
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this particular suit guy is very good
and is very interesting so I hope you
get a lot of out of it thus if I heard
on one occasion of venerable ananda was
living in a town near vesali now in that
occasion a householder dama sama had
arrived from possibly a puta for some
business or other then when a certain
monk in cuckoo butas park after paying
homage to him he sat down at one side
and asked him where does the venerable
Ananda live now venerable sir I wish to
see a venerable Ananda the venerable
Ananda is living near ghazali
householder when the householder Dhamma
sama had completed his business and
helped artillio puta he went to the
venerable Ananda after paying homage to
him sat down at one side and asked him
venerable Ananda has any one thing been
proclaimed by the Blessed One who knows
and sees accomplished and fully awakened
wherein if a monk abides diligent pardon
and resolute his unliberated mind comes
to be liberated and as undestroyed
taints come to be destroyed and he
attains the supreme security from
bondage that he not had not attained
before there is householder indeed one
such thing proclaimed by the
said one what is that one thing
venerable Ananda here householder quite
included from sensual pleasures secluded
from unwholesome states among enters
upon and abides in the first jhana one
of the things that happened in America
in particular is that the word jhana has
been misinterpreted and people are told
to not practice jhana the word jhana in
the sutras is mentioned about 10000
times so it seems to me that that isn't
the correct kind of thinking oh you
shouldn't practice jhana the Buddha
didn't teach jhana well yes he did
he taught mostly jhana but the
interpretation of john i by most people
is one pointed concentration or
absorption concentration which is what
the Buddha did not teach it gets
confusing because there's more than one
kind of jhana that's being taught the
kind of jhana that I teach is different
from the kind of jhana that everybody
else thinks about I'm hearing a backlash
on this
it's kind of a back hum and just a bit
sorry okay it's it's not quite loud
enough now visit is that loud enough
okay so cut it out the kind of jhana I
teach is what the Buddha taught and it's
by following the directions in the
sutras that you attained this kind of
jhana now the kind of jhana that has
been practiced before the Buddha came
around and by the Brahmins who were the
main religious group in India during the
time of the Buddha is one pointed
concentration it came from the Vedas now
what's all of this mean one pointed
concentration is this your mind is on
your object of meditation it gets
distracted immediately you let go of
that distraction and come back to your
object of meditation when you do this
what happens with your mind is the force
of the concentration that you would
eventually develop stops
inferences from arising and your mind
becomes absorbed in an object of
meditation and there's a lot of danger
in this kind of meditation I've run
across people that have had to be put in
mental Institute's because they were
doing wrong kind of concentration and it
just addled their mind so much that they
weren't reliable anymore what I teach we
call it
twin tranquil wisdom insight meditation
now this kind of jhana your mind is on
your object of meditation your mind gets
distracted you let go of the distraction
and relax the tightness in your head in
your mind caused by that distraction
when you let go of that tightness you're
letting go of craving what's the second
noble truth the cause of craving or the
cause of suffering is craving now almost
all people that are practicing different
forms of meditation are not recognizing
this tension and tightness so they're
practicing a kind of meditation that
will not lead to personality development
will not lead to the overcoming of
suffering
so there is a distinct difference
between what the Buddha was teaching in
the sutras and what most people are
teaching as the Buddhist meditation and
to be quite honest I listened to other
teachers give Dhamma talks and I get
bored with their talks because they use
a lot of words but they don't really say
anything they're not really teaching you
anything and that's not the Buddhist
style the Buddhist style was so that
your understanding can be so good that
you can change things for yourself and
it comes from that extra step of
relaxing it tranquilizes your mind what
happens when you relax and you let go of
that tension and tightness right after
that you'll notice that your mind is
very clear your mind is very bright your
mind is pure why is it pure because
you've let go of craving and that's the
cause of suffering so your mind becomes
pure when you let go of that craving a
lot of different kinds of things when
you're practicing meditation in this way
that occurred during your sitting for
one thing the force of the concentration
when you're doing this kind of sitting
does not suppress anything it doesn't
stop things from happening it doesn't
push down a lot of people when they're
teaching about meditation they say those
are the hindrances you have to push them
and down you have to push them away you
have to
them from just becoming a distraction I
have a friend that's been teaching
meditation for many many many years and
if you listen to him get in front of a
large group of people you can still hear
a little bit of fear in his voice he has
had trouble with fear since before he
started teaching and he even talks about
yeah I still have fear it doesn't bother
me so much anymore but it's still there
now is that purifying your mind that's
the real question if you're not able to
let go of the cause of suffering then
the suffering is not going to go away if
you can't recognize that suffering and
the cause of it there's no sense in
doing the meditation as far as I can see
I'm into very much end result now
there's a lot of meditations that are
very helpful in some ways but what's the
end result the end result that I'm
looking for is the cessation of
suffering and the Buddha is taught that
there's a right way to practice
meditation and a wrong way and the wrong
way of practicing is emphasizing
suffering the right way is learning how
suffering ceases
how it stops so what I'm going to be
doing during this retreat is showing you
a lot of different things that the
Buddha said about how to let go of
suffering and when you follow the
directions you don't add anything you
don't subtract anything you don't change
anything when you follow the directions
exactly precisely you will see a major
difference in yourself and it's nothing
that I'm doing that causes that to
happen what I'm doing is just telling
you what the Buddha said and it is
immediately effective one of the things
when it talks about the good qualities
of the Dhamma the second quality is
called a calico and poly a calico means
immediately effective how many people do
you know have been meditating for years
and they hit a wall and they just can't
go any deeper they can't go any further
and they get tired of it and they quit
meditating that doesn't happen with this
meditation why because it's immediately
effective every time there's a
distraction and pulls your attention
away from your object of meditation
you'll use the six artists on it you
recognize it you release the distraction
by not keeping your attention on it
don't make a big deal of any kind of
distraction
relax smile come back to your object of
meditation stay with your object of
meditation for as long as you can now
how is this immediately effective you've
let go of a hindrance you've let go of
the craving you've developed smiling and
having an uplifted mind a light mind and
you're bringing that light mind back to
your object to meditation and what
happens when you do that enough is the
hindrance goes away and when the
hindrance goes away you feel relief now
why do hindrances keep coming up because
you've done things in the past it might
be a past lifetime it might be in this
lifetime who knows it doesn't matter
what the cause is the reason a hindrance
keeps coming up is because you did
something in the past that made you feel
guilty and that guilty feeling makes you
take it personally this is me this is
mine I did that I shouldn't have done it
but I did it now I'm feeling guilty
because of it so every time you use the
six hours you're letting go of that
wrong opinion of a personal self being
you this is me this is mine this is
I am so every time you let go of that
craving you're letting go of that wrong
belief in a personal self and that's
immediately effective you went from
taking it personally to seeing that it's
not personal
it's just the thought it's just a
feeling so there's a lot of relief when
you let go of that right after that
relief you feel very strong joy now the
kind of there's there's five different
kinds of joy
the first kind of joy well the first
three kinds of joy can be experienced at
anybody at any time
the first kind of joy is like goosebumps
something really nice happens and you
get some boost pot so that's a good
feeling not nice the next kind of joy is
like a flash of lightning it's very
strong but it's only there for a short
period of time
now what happens after every kind of joy
that arises is right after that you feel
a sense of tranquility as as it gets
stronger the tranquility lasts longer
you feel more peaceful more calm more
balanced in your mind for a period of
time the next kind of joy is like
standing in the ocean and just having a
wave of joy come over you and then
another wave comes over you and you
might be able to sit for a few minutes
after that joy fades away where your
mind is really calm and it's quiet and
it's very very nice
now the last two kinds of joy only arise
through mental development the next kind
of joy is called uplifting joy this is
what you experience when you get into a
jhana this kind of joy you feel very
light in your body and light in your
mind and you feel yeah this is good this
is really a nice happy feeling I like
that and then that joy will fade away
now you you have to understand every
feeling that arises it's just a feeling
it's not my feeling sometimes people try
to hold on to a happy feeling because
they've had so much suffering in their
life you don't hold on to it you just
let it be there as long as it's going to
be you feel light in your body light in
your mind and you start going and this
is a reason that I really started
meditating this is good I like that but
you let it be there when that feeling
fades away you feel very strong
tranquility and you feel more
comfortable in your mind and in your
body than you've ever felt before just
at ease and that will last for a period
of time your mind becomes very unified
now I just described to you the first
jhana
now the last kind of joy that arises is
the awakening factor of joy
it's called all-pervading joy it doesn't
have the excitement in it of the other
kinds of joy you've experienced this
kind of joy is a real happy feeling and
your mind is very alert when this kind
of joys fades away the tranquility and
the balance of mind is very strong
excuse me
now getting back to the one pointed
concentration a lot of people especially
in this country will tell you that if
you get into jhana you cannot experience
Nirvana nirvana means no more fire
what's the cause of fire arising in your
mind craving Soni Bona is basically
saying no more craving for a period of
time
so when
you are practicing one-pointed
concentration not using the relaxed step
your mind can go very deep in
concentration but the force of the
concentrations stops things from arising
and that's why you can't attain nirvana
by doing that kind of meditation there's
a lot of people that are practicing oh
you do the jhana then when you get out
of the jhana you switch your meditation
over to straight Vipassana and then you
can attain nirvana well I've heard about
that for the last 35 years and I haven't
seen one person that's been successful
yet so I have my doubts as to whether
that really works but there's a lot of
attachments people think they're doing
the right thing saying the right thing
one of the phenomena that's starting to
happen now and it really does make me
happy is a lot of people are starting to
go back to the sutras and see what the
Buddha said instead of listen to what
somebody else said the Buddha said now
there's there's a lot of people that do
do teach meditation and they want to
teach from the heart which is all good
and well but I want to know what the
Buddha said about it I don't want to
know what somebody comes up with some
ideas I'm very traditional and I
understand that that's kind of a almost
a dirty word
but I am the most successful meditation
teacher that I know and that's not
bragging on my part that is just stating
a fact 50% of the people that are doing
retreats with me in Asia are successful
they are experiencing Nibbana to one
degree or another and they're starting
to be more and more happy all the time
and that's the whole point change your
perspective let go of your old ways of
thinking and have a lot of loving
acceptance of the present develop your
equanimity so that your mind has more
and more balance in it all the time and
the things that used to get you upset
it's not even worth mentioning anymore
so what
your mind becomes much more at ease and
you become much more skillful at solving
problems this is the advantages of doing
this kind of meditation and you are your
own teacher you're teaching yourself I'm
not the teacher you see me reading the
zhutka the Buddha is a teacher I'm a
guide my job is to keep you on the path
keep you going in the straight way so
you can have advantage for doing this
meditation and you can really benefit a
lot and nothing makes me happier than to
see people benefit from this meditation
believe me now sometimes when you start
to go deeper into your your meditation
there's different things that happen
when you come for the interviews that's
what I'm going to be questioning about I
don't care about the story of how you
got there I have very specific things
that I need to know I had one person
after the retreat they said that body
kept on interfering with what I was
trying to tell him and what he was
trying to tell me was a story and I
don't have time for stories I mean I see
everybody every day that's a lot of
hours of interviews plus I give a Dhamma
talk in the evening I'm busy I haven't
got time for a lot of stories
although I might give you a few well I
have enough time to show you how to how
to let it go but you got to do it
the thing with hindrances is they're
hindrances because they stop you from
staying on your object of meditation and
you have to learn that the hindrances
are not your enemy to fight with now
last night she was talking about pain
and she was talking about taking that
pain personally and wanting to get up
and run away from it and that doesn't
make it go away
that just postpones it a little bit we
have to learn to develop patience my
teacher
Lucille Ananda great monk absolutely
brilliant had the habit of telling me a
lot patience leads to Nibbana and I'm
patient as long as I get what I want
when I wanted so you have to be patient
and not just try to run away from things
when they first start to come up now in
in Malaysia there was 11 different
countries that people from 11 different
countries came to that retreat so that
was a real interesting time for me to
have that many
different ways of describing how things
work for them and I had to really stress
very much patience when hindrances arise
the six RS are not there to stop them
from causing pain the six RS are there
to let go of craving that's it the pain
will go away by itself when you use the
attachments what is an attachment its
craving it's taking something personally
it's making a big deal out of something
in your mind and trying to control there
is no control there's only observation
and allowing it to burn out by itself so
the more you're able to stay on your
object of meditation not with an iron
fist but just letting your mind stay
with your object of meditation without
trying to force it the more you do that
and use the six R's when your mind gets
distracted the faster your progress
becomes now at the first part of your
retreat you might be able to sit for
half an hour 45 minutes and your mind
starts to have a little bit of joy or
ice that's good but don't be attached to
it there's a lot more that's a lot
better and you'll see that for yourself
I don't want you to believe anything
that I say how many meditation teachers
have you
and say that check it out
see if it is if it's whether it's right
or not so the more you are teaching
yourself not to fight with entrances not
to try to control them to allow them to
be you start seeing that when these
hindrances arise they are teaching you
where your attachment is and how to let
go of that attachment by using the six
arts your mind will naturally start to
become more uplifted and happy as you
stop trying to make my mind be the way I
want it to be when I want it that way
there's nothing about making your mind
be anything there's only remembering to
observe how Minds attention moves from
one thing to another it's important to
see this because when you're able to see
how Minds attention moves you start to
see for yourself and teach yourself this
is part of an impersonal process I
didn't ask for this stuff to happen I
didn't want it to come up I can't make
it go away all I can do is observe how
this process works and as you can in
ually teach yourself about how this
process works you naturally start to
become more happy
you become lighter with your perspective
of things you become more accepting of
things instead of somebody coming up and
being extremely rude to you and you
getting mad at them you just let it go
not that important to get upset about
yeah but that no no good so-and-so said
or did this and I really hate that so
how much pain do you caused yourself
because I don't like it I am taking it
personally and that is a false belief
this meditation will show you how to let
go of that more and more so you develop
more and more balance with everything
every part of aspect of your life more
accepting don't resist or push soften
your mind and smile doesn't matter how
much pain comes up or what the reason of
the pain is the reason for the pain we
don't care about the reasons sometimes
we find out what the reason is sometimes
we don't it doesn't matter it's how the
process works that's the thing that's
important and you're going to hear me
talk more and more about dependent
origination and this is the process this
is how everything arises
as you get more and more educated with
how this process works you start to have
more and more balance in your mind and
you start seeing for yourself you make a
big deal out of anything you're going to
cause yourself suffering and until you
stop making a big deal out of it and
taking it personally you're going to
continue suffering and you can't blame
anybody else for your pain oh but he
said this and I don't like that whoops
who doesn't like it I don't who wants it
to be different than it is I wish they
hadn't said that so who doesn't like
that who wants it to be different who's
causing themself more and more pain
because you're making a big deal out of
it and taking it personally now the
thing with the Buddha's path that is
very important and it's not something
that is like very much in this country
and it's called morality but most people
in this country don't even understand
what morality really means it means
these five precepts that you take for
your daily life you keep them and your
mind will naturally become calm
now the first precept don't harm or kill
living beings on purpose second precept
don't take anything that's not given
don't steal anything how do you feel
when somebody steals something of yours
the third precept don't do any wrong
sexual activity what is wrong sexual
activity wrong sexual activity is sexual
activity with another person's mate or
with someone that is your mate that has
other relationships going sexual
activity with somebody that's too young
sexual activity that causes any other
person to have dislike come up in their
mind
so keeping sexual activity doesn't
necessarily mean that you have to be
married to have sexual activity but it
means that you don't cause anybody else
upset because you're having that
relationship the next precept is the one
that's probably the hardest don't tell
any lies a white lie is a lie
don't knowingly say things that are
false don't curse look at your mind if
you if you start cursing what what's
happening in your mind a lot of hatred
when I came back to Asia which was 15
years ago now I was absolutely shocked
to see television the language that they
were using on television cursing is
becoming okay the radio of cursing I was
absolutely shocked by that what is that
saying that's saying that people they're
giving their dislike and dissatisfaction
to everybody else around them in an
offensive way and don't do that that
makes other people upset and your mind
is upset your mind has hatred in it when
you're getting caught up in cursing
don't try to split groups one group from
another by saying well this group over
here they're saying this about you and
you come to this group and you say well
they're saying this about you doesn't
matter to let it go and don't gossip
what is gossip it's making up stories
that aren't true it's trying to cause
problems for other people
so these four different kinds of speech
are very important to keep now the fifth
precept don't take drugs and alcohol at
Dolomites I have some students that they
thought that that wasn't the right thing
so they had a glass of wine and then
they saw these are people that were
pretty advanced in the meditation but
they they drank a glass of wine and it
affected their meditation for three or
four days afterwards their mind got dull
and you say well if it's only one beer
it's only this little bit of wine but it
has a negative effect on your mind and
if you're serious about meditation
don't do it yeah but I need to relax
we'll go meditate if you need to relax
go have fun
go play with some kids if you need to
relax
any time you break one of the precepts
it causes hindrances to arise I've had
students for years that they would keep
the precepts while they were on retreat
when they got off they just went back to
the way they did things before and then
they'd come back for another retreat to
say you know this retreat is it's really
hard well yeah why because you break the
precepts you have that guilty mind you
know your mind knows when you break a
precept and your mind says I shouldn't
have done that
and then you come for a retreat and you
sit in meditation and you have these
entrances coming up and you have to go
through that to purify your mind so
after eight or nine days on a retreat
your mind finally has purified itself
enough it starts to go deeper and then
you're done with a retreat so keep your
precepts without breaking and of course
there's always these clowns that say
okay okay I'm going to keep all the
precepts how long do I have to do that
well my answer is the will for another
hundred years at least and we'll go up
from there it's important to keep these
precepts there's no God in heaven is
going to throw down a thunderbolt at you
because you broke a precept but you know
you've done it yourself you've taken
something that wasn't given and then you
can justify it all you want but that
doesn't mean that you haven't broken the
precept one of the things that happens
when people come to the center is
there's a lot of making up reasons why
things happening the way they're
happening and they look to put blame on
anybody else they're not taking
responsibility for themselves and that
turns into a problem for them
because they don't want to take
responsibility for their breaking their
own precepts they want to blame somebody
else because of this problem and
progress is very slow because of it the
reason that I have you doing the
precepts every morning is not some kind
of right and ritual it's a reminder to
keep the precepts and if you say
something that's not true you've broken
the preset it's going to affect your
meditation negatively all day until you
take the precepts the next morning so
when you realize that you broke the
precept right then stop what you're
doing forgive yourself for making a
mistake make a determination that I'm
not going to do that again and take the
precepts again that way you can purify
your own mind it's important to do that
as I was telling you this morning there
was a monk that when he first came to
the meditation Center he was doing great
he was sit in three hours and that's
when I could barely sit for two and by
the end of his retreat because he broke
one precept that he and he felt guilty
for it he couldn't sit more than 15
minutes now what why do you think that
is because he took it personally
he decided I know this is something that
I should follow but I'm not going to do
it and as a result that affected the
meditation in a negative way can't blame
me for that it's not my fault I don't
have anything to do with your keeping
your precepts all I can do is recommend
that it's
good thing and to do it all the time not
just while you're on retreat if you keep
your precepts for a year without
breaking them and you come for a retreat
your meditation is going to fly your
meditation is going to go very deep very
quickly why because you've kept your
precepts and that leads to strong
tranquility and equanimity
so the hindrances when they come up they
are your teacher and you're teaching
yourself about how to let go of these
hindrances you're teaching yourself
about the cause of the hindrances by
keeping precepts it's real important to
be careful about what you say okay
it doesn't mean you can't joke you can
but everybody knows that you're just
making a joke you're not breaking a
precept there's a story in one of the
commentaries about a monk went out on
arms round and he came back and he had a
lot of food in this bowl and one of the
monks was just going out on alms round
he said how's they all drowned today and
he said oh the the streets are flowing
with food that's not a true statement
right but it's it's a way of describing
if you're not trying to fool other
people you're not trying to get them to
believe something that you know is
untrue okay okay here quite secluded
from sensual pleasures secluded from
unwholesome States a person enters upon
and abides in the first channel which is
accompanied by thinking and examining
thought with joy and happiness born of
seclusion that is what the first jhana
is like you'll be able to stay on your
object to meditation for a period of
time without any distractions and you'll
be able to see when your mind starts to
move away and you'll catch it more
quickly and come back every time your
mind moves away from your object to
meditation you're not in that jhana at
that time
he considers this and understands that
thus the first jhana is conditioned and
you're directing your mind
it's Felician Allah produced you're
directing your mind to stay with one of
the objects of meditation whatever that
happens to be but whatever his condition
and volitional leap in produced is
impermanent subject to change subject to
cessation if he's steady in that he
attains the destruction of the taints
but if he does not attain a destruction
of the taints because of that desire for
the Dhamma that delight in the Dhamma
then with a destruction of the five
lower fetters he becomes one due to
reappear spontaneously in the pure boots
and their attained final knee bono
without ever returning from that world
now what are we talking about here if
you attain even the first jhana with the
tranquil wisdom meditation while you're
in that jhana your mind can all of a
sudden go very deep and you can become
an are hot just by being in the first
jhana doesn't happen very often I
granted but I have had students that
have been in the jhanas not all the way
up to the highest jhanas
and attained nirvana there was a nun
that came and she started practicing
with me she was am I on a nun and most
my Ayana teachers are very very severe
they don't like people that smile they
don't like people that are happy for the
most part and that's just a general
thing that I'm saying is not specific
everyone is like that but because it's
not no nobody is always going to be how
you describe but when she first came she
was so sour faced very serious had these
deep lines in her inner forehead and I
kept telling her she had to smile and by
the third day of the retreat she
actually heard what I said
and she started smiling and she said
does this mean I can have fun and I said
yeah and the next day she went into the
breakfast started eating staying with
the loving-kindness and her spiritual
friend and got into the first jhana
because of that and after that she was
Miss smiley she was smiling all the time
and being happy all the time and the
beep lines in her face the deep frown
lines were trying too hard they
disappeared is great it was really good
fun to see somebody get it
so please smile please smile all the
time
keep your mind like any time you get
serious guess who has an attachment
guess who's taking it personally
guess who's causing themself pain it's
okay to smile it's okay to laugh and it
is okay to have fun
you don't hear meditation teachers say
that very often I think I'm about the
only one I know of that says it
well meditation is supposed to be
serious well then be seriously happy
how's that keep your mind light whenever
you get serious about anything I am
there I want to control I want it to be
the way I want it to be and that's a
cause of suffering so this is an all the
time practice it's not just sitting and
walking practice and that's hard to get
across because an awful lot of people
when when the Chinese and Japanese
started coming over to this country and
in the 1800's there
their main focus in meditation was
sitting and that's why meditation is
called sitting because they just drummed
it into everybody that men do you have
to sit and that's when you're doing your
meditation but to be able to carry your
meditation with you all the time the
thing with the six RS that's very
important is to understand that's a way
you can let go of your suffering in your
daily activities and the more you smile
with your daily activities the better
your mindfulness becomes you're able to
see what your mind is doing in the
present and when your mind starts to get
serious and starts to pull down with all
of these problems well that's a time
that you use your six R's and smile into
that keep your mind light don't take it
heavily I've got to worry about this
well no you don't it's your choice to
worry about it whether you're going to
do it or not but oh this is so bad how
can I handle this how can I take care of
that well you can do it with a serious
mind that resists and wants to control
doesn't like the situation gets angry
pretty easy or not you can be very
accepting of whatever arises
it doesn't matter what the feeling is
like whether it is a mental feeling or a
physical feeling the thing is that when
you take it personally it makes your
mind have more and more craving in and
more and more desire to control and make
it be the way you want it to be and
honestly it doesn't work
it really doesn't the more you can allow
and just say okay you're there so what
it's alright it doesn't mean you don't
work if you have joints that need to be
straightened out that doesn't mean you
don't straighten them out it means you
don't have resistance to straightening
them out and you don't get into the
dislike of the sensation for it being
there
did you ask a sensation to come up
you're sitting in meditation and all of
a sudden you have a pain in your knee
did you say you know I haven't had any
pain in my knee for a while I might as
well have some now no you don't have any
control over that sort of thing what you
do have a control over is what you do
with that when it arises use the six
hours not as some kind of stick to beat
things away to stop them from happening
it's that's not what six hours are about
the six RS are very specifically right
effort is very specifically used to let
go of craving the cause of the suffering
and the six arse and right effort are
the same thing just a different way of
describing it it's just like the five
aggregates and four foundations of
mindfulness are different ways of saying
the same thing the Buddha was real big
on the five aggregates when he would
teach monks he would teach them about
the five aggregates because they
understood that later on he changed over
to doing the foundations of mindfulness
that was a later kind of teaching but it
was still the same thing the five
aggregates you have body you have
feeling that perception now perception
and feeling are conjoined always when a
feeling comes up you know whether it's a
pleasant feeling or a painful feeling
perception is a part of the mind that
tells you that okay you have the same
cara's you have thoughts you have I
generally have for beginners I talked
about thoughts more than anything thank
Aras and you have consciousness the four
foundations of mindfulness you have body
same as with the five aggregates you
have feeling same as with the five
aggregates you have consciousness same
with the five aggregates you have Damas
same with the five aggregates now isn't
that amazing well the four foundations
of mindfulness they're so important to
people that are practicing the vaasana'
but I found over the years that they
just talk about generally what the four
foundations of mindfulness are they
don't talk specifically about what they
are and the four foundations of
mindfulness in the sukkah is talking
about jhana practice but they've taken
that understanding away and say oh
that's just free pass on a-- but it is
describing all kinds of things about
jhana practice the way the Buddha taught
jhana
was that the four foundations or the
five aggregates whichever way you want
to say it is in each jhana while you're
actually in the jhana you're practicing
the four foundations of mindfulness and
there's more than one suta that agrees
with that so there's a lot of things
that are kind of misunderstood I don't
believe they're purposefully
misunderstanding
but there is a misunderstanding with the
different ways of doing the practice and
I am very much enthusiastic about
practicing what the Buddha is talking
about and specifically following what
the Buddha was talking about and it is
great fun for me to watch people start
to understand it's really nice
doesn't take that long from now until
the end of the retreat outside of being
your guide I am the educator and you'll
be a lot smarter about Buddhism by the
end of the retreat because you'll have
some of the direct experiences you'll
have some of the direct knowledge for
yourself
and again you're your own teacher I can
present ideas that the Buddha was
talking about you decide whether you
want to try it or not generally speaking
when you follow what the Buddha says it
works it works very well and it is
immediately effective I mean when you
have a hindrance arise and you let it be
there and you relax
that hindrance is not there anymore
that's immediate now when I'm talking
about the six ARS I'm talking about
words that you need to do not say over
and over again okay this is a list of
words to do recognize as soon as you
notice you're not on your object of
meditation you've already recognized it
you don't have to tell yourself I need
to recognize this and you let it be and
relax and smile and come back to your
object of meditation and stay there it's
a flow don't put any philosophy with it
this is a method and it works very well
and it works all the time
your job is to remember to do it so with
each of the jhanas that you'll go
through there's going to be a little
different kind of experience that you're
going to have and you can have the
experience of attaining Nibbana while
you're in each one of these jhanas like
I said I have had students that have
attained me bon a welder
they're using the sixers the thing with
the jhana that is not very well
understood because it's taken from the
beta Tech's is people think the only
time you can experience jhana is while
you're sitting now when you're walking
can you have joy can you have a peaceful
calm mind
and you have a mind that's very
collected and very at ease oh that means
you can be walking and being in the
jhana
it doesn't matter what you're doing what
matters is how you're using your
mindfulness keep your mind
keep your mind smiling that improves
your mindfulness so much it's
unbelievable and I can tell when you
come in for the interview whether you're
really smiling enough or not and I might
tell you you got a smile more why
because your mind's too heavy as soon as
you walk in it's like somebody bring
I'm led on it on top of their head and
pushing it down have fun with this
retreat in it I give you all permission
to have fun how's that
keep smiling as much as you can okay so
we didn't get very far on this suta but
we will in in the next one do you have
any questions are we going to have smart
people or dumb people yeah it doesn't
matter content doesn't matter that's
where people get a lot of confusion
because they want to follow it and see
what it is and that's distraction okay
I've had some students that they've been
real close to getting to Nibbana but
they kept on having a a memory of a past
lifetime and okay let's go see this for
a little while know the content of that
doesn't matter what matters is that you
recognize that your mind is distracted
let it be there by itself relax
smile come back you can get insights
into what what comes up but the insights
are always about the process of how it
came up and you might see well the
reason this came up was because of that
memory or whatever but you don't follow
that
that's for psychology that's not for the
Buddha's path the Buddha's path is about
how did this come up and it always comes
up in exactly the same way and that's
one of the things in Asia they really
don't like the idea when I tell them
that there's no difference between the
American mind and the Asian mind they
don't like that idea at all
but it's it's that your human being all
human beings mind works in the same way
exactly
and there's fascination with why
something arises and follow it to the
end and see if there's any resolution by
it but that's taking it personally and
we will let go of that idea now there's
some weird things that happen when you
start letting go and seeing the
impersonal nature of everything your
mind can have a lot of fear arise and it
starts throwing a temper tantrum just
like a little kid you're ignoring me
I've been in control how many lifetimes
and now you're not paying attention to
me anymore
you're telling me that that all the
things I've done in the past don't
it isn't really me it's a false belief
and your mind will throw up a lot of
fear and how do you get over that fear
you laugh at how crazy your mind can get
everybody is crazy
it's okay to be crazy because we all are
we've been taking things personally for
how many lifetimes how much pain have we
caused ourselves by taking it personally
by getting involved with a story and
trying to solve problems there's so much
benefit gained by keeping your precepts
without breaking them by smiling more by
seeing things that are impersonal
processes that we take as us how much
pain do we cause ourself and then you
start letting go of that and everything
changes yeah
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all Yaya but all beings want to live
they don't want to die in order to kill
there has to be dislike well we we
practice in such insect rescue a lot we
have some little devices that will just
go around the insect and close in on it
then we take it outside open it up and
let it go out we do that with wasps we
do that with ladybugs we do that with
all kinds of things that like to come in
now one of the things we have a lot of
wasps for we live a lot and I got into
the habit of catching them on the window
taking them and letting them go out but
as I'm letting them go out I tell them
to tell all our friends I let them go
free which sounds kind of weird except I
never get stung it does work
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well Asia hassle it has to do with your
intention when you stop intending to
kill then you're expanding the lifecycle
of other beings if you just go out and
start killing them you're shortening
that lifecycle you're shortening your
own light cycle now in Asia they have
and it's ant heaven in Asia and they are
really troublesome and they bite and
look smaller the ant is the bigger the
bite is so the Chinese have developed
this truck that should put around you
you just draw a circle around you and
the ants will cross that line there's
way of preventing them from bothering
you how mosquitoes are troublesome so
you sleep under a mosquito net you don't
have to kill them sometimes there is not
the intention to kill but something
bites you and you go like that to see
what it was and you accidentally kill
them your intention was not to kill now
there's a story about this one monk that
was blind and he had a string between
poles and he was walking back and forth
holding onto
a string and he was stepping on ants and
monks saw that and they went to the
Buddha to tattletale a little bit and
say he's killing these ants and the
Buddha said his intention is not to kill
he's not doing it on purpose he has no
mental hold on any of that so there's no
wrongdoing well if you kill anything on
purpose you don't have also mine let's
just put it that way okay
you
and we can get into a long discussion
about that but I'm not gonna mine comes
up with discursive God always how about
that don't make it a big deal just six
art continue on oh yeah
craving is not particularly strong it is
particularly persistent I mean you can
just barely have enough time to do the
six hours and come back to your object
before all of a sudden you're pulled
away again just play it as it's a game
don't make a big deal out of it well and
if you try too hard one of the things
that they started doing in Asia this
time was that every thought that came up
they were six arting as soon as they
came and they just had more and more and
more thoughts and they'd come to me it
talked to me about being tired it is
tiring to 6ar every little thing that
comes up you don't need to six are every
little thing that comes up if it doesn't
pull your attention away from your
object to meditation and these thoughts
come up ignore them if it pulls your
attention away now you use the six arts
yeah they're trying to hurt they have to
back off on that and what you have to
tell them to do is they need to smile
more it's really true some people will
come in and they'll be complaining about
oh my meditation is so active I have so
much problem in this and that you're not
smiling enough oh yes I am I smile all
the time no you don't if you smile all
the time you're not going to have these
problems come up you're taking it
personally you're trying to over control
and you can't do that you have to back
off well they don't understand what a
true smile is because I have a lot of
equanimity in my mind most of the time
but I'm also smiling in my mind most of
it so it doesn't have to be here but it
does have to be yeah
you'll start seeing them naturally you
don't have to force it you'll start
seeing them happen you'll see feeling
arise and then the craving and then the
clinging and then the bejeweled tendency
and then the suffering you'll be able to
see that and recognize it as you go
deeper in your meditation
it will start to come naturally
you have to be careful with your energy
if you start to get any tension or
tightness in your head while you're
doing that back off that's the key is
with anything if you have too much
tension or you you have tightness that
starts to happen and your mind starts to
do this you're putting in too much
effort too much energy and you have to
back off until there's balance with it
yeah they do
and that's what insights are all about
because you you'll be going along and
all of a sudden you'll just notice oh
that's how that happened
Wow that's really something it happened
because there was a contact there was
feeling there was craving and as soon as
the craving happened a sick start and
the other links didn't arise Wow isn't
that amazing that's why I wanted to call
this an oh wow meditation because
there's a lot of oh wow that happen yeah
to start off with
that's okay to stay with equanimity then
and when you're walking I want you to
walk at a normal pace please don't walk
slowly you're walking for exercise stay
with your object to meditation whatever
that happens to be the longer you sit
the more you need the exercise you have
to get to going up a hill or running
upstairs and downstairs that sort of
thing get your heart beating that's real
important but stay with your object of
meditation while you're doing it okay
anybody else like if I do let go to get
back the insight comes about the
endurance but not without trying or not
without like I'm not making any
psychological with the travel can't just
unravel right and then else has an
insight pretty much back okay that's
fine
see them in your mind see them in your
mind see them now you there's two
different kinds of visualization for
some people the visualization can be
seeing them like pictures or seeing them
like in a movie and that's very easy for
them that's one kind of visualization
the other kind of visualization of
seeing them is just knowing that that's
who you're sending it to so pick the one
that's easiest the visualization is not
near as important as the feeling of
loving kindness and the feeling of the
wish that you make for your friend
that's much more important than seeing
them
by Elmar and you'll see just have fun
have fun doing it
know that person that you're sending it
to and you sincerely do wish them well
and radiate that feeling to them okay
don't try too hard that's one of the
biggest problems that I have with people
who have done meditation before is
they're taught to try to art and it's
time you got to learn how to back off so
you had a question
so no no no no no it doesn't matter what
the content is I don't care
fuzzy is fine
well eventually yeah but stop trying to
analyze it
that's a Western disease and it's a big
problem
people can for years get caught in that
but when they finally start listening
and realize I mean last summer I had a
monk come he stayed for three months the
first month he did meditation he was
just great and then he got it in his
mind that I want to be an are hot so he
started wrong effort and he had a whole
month of restlessness every time he came
my mind is restless I'm running all over
the place you're trying too hard
back off don't get involved with it here
at getting involved with the content
every day for 30 days I'm saying the
same thing to it then he comes to me and
he's really peaceful and calm and he
said well I figured out I was trying to
so he was my patience teacher it's
amazing then I you can have yeah it's
amazing that I can say something a
hundred times and then you finally get
it and you come to me and you're really
excited you go yeah I just found this
out how good oh I don't but there is
some relief when they finally yeah
it'll cause it'll cause tense it'll
cause tension to arise in your mind when
you get it when you get into the deeper
state you don't have a body and that's
one thing that I fight with the people
in Asia because they're very body
conscious you don't have a body but if
there is some contact you can feel the
contact then you'll say oh I've got this
real pain in my backside or my back or
my knee and I keep saying you don't have
a body how can you have a pain there
it's all mental that's something I have
to talk with you personally about
because it depends on the situation
sometimes I'll just tell people it's not
really pulling your attention away from
your object let's stay with your object
just because those thoughts are coming
up doesn't mean you have to address
everyone so it's it's staying on your
object of meditation that is the key
even when your mind is mind is object
meditation okay
but I'll find out as the questions that
I ask I'll find out what's happening now
there are going to be some people that
are going to be coming in and they want
to sit in on the interviews if you want
a private interview tell me but other
than that I want people I want to deke
people how to give interviews so I I
started doing that what was it two years
ago and it's quite helpful I don't think
it's anything in particular but
everybody of stepless the club so
anything else going back to when we're
talking about precepts and thinking
about feed and bugs on the windshield
profanity and all the other stuff that's
significant we how to determine whether
pregnant forgiveness education is
appropriate
magic way if you feel guilty about it
you feel guilty about it that forgive it
now the forgiveness meditation when done
in an intensive way is a very very very
powerful meditation it is the most
powerful meditation that I teach you
don't have to do it for the whole
retreat unless I had one one student in
Malaysia that when he started out he was
really kind of wacko and he was taking
all kinds of drugs and he was bipolar
seven or eight bipolar whatever that
means but he was going through
personality shifts that were just
unbelievable and he would follow the
directions kind of for a little while
and then he'd start off and do what he
wanted to do so this progress wasn't as
fast as it could be but by the end of
the retreat he had started to settle
down and when somebody is taking drugs I
don't allow them to stop taking the
drugs and I tell that they have to go
see the doctor about that because they
can have shifts back into their old ways
of doing things if they get people like
to cold-turkey drugs and you have to do
it gradually you have to do it over two
or three week period not just stop
taking it all together because that your
body is used to it and you're addicted
to it be quite honest and then you go
through all these changes but he started
following the directions
even did a second retreat by the end of
the second retreat I actually told him
he didn't have to do any more
forgiveness unless there was something
came up that made his mind aight and he
was starting to do loving-kindness
meditation and doing quite well with it
so there's a lot of healing in doing the
forgiveness meditation a lot of healing
people that come and they tell me well I
can't feel any loving-kindness I just
don't know what it is okay let's do the
forgiveness meditation after two or
three days of doing forgiveness then all
of a sudden they have a breakthrough and
then I switch them over to
loving-kindness and they just zoom after
that so there was a lot of past old
situations that they were attached to
and the the way to let go of that
attachment is through forgiving
loving-kindness is forgiveness is part
of loving-kindness
well it depends it depends on them
entirely but what I have them start
doing is forgiving themselves for making
mistakes because we're so hard on
ourselves I mean we can do just
brilliant things all day and do one
thing that's questionable in your mind
then you start criticizing yourself for
it you have to be able to recognize that
release it relaxed smile and laugh
without dumb your mind can be but it
depends it's all individual there's
there's no set formula for anything and
when I have them doing forgiveness
sometimes I have them forgiving
themselves for making a mistake or
forgiving themself for not understanding
or forgiving themselves for causing pain
to themselves
those are real important aspects now
that there's a real big thing that's
happening in this country about well you
got to forgive but people don't know how
to forgive so they just say well you did
this to me I forgive you and then they
think they're done and the attachment is
still there so it still affects them in
a negative way they have to work until
they feel relief how long does that take
how well do they follow directions
but I've had students that have been in
a mental institute and I get them to
start forgiving and smiling and doing
all kinds of things they leave the
mental institute they don't have to be
in there anymore they don't have to take
such heavy drugs yeah
and it's their doing their own work
because they want to change come into a
retreat yeah
because because it is such a personal
thing you can't just say well just do
this and that'll work
it just it depends on what they're going
through and one of the things that the
forgiveness does is it helps you to let
go of your secrets now one of the
definitions of an Arad is a person that
has no secrets any secret you have that
you're keeping and you don't talk about
it
that's your attachment that's you're
holding on to an old action and taking
it personally and causing yourself a lot
of suffering
so it is kind of an individual thing so
one of the things that at the last
retreat I gave in Kuala Lumpur I started
talking to them about using forgiveness
with any kind of physical owie and you
stubbed your toe we cut your the burn
yourself whatever start forgiving right
then and then test on the forgiveness
the next time that happens don't forgive
and see how long how much longer it
takes to heal because it's amazing same
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right
the more you can forgive little things
as you're going along the easier it
becomes to forgive the big things when
they come and the faster you heal I mean
it's it's amazing I have a wood-burning
stove at home and sometimes I get burned
now when I when I start paying attention
to that and I start forgiving it by the
next day I don't even have a blister all
I have is a red spot two or three days
later it's all gone
then when I don't I've got a problem for
a week I have a blister and I have a lot
of pain so it's a difference of two or
three days or a week it's up to me
whether I do it or not so the more you
can remember to do the forgiveness with
your any kind of ally whether it's a
mental ally or a physical owie you do
the forgiveness the pain is going to
disappear more quickly
talk to me about it it depends where you
are see it's not a blank that I'm not a
1/1 horse bone hair or one point one
trick pony I have a lot of tricks so it
depends on the situation
but one of the things that it happened a
lot when I was in Asia because I was
running around barefooted
barefooted in the forest at night is not
a safe thing to do for your toes it's
really not because you wind up breaking
them and when I break a toe then I start
doing forgiveness every time the pain
came up after two or three days I'm not
even limping anymore or if I don't do it
then I have a couple of weeks of real
severe pain so it's always your choice
what are you doing with your mind when
this kind of problem arises when you
make it a big deal and you're
identifying with it you're causing
yourself more pain that's the truth when
you forgive it and use then
loving-kindness into it it has a
tendency to get less and even disappear
yeah
not as much as I am yeah when I first
got to Asia and what became a monk for a
couple of years I started being the
abbot of monastery and a lot of people
were really suffering very much because
in Malaysia there's there's three
populations in a maze in Malaysia
there's Chinese there's Malay and
there's Indian and they don't get along
very well and the Malay run the
government so they're always pushing
down the Chinese because the trainings
are ambitious people and the Chinese
were walking around with a lot of hatred
so I started teaching them about
forgiveness and I got criticized because
the Buddha didn't teach any forgiveness
well yeah actually he did and it's in
davinia
so there's no problem with it but I was
criticized because I was not teaching
straight Vipassana that's the only way
to attain nirvana you know that's what
they think but they're in Malaysia
because I started teaching
loving-kindness more and I refused to
teach straight Vipassana because I'd
already gone through the experience and
wasn't happy with it
the loving-kindness became very popular
and people started changing and and
starting to really become more
prosperous naturally and prosperous is a
word that doesn't necessarily mean
anything to do with money or material
things you have more friends when you
practice loving-kindness
datian you're more prosperous that way
things just happen more easily and
that's how you become more prosperous
it's real interesting to see some people
that break precepts how they are
continually having one drama after
another and people that keep the
precepts how prosperity and how things
are so easy to happen and you meet the
right people at the right time and you
get along with them and you have fun
with them that's really it's an amazing
thing to watch so I thought I was going
to get done at an hour and a half and
there it is two hours so why don't we
share some merit
you may suffer in one's feet suffering
free and the fear struck fearless beat
in the grieving pedal relief that may
all beings find relief now being shared
of this earth that we just acquired for
the acquisition of all kinds of
happiness may beings inhabiting space
and earth Davis and Nagas of mighty
powers share this narrative house
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you
you
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this particular suit guy is very good
and is very interesting so I hope you
get a lot of out of it thus if I heard
on one occasion of venerable ananda was
living in a town near vesali now in that
occasion a householder dama sama had
arrived from possibly a puta for some
business or other then when a certain
monk in cuckoo butas park after paying
homage to him he sat down at one side
and asked him where does the venerable
Ananda live now venerable sir I wish to
see a venerable Ananda the venerable
Ananda is living near ghazali
householder when the householder Dhamma
sama had completed his business and
helped artillio puta he went to the
venerable Ananda after paying homage to
him sat down at one side and asked him
venerable Ananda has any one thing been
proclaimed by the Blessed One who knows
and sees accomplished and fully awakened
wherein if a monk abides diligent pardon
and resolute his unliberated mind comes
to be liberated and as undestroyed
taints come to be destroyed and he
attains the supreme security from
bondage that he not had not attained
before there is householder indeed one
such thing proclaimed by the
said one what is that one thing
venerable Ananda here householder quite
included from sensual pleasures secluded
from unwholesome states among enters
upon and abides in the first jhana one
of the things that happened in America
in particular is that the word jhana has
been misinterpreted and people are told
to not practice jhana the word jhana in
the sutras is mentioned about 10000
times so it seems to me that that isn't
the correct kind of thinking oh you
shouldn't practice jhana the Buddha
didn't teach jhana well yes he did
he taught mostly jhana but the
interpretation of john i by most people
is one pointed concentration or
absorption concentration which is what
the Buddha did not teach it gets
confusing because there's more than one
kind of jhana that's being taught the
kind of jhana that I teach is different
from the kind of jhana that everybody
else thinks about I'm hearing a backlash
on this
it's kind of a back hum and just a bit
sorry okay it's it's not quite loud
enough now visit is that loud enough
okay so cut it out the kind of jhana I
teach is what the Buddha taught and it's
by following the directions in the
sutras that you attained this kind of
jhana now the kind of jhana that has
been practiced before the Buddha came
around and by the Brahmins who were the
main religious group in India during the
time of the Buddha is one pointed
concentration it came from the Vedas now
what's all of this mean one pointed
concentration is this your mind is on
your object of meditation it gets
distracted immediately you let go of
that distraction and come back to your
object of meditation when you do this
what happens with your mind is the force
of the concentration that you would
eventually develop stops
inferences from arising and your mind
becomes absorbed in an object of
meditation and there's a lot of danger
in this kind of meditation I've run
across people that have had to be put in
mental Institute's because they were
doing wrong kind of concentration and it
just addled their mind so much that they
weren't reliable anymore what I teach we
call it
twin tranquil wisdom insight meditation
now this kind of jhana your mind is on
your object of meditation your mind gets
distracted you let go of the distraction
and relax the tightness in your head in
your mind caused by that distraction
when you let go of that tightness you're
letting go of craving what's the second
noble truth the cause of craving or the
cause of suffering is craving now almost
all people that are practicing different
forms of meditation are not recognizing
this tension and tightness so they're
practicing a kind of meditation that
will not lead to personality development
will not lead to the overcoming of
suffering
so there is a distinct difference
between what the Buddha was teaching in
the sutras and what most people are
teaching as the Buddhist meditation and
to be quite honest I listened to other
teachers give Dhamma talks and I get
bored with their talks because they use
a lot of words but they don't really say
anything they're not really teaching you
anything and that's not the Buddhist
style the Buddhist style was so that
your understanding can be so good that
you can change things for yourself and
it comes from that extra step of
relaxing it tranquilizes your mind what
happens when you relax and you let go of
that tension and tightness right after
that you'll notice that your mind is
very clear your mind is very bright your
mind is pure why is it pure because
you've let go of craving and that's the
cause of suffering so your mind becomes
pure when you let go of that craving a
lot of different kinds of things when
you're practicing meditation in this way
that occurred during your sitting for
one thing the force of the concentration
when you're doing this kind of sitting
does not suppress anything it doesn't
stop things from happening it doesn't
push down a lot of people when they're
teaching about meditation they say those
are the hindrances you have to push them
and down you have to push them away you
have to
them from just becoming a distraction I
have a friend that's been teaching
meditation for many many many years and
if you listen to him get in front of a
large group of people you can still hear
a little bit of fear in his voice he has
had trouble with fear since before he
started teaching and he even talks about
yeah I still have fear it doesn't bother
me so much anymore but it's still there
now is that purifying your mind that's
the real question if you're not able to
let go of the cause of suffering then
the suffering is not going to go away if
you can't recognize that suffering and
the cause of it there's no sense in
doing the meditation as far as I can see
I'm into very much end result now
there's a lot of meditations that are
very helpful in some ways but what's the
end result the end result that I'm
looking for is the cessation of
suffering and the Buddha is taught that
there's a right way to practice
meditation and a wrong way and the wrong
way of practicing is emphasizing
suffering the right way is learning how
suffering ceases
how it stops so what I'm going to be
doing during this retreat is showing you
a lot of different things that the
Buddha said about how to let go of
suffering and when you follow the
directions you don't add anything you
don't subtract anything you don't change
anything when you follow the directions
exactly precisely you will see a major
difference in yourself and it's nothing
that I'm doing that causes that to
happen what I'm doing is just telling
you what the Buddha said and it is
immediately effective one of the things
when it talks about the good qualities
of the Dhamma the second quality is
called a calico and poly a calico means
immediately effective how many people do
you know have been meditating for years
and they hit a wall and they just can't
go any deeper they can't go any further
and they get tired of it and they quit
meditating that doesn't happen with this
meditation why because it's immediately
effective every time there's a
distraction and pulls your attention
away from your object of meditation
you'll use the six artists on it you
recognize it you release the distraction
by not keeping your attention on it
don't make a big deal of any kind of
distraction
relax smile come back to your object of
meditation stay with your object of
meditation for as long as you can now
how is this immediately effective you've
let go of a hindrance you've let go of
the craving you've developed smiling and
having an uplifted mind a light mind and
you're bringing that light mind back to
your object to meditation and what
happens when you do that enough is the
hindrance goes away and when the
hindrance goes away you feel relief now
why do hindrances keep coming up because
you've done things in the past it might
be a past lifetime it might be in this
lifetime who knows it doesn't matter
what the cause is the reason a hindrance
keeps coming up is because you did
something in the past that made you feel
guilty and that guilty feeling makes you
take it personally this is me this is
mine I did that I shouldn't have done it
but I did it now I'm feeling guilty
because of it so every time you use the
six hours you're letting go of that
wrong opinion of a personal self being
you this is me this is mine this is
I am so every time you let go of that
craving you're letting go of that wrong
belief in a personal self and that's
immediately effective you went from
taking it personally to seeing that it's
not personal
it's just the thought it's just a
feeling so there's a lot of relief when
you let go of that right after that
relief you feel very strong joy now the
kind of there's there's five different
kinds of joy
the first kind of joy well the first
three kinds of joy can be experienced at
anybody at any time
the first kind of joy is like goosebumps
something really nice happens and you
get some boost pot so that's a good
feeling not nice the next kind of joy is
like a flash of lightning it's very
strong but it's only there for a short
period of time
now what happens after every kind of joy
that arises is right after that you feel
a sense of tranquility as as it gets
stronger the tranquility lasts longer
you feel more peaceful more calm more
balanced in your mind for a period of
time the next kind of joy is like
standing in the ocean and just having a
wave of joy come over you and then
another wave comes over you and you
might be able to sit for a few minutes
after that joy fades away where your
mind is really calm and it's quiet and
it's very very nice
now the last two kinds of joy only arise
through mental development the next kind
of joy is called uplifting joy this is
what you experience when you get into a
jhana this kind of joy you feel very
light in your body and light in your
mind and you feel yeah this is good this
is really a nice happy feeling I like
that and then that joy will fade away
now you you have to understand every
feeling that arises it's just a feeling
it's not my feeling sometimes people try
to hold on to a happy feeling because
they've had so much suffering in their
life you don't hold on to it you just
let it be there as long as it's going to
be you feel light in your body light in
your mind and you start going and this
is a reason that I really started
meditating this is good I like that but
you let it be there when that feeling
fades away you feel very strong
tranquility and you feel more
comfortable in your mind and in your
body than you've ever felt before just
at ease and that will last for a period
of time your mind becomes very unified
now I just described to you the first
jhana
now the last kind of joy that arises is
the awakening factor of joy
it's called all-pervading joy it doesn't
have the excitement in it of the other
kinds of joy you've experienced this
kind of joy is a real happy feeling and
your mind is very alert when this kind
of joys fades away the tranquility and
the balance of mind is very strong
excuse me
now getting back to the one pointed
concentration a lot of people especially
in this country will tell you that if
you get into jhana you cannot experience
Nirvana nirvana means no more fire
what's the cause of fire arising in your
mind craving Soni Bona is basically
saying no more craving for a period of
time
so when
you are practicing one-pointed
concentration not using the relaxed step
your mind can go very deep in
concentration but the force of the
concentrations stops things from arising
and that's why you can't attain nirvana
by doing that kind of meditation there's
a lot of people that are practicing oh
you do the jhana then when you get out
of the jhana you switch your meditation
over to straight Vipassana and then you
can attain nirvana well I've heard about
that for the last 35 years and I haven't
seen one person that's been successful
yet so I have my doubts as to whether
that really works but there's a lot of
attachments people think they're doing
the right thing saying the right thing
one of the phenomena that's starting to
happen now and it really does make me
happy is a lot of people are starting to
go back to the sutras and see what the
Buddha said instead of listen to what
somebody else said the Buddha said now
there's there's a lot of people that do
do teach meditation and they want to
teach from the heart which is all good
and well but I want to know what the
Buddha said about it I don't want to
know what somebody comes up with some
ideas I'm very traditional and I
understand that that's kind of a almost
a dirty word
but I am the most successful meditation
teacher that I know and that's not
bragging on my part that is just stating
a fact 50% of the people that are doing
retreats with me in Asia are successful
they are experiencing Nibbana to one
degree or another and they're starting
to be more and more happy all the time
and that's the whole point change your
perspective let go of your old ways of
thinking and have a lot of loving
acceptance of the present develop your
equanimity so that your mind has more
and more balance in it all the time and
the things that used to get you upset
it's not even worth mentioning anymore
so what
your mind becomes much more at ease and
you become much more skillful at solving
problems this is the advantages of doing
this kind of meditation and you are your
own teacher you're teaching yourself I'm
not the teacher you see me reading the
zhutka the Buddha is a teacher I'm a
guide my job is to keep you on the path
keep you going in the straight way so
you can have advantage for doing this
meditation and you can really benefit a
lot and nothing makes me happier than to
see people benefit from this meditation
believe me now sometimes when you start
to go deeper into your your meditation
there's different things that happen
when you come for the interviews that's
what I'm going to be questioning about I
don't care about the story of how you
got there I have very specific things
that I need to know I had one person
after the retreat they said that body
kept on interfering with what I was
trying to tell him and what he was
trying to tell me was a story and I
don't have time for stories I mean I see
everybody every day that's a lot of
hours of interviews plus I give a Dhamma
talk in the evening I'm busy I haven't
got time for a lot of stories
although I might give you a few well I
have enough time to show you how to how
to let it go but you got to do it
the thing with hindrances is they're
hindrances because they stop you from
staying on your object of meditation and
you have to learn that the hindrances
are not your enemy to fight with now
last night she was talking about pain
and she was talking about taking that
pain personally and wanting to get up
and run away from it and that doesn't
make it go away
that just postpones it a little bit we
have to learn to develop patience my
teacher
Lucille Ananda great monk absolutely
brilliant had the habit of telling me a
lot patience leads to Nibbana and I'm
patient as long as I get what I want
when I wanted so you have to be patient
and not just try to run away from things
when they first start to come up now in
in Malaysia there was 11 different
countries that people from 11 different
countries came to that retreat so that
was a real interesting time for me to
have that many
different ways of describing how things
work for them and I had to really stress
very much patience when hindrances arise
the six RS are not there to stop them
from causing pain the six RS are there
to let go of craving that's it the pain
will go away by itself when you use the
attachments what is an attachment its
craving it's taking something personally
it's making a big deal out of something
in your mind and trying to control there
is no control there's only observation
and allowing it to burn out by itself so
the more you're able to stay on your
object of meditation not with an iron
fist but just letting your mind stay
with your object of meditation without
trying to force it the more you do that
and use the six R's when your mind gets
distracted the faster your progress
becomes now at the first part of your
retreat you might be able to sit for
half an hour 45 minutes and your mind
starts to have a little bit of joy or
ice that's good but don't be attached to
it there's a lot more that's a lot
better and you'll see that for yourself
I don't want you to believe anything
that I say how many meditation teachers
have you
and say that check it out
see if it is if it's whether it's right
or not so the more you are teaching
yourself not to fight with entrances not
to try to control them to allow them to
be you start seeing that when these
hindrances arise they are teaching you
where your attachment is and how to let
go of that attachment by using the six
arts your mind will naturally start to
become more uplifted and happy as you
stop trying to make my mind be the way I
want it to be when I want it that way
there's nothing about making your mind
be anything there's only remembering to
observe how Minds attention moves from
one thing to another it's important to
see this because when you're able to see
how Minds attention moves you start to
see for yourself and teach yourself this
is part of an impersonal process I
didn't ask for this stuff to happen I
didn't want it to come up I can't make
it go away all I can do is observe how
this process works and as you can in
ually teach yourself about how this
process works you naturally start to
become more happy
you become lighter with your perspective
of things you become more accepting of
things instead of somebody coming up and
being extremely rude to you and you
getting mad at them you just let it go
not that important to get upset about
yeah but that no no good so-and-so said
or did this and I really hate that so
how much pain do you caused yourself
because I don't like it I am taking it
personally and that is a false belief
this meditation will show you how to let
go of that more and more so you develop
more and more balance with everything
every part of aspect of your life more
accepting don't resist or push soften
your mind and smile doesn't matter how
much pain comes up or what the reason of
the pain is the reason for the pain we
don't care about the reasons sometimes
we find out what the reason is sometimes
we don't it doesn't matter it's how the
process works that's the thing that's
important and you're going to hear me
talk more and more about dependent
origination and this is the process this
is how everything arises
as you get more and more educated with
how this process works you start to have
more and more balance in your mind and
you start seeing for yourself you make a
big deal out of anything you're going to
cause yourself suffering and until you
stop making a big deal out of it and
taking it personally you're going to
continue suffering and you can't blame
anybody else for your pain oh but he
said this and I don't like that whoops
who doesn't like it I don't who wants it
to be different than it is I wish they
hadn't said that so who doesn't like
that who wants it to be different who's
causing themself more and more pain
because you're making a big deal out of
it and taking it personally now the
thing with the Buddha's path that is
very important and it's not something
that is like very much in this country
and it's called morality but most people
in this country don't even understand
what morality really means it means
these five precepts that you take for
your daily life you keep them and your
mind will naturally become calm
now the first precept don't harm or kill
living beings on purpose second precept
don't take anything that's not given
don't steal anything how do you feel
when somebody steals something of yours
the third precept don't do any wrong
sexual activity what is wrong sexual
activity wrong sexual activity is sexual
activity with another person's mate or
with someone that is your mate that has
other relationships going sexual
activity with somebody that's too young
sexual activity that causes any other
person to have dislike come up in their
mind
so keeping sexual activity doesn't
necessarily mean that you have to be
married to have sexual activity but it
means that you don't cause anybody else
upset because you're having that
relationship the next precept is the one
that's probably the hardest don't tell
any lies a white lie is a lie
don't knowingly say things that are
false don't curse look at your mind if
you if you start cursing what what's
happening in your mind a lot of hatred
when I came back to Asia which was 15
years ago now I was absolutely shocked
to see television the language that they
were using on television cursing is
becoming okay the radio of cursing I was
absolutely shocked by that what is that
saying that's saying that people they're
giving their dislike and dissatisfaction
to everybody else around them in an
offensive way and don't do that that
makes other people upset and your mind
is upset your mind has hatred in it when
you're getting caught up in cursing
don't try to split groups one group from
another by saying well this group over
here they're saying this about you and
you come to this group and you say well
they're saying this about you doesn't
matter to let it go and don't gossip
what is gossip it's making up stories
that aren't true it's trying to cause
problems for other people
so these four different kinds of speech
are very important to keep now the fifth
precept don't take drugs and alcohol at
Dolomites I have some students that they
thought that that wasn't the right thing
so they had a glass of wine and then
they saw these are people that were
pretty advanced in the meditation but
they they drank a glass of wine and it
affected their meditation for three or
four days afterwards their mind got dull
and you say well if it's only one beer
it's only this little bit of wine but it
has a negative effect on your mind and
if you're serious about meditation
don't do it yeah but I need to relax
we'll go meditate if you need to relax
go have fun
go play with some kids if you need to
relax
any time you break one of the precepts
it causes hindrances to arise I've had
students for years that they would keep
the precepts while they were on retreat
when they got off they just went back to
the way they did things before and then
they'd come back for another retreat to
say you know this retreat is it's really
hard well yeah why because you break the
precepts you have that guilty mind you
know your mind knows when you break a
precept and your mind says I shouldn't
have done that
and then you come for a retreat and you
sit in meditation and you have these
entrances coming up and you have to go
through that to purify your mind so
after eight or nine days on a retreat
your mind finally has purified itself
enough it starts to go deeper and then
you're done with a retreat so keep your
precepts without breaking and of course
there's always these clowns that say
okay okay I'm going to keep all the
precepts how long do I have to do that
well my answer is the will for another
hundred years at least and we'll go up
from there it's important to keep these
precepts there's no God in heaven is
going to throw down a thunderbolt at you
because you broke a precept but you know
you've done it yourself you've taken
something that wasn't given and then you
can justify it all you want but that
doesn't mean that you haven't broken the
precept one of the things that happens
when people come to the center is
there's a lot of making up reasons why
things happening the way they're
happening and they look to put blame on
anybody else they're not taking
responsibility for themselves and that
turns into a problem for them
because they don't want to take
responsibility for their breaking their
own precepts they want to blame somebody
else because of this problem and
progress is very slow because of it the
reason that I have you doing the
precepts every morning is not some kind
of right and ritual it's a reminder to
keep the precepts and if you say
something that's not true you've broken
the preset it's going to affect your
meditation negatively all day until you
take the precepts the next morning so
when you realize that you broke the
precept right then stop what you're
doing forgive yourself for making a
mistake make a determination that I'm
not going to do that again and take the
precepts again that way you can purify
your own mind it's important to do that
as I was telling you this morning there
was a monk that when he first came to
the meditation Center he was doing great
he was sit in three hours and that's
when I could barely sit for two and by
the end of his retreat because he broke
one precept that he and he felt guilty
for it he couldn't sit more than 15
minutes now what why do you think that
is because he took it personally
he decided I know this is something that
I should follow but I'm not going to do
it and as a result that affected the
meditation in a negative way can't blame
me for that it's not my fault I don't
have anything to do with your keeping
your precepts all I can do is recommend
that it's
good thing and to do it all the time not
just while you're on retreat if you keep
your precepts for a year without
breaking them and you come for a retreat
your meditation is going to fly your
meditation is going to go very deep very
quickly why because you've kept your
precepts and that leads to strong
tranquility and equanimity
so the hindrances when they come up they
are your teacher and you're teaching
yourself about how to let go of these
hindrances you're teaching yourself
about the cause of the hindrances by
keeping precepts it's real important to
be careful about what you say okay
it doesn't mean you can't joke you can
but everybody knows that you're just
making a joke you're not breaking a
precept there's a story in one of the
commentaries about a monk went out on
arms round and he came back and he had a
lot of food in this bowl and one of the
monks was just going out on alms round
he said how's they all drowned today and
he said oh the the streets are flowing
with food that's not a true statement
right but it's it's a way of describing
if you're not trying to fool other
people you're not trying to get them to
believe something that you know is
untrue okay okay here quite secluded
from sensual pleasures secluded from
unwholesome States a person enters upon
and abides in the first channel which is
accompanied by thinking and examining
thought with joy and happiness born of
seclusion that is what the first jhana
is like you'll be able to stay on your
object to meditation for a period of
time without any distractions and you'll
be able to see when your mind starts to
move away and you'll catch it more
quickly and come back every time your
mind moves away from your object to
meditation you're not in that jhana at
that time
he considers this and understands that
thus the first jhana is conditioned and
you're directing your mind
it's Felician Allah produced you're
directing your mind to stay with one of
the objects of meditation whatever that
happens to be but whatever his condition
and volitional leap in produced is
impermanent subject to change subject to
cessation if he's steady in that he
attains the destruction of the taints
but if he does not attain a destruction
of the taints because of that desire for
the Dhamma that delight in the Dhamma
then with a destruction of the five
lower fetters he becomes one due to
reappear spontaneously in the pure boots
and their attained final knee bono
without ever returning from that world
now what are we talking about here if
you attain even the first jhana with the
tranquil wisdom meditation while you're
in that jhana your mind can all of a
sudden go very deep and you can become
an are hot just by being in the first
jhana doesn't happen very often I
granted but I have had students that
have been in the jhanas not all the way
up to the highest jhanas
and attained nirvana there was a nun
that came and she started practicing
with me she was am I on a nun and most
my Ayana teachers are very very severe
they don't like people that smile they
don't like people that are happy for the
most part and that's just a general
thing that I'm saying is not specific
everyone is like that but because it's
not no nobody is always going to be how
you describe but when she first came she
was so sour faced very serious had these
deep lines in her inner forehead and I
kept telling her she had to smile and by
the third day of the retreat she
actually heard what I said
and she started smiling and she said
does this mean I can have fun and I said
yeah and the next day she went into the
breakfast started eating staying with
the loving-kindness and her spiritual
friend and got into the first jhana
because of that and after that she was
Miss smiley she was smiling all the time
and being happy all the time and the
beep lines in her face the deep frown
lines were trying too hard they
disappeared is great it was really good
fun to see somebody get it
so please smile please smile all the
time
keep your mind like any time you get
serious guess who has an attachment
guess who's taking it personally
guess who's causing themself pain it's
okay to smile it's okay to laugh and it
is okay to have fun
you don't hear meditation teachers say
that very often I think I'm about the
only one I know of that says it
well meditation is supposed to be
serious well then be seriously happy
how's that keep your mind light whenever
you get serious about anything I am
there I want to control I want it to be
the way I want it to be and that's a
cause of suffering so this is an all the
time practice it's not just sitting and
walking practice and that's hard to get
across because an awful lot of people
when when the Chinese and Japanese
started coming over to this country and
in the 1800's there
their main focus in meditation was
sitting and that's why meditation is
called sitting because they just drummed
it into everybody that men do you have
to sit and that's when you're doing your
meditation but to be able to carry your
meditation with you all the time the
thing with the six RS that's very
important is to understand that's a way
you can let go of your suffering in your
daily activities and the more you smile
with your daily activities the better
your mindfulness becomes you're able to
see what your mind is doing in the
present and when your mind starts to get
serious and starts to pull down with all
of these problems well that's a time
that you use your six R's and smile into
that keep your mind light don't take it
heavily I've got to worry about this
well no you don't it's your choice to
worry about it whether you're going to
do it or not but oh this is so bad how
can I handle this how can I take care of
that well you can do it with a serious
mind that resists and wants to control
doesn't like the situation gets angry
pretty easy or not you can be very
accepting of whatever arises
it doesn't matter what the feeling is
like whether it is a mental feeling or a
physical feeling the thing is that when
you take it personally it makes your
mind have more and more craving in and
more and more desire to control and make
it be the way you want it to be and
honestly it doesn't work
it really doesn't the more you can allow
and just say okay you're there so what
it's alright it doesn't mean you don't
work if you have joints that need to be
straightened out that doesn't mean you
don't straighten them out it means you
don't have resistance to straightening
them out and you don't get into the
dislike of the sensation for it being
there
did you ask a sensation to come up
you're sitting in meditation and all of
a sudden you have a pain in your knee
did you say you know I haven't had any
pain in my knee for a while I might as
well have some now no you don't have any
control over that sort of thing what you
do have a control over is what you do
with that when it arises use the six
hours not as some kind of stick to beat
things away to stop them from happening
it's that's not what six hours are about
the six RS are very specifically right
effort is very specifically used to let
go of craving the cause of the suffering
and the six arse and right effort are
the same thing just a different way of
describing it it's just like the five
aggregates and four foundations of
mindfulness are different ways of saying
the same thing the Buddha was real big
on the five aggregates when he would
teach monks he would teach them about
the five aggregates because they
understood that later on he changed over
to doing the foundations of mindfulness
that was a later kind of teaching but it
was still the same thing the five
aggregates you have body you have
feeling that perception now perception
and feeling are conjoined always when a
feeling comes up you know whether it's a
pleasant feeling or a painful feeling
perception is a part of the mind that
tells you that okay you have the same
cara's you have thoughts you have I
generally have for beginners I talked
about thoughts more than anything thank
Aras and you have consciousness the four
foundations of mindfulness you have body
same as with the five aggregates you
have feeling same as with the five
aggregates you have consciousness same
with the five aggregates you have Damas
same with the five aggregates now isn't
that amazing well the four foundations
of mindfulness they're so important to
people that are practicing the vaasana'
but I found over the years that they
just talk about generally what the four
foundations of mindfulness are they
don't talk specifically about what they
are and the four foundations of
mindfulness in the sukkah is talking
about jhana practice but they've taken
that understanding away and say oh
that's just free pass on a-- but it is
describing all kinds of things about
jhana practice the way the Buddha taught
jhana
was that the four foundations or the
five aggregates whichever way you want
to say it is in each jhana while you're
actually in the jhana you're practicing
the four foundations of mindfulness and
there's more than one suta that agrees
with that so there's a lot of things
that are kind of misunderstood I don't
believe they're purposefully
misunderstanding
but there is a misunderstanding with the
different ways of doing the practice and
I am very much enthusiastic about
practicing what the Buddha is talking
about and specifically following what
the Buddha was talking about and it is
great fun for me to watch people start
to understand it's really nice
doesn't take that long from now until
the end of the retreat outside of being
your guide I am the educator and you'll
be a lot smarter about Buddhism by the
end of the retreat because you'll have
some of the direct experiences you'll
have some of the direct knowledge for
yourself
and again you're your own teacher I can
present ideas that the Buddha was
talking about you decide whether you
want to try it or not generally speaking
when you follow what the Buddha says it
works it works very well and it is
immediately effective I mean when you
have a hindrance arise and you let it be
there and you relax
that hindrance is not there anymore
that's immediate now when I'm talking
about the six ARS I'm talking about
words that you need to do not say over
and over again okay this is a list of
words to do recognize as soon as you
notice you're not on your object of
meditation you've already recognized it
you don't have to tell yourself I need
to recognize this and you let it be and
relax and smile and come back to your
object of meditation and stay there it's
a flow don't put any philosophy with it
this is a method and it works very well
and it works all the time
your job is to remember to do it so with
each of the jhanas that you'll go
through there's going to be a little
different kind of experience that you're
going to have and you can have the
experience of attaining Nibbana while
you're in each one of these jhanas like
I said I have had students that have
attained me bon a welder
they're using the sixers the thing with
the jhana that is not very well
understood because it's taken from the
beta Tech's is people think the only
time you can experience jhana is while
you're sitting now when you're walking
can you have joy can you have a peaceful
calm mind
and you have a mind that's very
collected and very at ease oh that means
you can be walking and being in the
jhana
it doesn't matter what you're doing what
matters is how you're using your
mindfulness keep your mind
keep your mind smiling that improves
your mindfulness so much it's
unbelievable and I can tell when you
come in for the interview whether you're
really smiling enough or not and I might
tell you you got a smile more why
because your mind's too heavy as soon as
you walk in it's like somebody bring
I'm led on it on top of their head and
pushing it down have fun with this
retreat in it I give you all permission
to have fun how's that
keep smiling as much as you can okay so
we didn't get very far on this suta but
we will in in the next one do you have
any questions are we going to have smart
people or dumb people yeah it doesn't
matter content doesn't matter that's
where people get a lot of confusion
because they want to follow it and see
what it is and that's distraction okay
I've had some students that they've been
real close to getting to Nibbana but
they kept on having a a memory of a past
lifetime and okay let's go see this for
a little while know the content of that
doesn't matter what matters is that you
recognize that your mind is distracted
let it be there by itself relax
smile come back you can get insights
into what what comes up but the insights
are always about the process of how it
came up and you might see well the
reason this came up was because of that
memory or whatever but you don't follow
that
that's for psychology that's not for the
Buddha's path the Buddha's path is about
how did this come up and it always comes
up in exactly the same way and that's
one of the things in Asia they really
don't like the idea when I tell them
that there's no difference between the
American mind and the Asian mind they
don't like that idea at all
but it's it's that your human being all
human beings mind works in the same way
exactly
and there's fascination with why
something arises and follow it to the
end and see if there's any resolution by
it but that's taking it personally and
we will let go of that idea now there's
some weird things that happen when you
start letting go and seeing the
impersonal nature of everything your
mind can have a lot of fear arise and it
starts throwing a temper tantrum just
like a little kid you're ignoring me
I've been in control how many lifetimes
and now you're not paying attention to
me anymore
you're telling me that that all the
things I've done in the past don't
it isn't really me it's a false belief
and your mind will throw up a lot of
fear and how do you get over that fear
you laugh at how crazy your mind can get
everybody is crazy
it's okay to be crazy because we all are
we've been taking things personally for
how many lifetimes how much pain have we
caused ourselves by taking it personally
by getting involved with a story and
trying to solve problems there's so much
benefit gained by keeping your precepts
without breaking them by smiling more by
seeing things that are impersonal
processes that we take as us how much
pain do we cause ourself and then you
start letting go of that and everything
changes yeah
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all Yaya but all beings want to live
they don't want to die in order to kill
there has to be dislike well we we
practice in such insect rescue a lot we
have some little devices that will just
go around the insect and close in on it
then we take it outside open it up and
let it go out we do that with wasps we
do that with ladybugs we do that with
all kinds of things that like to come in
now one of the things we have a lot of
wasps for we live a lot and I got into
the habit of catching them on the window
taking them and letting them go out but
as I'm letting them go out I tell them
to tell all our friends I let them go
free which sounds kind of weird except I
never get stung it does work
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well Asia hassle it has to do with your
intention when you stop intending to
kill then you're expanding the lifecycle
of other beings if you just go out and
start killing them you're shortening
that lifecycle you're shortening your
own light cycle now in Asia they have
and it's ant heaven in Asia and they are
really troublesome and they bite and
look smaller the ant is the bigger the
bite is so the Chinese have developed
this truck that should put around you
you just draw a circle around you and
the ants will cross that line there's
way of preventing them from bothering
you how mosquitoes are troublesome so
you sleep under a mosquito net you don't
have to kill them sometimes there is not
the intention to kill but something
bites you and you go like that to see
what it was and you accidentally kill
them your intention was not to kill now
there's a story about this one monk that
was blind and he had a string between
poles and he was walking back and forth
holding onto
a string and he was stepping on ants and
monks saw that and they went to the
Buddha to tattletale a little bit and
say he's killing these ants and the
Buddha said his intention is not to kill
he's not doing it on purpose he has no
mental hold on any of that so there's no
wrongdoing well if you kill anything on
purpose you don't have also mine let's
just put it that way okay
you
and we can get into a long discussion
about that but I'm not gonna mine comes
up with discursive God always how about
that don't make it a big deal just six
art continue on oh yeah
craving is not particularly strong it is
particularly persistent I mean you can
just barely have enough time to do the
six hours and come back to your object
before all of a sudden you're pulled
away again just play it as it's a game
don't make a big deal out of it well and
if you try too hard one of the things
that they started doing in Asia this
time was that every thought that came up
they were six arting as soon as they
came and they just had more and more and
more thoughts and they'd come to me it
talked to me about being tired it is
tiring to 6ar every little thing that
comes up you don't need to six are every
little thing that comes up if it doesn't
pull your attention away from your
object to meditation and these thoughts
come up ignore them if it pulls your
attention away now you use the six arts
yeah they're trying to hurt they have to
back off on that and what you have to
tell them to do is they need to smile
more it's really true some people will
come in and they'll be complaining about
oh my meditation is so active I have so
much problem in this and that you're not
smiling enough oh yes I am I smile all
the time no you don't if you smile all
the time you're not going to have these
problems come up you're taking it
personally you're trying to over control
and you can't do that you have to back
off well they don't understand what a
true smile is because I have a lot of
equanimity in my mind most of the time
but I'm also smiling in my mind most of
it so it doesn't have to be here but it
does have to be yeah
you'll start seeing them naturally you
don't have to force it you'll start
seeing them happen you'll see feeling
arise and then the craving and then the
clinging and then the bejeweled tendency
and then the suffering you'll be able to
see that and recognize it as you go
deeper in your meditation
it will start to come naturally
you have to be careful with your energy
if you start to get any tension or
tightness in your head while you're
doing that back off that's the key is
with anything if you have too much
tension or you you have tightness that
starts to happen and your mind starts to
do this you're putting in too much
effort too much energy and you have to
back off until there's balance with it
yeah they do
and that's what insights are all about
because you you'll be going along and
all of a sudden you'll just notice oh
that's how that happened
Wow that's really something it happened
because there was a contact there was
feeling there was craving and as soon as
the craving happened a sick start and
the other links didn't arise Wow isn't
that amazing that's why I wanted to call
this an oh wow meditation because
there's a lot of oh wow that happen yeah
to start off with
that's okay to stay with equanimity then
and when you're walking I want you to
walk at a normal pace please don't walk
slowly you're walking for exercise stay
with your object to meditation whatever
that happens to be the longer you sit
the more you need the exercise you have
to get to going up a hill or running
upstairs and downstairs that sort of
thing get your heart beating that's real
important but stay with your object of
meditation while you're doing it okay
anybody else like if I do let go to get
back the insight comes about the
endurance but not without trying or not
without like I'm not making any
psychological with the travel can't just
unravel right and then else has an
insight pretty much back okay that's
fine
see them in your mind see them in your
mind see them now you there's two
different kinds of visualization for
some people the visualization can be
seeing them like pictures or seeing them
like in a movie and that's very easy for
them that's one kind of visualization
the other kind of visualization of
seeing them is just knowing that that's
who you're sending it to so pick the one
that's easiest the visualization is not
near as important as the feeling of
loving kindness and the feeling of the
wish that you make for your friend
that's much more important than seeing
them
by Elmar and you'll see just have fun
have fun doing it
know that person that you're sending it
to and you sincerely do wish them well
and radiate that feeling to them okay
don't try too hard that's one of the
biggest problems that I have with people
who have done meditation before is
they're taught to try to art and it's
time you got to learn how to back off so
you had a question
so no no no no no it doesn't matter what
the content is I don't care
fuzzy is fine
well eventually yeah but stop trying to
analyze it
that's a Western disease and it's a big
problem
people can for years get caught in that
but when they finally start listening
and realize I mean last summer I had a
monk come he stayed for three months the
first month he did meditation he was
just great and then he got it in his
mind that I want to be an are hot so he
started wrong effort and he had a whole
month of restlessness every time he came
my mind is restless I'm running all over
the place you're trying too hard
back off don't get involved with it here
at getting involved with the content
every day for 30 days I'm saying the
same thing to it then he comes to me and
he's really peaceful and calm and he
said well I figured out I was trying to
so he was my patience teacher it's
amazing then I you can have yeah it's
amazing that I can say something a
hundred times and then you finally get
it and you come to me and you're really
excited you go yeah I just found this
out how good oh I don't but there is
some relief when they finally yeah
it'll cause it'll cause tense it'll
cause tension to arise in your mind when
you get it when you get into the deeper
state you don't have a body and that's
one thing that I fight with the people
in Asia because they're very body
conscious you don't have a body but if
there is some contact you can feel the
contact then you'll say oh I've got this
real pain in my backside or my back or
my knee and I keep saying you don't have
a body how can you have a pain there
it's all mental that's something I have
to talk with you personally about
because it depends on the situation
sometimes I'll just tell people it's not
really pulling your attention away from
your object let's stay with your object
just because those thoughts are coming
up doesn't mean you have to address
everyone so it's it's staying on your
object of meditation that is the key
even when your mind is mind is object
meditation okay
but I'll find out as the questions that
I ask I'll find out what's happening now
there are going to be some people that
are going to be coming in and they want
to sit in on the interviews if you want
a private interview tell me but other
than that I want people I want to deke
people how to give interviews so I I
started doing that what was it two years
ago and it's quite helpful I don't think
it's anything in particular but
everybody of stepless the club so
anything else going back to when we're
talking about precepts and thinking
about feed and bugs on the windshield
profanity and all the other stuff that's
significant we how to determine whether
pregnant forgiveness education is
appropriate
magic way if you feel guilty about it
you feel guilty about it that forgive it
now the forgiveness meditation when done
in an intensive way is a very very very
powerful meditation it is the most
powerful meditation that I teach you
don't have to do it for the whole
retreat unless I had one one student in
Malaysia that when he started out he was
really kind of wacko and he was taking
all kinds of drugs and he was bipolar
seven or eight bipolar whatever that
means but he was going through
personality shifts that were just
unbelievable and he would follow the
directions kind of for a little while
and then he'd start off and do what he
wanted to do so this progress wasn't as
fast as it could be but by the end of
the retreat he had started to settle
down and when somebody is taking drugs I
don't allow them to stop taking the
drugs and I tell that they have to go
see the doctor about that because they
can have shifts back into their old ways
of doing things if they get people like
to cold-turkey drugs and you have to do
it gradually you have to do it over two
or three week period not just stop
taking it all together because that your
body is used to it and you're addicted
to it be quite honest and then you go
through all these changes but he started
following the directions
even did a second retreat by the end of
the second retreat I actually told him
he didn't have to do any more
forgiveness unless there was something
came up that made his mind aight and he
was starting to do loving-kindness
meditation and doing quite well with it
so there's a lot of healing in doing the
forgiveness meditation a lot of healing
people that come and they tell me well I
can't feel any loving-kindness I just
don't know what it is okay let's do the
forgiveness meditation after two or
three days of doing forgiveness then all
of a sudden they have a breakthrough and
then I switch them over to
loving-kindness and they just zoom after
that so there was a lot of past old
situations that they were attached to
and the the way to let go of that
attachment is through forgiving
loving-kindness is forgiveness is part
of loving-kindness
well it depends it depends on them
entirely but what I have them start
doing is forgiving themselves for making
mistakes because we're so hard on
ourselves I mean we can do just
brilliant things all day and do one
thing that's questionable in your mind
then you start criticizing yourself for
it you have to be able to recognize that
release it relaxed smile and laugh
without dumb your mind can be but it
depends it's all individual there's
there's no set formula for anything and
when I have them doing forgiveness
sometimes I have them forgiving
themselves for making a mistake or
forgiving themself for not understanding
or forgiving themselves for causing pain
to themselves
those are real important aspects now
that there's a real big thing that's
happening in this country about well you
got to forgive but people don't know how
to forgive so they just say well you did
this to me I forgive you and then they
think they're done and the attachment is
still there so it still affects them in
a negative way they have to work until
they feel relief how long does that take
how well do they follow directions
but I've had students that have been in
a mental institute and I get them to
start forgiving and smiling and doing
all kinds of things they leave the
mental institute they don't have to be
in there anymore they don't have to take
such heavy drugs yeah
and it's their doing their own work
because they want to change come into a
retreat yeah
because because it is such a personal
thing you can't just say well just do
this and that'll work
it just it depends on what they're going
through and one of the things that the
forgiveness does is it helps you to let
go of your secrets now one of the
definitions of an Arad is a person that
has no secrets any secret you have that
you're keeping and you don't talk about
it
that's your attachment that's you're
holding on to an old action and taking
it personally and causing yourself a lot
of suffering
so it is kind of an individual thing so
one of the things that at the last
retreat I gave in Kuala Lumpur I started
talking to them about using forgiveness
with any kind of physical owie and you
stubbed your toe we cut your the burn
yourself whatever start forgiving right
then and then test on the forgiveness
the next time that happens don't forgive
and see how long how much longer it
takes to heal because it's amazing same
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right
the more you can forgive little things
as you're going along the easier it
becomes to forgive the big things when
they come and the faster you heal I mean
it's it's amazing I have a wood-burning
stove at home and sometimes I get burned
now when I when I start paying attention
to that and I start forgiving it by the
next day I don't even have a blister all
I have is a red spot two or three days
later it's all gone
then when I don't I've got a problem for
a week I have a blister and I have a lot
of pain so it's a difference of two or
three days or a week it's up to me
whether I do it or not so the more you
can remember to do the forgiveness with
your any kind of ally whether it's a
mental ally or a physical owie you do
the forgiveness the pain is going to
disappear more quickly
talk to me about it it depends where you
are see it's not a blank that I'm not a
1/1 horse bone hair or one point one
trick pony I have a lot of tricks so it
depends on the situation
but one of the things that it happened a
lot when I was in Asia because I was
running around barefooted
barefooted in the forest at night is not
a safe thing to do for your toes it's
really not because you wind up breaking
them and when I break a toe then I start
doing forgiveness every time the pain
came up after two or three days I'm not
even limping anymore or if I don't do it
then I have a couple of weeks of real
severe pain so it's always your choice
what are you doing with your mind when
this kind of problem arises when you
make it a big deal and you're
identifying with it you're causing
yourself more pain that's the truth when
you forgive it and use then
loving-kindness into it it has a
tendency to get less and even disappear
yeah
not as much as I am yeah when I first
got to Asia and what became a monk for a
couple of years I started being the
abbot of monastery and a lot of people
were really suffering very much because
in Malaysia there's there's three
populations in a maze in Malaysia
there's Chinese there's Malay and
there's Indian and they don't get along
very well and the Malay run the
government so they're always pushing
down the Chinese because the trainings
are ambitious people and the Chinese
were walking around with a lot of hatred
so I started teaching them about
forgiveness and I got criticized because
the Buddha didn't teach any forgiveness
well yeah actually he did and it's in
davinia
so there's no problem with it but I was
criticized because I was not teaching
straight Vipassana that's the only way
to attain nirvana you know that's what
they think but they're in Malaysia
because I started teaching
loving-kindness more and I refused to
teach straight Vipassana because I'd
already gone through the experience and
wasn't happy with it
the loving-kindness became very popular
and people started changing and and
starting to really become more
prosperous naturally and prosperous is a
word that doesn't necessarily mean
anything to do with money or material
things you have more friends when you
practice loving-kindness
datian you're more prosperous that way
things just happen more easily and
that's how you become more prosperous
it's real interesting to see some people
that break precepts how they are
continually having one drama after
another and people that keep the
precepts how prosperity and how things
are so easy to happen and you meet the
right people at the right time and you
get along with them and you have fun
with them that's really it's an amazing
thing to watch so I thought I was going
to get done at an hour and a half and
there it is two hours so why don't we
share some merit
you may suffer in one's feet suffering
free and the fear struck fearless beat
in the grieving pedal relief that may
all beings find relief now being shared
of this earth that we just acquired for
the acquisition of all kinds of
happiness may beings inhabiting space
and earth Davis and Nagas of mighty
powers share this narrative house
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this particular suit guy is very good
and is very interesting so I hope you
get a lot of out of it thus if I heard
on one occasion of venerable ananda was
living in a town near vesali now in that
occasion a householder dama sama had
arrived from possibly a puta for some
business or other then when a certain
monk in cuckoo butas park after paying
homage to him he sat down at one side
and asked him where does the venerable
Ananda live now venerable sir I wish to
see a venerable Ananda the venerable
Ananda is living near ghazali
householder when the householder Dhamma
sama had completed his business and
helped artillio puta he went to the
venerable Ananda after paying homage to
him sat down at one side and asked him
venerable Ananda has any one thing been
proclaimed by the Blessed One who knows
and sees accomplished and fully awakened
wherein if a monk abides diligent pardon
and resolute his unliberated mind comes
to be liberated and as undestroyed
taints come to be destroyed and he
attains the supreme security from
bondage that he not had not attained
before there is householder indeed one
such thing proclaimed by the
said one what is that one thing
venerable Ananda here householder quite
included from sensual pleasures secluded
from unwholesome states among enters
upon and abides in the first jhana one
of the things that happened in America
in particular is that the word jhana has
been misinterpreted and people are told
to not practice jhana the word jhana in
the sutras is mentioned about 10000
times so it seems to me that that isn't
the correct kind of thinking oh you
shouldn't practice jhana the Buddha
didn't teach jhana well yes he did
he taught mostly jhana but the
interpretation of john i by most people
is one pointed concentration or
absorption concentration which is what
the Buddha did not teach it gets
confusing because there's more than one
kind of jhana that's being taught the
kind of jhana that I teach is different
from the kind of jhana that everybody
else thinks about I'm hearing a backlash
on this
it's kind of a back hum and just a bit
sorry okay it's it's not quite loud
enough now visit is that loud enough
okay so cut it out the kind of jhana I
teach is what the Buddha taught and it's
by following the directions in the
sutras that you attained this kind of
jhana now the kind of jhana that has
been practiced before the Buddha came
around and by the Brahmins who were the
main religious group in India during the
time of the Buddha is one pointed
concentration it came from the Vedas now
what's all of this mean one pointed
concentration is this your mind is on
your object of meditation it gets
distracted immediately you let go of
that distraction and come back to your
object of meditation when you do this
what happens with your mind is the force
of the concentration that you would
eventually develop stops
inferences from arising and your mind
becomes absorbed in an object of
meditation and there's a lot of danger
in this kind of meditation I've run
across people that have had to be put in
mental Institute's because they were
doing wrong kind of concentration and it
just addled their mind so much that they
weren't reliable anymore what I teach we
call it
twin tranquil wisdom insight meditation
now this kind of jhana your mind is on
your object of meditation your mind gets
distracted you let go of the distraction
and relax the tightness in your head in
your mind caused by that distraction
when you let go of that tightness you're
letting go of craving what's the second
noble truth the cause of craving or the
cause of suffering is craving now almost
all people that are practicing different
forms of meditation are not recognizing
this tension and tightness so they're
practicing a kind of meditation that
will not lead to personality development
will not lead to the overcoming of
suffering
so there is a distinct difference
between what the Buddha was teaching in
the sutras and what most people are
teaching as the Buddhist meditation and
to be quite honest I listened to other
teachers give Dhamma talks and I get
bored with their talks because they use
a lot of words but they don't really say
anything they're not really teaching you
anything and that's not the Buddhist
style the Buddhist style was so that
your understanding can be so good that
you can change things for yourself and
it comes from that extra step of
relaxing it tranquilizes your mind what
happens when you relax and you let go of
that tension and tightness right after
that you'll notice that your mind is
very clear your mind is very bright your
mind is pure why is it pure because
you've let go of craving and that's the
cause of suffering so your mind becomes
pure when you let go of that craving a
lot of different kinds of things when
you're practicing meditation in this way
that occurred during your sitting for
one thing the force of the concentration
when you're doing this kind of sitting
does not suppress anything it doesn't
stop things from happening it doesn't
push down a lot of people when they're
teaching about meditation they say those
are the hindrances you have to push them
and down you have to push them away you
have to
them from just becoming a distraction I
have a friend that's been teaching
meditation for many many many years and
if you listen to him get in front of a
large group of people you can still hear
a little bit of fear in his voice he has
had trouble with fear since before he
started teaching and he even talks about
yeah I still have fear it doesn't bother
me so much anymore but it's still there
now is that purifying your mind that's
the real question if you're not able to
let go of the cause of suffering then
the suffering is not going to go away if
you can't recognize that suffering and
the cause of it there's no sense in
doing the meditation as far as I can see
I'm into very much end result now
there's a lot of meditations that are
very helpful in some ways but what's the
end result the end result that I'm
looking for is the cessation of
suffering and the Buddha is taught that
there's a right way to practice
meditation and a wrong way and the wrong
way of practicing is emphasizing
suffering the right way is learning how
suffering ceases
how it stops so what I'm going to be
doing during this retreat is showing you
a lot of different things that the
Buddha said about how to let go of
suffering and when you follow the
directions you don't add anything you
don't subtract anything you don't change
anything when you follow the directions
exactly precisely you will see a major
difference in yourself and it's nothing
that I'm doing that causes that to
happen what I'm doing is just telling
you what the Buddha said and it is
immediately effective one of the things
when it talks about the good qualities
of the Dhamma the second quality is
called a calico and poly a calico means
immediately effective how many people do
you know have been meditating for years
and they hit a wall and they just can't
go any deeper they can't go any further
and they get tired of it and they quit
meditating that doesn't happen with this
meditation why because it's immediately
effective every time there's a
distraction and pulls your attention
away from your object of meditation
you'll use the six artists on it you
recognize it you release the distraction
by not keeping your attention on it
don't make a big deal of any kind of
distraction
relax smile come back to your object of
meditation stay with your object of
meditation for as long as you can now
how is this immediately effective you've
let go of a hindrance you've let go of
the craving you've developed smiling and
having an uplifted mind a light mind and
you're bringing that light mind back to
your object to meditation and what
happens when you do that enough is the
hindrance goes away and when the
hindrance goes away you feel relief now
why do hindrances keep coming up because
you've done things in the past it might
be a past lifetime it might be in this
lifetime who knows it doesn't matter
what the cause is the reason a hindrance
keeps coming up is because you did
something in the past that made you feel
guilty and that guilty feeling makes you
take it personally this is me this is
mine I did that I shouldn't have done it
but I did it now I'm feeling guilty
because of it so every time you use the
six hours you're letting go of that
wrong opinion of a personal self being
you this is me this is mine this is
I am so every time you let go of that
craving you're letting go of that wrong
belief in a personal self and that's
immediately effective you went from
taking it personally to seeing that it's
not personal
it's just the thought it's just a
feeling so there's a lot of relief when
you let go of that right after that
relief you feel very strong joy now the
kind of there's there's five different
kinds of joy
the first kind of joy well the first
three kinds of joy can be experienced at
anybody at any time
the first kind of joy is like goosebumps
something really nice happens and you
get some boost pot so that's a good
feeling not nice the next kind of joy is
like a flash of lightning it's very
strong but it's only there for a short
period of time
now what happens after every kind of joy
that arises is right after that you feel
a sense of tranquility as as it gets
stronger the tranquility lasts longer
you feel more peaceful more calm more
balanced in your mind for a period of
time the next kind of joy is like
standing in the ocean and just having a
wave of joy come over you and then
another wave comes over you and you
might be able to sit for a few minutes
after that joy fades away where your
mind is really calm and it's quiet and
it's very very nice
now the last two kinds of joy only arise
through mental development the next kind
of joy is called uplifting joy this is
what you experience when you get into a
jhana this kind of joy you feel very
light in your body and light in your
mind and you feel yeah this is good this
is really a nice happy feeling I like
that and then that joy will fade away
now you you have to understand every
feeling that arises it's just a feeling
it's not my feeling sometimes people try
to hold on to a happy feeling because
they've had so much suffering in their
life you don't hold on to it you just
let it be there as long as it's going to
be you feel light in your body light in
your mind and you start going and this
is a reason that I really started
meditating this is good I like that but
you let it be there when that feeling
fades away you feel very strong
tranquility and you feel more
comfortable in your mind and in your
body than you've ever felt before just
at ease and that will last for a period
of time your mind becomes very unified
now I just described to you the first
jhana
now the last kind of joy that arises is
the awakening factor of joy
it's called all-pervading joy it doesn't
have the excitement in it of the other
kinds of joy you've experienced this
kind of joy is a real happy feeling and
your mind is very alert when this kind
of joys fades away the tranquility and
the balance of mind is very strong
excuse me
now getting back to the one pointed
concentration a lot of people especially
in this country will tell you that if
you get into jhana you cannot experience
Nirvana nirvana means no more fire
what's the cause of fire arising in your
mind craving Soni Bona is basically
saying no more craving for a period of
time
so when
you are practicing one-pointed
concentration not using the relaxed step
your mind can go very deep in
concentration but the force of the
concentrations stops things from arising
and that's why you can't attain nirvana
by doing that kind of meditation there's
a lot of people that are practicing oh
you do the jhana then when you get out
of the jhana you switch your meditation
over to straight Vipassana and then you
can attain nirvana well I've heard about
that for the last 35 years and I haven't
seen one person that's been successful
yet so I have my doubts as to whether
that really works but there's a lot of
attachments people think they're doing
the right thing saying the right thing
one of the phenomena that's starting to
happen now and it really does make me
happy is a lot of people are starting to
go back to the sutras and see what the
Buddha said instead of listen to what
somebody else said the Buddha said now
there's there's a lot of people that do
do teach meditation and they want to
teach from the heart which is all good
and well but I want to know what the
Buddha said about it I don't want to
know what somebody comes up with some
ideas I'm very traditional and I
understand that that's kind of a almost
a dirty word
but I am the most successful meditation
teacher that I know and that's not
bragging on my part that is just stating
a fact 50% of the people that are doing
retreats with me in Asia are successful
they are experiencing Nibbana to one
degree or another and they're starting
to be more and more happy all the time
and that's the whole point change your
perspective let go of your old ways of
thinking and have a lot of loving
acceptance of the present develop your
equanimity so that your mind has more
and more balance in it all the time and
the things that used to get you upset
it's not even worth mentioning anymore
so what
your mind becomes much more at ease and
you become much more skillful at solving
problems this is the advantages of doing
this kind of meditation and you are your
own teacher you're teaching yourself I'm
not the teacher you see me reading the
zhutka the Buddha is a teacher I'm a
guide my job is to keep you on the path
keep you going in the straight way so
you can have advantage for doing this
meditation and you can really benefit a
lot and nothing makes me happier than to
see people benefit from this meditation
believe me now sometimes when you start
to go deeper into your your meditation
there's different things that happen
when you come for the interviews that's
what I'm going to be questioning about I
don't care about the story of how you
got there I have very specific things
that I need to know I had one person
after the retreat they said that body
kept on interfering with what I was
trying to tell him and what he was
trying to tell me was a story and I
don't have time for stories I mean I see
everybody every day that's a lot of
hours of interviews plus I give a Dhamma
talk in the evening I'm busy I haven't
got time for a lot of stories
although I might give you a few well I
have enough time to show you how to how
to let it go but you got to do it
the thing with hindrances is they're
hindrances because they stop you from
staying on your object of meditation and
you have to learn that the hindrances
are not your enemy to fight with now
last night she was talking about pain
and she was talking about taking that
pain personally and wanting to get up
and run away from it and that doesn't
make it go away
that just postpones it a little bit we
have to learn to develop patience my
teacher
Lucille Ananda great monk absolutely
brilliant had the habit of telling me a
lot patience leads to Nibbana and I'm
patient as long as I get what I want
when I wanted so you have to be patient
and not just try to run away from things
when they first start to come up now in
in Malaysia there was 11 different
countries that people from 11 different
countries came to that retreat so that
was a real interesting time for me to
have that many
different ways of describing how things
work for them and I had to really stress
very much patience when hindrances arise
the six RS are not there to stop them
from causing pain the six RS are there
to let go of craving that's it the pain
will go away by itself when you use the
attachments what is an attachment its
craving it's taking something personally
it's making a big deal out of something
in your mind and trying to control there
is no control there's only observation
and allowing it to burn out by itself so
the more you're able to stay on your
object of meditation not with an iron
fist but just letting your mind stay
with your object of meditation without
trying to force it the more you do that
and use the six R's when your mind gets
distracted the faster your progress
becomes now at the first part of your
retreat you might be able to sit for
half an hour 45 minutes and your mind
starts to have a little bit of joy or
ice that's good but don't be attached to
it there's a lot more that's a lot
better and you'll see that for yourself
I don't want you to believe anything
that I say how many meditation teachers
have you
and say that check it out
see if it is if it's whether it's right
or not so the more you are teaching
yourself not to fight with entrances not
to try to control them to allow them to
be you start seeing that when these
hindrances arise they are teaching you
where your attachment is and how to let
go of that attachment by using the six
arts your mind will naturally start to
become more uplifted and happy as you
stop trying to make my mind be the way I
want it to be when I want it that way
there's nothing about making your mind
be anything there's only remembering to
observe how Minds attention moves from
one thing to another it's important to
see this because when you're able to see
how Minds attention moves you start to
see for yourself and teach yourself this
is part of an impersonal process I
didn't ask for this stuff to happen I
didn't want it to come up I can't make
it go away all I can do is observe how
this process works and as you can in
ually teach yourself about how this
process works you naturally start to
become more happy
you become lighter with your perspective
of things you become more accepting of
things instead of somebody coming up and
being extremely rude to you and you
getting mad at them you just let it go
not that important to get upset about
yeah but that no no good so-and-so said
or did this and I really hate that so
how much pain do you caused yourself
because I don't like it I am taking it
personally and that is a false belief
this meditation will show you how to let
go of that more and more so you develop
more and more balance with everything
every part of aspect of your life more
accepting don't resist or push soften
your mind and smile doesn't matter how
much pain comes up or what the reason of
the pain is the reason for the pain we
don't care about the reasons sometimes
we find out what the reason is sometimes
we don't it doesn't matter it's how the
process works that's the thing that's
important and you're going to hear me
talk more and more about dependent
origination and this is the process this
is how everything arises
as you get more and more educated with
how this process works you start to have
more and more balance in your mind and
you start seeing for yourself you make a
big deal out of anything you're going to
cause yourself suffering and until you
stop making a big deal out of it and
taking it personally you're going to
continue suffering and you can't blame
anybody else for your pain oh but he
said this and I don't like that whoops
who doesn't like it I don't who wants it
to be different than it is I wish they
hadn't said that so who doesn't like
that who wants it to be different who's
causing themself more and more pain
because you're making a big deal out of
it and taking it personally now the
thing with the Buddha's path that is
very important and it's not something
that is like very much in this country
and it's called morality but most people
in this country don't even understand
what morality really means it means
these five precepts that you take for
your daily life you keep them and your
mind will naturally become calm
now the first precept don't harm or kill
living beings on purpose second precept
don't take anything that's not given
don't steal anything how do you feel
when somebody steals something of yours
the third precept don't do any wrong
sexual activity what is wrong sexual
activity wrong sexual activity is sexual
activity with another person's mate or
with someone that is your mate that has
other relationships going sexual
activity with somebody that's too young
sexual activity that causes any other
person to have dislike come up in their
mind
so keeping sexual activity doesn't
necessarily mean that you have to be
married to have sexual activity but it
means that you don't cause anybody else
upset because you're having that
relationship the next precept is the one
that's probably the hardest don't tell
any lies a white lie is a lie
don't knowingly say things that are
false don't curse look at your mind if
you if you start cursing what what's
happening in your mind a lot of hatred
when I came back to Asia which was 15
years ago now I was absolutely shocked
to see television the language that they
were using on television cursing is
becoming okay the radio of cursing I was
absolutely shocked by that what is that
saying that's saying that people they're
giving their dislike and dissatisfaction
to everybody else around them in an
offensive way and don't do that that
makes other people upset and your mind
is upset your mind has hatred in it when
you're getting caught up in cursing
don't try to split groups one group from
another by saying well this group over
here they're saying this about you and
you come to this group and you say well
they're saying this about you doesn't
matter to let it go and don't gossip
what is gossip it's making up stories
that aren't true it's trying to cause
problems for other people
so these four different kinds of speech
are very important to keep now the fifth
precept don't take drugs and alcohol at
Dolomites I have some students that they
thought that that wasn't the right thing
so they had a glass of wine and then
they saw these are people that were
pretty advanced in the meditation but
they they drank a glass of wine and it
affected their meditation for three or
four days afterwards their mind got dull
and you say well if it's only one beer
it's only this little bit of wine but it
has a negative effect on your mind and
if you're serious about meditation
don't do it yeah but I need to relax
we'll go meditate if you need to relax
go have fun
go play with some kids if you need to
relax
any time you break one of the precepts
it causes hindrances to arise I've had
students for years that they would keep
the precepts while they were on retreat
when they got off they just went back to
the way they did things before and then
they'd come back for another retreat to
say you know this retreat is it's really
hard well yeah why because you break the
precepts you have that guilty mind you
know your mind knows when you break a
precept and your mind says I shouldn't
have done that
and then you come for a retreat and you
sit in meditation and you have these
entrances coming up and you have to go
through that to purify your mind so
after eight or nine days on a retreat
your mind finally has purified itself
enough it starts to go deeper and then
you're done with a retreat so keep your
precepts without breaking and of course
there's always these clowns that say
okay okay I'm going to keep all the
precepts how long do I have to do that
well my answer is the will for another
hundred years at least and we'll go up
from there it's important to keep these
precepts there's no God in heaven is
going to throw down a thunderbolt at you
because you broke a precept but you know
you've done it yourself you've taken
something that wasn't given and then you
can justify it all you want but that
doesn't mean that you haven't broken the
precept one of the things that happens
when people come to the center is
there's a lot of making up reasons why
things happening the way they're
happening and they look to put blame on
anybody else they're not taking
responsibility for themselves and that
turns into a problem for them
because they don't want to take
responsibility for their breaking their
own precepts they want to blame somebody
else because of this problem and
progress is very slow because of it the
reason that I have you doing the
precepts every morning is not some kind
of right and ritual it's a reminder to
keep the precepts and if you say
something that's not true you've broken
the preset it's going to affect your
meditation negatively all day until you
take the precepts the next morning so
when you realize that you broke the
precept right then stop what you're
doing forgive yourself for making a
mistake make a determination that I'm
not going to do that again and take the
precepts again that way you can purify
your own mind it's important to do that
as I was telling you this morning there
was a monk that when he first came to
the meditation Center he was doing great
he was sit in three hours and that's
when I could barely sit for two and by
the end of his retreat because he broke
one precept that he and he felt guilty
for it he couldn't sit more than 15
minutes now what why do you think that
is because he took it personally
he decided I know this is something that
I should follow but I'm not going to do
it and as a result that affected the
meditation in a negative way can't blame
me for that it's not my fault I don't
have anything to do with your keeping
your precepts all I can do is recommend
that it's
good thing and to do it all the time not
just while you're on retreat if you keep
your precepts for a year without
breaking them and you come for a retreat
your meditation is going to fly your
meditation is going to go very deep very
quickly why because you've kept your
precepts and that leads to strong
tranquility and equanimity
so the hindrances when they come up they
are your teacher and you're teaching
yourself about how to let go of these
hindrances you're teaching yourself
about the cause of the hindrances by
keeping precepts it's real important to
be careful about what you say okay
it doesn't mean you can't joke you can
but everybody knows that you're just
making a joke you're not breaking a
precept there's a story in one of the
commentaries about a monk went out on
arms round and he came back and he had a
lot of food in this bowl and one of the
monks was just going out on alms round
he said how's they all drowned today and
he said oh the the streets are flowing
with food that's not a true statement
right but it's it's a way of describing
if you're not trying to fool other
people you're not trying to get them to
believe something that you know is
untrue okay okay here quite secluded
from sensual pleasures secluded from
unwholesome States a person enters upon
and abides in the first channel which is
accompanied by thinking and examining
thought with joy and happiness born of
seclusion that is what the first jhana
is like you'll be able to stay on your
object to meditation for a period of
time without any distractions and you'll
be able to see when your mind starts to
move away and you'll catch it more
quickly and come back every time your
mind moves away from your object to
meditation you're not in that jhana at
that time
he considers this and understands that
thus the first jhana is conditioned and
you're directing your mind
it's Felician Allah produced you're
directing your mind to stay with one of
the objects of meditation whatever that
happens to be but whatever his condition
and volitional leap in produced is
impermanent subject to change subject to
cessation if he's steady in that he
attains the destruction of the taints
but if he does not attain a destruction
of the taints because of that desire for
the Dhamma that delight in the Dhamma
then with a destruction of the five
lower fetters he becomes one due to
reappear spontaneously in the pure boots
and their attained final knee bono
without ever returning from that world
now what are we talking about here if
you attain even the first jhana with the
tranquil wisdom meditation while you're
in that jhana your mind can all of a
sudden go very deep and you can become
an are hot just by being in the first
jhana doesn't happen very often I
granted but I have had students that
have been in the jhanas not all the way
up to the highest jhanas
and attained nirvana there was a nun
that came and she started practicing
with me she was am I on a nun and most
my Ayana teachers are very very severe
they don't like people that smile they
don't like people that are happy for the
most part and that's just a general
thing that I'm saying is not specific
everyone is like that but because it's
not no nobody is always going to be how
you describe but when she first came she
was so sour faced very serious had these
deep lines in her inner forehead and I
kept telling her she had to smile and by
the third day of the retreat she
actually heard what I said
and she started smiling and she said
does this mean I can have fun and I said
yeah and the next day she went into the
breakfast started eating staying with
the loving-kindness and her spiritual
friend and got into the first jhana
because of that and after that she was
Miss smiley she was smiling all the time
and being happy all the time and the
beep lines in her face the deep frown
lines were trying too hard they
disappeared is great it was really good
fun to see somebody get it
so please smile please smile all the
time
keep your mind like any time you get
serious guess who has an attachment
guess who's taking it personally
guess who's causing themself pain it's
okay to smile it's okay to laugh and it
is okay to have fun
you don't hear meditation teachers say
that very often I think I'm about the
only one I know of that says it
well meditation is supposed to be
serious well then be seriously happy
how's that keep your mind light whenever
you get serious about anything I am
there I want to control I want it to be
the way I want it to be and that's a
cause of suffering so this is an all the
time practice it's not just sitting and
walking practice and that's hard to get
across because an awful lot of people
when when the Chinese and Japanese
started coming over to this country and
in the 1800's there
their main focus in meditation was
sitting and that's why meditation is
called sitting because they just drummed
it into everybody that men do you have
to sit and that's when you're doing your
meditation but to be able to carry your
meditation with you all the time the
thing with the six RS that's very
important is to understand that's a way
you can let go of your suffering in your
daily activities and the more you smile
with your daily activities the better
your mindfulness becomes you're able to
see what your mind is doing in the
present and when your mind starts to get
serious and starts to pull down with all
of these problems well that's a time
that you use your six R's and smile into
that keep your mind light don't take it
heavily I've got to worry about this
well no you don't it's your choice to
worry about it whether you're going to
do it or not but oh this is so bad how
can I handle this how can I take care of
that well you can do it with a serious
mind that resists and wants to control
doesn't like the situation gets angry
pretty easy or not you can be very
accepting of whatever arises
it doesn't matter what the feeling is
like whether it is a mental feeling or a
physical feeling the thing is that when
you take it personally it makes your
mind have more and more craving in and
more and more desire to control and make
it be the way you want it to be and
honestly it doesn't work
it really doesn't the more you can allow
and just say okay you're there so what
it's alright it doesn't mean you don't
work if you have joints that need to be
straightened out that doesn't mean you
don't straighten them out it means you
don't have resistance to straightening
them out and you don't get into the
dislike of the sensation for it being
there
did you ask a sensation to come up
you're sitting in meditation and all of
a sudden you have a pain in your knee
did you say you know I haven't had any
pain in my knee for a while I might as
well have some now no you don't have any
control over that sort of thing what you
do have a control over is what you do
with that when it arises use the six
hours not as some kind of stick to beat
things away to stop them from happening
it's that's not what six hours are about
the six RS are very specifically right
effort is very specifically used to let
go of craving the cause of the suffering
and the six arse and right effort are
the same thing just a different way of
describing it it's just like the five
aggregates and four foundations of
mindfulness are different ways of saying
the same thing the Buddha was real big
on the five aggregates when he would
teach monks he would teach them about
the five aggregates because they
understood that later on he changed over
to doing the foundations of mindfulness
that was a later kind of teaching but it
was still the same thing the five
aggregates you have body you have
feeling that perception now perception
and feeling are conjoined always when a
feeling comes up you know whether it's a
pleasant feeling or a painful feeling
perception is a part of the mind that
tells you that okay you have the same
cara's you have thoughts you have I
generally have for beginners I talked
about thoughts more than anything thank
Aras and you have consciousness the four
foundations of mindfulness you have body
same as with the five aggregates you
have feeling same as with the five
aggregates you have consciousness same
with the five aggregates you have Damas
same with the five aggregates now isn't
that amazing well the four foundations
of mindfulness they're so important to
people that are practicing the vaasana'
but I found over the years that they
just talk about generally what the four
foundations of mindfulness are they
don't talk specifically about what they
are and the four foundations of
mindfulness in the sukkah is talking
about jhana practice but they've taken
that understanding away and say oh
that's just free pass on a-- but it is
describing all kinds of things about
jhana practice the way the Buddha taught
jhana
was that the four foundations or the
five aggregates whichever way you want
to say it is in each jhana while you're
actually in the jhana you're practicing
the four foundations of mindfulness and
there's more than one suta that agrees
with that so there's a lot of things
that are kind of misunderstood I don't
believe they're purposefully
misunderstanding
but there is a misunderstanding with the
different ways of doing the practice and
I am very much enthusiastic about
practicing what the Buddha is talking
about and specifically following what
the Buddha was talking about and it is
great fun for me to watch people start
to understand it's really nice
doesn't take that long from now until
the end of the retreat outside of being
your guide I am the educator and you'll
be a lot smarter about Buddhism by the
end of the retreat because you'll have
some of the direct experiences you'll
have some of the direct knowledge for
yourself
and again you're your own teacher I can
present ideas that the Buddha was
talking about you decide whether you
want to try it or not generally speaking
when you follow what the Buddha says it
works it works very well and it is
immediately effective I mean when you
have a hindrance arise and you let it be
there and you relax
that hindrance is not there anymore
that's immediate now when I'm talking
about the six ARS I'm talking about
words that you need to do not say over
and over again okay this is a list of
words to do recognize as soon as you
notice you're not on your object of
meditation you've already recognized it
you don't have to tell yourself I need
to recognize this and you let it be and
relax and smile and come back to your
object of meditation and stay there it's
a flow don't put any philosophy with it
this is a method and it works very well
and it works all the time
your job is to remember to do it so with
each of the jhanas that you'll go
through there's going to be a little
different kind of experience that you're
going to have and you can have the
experience of attaining Nibbana while
you're in each one of these jhanas like
I said I have had students that have
attained me bon a welder
they're using the sixers the thing with
the jhana that is not very well
understood because it's taken from the
beta Tech's is people think the only
time you can experience jhana is while
you're sitting now when you're walking
can you have joy can you have a peaceful
calm mind
and you have a mind that's very
collected and very at ease oh that means
you can be walking and being in the
jhana
it doesn't matter what you're doing what
matters is how you're using your
mindfulness keep your mind
keep your mind smiling that improves
your mindfulness so much it's
unbelievable and I can tell when you
come in for the interview whether you're
really smiling enough or not and I might
tell you you got a smile more why
because your mind's too heavy as soon as
you walk in it's like somebody bring
I'm led on it on top of their head and
pushing it down have fun with this
retreat in it I give you all permission
to have fun how's that
keep smiling as much as you can okay so
we didn't get very far on this suta but
we will in in the next one do you have
any questions are we going to have smart
people or dumb people yeah it doesn't
matter content doesn't matter that's
where people get a lot of confusion
because they want to follow it and see
what it is and that's distraction okay
I've had some students that they've been
real close to getting to Nibbana but
they kept on having a a memory of a past
lifetime and okay let's go see this for
a little while know the content of that
doesn't matter what matters is that you
recognize that your mind is distracted
let it be there by itself relax
smile come back you can get insights
into what what comes up but the insights
are always about the process of how it
came up and you might see well the
reason this came up was because of that
memory or whatever but you don't follow
that
that's for psychology that's not for the
Buddha's path the Buddha's path is about
how did this come up and it always comes
up in exactly the same way and that's
one of the things in Asia they really
don't like the idea when I tell them
that there's no difference between the
American mind and the Asian mind they
don't like that idea at all
but it's it's that your human being all
human beings mind works in the same way
exactly
and there's fascination with why
something arises and follow it to the
end and see if there's any resolution by
it but that's taking it personally and
we will let go of that idea now there's
some weird things that happen when you
start letting go and seeing the
impersonal nature of everything your
mind can have a lot of fear arise and it
starts throwing a temper tantrum just
like a little kid you're ignoring me
I've been in control how many lifetimes
and now you're not paying attention to
me anymore
you're telling me that that all the
things I've done in the past don't
it isn't really me it's a false belief
and your mind will throw up a lot of
fear and how do you get over that fear
you laugh at how crazy your mind can get
everybody is crazy
it's okay to be crazy because we all are
we've been taking things personally for
how many lifetimes how much pain have we
caused ourselves by taking it personally
by getting involved with a story and
trying to solve problems there's so much
benefit gained by keeping your precepts
without breaking them by smiling more by
seeing things that are impersonal
processes that we take as us how much
pain do we cause ourself and then you
start letting go of that and everything
changes yeah
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all Yaya but all beings want to live
they don't want to die in order to kill
there has to be dislike well we we
practice in such insect rescue a lot we
have some little devices that will just
go around the insect and close in on it
then we take it outside open it up and
let it go out we do that with wasps we
do that with ladybugs we do that with
all kinds of things that like to come in
now one of the things we have a lot of
wasps for we live a lot and I got into
the habit of catching them on the window
taking them and letting them go out but
as I'm letting them go out I tell them
to tell all our friends I let them go
free which sounds kind of weird except I
never get stung it does work
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well Asia hassle it has to do with your
intention when you stop intending to
kill then you're expanding the lifecycle
of other beings if you just go out and
start killing them you're shortening
that lifecycle you're shortening your
own light cycle now in Asia they have
and it's ant heaven in Asia and they are
really troublesome and they bite and
look smaller the ant is the bigger the
bite is so the Chinese have developed
this truck that should put around you
you just draw a circle around you and
the ants will cross that line there's
way of preventing them from bothering
you how mosquitoes are troublesome so
you sleep under a mosquito net you don't
have to kill them sometimes there is not
the intention to kill but something
bites you and you go like that to see
what it was and you accidentally kill
them your intention was not to kill now
there's a story about this one monk that
was blind and he had a string between
poles and he was walking back and forth
holding onto
a string and he was stepping on ants and
monks saw that and they went to the
Buddha to tattletale a little bit and
say he's killing these ants and the
Buddha said his intention is not to kill
he's not doing it on purpose he has no
mental hold on any of that so there's no
wrongdoing well if you kill anything on
purpose you don't have also mine let's
just put it that way okay
you
and we can get into a long discussion
about that but I'm not gonna mine comes
up with discursive God always how about
that don't make it a big deal just six
art continue on oh yeah
craving is not particularly strong it is
particularly persistent I mean you can
just barely have enough time to do the
six hours and come back to your object
before all of a sudden you're pulled
away again just play it as it's a game
don't make a big deal out of it well and
if you try too hard one of the things
that they started doing in Asia this
time was that every thought that came up
they were six arting as soon as they
came and they just had more and more and
more thoughts and they'd come to me it
talked to me about being tired it is
tiring to 6ar every little thing that
comes up you don't need to six are every
little thing that comes up if it doesn't
pull your attention away from your
object to meditation and these thoughts
come up ignore them if it pulls your
attention away now you use the six arts
yeah they're trying to hurt they have to
back off on that and what you have to
tell them to do is they need to smile
more it's really true some people will
come in and they'll be complaining about
oh my meditation is so active I have so
much problem in this and that you're not
smiling enough oh yes I am I smile all
the time no you don't if you smile all
the time you're not going to have these
problems come up you're taking it
personally you're trying to over control
and you can't do that you have to back
off well they don't understand what a
true smile is because I have a lot of
equanimity in my mind most of the time
but I'm also smiling in my mind most of
it so it doesn't have to be here but it
does have to be yeah
you'll start seeing them naturally you
don't have to force it you'll start
seeing them happen you'll see feeling
arise and then the craving and then the
clinging and then the bejeweled tendency
and then the suffering you'll be able to
see that and recognize it as you go
deeper in your meditation
it will start to come naturally
you have to be careful with your energy
if you start to get any tension or
tightness in your head while you're
doing that back off that's the key is
with anything if you have too much
tension or you you have tightness that
starts to happen and your mind starts to
do this you're putting in too much
effort too much energy and you have to
back off until there's balance with it
yeah they do
and that's what insights are all about
because you you'll be going along and
all of a sudden you'll just notice oh
that's how that happened
Wow that's really something it happened
because there was a contact there was
feeling there was craving and as soon as
the craving happened a sick start and
the other links didn't arise Wow isn't
that amazing that's why I wanted to call
this an oh wow meditation because
there's a lot of oh wow that happen yeah
to start off with
that's okay to stay with equanimity then
and when you're walking I want you to
walk at a normal pace please don't walk
slowly you're walking for exercise stay
with your object to meditation whatever
that happens to be the longer you sit
the more you need the exercise you have
to get to going up a hill or running
upstairs and downstairs that sort of
thing get your heart beating that's real
important but stay with your object of
meditation while you're doing it okay
anybody else like if I do let go to get
back the insight comes about the
endurance but not without trying or not
without like I'm not making any
psychological with the travel can't just
unravel right and then else has an
insight pretty much back okay that's
fine
see them in your mind see them in your
mind see them now you there's two
different kinds of visualization for
some people the visualization can be
seeing them like pictures or seeing them
like in a movie and that's very easy for
them that's one kind of visualization
the other kind of visualization of
seeing them is just knowing that that's
who you're sending it to so pick the one
that's easiest the visualization is not
near as important as the feeling of
loving kindness and the feeling of the
wish that you make for your friend
that's much more important than seeing
them
by Elmar and you'll see just have fun
have fun doing it
know that person that you're sending it
to and you sincerely do wish them well
and radiate that feeling to them okay
don't try too hard that's one of the
biggest problems that I have with people
who have done meditation before is
they're taught to try to art and it's
time you got to learn how to back off so
you had a question
so no no no no no it doesn't matter what
the content is I don't care
fuzzy is fine
well eventually yeah but stop trying to
analyze it
that's a Western disease and it's a big
problem
people can for years get caught in that
but when they finally start listening
and realize I mean last summer I had a
monk come he stayed for three months the
first month he did meditation he was
just great and then he got it in his
mind that I want to be an are hot so he
started wrong effort and he had a whole
month of restlessness every time he came
my mind is restless I'm running all over
the place you're trying too hard
back off don't get involved with it here
at getting involved with the content
every day for 30 days I'm saying the
same thing to it then he comes to me and
he's really peaceful and calm and he
said well I figured out I was trying to
so he was my patience teacher it's
amazing then I you can have yeah it's
amazing that I can say something a
hundred times and then you finally get
it and you come to me and you're really
excited you go yeah I just found this
out how good oh I don't but there is
some relief when they finally yeah
it'll cause it'll cause tense it'll
cause tension to arise in your mind when
you get it when you get into the deeper
state you don't have a body and that's
one thing that I fight with the people
in Asia because they're very body
conscious you don't have a body but if
there is some contact you can feel the
contact then you'll say oh I've got this
real pain in my backside or my back or
my knee and I keep saying you don't have
a body how can you have a pain there
it's all mental that's something I have
to talk with you personally about
because it depends on the situation
sometimes I'll just tell people it's not
really pulling your attention away from
your object let's stay with your object
just because those thoughts are coming
up doesn't mean you have to address
everyone so it's it's staying on your
object of meditation that is the key
even when your mind is mind is object
meditation okay
but I'll find out as the questions that
I ask I'll find out what's happening now
there are going to be some people that
are going to be coming in and they want
to sit in on the interviews if you want
a private interview tell me but other
than that I want people I want to deke
people how to give interviews so I I
started doing that what was it two years
ago and it's quite helpful I don't think
it's anything in particular but
everybody of stepless the club so
anything else going back to when we're
talking about precepts and thinking
about feed and bugs on the windshield
profanity and all the other stuff that's
significant we how to determine whether
pregnant forgiveness education is
appropriate
magic way if you feel guilty about it
you feel guilty about it that forgive it
now the forgiveness meditation when done
in an intensive way is a very very very
powerful meditation it is the most
powerful meditation that I teach you
don't have to do it for the whole
retreat unless I had one one student in
Malaysia that when he started out he was
really kind of wacko and he was taking
all kinds of drugs and he was bipolar
seven or eight bipolar whatever that
means but he was going through
personality shifts that were just
unbelievable and he would follow the
directions kind of for a little while
and then he'd start off and do what he
wanted to do so this progress wasn't as
fast as it could be but by the end of
the retreat he had started to settle
down and when somebody is taking drugs I
don't allow them to stop taking the
drugs and I tell that they have to go
see the doctor about that because they
can have shifts back into their old ways
of doing things if they get people like
to cold-turkey drugs and you have to do
it gradually you have to do it over two
or three week period not just stop
taking it all together because that your
body is used to it and you're addicted
to it be quite honest and then you go
through all these changes but he started
following the directions
even did a second retreat by the end of
the second retreat I actually told him
he didn't have to do any more
forgiveness unless there was something
came up that made his mind aight and he
was starting to do loving-kindness
meditation and doing quite well with it
so there's a lot of healing in doing the
forgiveness meditation a lot of healing
people that come and they tell me well I
can't feel any loving-kindness I just
don't know what it is okay let's do the
forgiveness meditation after two or
three days of doing forgiveness then all
of a sudden they have a breakthrough and
then I switch them over to
loving-kindness and they just zoom after
that so there was a lot of past old
situations that they were attached to
and the the way to let go of that
attachment is through forgiving
loving-kindness is forgiveness is part
of loving-kindness
well it depends it depends on them
entirely but what I have them start
doing is forgiving themselves for making
mistakes because we're so hard on
ourselves I mean we can do just
brilliant things all day and do one
thing that's questionable in your mind
then you start criticizing yourself for
it you have to be able to recognize that
release it relaxed smile and laugh
without dumb your mind can be but it
depends it's all individual there's
there's no set formula for anything and
when I have them doing forgiveness
sometimes I have them forgiving
themselves for making a mistake or
forgiving themself for not understanding
or forgiving themselves for causing pain
to themselves
those are real important aspects now
that there's a real big thing that's
happening in this country about well you
got to forgive but people don't know how
to forgive so they just say well you did
this to me I forgive you and then they
think they're done and the attachment is
still there so it still affects them in
a negative way they have to work until
they feel relief how long does that take
how well do they follow directions
but I've had students that have been in
a mental institute and I get them to
start forgiving and smiling and doing
all kinds of things they leave the
mental institute they don't have to be
in there anymore they don't have to take
such heavy drugs yeah
and it's their doing their own work
because they want to change come into a
retreat yeah
because because it is such a personal
thing you can't just say well just do
this and that'll work
it just it depends on what they're going
through and one of the things that the
forgiveness does is it helps you to let
go of your secrets now one of the
definitions of an Arad is a person that
has no secrets any secret you have that
you're keeping and you don't talk about
it
that's your attachment that's you're
holding on to an old action and taking
it personally and causing yourself a lot
of suffering
so it is kind of an individual thing so
one of the things that at the last
retreat I gave in Kuala Lumpur I started
talking to them about using forgiveness
with any kind of physical owie and you
stubbed your toe we cut your the burn
yourself whatever start forgiving right
then and then test on the forgiveness
the next time that happens don't forgive
and see how long how much longer it
takes to heal because it's amazing same
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right
the more you can forgive little things
as you're going along the easier it
becomes to forgive the big things when
they come and the faster you heal I mean
it's it's amazing I have a wood-burning
stove at home and sometimes I get burned
now when I when I start paying attention
to that and I start forgiving it by the
next day I don't even have a blister all
I have is a red spot two or three days
later it's all gone
then when I don't I've got a problem for
a week I have a blister and I have a lot
of pain so it's a difference of two or
three days or a week it's up to me
whether I do it or not so the more you
can remember to do the forgiveness with
your any kind of ally whether it's a
mental ally or a physical owie you do
the forgiveness the pain is going to
disappear more quickly
talk to me about it it depends where you
are see it's not a blank that I'm not a
1/1 horse bone hair or one point one
trick pony I have a lot of tricks so it
depends on the situation
but one of the things that it happened a
lot when I was in Asia because I was
running around barefooted
barefooted in the forest at night is not
a safe thing to do for your toes it's
really not because you wind up breaking
them and when I break a toe then I start
doing forgiveness every time the pain
came up after two or three days I'm not
even limping anymore or if I don't do it
then I have a couple of weeks of real
severe pain so it's always your choice
what are you doing with your mind when
this kind of problem arises when you
make it a big deal and you're
identifying with it you're causing
yourself more pain that's the truth when
you forgive it and use then
loving-kindness into it it has a
tendency to get less and even disappear
yeah
not as much as I am yeah when I first
got to Asia and what became a monk for a
couple of years I started being the
abbot of monastery and a lot of people
were really suffering very much because
in Malaysia there's there's three
populations in a maze in Malaysia
there's Chinese there's Malay and
there's Indian and they don't get along
very well and the Malay run the
government so they're always pushing
down the Chinese because the trainings
are ambitious people and the Chinese
were walking around with a lot of hatred
so I started teaching them about
forgiveness and I got criticized because
the Buddha didn't teach any forgiveness
well yeah actually he did and it's in
davinia
so there's no problem with it but I was
criticized because I was not teaching
straight Vipassana that's the only way
to attain nirvana you know that's what
they think but they're in Malaysia
because I started teaching
loving-kindness more and I refused to
teach straight Vipassana because I'd
already gone through the experience and
wasn't happy with it
the loving-kindness became very popular
and people started changing and and
starting to really become more
prosperous naturally and prosperous is a
word that doesn't necessarily mean
anything to do with money or material
things you have more friends when you
practice loving-kindness
datian you're more prosperous that way
things just happen more easily and
that's how you become more prosperous
it's real interesting to see some people
that break precepts how they are
continually having one drama after
another and people that keep the
precepts how prosperity and how things
are so easy to happen and you meet the
right people at the right time and you
get along with them and you have fun
with them that's really it's an amazing
thing to watch so I thought I was going
to get done at an hour and a half and
there it is two hours so why don't we
share some merit
you may suffer in one's feet suffering
free and the fear struck fearless beat
in the grieving pedal relief that may
all beings find relief now being shared
of this earth that we just acquired for
the acquisition of all kinds of
happiness may beings inhabiting space
and earth Davis and Nagas of mighty
powers share this narrative house
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