From: https://youtube.com/watch?v=1BWxfYO2iCI
Context: Throughout this transcript, Bhante Vimalaramsi is the speaker unless otherwise indicated.
okay the instructions on forgiveness
meditation you start out by saying to
yourself I forgive myself for not
understanding and you say that a few
times and then you take you say I
forgive myself for not understanding and
then you take the feeling of the
understanding and put it in your heart
and radiate that to yourself if your
mind gets distracted or not EF when your
mind gets distracted then you use the
six R's you recognize that your mind is
distracted you release this distraction
by not keeping your attention on it you
relax the tightness in your head there's
this is your brain and there's a
membrane that goes around this it's
called the meninges it goes around each
half every time you have a thought every
time you have a sensation every time you
have a feeling arise your brain expands
against the meninges and it causes
tightness this tightness is crazy
that's how you recognized tightness so
when you relax that you'll feel okay now
it almost feels like an expansion but
it's just going back to normal and
you'll notice that your mind doesn't
have any thoughts your mind is very
clear your mind is very bright and your
mind is pure why is it pure because
you've let go of craving craving is the
I like it I don't like it mind when a
feeling arises if it's a pleasant
feeling I like it if it's a painful
feeling I don't like it that's what
craving is so when your mind gets
distracted you recognize it
you release it by not keeping your
attention on the content of that thought
you relax the tightness in your head you
re smile smiling is a very important
part of this meditation so you need to
practice smiling all the time
smiling in your mind smiling with your
eyes you'll be surprised how much
tension and tightness that you can have
in your eyes so just relax and smile
there a little Buddha smile on your lips
a smile in your heart and then you come
back to I forgive myself for not
understanding your mind can have some
resistance to this
and it'll start saying and I don't
really it's this is stupid I don't want
to do this
that doesn't work so you just six are
that and come back and do it again
after a period of time there can be some
memories of things or people that come
up or situations that come up that you
had a hard time with either the person
or situation so you focus on that I'd
say it's a person you look that person
in the eye and you say I forgive you for
not understanding or for for causing me
pain whatever it happens to be whatever
is appropriate and you stay with that
person now you're going to have some
resistance to forgiving that person but
it doesn't matter you forgive them you
look them in the eye and say I really do
forgive you for whatever and then you
put that person in your heart and
radiate loving kind of forgiveness to
them and your mind is going to distract
away and say no I don't want to do this
and use exert at and come back and do it
again you need to sit between 45 minutes
in an hour every time if you stay with
that same person the whole time that's
fine if you just stay with yourself the
whole time that's fine
but every time you get distracted
you have to 6r and come back and do it
again
and then put them in your heart and
radiate forgiveness to them right at the
end of your sitting then you hear them
say back to you I forgive you too
for whatever reason so you're it's like
a complete circle you forgive yourself
you forgive them they forgive you then
when you get up and start walking your
right foot I forgive you you forgive me
okay so you you walk at a normal pace
and just keep that in your mind all the
time if there's resistance or
distraction 6r and come back and do it
again you want to carry the forgiveness
with you the whole time
it doesn't matter what you're doing if
somebody says something and makes your
mind a little bit hard you forgive them
right then in your mind and you put them
in your art and radiate that forgiveness
to them so your mind is going to have a
lot of resistance to this at first until
you start learning that it that it works
so
stay with it and stay with that same
person until you feel relief and you
feel like I really have forgiven that
that person or that situation and then
you come back to yourself and you
forgive yourself again for not
understanding or causing yourself pain
and stay with yourself until somebody
else comes up and stay with that until
you feel like you don't need to forgive
anybody anymore like you're done your
mind will tell you I don't need to do
this anymore so okay
okay the instructions on forgiveness
meditation you start out by saying to
yourself I forgive myself for not
understanding and you say that a few
times and then you take you say I
forgive myself for not understanding and
then you take the feeling of the
understanding and put it in your heart
and radiate that to yourself if your
mind gets distracted or not EF when your
mind gets distracted then you use the
six R's you recognize that your mind is
distracted you release this distraction
by not keeping your attention on it you
relax the tightness in your head there's
this is your brain and there's a
membrane that goes around this it's
called the meninges it goes around each
half every time you have a thought every
time you have a sensation every time you
have a feeling arise your brain expands
against the meninges and it causes
tightness this tightness is crazy
that's how you recognized tightness so
when you relax that you'll feel okay now
it almost feels like an expansion but
it's just going back to normal and
you'll notice that your mind doesn't
have any thoughts your mind is very
clear your mind is very bright and your
mind is pure why is it pure because
you've let go of craving craving is the
I like it I don't like it mind when a
feeling arises if it's a pleasant
feeling I like it if it's a painful
feeling I don't like it that's what
craving is so when your mind gets
distracted you recognize it
you release it by not keeping your
attention on the content of that thought
you relax the tightness in your head you
re smile smiling is a very important
part of this meditation so you need to
practice smiling all the time
smiling in your mind smiling with your
eyes you'll be surprised how much
tension and tightness that you can have
in your eyes so just relax and smile
there a little Buddha smile on your lips
a smile in your heart and then you come
back to I forgive myself for not
understanding your mind can have some
resistance to this
and it'll start saying and I don't
really it's this is stupid I don't want
to do this
that doesn't work so you just six are
that and come back and do it again
after a period of time there can be some
memories of things or people that come
up or situations that come up that you
had a hard time with either the person
or situation so you focus on that I'd
say it's a person you look that person
in the eye and you say I forgive you for
not understanding or for for causing me
pain whatever it happens to be whatever
is appropriate and you stay with that
person now you're going to have some
resistance to forgiving that person but
it doesn't matter you forgive them you
look them in the eye and say I really do
forgive you for whatever and then you
put that person in your heart and
radiate loving kind of forgiveness to
them and your mind is going to distract
away and say no I don't want to do this
and use exert at and come back and do it
again you need to sit between 45 minutes
in an hour every time if you stay with
that same person the whole time that's
fine if you just stay with yourself the
whole time that's fine
but every time you get distracted
you have to 6r and come back and do it
again
and then put them in your heart and
radiate forgiveness to them right at the
end of your sitting then you hear them
say back to you I forgive you too
for whatever reason so you're it's like
a complete circle you forgive yourself
you forgive them they forgive you then
when you get up and start walking your
right foot I forgive you you forgive me
okay so you you walk at a normal pace
and just keep that in your mind all the
time if there's resistance or
distraction 6r and come back and do it
again you want to carry the forgiveness
with you the whole time
it doesn't matter what you're doing if
somebody says something and makes your
mind a little bit hard you forgive them
right then in your mind and you put them
in your art and radiate that forgiveness
to them so your mind is going to have a
lot of resistance to this at first until
you start learning that it that it works
so
stay with it and stay with that same
person until you feel relief and you
feel like I really have forgiven that
that person or that situation and then
you come back to yourself and you
forgive yourself again for not
understanding or causing yourself pain
and stay with yourself until somebody
else comes up and stay with that until
you feel like you don't need to forgive
anybody anymore like you're done your
mind will tell you I don't need to do
this anymore so okay